May the good Lord heal your home and help you to truly forgive your mum in Jesus name. Amen

bigsmoke2:
My mum cheated on my dad and even had a bastard child for her lover my father was a good man and didn't deserve such. it destroyed our home and made me have an underlying dislike for my mum. Even though we have a relationship things not quite the same. I have never really forgiven her and it has made me develop a very very strong hate for people that cheat on their spouse as I have seen first hand what it can do to families .The thought of becoming what i strongly despise is what keeps me from cheating even though I am not happy in my marriage.

Rokiat:
I would like to believe there are still men that are faithful To their women in relationships. And despite the narrative not all men cheat.

So faithful Men of nairaland, how do you manage to remain faithful?

Only poor, low libido and shy men are faithful men!
A man is not created to be faithful to a woman. Two or more women are made for a man by nature.

It ruined my dad, his business crumbled completely and we learnt the hard way. I swear , my brother and I will NEVER go there.

May we never have cause to do it in our lives in Jesus name.

Paramount01:



You spoke my mind

Who get time to dey do hide and seek

Disease plenty and I hate condom

Even the sex things I am tired of it , my wife keeps thinking I am cheating because if she don't beg me I no dey do

Mine is the opposite. This life nor balance sha.

The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. The only standard that can make any man to be faithful is to be a child of God(genuinely born again and not by mouth or an half baked Christian)

Rokiat:
I would like to believe there are still men that are faithful To their women in relationships. And despite the narrative not all men cheat.

So faithful Men of nairaland, how do you manage to remain faithful?

I remain faithful because faithfulness pays alot, and cheating is dangerous and expensive.

MasterJayJay:
Faithfulness has it's place in marriage and not in boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.


If you are not married, stop saying he/she is cheating on me. If you are fornicating with your bf/gf, it is the same fornication that prostitutes do. There is nothing like cheating.

Cheating involves a married person who goes outside the matrimonial home to have sex.

In a relationship , there's an agreement and a commitment to stick to each other unless both parties agree to be in an open relationship.
All these children eh , una no go destroy everything to have una way

Why in the world would i wanna be faithful? With all these big ass and big breasted women all over the world, i read that there are more women populations on earth than men, i have already had sex with nearly 200 women in the last 25 years of my life and i don't intend to stop.

Some men can be faithful and some cannot, I cannot that is why i am single. Don't want any hassles.

Discipline

DWJOBScom:


In a relationship , there's an agreement and a commitment to stick to each other unless both parties agree to be in an open relationship.
All these children eh , una no go destroy everything to have una way

Coming from someone that has signature 'Jesus still loves you'. Na wetin you dey teach your grandchildren, that Christians can fornicate with their boyfriend/girlfriend?

Nigerian men don't cheat

RIDOO:



I received this grace for hubby too o .Make l dey beg him bf he do.One man's food is another man's poison.This life no balance.

You are married for how many years

Lordsview:
The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. The only standard that can make any man to be faithful is to be a child of God(genuinely born again and not by mouth or an half baked Christian)

Leave that 1

I am not a child of God and I am faithful

BusinessPlan22:


1. The fear of God
2. The vows I took
3. My wife is my life. I love her so much

And you're on nairaland? May God protect you in Jesus' name, Amen.

Rokiat:
I would like to believe there are still men that are faithful To their women in relationships. And despite the narrative not all men cheat.

So faithful Men of nairaland, how do you manage to remain faithful?

U guys are deceiving yourselfs on this topic.

BusinessPlan22:

Don't talk on generic terms bro.
I have made real money, I earn in millions monthly, other ladies irritates me. I tell you the truth. I can't think of cheating on a woman who married me with NYSC allawee.

And some of us are really born again bro.
I mean we really fear and honour Abba

May God bless you. May He honour you.

A woman shouldn't expect to marry a man for sexual loyalty but for financial, physical and security provision becos men and women arent the same. Men marry women for emotional and moral support which includes helping to organize the home and sexual loyalty/purity. This is why female virginity has always been a prized asset for years. When women start accepting that the role for men and women esp. in marriages and relationships in general are different then they would start to live in peace with themselves and men. As long as a man doesnt bring any health hazards to his wife and his actions outside the home with other women doesnt in any way affect his primary or secondary responsibilities and obligations, you cannot label a man as a cheat. Wise women know their roles and maintain their lane while diligently performing their duties.

Rokiat:
I would like to believe there are still men that are faithful To their women in relationships. And despite the narrative not all men cheat.

So faithful Men of nairaland, how do you manage to remain faithful?

Ah, aunty my wife is too innocent to cheat on, she's caring and very loyal pa, very submissive...

I'm not a sex freak, so I hardly think about woman like that, but I adore women...

Lastly, I'm always scared of cheating and at the end you hear, the woman died in the man's hotel, the last thing you will hear is the man has used her for ritual

Thanks Rokiat, for acknowledging that a few of us still exist. I must confess, it is not easy.

Personally, I made the decision, not to cheat on my wife, even before I met e her. I decided not to cheat on any woman I settle down with.

Temptation would always come, it usually become stronger, especially when we are away from each other. On several occasions, beautiful ladies had approached me, asking how I cope with out my wife for a long time. Many offer themselves without me asking them, but the vow not to cheat never depart from my conscience, and being fast to remind and even tell people who don't know my wife, that I am married, has been a helping secret.

As I write, we have been away from each other since December 17,2022 due to security reasons. Her few weeks away from me always almost make me ruin this personal vow, but I always remind myself that my wife, is more beautiful than any other lady out there, and with time, I get used to it.

