Sweetlemon:

Well if they are living with him without the "funfair" then they should be able to sign documents without funfair as well. It's that simple.

Sweetlemon:

Potential legal wedding hater alert. Ladies be warned.

OrlandoOwoh: Church or court wedding is not all about spending money, like the would want us to believe. Yes, you spend money, but the main reason some people do it, including myself, is to give it a legal backing. The certificate you're issued at the registry or court has legal backing. For those that did just traditional marriage or paid only the bride price, before the law you're not a couple, but just cohabitating.

israelbenzion:


Ignorance in display. Care to state just one law that backs Ur assertion? if u don't know, ask. stop misinforming people. u guys don't have lawyer friends or cousins? na wa o!


Abeg I don tire for this argument. a little research wud do u good.

Kachisbarbie:
Majority of the people I have seen do this aren't learned. I haven't seen any learned person do it around me...

Sometimes circumstance leads to that, maybe the babe gets preg, and dey start postponing it till after birth of the child...and keep postponing it.

I think it's ideal to do a court @least. Make the marriage recognised by the law...just incase.

I haven't done court marriage though. My friends keep telling me to force my hubby to do it, so I can be entitled to his fortune, like they don't pray for me to make good money too...rubbish.

Blebleswag:
Buh traditional marriage is d most important. Must u wear white gown?

OrlandoOwoh:
Church or court wedding is not all about spending money, like the would want us to believe. Yes, you spend money, but the main reason some people do it, including myself, is to give it a legal backing. The certificate you're issued at the registry or court has legal backing. For those that did just traditional marriage or paid only the bride price, before the law you're not a couple, but just cohabitating.

Sweetlemon:


I guess you are female.

Take my advise and get an official document. Thank me later.

israelbenzion:



Ignorance in display. Care to state just one law that backs Ur assertion? if u don't know, ask. stop misinforming people. u guys don't have lawyer friends or cousins? na wa o!


Abeg I don tire for this argument. a little research wud do u good.

OrlandoOwoh:
Church or court wedding is not all about spending money, like the would want us to believe. Yes, you spend money, but the main reason some people do it, including myself, is to give it a legal backing. The certificate you're issued at the registry or court has legal backing. For those that did just traditional marriage or paid only the bride price, before the law you're not a couple, but just cohabitating.

Sweetlemon:
They assume ownership of a bride once the bride price has been paid. If the girl is lucky enough they will do traditional wedding but the white or even court wedding will be till further notice. In fact, unless a girl's family are strong Christians who will insist on the complete wedding rites before allowing their daughter move in permanently with man, the man will not think seriously about a formal wedding.

The thing is that most girls are too willing to allow this happen. Unless they pester the man for a court or white wedding, they will wait a long long time, after dropping one or two kids before having this. But their wives don't seem to be very serious about this. I mean, this trend is becoming too rampant nowadays. A good case study is that of P Square duo. (I love P Square and their brides not saying this to hate o) All the other celebs did both trad and white almost immediately after. Yet the P Square family even their brother Jude, are not about taking their brides down the aisle. I know a few girls personally who are doing this.

Ladies please let's be very careful with this issue. A church or at least a court wedding is more solid. With a traditional or just introduction, the man can wake up one morning and throw you out of the house, bring in another woman and there is little or nothing you can do. But when documents have been signed, you get the opportunity to fight for rights to property, fair treatment, etc if you can get a good lawyer. Also, with a certificate, your marriage is recognized anywhere in the world. For instance, without a marriage certificate, your "hubby" living abroad cannot invite you over abroad as it's done in most countries. You will have to go through another route.

Please if you are in this kind of arrangement, use all wisdom available to you to get yourself an official document. The longer you procrastinate, the more difficult it will be for the man to finally tie the knot while you live in his house.

GooseBaba:


Inferiority complex at its peak... Tufiakwa..!

Sweetlemon:


I guess you are female.

Take my advise and get an official document. Thank me later.

MabraO:
Only in Nigeria our ladies allow us men to marry them 3-4 times in 2/3 days
Wetin sef
If my wife no like traditional wedding
Na she sabi
No time for one Yeye pastor to tell me how to run my marriage wen he can't even run his

Sweetlemon:
They assume ownership of a bride once the bride price has been paid. If the girl is lucky enough they will do traditional wedding but the white or even court wedding will be till further notice. In fact, unless a girl's family are strong Christians who will insist on the complete wedding rites before allowing their daughter move in permanently with man, the man will not think seriously about a formal wedding.

