GooseBaba:


Stories that touch... What about all the widows that are now landlady..? How many of their brother in law are they sleeping with..?

Let's call a spade a spade... This is Nigeria.. Anything can happen.. The laws sometimes cannot be enforced.. No matter how many legal documents one presents..

chrisbaba1:


[size=13pt]So the court will uphold the content of a traditional marriage where the man can marry two women?? What are you talking about even if you don't know laws, theres common sense na.

Im angry, Infact go and suck agalumo[/size]

GooseBaba:


Bros, the season for agalumo don pass na...?

Besides, it all boils down to tribes and how they view their women folk... A first wife is the head of wives, if she signs court documents more blessings... In the case of multiple wives we can deduct that the women understand their culture.. So judging traditional laws with western influence is a bit too emotional...

Meanwhile, go drink alomo bitters...

tatiana009:


Bianca was able to go to the court and she was awarded the larger part of his properties. Please do your research about the case, if she didn't have that legal backing she would have been cheated by his grown children who were dragging the inheritance with her

Sweetlemon:
They assume ownership of a bride once the bride price has been paid. If the girl is lucky enough they will do traditional wedding but the white or even court wedding will be till further notice. In fact, unless a girl's family are strong Christians who will insist on the complete wedding rites before allowing their daughter move in permanently with man, the man will not think seriously about a formal wedding.

The thing is that most girls are too willing to allow this happen. Unless they pester the man for a court or white wedding, they will wait a long long time, after dropping one or two kids before having this. But their wives don't seem to be very serious about this. I mean, this trend is becoming too rampant nowadays. A good case study is that of P Square duo. (I love P Square and their brides not saying this to hate o) All the other celebs did both trad and white almost immediately after. Yet the P Square family even their brother Jude, are not about taking their brides down the aisle. I know a few girls personally who are doing this.

Ladies please let's be very careful with this issue. A church or at least a court wedding is more solid. With a traditional or just introduction, the man can wake up one morning and throw you out of the house, bring in another woman and there is little or nothing you can do. But when documents have been signed, you get the opportunity to fight for rights to property, fair treatment, etc if you can get a good lawyer. Also, with a certificate, your marriage is recognized anywhere in the world. For instance, without a marriage certificate, your "hubby" living abroad cannot invite you over abroad as it's done in most countries. You will have to go through another route.

Please if you are in this kind of arrangement, use all wisdom available to you to get yourself an official document. The longer you procrastinate, the more difficult it will be for the man to finally tie the knot while you live in his house.

GooseBaba:


Exactly..!! You think they did not know she has documents.... But they tried regardless.. What about the women who were not famous or strong enough to fight back with all their documents.. Be mindful of what tribe or tradition you marry into.

When tradition overrules your gra gra documents.. Make he no be like film trick...

tatiana009:


We've all heard of many cases where the woman only discovers that the man had another wife or wives in the process of the burial and they start showing up , customary law will recognize all those women whereas if she got married in a registry she and her kids will be the main benefactors. Abeg if there any woman who's reading this and thinks customary law is the same it's not o. Research and find out what your rights are under customary law and make an informed decision.

tatiana009:


We've all heard of many cases where the woman only discovers that the man had another wife or wives in the process of the burial and they start showing up , customary law will recognize all those women whereas if she got married in a registry she and her kids will be the main benefactors. Abeg if there any woman who's reading this and thinks customary law is the same it's not o. Research and find out what your rights are under customary law and make an informed decision.

GooseBaba:


Exactly..!! You think they did not know she has documents.... But they tried regardless.. What about the women who were not famous or strong enough to fight back with all their documents.. Be mindful of what tribe or tradition you marry into.

When tradition overrules your gra gra documents.. Make he no be like film trick...

AreaFada2:
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Are the other kids not the man's own? The other ladies have as much right as you. If your husband when alive didn't deem you sufficient for him, why should the courts or his family do so?
It seems the motive here is to corner or his wealth and disenfranchise the innocent kids outside.

So marry your soulmate, not just a rich guy that splashes money around on women or a gigolo?

OrlandoOwoh:

Gani Fawehinmi, could you explain the law to me as it relates to marriage?