Other factors that help me in winning this war so far is the fact that, I know how women bodies work, I am sorry to say this, no matter how pure and neat other ladies look, I see them as potential infection vectors, another helping secret is, I am not financially bouyant enough to finance my family to my dream taste, I can't afford to share my Limited resources to pussy hawkers. When I was single, I will ask a lady out, but anytime we had canal knowledge of ourselves, I would be asking myself what I benefited, I knew I benefited nothing, so, I still believe it will be same today.

People who see beautiful, sexy, succulent and seducing ladies as temptation has never been faced with real temption.

I disciplined myself before marriage. I stopped girlfriend things two years before I started searching for a wife. I didn't gather my partners in sex, and forced God to direct me to one, no, I departed completely from them, I did a new search, and there is no ex in my dictionary. Within my first year if marriage, ladies I haven't spoken with for years, started calling me, asking what happens to them, as I got married, these are girls we broke up and forgot about each other. Outrightly telling them to move on, and even threatening to hand their numbers to my wife saved me the stress, at some point, I set a female's voice on my phone and answered their calls and calmly advised them to mind their business.

People around me knows me too well, so at times when the temptation would have overcome me, the fear of ruining my reputation aslo helps.

Focus, Family, a good woman....most especially WISDOM
Known her for about 15years

abidem4real:

Only poor, low libido and shy men are faithful men!
A man is not created to be faithful to a woman. Two or more women are made for a man by nature.

That's what you think, but it's not true.

Lionize:


Before I left Nigeria, I went to the altar in church, in the full glare of church members, and vowed to God I'll never cheat on my wife while away (not that I ever cheated since we got married). I've been without her for almost 2 year now, I never kiss another woman. When the temptation come, some silly girls acting up around, I simply remind myself "If you try it, you're gone. He is watching you". Omo, I go just mellow dey pursue wetin dey pursue me.

And it's like my wife self trusts more than I trust myself because one day like that something told me, after a girl was in. my place late in the night (we. went out to see the fireworks), do it and ask God for forgiveness.

But Las Las, I am an example that it is possible le.to remain faithful even while away from your wife (this seems impossible to Nigerian men).

You remind me of Job that made a covenant with God that he will not look upon a maid. I'm proud of you. May God bless and honour you in Jesus' name, Amen.

For me, my woman dnt allow konji to even gather b4 she pack everything. So almost every morning I go out dekonjirized.

Long term thinking

Just want the peace of mind and able to manage the little resources I have. A woman alone is more than wàhálà then double it, isn't that wàhálàs enough?

Rokiat:
I would like to believe there are still men that are faithful To their women in relationships. And despite the narrative not all men cheat.

So faithful Men of nairaland, how do you manage to remain faithful?

For women I love myself first of all by the grace of God there's nothing in sex if it is not for you and your spouse. I cannot disgrace myself just for 3mins nonsense. The fear of God keeps me and encourages me to live a life of purity! I love my children so much I don't want to disappoint them ❣️❣️❣️

MasterJayJay:

Coming from someone that has signature 'Jesus still loves you'. Na wetin you dey teach your grandchildren, that Christians can fornicate with their boyfriend/girlfriend?

You just confused yourself
You deluded yourself by saying no cheating in relationships instead it's fornication but in reality cheating and fornication is a sin.
I was speaking to honesty in a relationship as well as commitment, and who says all relationships leads to fornication??
Stay safe

Thanks Rokiat, for acknowledging that a few of us still exist. I must confess, it is not easy.

Personally, I made the decision, not to cheat on my wife, even before I mate her. I decided not to cheat on any woman I settle down with.

Temptation would always come, it usually become stronger, especially when we are away from each other. On several occasions, beautiful ladies had approached me, asking how I cope with out my wife for a long time. Many offer themselves without me asking them, but the vow not to cheat never depart from my conscience, and being fast to remind and even tell people who don't know my wife, that I am married, has been a helping secret.

As I write, we have been away from each other since December 17,2022 due to security reasons. Her few weeks away from me always almost make me ruin this personal vow, but I always remind myself that my wife, is more beautiful than any other lady out there, and with time, I get used to it.

Other factors that help me in winning this war so far is the fact that, I know how women bodies work, I am sorry to say this, no matter how pure and neat other ladies look, I see them as potential infection vectors, another helping secret is, I am not financially bouyant enough to finance my family to my dream taste, I can't afford to share my Limited resources to pussy hawkers. When I was single, I will ask a lady out, but anytime we had canal knowledge of ourselves, I would be asking myself what I benefited, I knew I benefited nothing, so, I still believe it will be same today.

People who see beautiful, sexy, succulent and seducing ladies as temptation has never been faced with real temption.

I disciplined myself before marriage. I stopped girlfriend things two years before I started searching for a wife. I didn't father my partners in sex, and forced God to direct me to one, no, I departed completely from them, I did a new search, and there is no ex in my dictionary. Within my first year of marriage, ladies I haven't spoken with for years, started calling me, asking what happens to them, as I got married, these are girls we broke up and forgot about each other. Outrightly telling them to move on, and even threatening to hand their numbers to my wife saved me the stress, at some point, I set a female's voice on my phone and answered their calls and calmly advised them to mind their business.

People around me knows me too well, so at times when the temptation would have overcome me, the fear of ruining my reputation aslo helps.

Only big soft yansh can keep me

DWJOBScom:


You just confused yourself
You deluded yourself by saying no cheating in relationships instead it's fornication but in reality cheating and fornication is a sin.
I was speaking to honesty in a relationship as well as commitment, and who says all relationships leads to fornication??
Stay safe

You are the confused being here..Go and read my first post word by word. When you misyarn, accept you don misyarn

To free from headache
To free from wastefulness
To free sickness and diseases
To make easier for the family to indetify the cause of death if nature beckon

xynerise:

Speak for yourself

It's already proven that every man cheats