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Ati long, ati short, if its in her blood to be a slut, she will be

issylarry:
I had the greatest shock of my life last week, which I never still believe why it happened to me. To cut the story short,I had a fiancee which we have been planning on getting married. In The course of time have been so familiar with her mum and siblings and we were just about preparing for our introduction. Due to the nature of my work I live in lagos and she stays at Ibadan, have been so faithful to her(you all know what am talking about).

On the 16th of aug, (saturday), I told her I was going to come around on the 19th. (Wednesday). when I got to Ibadan on wednesday, I checked-in in a guest house closer to her house. I was so happy been around her again, because I believed since her mum knows me, mehn, I thought I owned her. (That was the best mistake have ever made),Later in the night she was called by her brother to come over, so she decided to go and attend to her brother leaving me with her phone. Seriously,when she left I was just staring at the phone for some minutes and later I decided to check out for some more lovely pictures of my ironical wife. As time goes by I then decided to glance through her chats (wasn't intentional but didn't know what springed that up in me) Her recent chats was laced accordingly to how recent the chats has been. My chats with her was first,then I opened the 2nd chat(what I saw was crazy).

My so called ironical fiancee have been cheating on me. The chats was like my gf initiated the chat with him. She went to his place on Monday and they had sex. This is the lady I want to marry o,seriously I feel love doesn't truely exist. Its just a name not an ACT anymore. I got annoyed and asked her out of my room because if I should see her I could inflicts my annoyance on her(she might end up in hospital).

Now,what can I do? she's been begging me not to tell her elder brother .The mum hasn't heard anything about what transpired, even her siblings and have decided to let them know, so that they would know the kind of daughter they are living with(Packaged-slut). Is that the right decision? Or should I just delete every contacts I have with her? What can I do? Her mum do call me sometimes, now its so obvious am breaking up the relationship! But do I have to tell her mum or siblings who can understand how I really feel about it! Please, can you share me some advice or perspectives! I will appreciate it.

BREAKING THE RELATIONSHIP WAS A GOOD IDEAL.

IF HER MUM CALLED YOU, TELL HER THE TRUTH AND NEVER YOU reconcile WITH THAT BIIICTH.

NOW YOU KNOW NAIJA WOMEN ARE WORTHLESS PIECE OF SHITT

Ibadan girls can cheat .

issylarry:
I had the greatest shock of my life last week, which I never still believe why it happened to me. To cut the story short,I had a fiancee which we have been planning on getting married. In The course of time have been so familiar with her mum and siblings and we were just about preparing for our introduction. Due to the nature of my work I live in lagos and she stays at Ibadan, have been so faithful to her(you all know what am talking about).

On the 16th of aug, (saturday), I told her I was going to come around on the 19th. (Wednesday). when I got to Ibadan on wednesday, I checked-in in a guest house closer to her house. I was so happy been around her again, because I believed since her mum knows me, mehn, I thought I owned her. (That was the best mistake have ever made),Later in the night she was called by her brother to come over, so she decided to go and attend to her brother leaving me with her phone. Seriously,when she left I was just staring at the phone for some minutes and later I decided to check out for some more lovely pictures of my ironical wife. As time goes by I then decided to glance through her chats (wasn't intentional but didn't know what springed that up in me) Her recent chats was laced accordingly to how recent the chats has been. My chats with her was first,then I opened the 2nd chat(what I saw was crazy).

My so called ironical fiancee have been cheating on me. The chats was like my gf initiated the chat with him. She went to his place on Monday and they had sex. This is the lady I want to marry o,seriously I feel love doesn't truely exist. Its just a name not an ACT anymore. I got annoyed and asked her out of my room because if I should see her I could inflicts my annoyance on her(she might end up in hospital).

Now,what can I do? she's been begging me not to tell her elder brother .The mum hasn't heard anything about what transpired, even her siblings and have decided to let them know, so that they would know the kind of daughter they are living with(Packaged-slut). Is that the right decision? Or should I just delete every contacts I have with her? What can I do? Her mum do call me sometimes, now its so obvious am breaking up the relationship! But do I have to tell her mum or siblings who can understand how I really feel about it! Please, can you share me some advice or perspectives! I will appreciate it.

Tell her people why you quit the relationship and move on. There are still good ladies out there we guys just look for the wrong ones.

Keneking:
First and foremost, I need to highlight some of the misconstructions in your story.

1. In T(t)he course of time have been so familiar with her mum and siblings and we were just about preparing for our introduction.

2. Due to the nature of my work I live in lagos and she stays at Ibadan, (i) have been so(not necessary) faithful to her(you all know what (i) am talking about).

3. On the 16th of a(A)ug(.), (delete), I told her I was going to come around on the 19th. (Wednesday). when I got to Ibadan on w(W)ednesday, I checked-in (in)delete a guest house closer to her house.

4. I was so happy been around her again, because I believed since her mum knows me, mehn (what nonsense is this?), I thought I owned her.

Nonsense write-up!!! Too many grammatical errors

Are you related to Faka Jonathan?