The thing is that most girls are too willing to allow this happen. Unless they pester the man for a court or white wedding, they will wait a long long time, after dropping one or two kids before having this. But their wives don't seem to be very serious about this. I mean, this trend is becoming too rampant nowadays. A good case study is that of P Square duo. (I love P Square and their brides not saying this to hate o) All the other celebs did both trad and white almost immediately after. Yet the P Square family even their brother Jude, are not about taking their brides down the aisle. I know a few girls personally who are doing this.

Ladies please let's be very careful with this issue. A church or at least a court wedding is more solid. With a traditional or just introduction, the man can wake up one morning and throw you out of the house, bring in another woman and there is little or nothing you can do. But when documents have been signed, you get the opportunity to fight for rights to property, fair treatment, etc if you can get a good lawyer. Also, with a certificate, your marriage is recognized anywhere in the world. For instance, without a marriage certificate, your "hubby" living abroad cannot invite you over abroad as it's done in most countries. You will have to go through another route.

Please if you are in this kind of arrangement, use all wisdom available to you to get yourself an official document. The longer you procrastinate, the more difficult it will be for the man to finally tie the knot while you live in his house.

Erm... Just so you know, Traditional Marriage is recognised by the Federal government and the only proof you need is a marriage picture and witnesses. These are acceptable proof anywhere including Visa offices.

However, I do agree that it is sensible for every woman to insist on going to court as most churches (especially pentecostal churches) are not authorised by law to perform weddings and thus the certificate you get from those churches are not admissible in court or anywhere else as proof of marriage.

Also.. Get pregnant for the guy before you are married so the guy no fit Abandon you.. Thank me later.

IYANGBALI:
my friend you know next to nothing about the nigerian law

100Cents:


I am appalled she used Peter Okoye who did only traditional wedding out of choice.

What of most Nigerian men who cannot raise good money to cover both traditional and church weddings ?

Sweetlemon:


I guess you are female.

Take my advise and get an official document. Thank me later.

Sixix:


Court marriage or no court marriage, it won't hinder an irresponsible man from shying away from his responsibilities, abusing his wife and from engaging in extramarital affairs.

bukatyne:


@bolded:

'Poor' people have been marrying (doing white, Trad and court depending on the church) for ages.

Trad: Invite the two families alone, drop engagement stuffs and gbam! wedding don stand

White: Buy/Rent a gown (some sew china white; wear white skirt suit etc.) and be joined in church in the presence of ministers, parents & extremely close friends if desired.

Reception can be done aoutside the church; take away packs can be shared in church to cancel reception.

When there is a will, there is a way

Sweetlemon:


Lol!

Those Italians will not be recognized without an official document even in Nigerian courts not talk of their own country.

You missed the emphasis on the legal document and not necessarily the ceremony.

jmoore:
Growing trend? I don't think so.

Anyway, my plan is to do my traditional and church wedding the same day.


The government needs to do something about our traditional marriage, so we can issue legal documents to back the traditional wedding.

Sweetlemon:


Potential legal wedding hater alert. Ladies be warned.

Sweetlemon:
They assume ownership of a bride once the bride price has been paid. If the girl is lucky enough they will do traditional wedding but the white or even court wedding will be till further notice. In fact, unless a girl's family are strong Christians who will insist on the complete wedding rites before allowing their daughter move in permanently with man, the man will not think seriously about a formal wedding.

The thing is that most girls are too willing to allow this happen. Unless they pester the man for a court or white wedding, they will wait a long long time, after dropping one or two kids before having this. But their wives don't seem to be very serious about this. I mean, this trend is becoming too rampant nowadays. A good case study is that of P Square duo. (I love P Square and their brides not saying this to hate o) All the other celebs did both trad and white almost immediately after. Yet the P Square family even their brother Jude, are not about taking their brides down the aisle. I know a few girls personally who are doing this.

Ladies please let's be very careful with this issue. A church or at least a court wedding is more solid. With a traditional or just introduction, the man can wake up one morning and throw you out of the house, bring in another woman and there is little or nothing you can do. But when documents have been signed, you get the opportunity to fight for rights to property, fair treatment, etc if you can get a good lawyer. Also, with a certificate, your marriage is recognized anywhere in the world. For instance, without a marriage certificate, your "hubby" living abroad cannot invite you over abroad as it's done in most countries. You will have to go through another route.

Please if you are in this kind of arrangement, use all wisdom available to you to get yourself an official document. The longer you procrastinate, the more difficult it will be for the man to finally tie the knot while you live in his house.

MadCow1:




Even a homeless fellow can afford court wedding.