Mclick:
Let me start by saying any kind of marriage; traditional, religious or statutory is binding. In most cases we do all kind of marriage as stated above. Little did we know that one nullify another. That been said, by observation, I think girls are more concern about the marriage ceremonies than having a good home, they will do anything to pressure their fiance into an elaborate wedding nomatter what not minding the after wedding. Moreso, some girl will do anything to have a court marriage most expecially not for formalities of the union but for their sense of insecurity. Why nothing is wrong having wedding done the way we are use to, The main challenge ladies do have is they think everything should be about them[b]. If a man that loves you pay your bride price be contented, make sure the man that loves you and you love for the right reason[/b]

majekdom2:
are you encouraging this just because of his properties . there are men who do more for their concubines than they do for their immediate families. reason best known to him ..... perhaps he feels fulfilled with the concubine.

100Cents:


Thank you.

Poster is more interested in fighting for her rights to property.. She is not even a Christian as she mentioned divorce as an option..

God may I dodge all the girls with poster mentality in Jesus name. Amen..

AreaFada2:
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Are the other kids not the man's own? The other ladies have as much right as you. If your husband when alive didn't deem you sufficient for him, why should the courts or his family do so?

It seems the motive here is to corner all his wealth and disenfranchise the innocent kids outside.

So marry your soulmate, not just a rich guy that splashes money around on women or a gigolo?

Ishilove:

I think traditional wedding is called customary marriage, backed by law or something (I read it somewhere a while back). After your traditional wedding, you go and register it in the local government where it took place after a duration of twenty-one days and you are given a certificate or something like that. My folks never did a white wedding and I have seen their marriage certificate, fully backed by the court in the district where the wedding took place.

I don't intend to do a white wedding. I'm a Christian, but I don't know where it is written that I must do a white wedding. Heck, the weddings that took place in the bible were marriages according to Jewish laws and customs. I'm a Nigerian, not a Jew. I will invite a man of God to my traditional wedding who will bless the union in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Shikena

Blebleswag:
Buh traditional marriage is d most important. Must u wear white gown?

majekdom2:
is it all men that are willing to stay with one woman ... some learned individuals still talk about 2 to 3 wives .I dont plan to , but dont talk like everyone should do what you expect them to.

tatiana009:


It is more about protecting her children. We know of many situation where the family takes everything and the children are left to live a life of poverty. There are cases where the family will insist that the children's school fees is too much and take them out even though their father left enough money for such. To pay for university for the children even becomes another issues as the mans family would have taken his money. It's best to protect your wife and children's future

Sweetlemon:


Potential legal wedding hater alert. Ladies be warned.

Sweetlemon:


Potential legal wedding hater alert. Ladies be warned.

israelbenzion:


I guess u didn't know that Local Government Councils issue certificate of traditional marriage if you approach them for one. again, I'll bet u didn't know that a simple affidavit of marriage suffices for d same purpose as a marriage certificate. ask NYSC. I have personally called them on this issue before and they stated so. all the
above stated documents never still do?

ayobase:


ask your mother how she did hers.

tell ur sisters and aunts never to bother about the certificate, but the ceremony.

u think its all about divorce......God forbids case of death.....I am sure u r gonna be thr first to throw ur brother"s wife out to claim the properties......those sules that liked ur post need deliverance of mentality.

Sweetlemon:


You no get wahala nau. You are fully married.

Thank God you understand what I mean by document. Please help me explain to them.

tatiana009:


We've all heard of many cases where the woman only discovers that the man had another wife or wives in the process of the burial and they start showing up , customary law will recognize all those women whereas if she got married in a registry she and her kids will be the main benefactors. Abeg if there any woman who's reading this and thinks customary law is the same it's not o. Research and find out what your rights are under customary law and make an informed decision.

Kachisbarbie:
Majority of the people I have seen do this aren't learned. I haven't seen any learned person do it around me...

Sometimes circumstance leads to that, maybe the babe gets preg, and dey start postponing it till after birth of the child...and keep postponing it.

I think it's ideal to do a court @least. Make the marriage recognised by the law...just incase.

I haven't done court marriage though. My friends keep telling me to force my hubby to do it, so I can be entitled to his fortune, like they don't pray for me to make good money too...rubbish.