Walks out of thread, hissing continuously

English Master, able OXFORD!...the guy don pass him msg across! let am be joor!

Mr issylarry, info is family is d way out. She base in Ibandan abi? If u info is family + oba olubadan. Na beg everybody will beg u.

Broda, if u love , pls go ahead. There is a way u can treat pple like that.

Misread your initial post. The girl couldn't bear the distance, you have every right to break up with her but then who's to say the next one won't cheat? Pls never check your partners private stuffs again, you may argue you have the right but I'm just saying it for your own good.

issylarry:
Thanks dear

a desperate bit.ch can act funny u know. tell the family so they don't paint u black. the girl is most likely going to lie about it all so u better have some proof before telling the family anything after they have asked of course! I hope u screen grabbed the chat or something so that it won't be your word against hers

It's unfortunate. I thought Lagos to Ibadan was not far?

Dotwillis1:
*in Chris Brown's voice*, this bitches ain't loyal.

. .... Anyways Her reason for cheating maybe your 'cause'.... Maybe she do fight for your attention when you were away.. Maybe

Buh which anyway, nigga she ain't worth yhu. There ain't no action to take than to whirl her off yhur life.

The famous words of a woman beater: D? Seriously bro, you need help.


@issylary, forget about her and move in with your life. You should not be butt hurt though if you have also cheated on her during the course of your long distance relationship.

door2:
Mr issylarry, info is family is d way out. She base in Ibandan abi? If u info is family + oba olubadan. Na beg everybody will beg u.

Broda, if u love , pls go ahead. There is a way u can treat pple like that.

r u trying to type in english?

if u can swear of never cheated on her since u started d relationship then call it off . anyway u engaged a lady for two years mehn is she d lord of d ring? if u are ready to marry a lady go ahead and do it and don't waste anybody's time. I rest my case

And you must be their role model

Keneking:
First and foremost, I need to highlight some of the misconstructions in your story.

1. In T(t)he course of time have been so familiar with her mum and siblings and we were just about preparing for our introduction.

2. Due to the nature of my work I live in lagos and she stays at Ibadan, (i) have been so(not necessary) faithful to her(you all know what (i) am talking about).

3. On the 16th of a(A)ug(.), (delete), I told her I was going to come around on the 19th. (Wednesday). when I got to Ibadan on w(W)ednesday, I checked-in (in)delete a guest house closer to her house.

4. I was so happy been around her again, because I believed since her mum knows me, mehn (what nonsense is this?), I thought I owned her.

Nonsense write-up!!! Too many grammatical errors

Are you related to Faka Jonathan?

Walks out of thread, hissing continuously

Do you understand the message? English teacher. Swear you have used a full stop at the end of every sentence you ever wrote.

With all due respect op this matter is crystal clear, the question is can you marry a cheat,? If yea stay like Rihanna if no the market is over

Keneking:
First and foremost, I need to highlight some of the misconstructions in your story.

1. In T(t)he course of time have been so familiar with her mum and siblings and we were just about preparing for our introduction.

2. Due to the nature of my work I live in lagos and she stays at Ibadan, (i) have been so(not necessary) faithful to her(you all know what (i) am talking about).

3. On the 16th of a(A)ug(.), (delete), I told her I was going to come around on the 19th. (Wednesday). when I got to Ibadan on w(W)ednesday, I checked-in (in)delete a guest house closer to her house.

4. I was so happy been around her again, because I believed since her mum knows me, mehn (what nonsense is this?), I thought I owned her.

Nonsense write-up!!! Too many grammatical errors

Are you related to Faka Jonathan?

Walks out of thread, hissing continuously

You forgot to add full-stop at the end of your last sentence, and who taught you to use triple exclamation marks?

jammyunn:
Very funny how everyone is blaming the girl. OP admitted he's been cheating on the girl and the girl has been doing so too. What guarantee does the girl have that the OP won't cheat in marriage? Both of you are most like to cheat again in marriage. Pls don't make it look as though the girl is the only one wrong here, it is emotional blackmail just because she doesn't know you cheated too. And pls never check your partners private stuffs again, you may argue you have the right but I'm just saying it for your own good.

They are a perfect fit., it will be unfair if op got married to a saint when he isn't.

kunle75:
Hello Bros,

Though i feel your pain but let ask you some few questions which bothers on morals:

1.Do you really love her?
2.How sure are you that the next girl you will find wont even be more worse than her?
3.When you confront her what was her reactions?
4.Can you tell us in all honesty that you have not cheat on her during your relationship?

Even though its hard to forgive such act pls still let her know that you forgive her and move on with your life with speed

If your answers are positive then you can breakup cos its better now than for you to get married and regret.

1.Sure,why shudnt I love a lady I want to get married too!I do luv ha.

2.Prayer and God's intervention
3.She felt bad abt it
4.With all sincerity,I didn't
Thnks bro

SeverusSnape:
Long distance relationship is not for me.

It's just a waste of time.

its not about long or short distance relationship my brother, a girl that is bound to cheat will surely cheat on you.
In my school days i had a friend who housed his Gf, this girl sneaks out of the guys room when he's fast asleep and goes to the next room to fck another guy.
Pray for your own woman from God

rafhell:
Ibadan girls can cheat .

Ode!

It is not jst easy to maintain a long distance relationship.

All u need to do is leave the girl cos as someone above said you won't want to conduct paternity test every other years.

And you don't need to tell her parents,let themknow through their daughter.
If she likes let her lie to them its her problem.
Eventually her secret will come out if she does.

issylarry:
......Now,what can I do? she's been begging me not to tell her elder brother .The mum hasn't heard anything about what transpired, even her siblings and have decided to let them know, so that they would know the kind of daughter they are living with(Packaged-slut). Is that the right decision? Or should I just delete every contacts I have with her? What can I do? Her mum do call me sometimes, now its so obvious am breaking up the relationship! But do I have to tell her mum or siblings who can understand how I really feel about it! Please, can you share me some advice or perspectives! I will appreciate it.

If you intend to break up
its only fair that you let a member of the family know the reason why, since you're close to them

If you tell her mum, the mum will put pressure on you to forgive her, and you wont be able to resist (that is if you have made up your mind to quit the relationship)
The brother is the best person to confide in. He'll understand and perhaps, it would make him more lenient with his own girlfriends if something like this happens to him in future

But should you forgive her in the first place?....uhmmmmm I don't know
she obviously had some other fellow that she loved as equally as she loves you hence she continued with him to this stage
she is probably better off with him but felt some loyalty to you because of the bonds you developed with her family.

Infidelity is getting to high in 9ja both from the male and female arena.many who even behave like saints don't practice what they preach.

niggi4life:
its not about long or short distance relationship my brother, a girl that is bound to cheat will surely cheat on you.
In my school days i had a friend who housed his Gf, this girl sneaks out of the guys room when he's fast asleep and goes to the next room to fck another guy.
Pray for your own woman from God

Like seriously... Did your friend find out?

sonofananimal:
BREAKING THE RELATIONSHIP WAS A GOOD IDEAL.

IF HER MUM CALLED YOU, TELL HER THE TRUTH AND NEVER YOU reconcile WITH THAT BIIICTH.

NOW YOU KNOW NAIJA WOMEN ARE WORTHLESS PIECE OF SHITT

Your mum too. She is also a worthless piece of shit

issylarry:
I had the greatest shock of my life last week, which I never still believe why it happened to me. To cut the story short,I had a fiancee which we have been planning on getting married. In The course of time have been so familiar with her mum and siblings and we were just about preparing for our introduction. Due to the nature of my work I live in lagos and she stays at Ibadan, have been so faithful to her(you all know what am talking about).

On the 16th of aug, (saturday), I told her I was going to come around on the 19th. (Wednesday). when I got to Ibadan on wednesday, I checked-in in a guest house closer to her house. I was so happy been around her again, because I believed since her mum knows me, mehn, I thought I owned her. (That was the best mistake have ever made),Later in the night she was called by her brother to come over, so she decided to go and attend to her brother leaving me with her phone. Seriously,when she left I was just staring at the phone for some minutes and later I decided to check out for some more lovely pictures of my ironical wife. As time goes by I then decided to glance through her chats (wasn't intentional but didn't know what springed that up in me) Her recent chats was laced accordingly to how recent the chats has been. My chats with her was first,then I opened the 2nd chat(what I saw was crazy).

My so called ironical fiancee have been cheating on me. The chats was like my gf initiated the chat with him. She went to his place on Monday and they had sex. This is the lady I want to marry o,seriously I feel love doesn't truely exist. Its just a name not an ACT anymore. I got annoyed and asked her out of my room because if I should see her I could inflicts my annoyance on her(she might end up in hospital).

Now,what can I do? she's been begging me not to tell her elder brother .The mum hasn't heard anything about what transpired, even her siblings and have decided to let them know, so that they would know the kind of daughter they are living with(Packaged-slut). Is that the right decision? Or should I just delete every contacts I have with her? What can I do? Her mum do call me sometimes, now its so obvious am breaking up the relationship! But do I have to tell her mum or siblings who can understand how I really feel about it! Please, can you share me some advice or perspectives! I will appreciate it.

Break up with her and tell the parents. Simple.

If she cheats with the understanding that the both of you will soon get married, nothing stops her from cheating in marriage.

Do not have any naive sympathy. Tell her mom and siblings the reason you broke up. Since they're close to you, they should know the reason for your actions.


By the way, if you ever got involved in a long distant relationship again, just be open to the positivity of infidelity. Girls always need company which opens them up to temptation.

Dem tell you say ladies no dey feel urge to have sex with every tom dick and Harry that comes their way?It's the way guyz hormones react on sighting attractive chics that the ladies spikes when they encounter cute guys.They have blood too.If you dont stay close to your chick forget it.She will cheat on you.