prettysassygirl:
she doesent deserve you,any girl that cheats on her man before marriage wld do DAT after,she ain't worth it,dia better girls out there,DAT I am sure

My dear, any babe you have not married is NOT yours. I came to this conclusion because over 90% of girls I have discussed such matter with believe until wedding day, keeping multiple guys is not a biggie. I know some just form decency after marriage. But if a clear low risk chance with high reward occurs, they would cheat even in marriage. @OP, tell her family before they begin cursing you for jilting their daughter. This is confirmed cheating, not rumours. Why hide it from her family that will be upset by the break up? Shikena.

when i saw distance relationship tot one party is abroad...lagos to ib is distance again..
smh for @op...
nice story anyways...

Why will any sane individual open a thread for this nonsense?.
The facts in play are as clear as daylight.
You wanted to marry a whoree ,fortunately, you found out that she is a whoree unlike thousands of unfortunate Nigerian men married to whorees and fathering bastards.
Dump her immediately and thank your ancestors for not abandoning you to the whims of a whoree.

Blakjewelry:
What happened to forgiveness these days, I know it hurts but if she really has a change of heart why not forgive. I know double dating is very common among our youths these days even though only few will admit it, sometimes it takes k getting caught to make someone realize the gravity of their act. For me am always a believer in second chance

In as much as I know you have good intentions, not all second chances are worthy of it. Some second chances led a lot of folks to their early graves.

EggovinMma:


So I know.

A STRONG KING CAN BE BRING DOWN BY HIS EMOTION WEATHER WEAK OR STRONG.

NOBODY IS STRONG OR WEAK, I MAY BE SOFT OR WEAK OR EITHER THE SOFTEST , SO LIKE WISE YOU

issylarry:


You can't satisfy a lady and she might end up takn u for granted.don't you know some ladies are so daft?

I disagree, Loving her with her weakness is the greatest strength and power you can wield over her. She has a lot to be grateful for than the clean babe who owes you nothing in return.

lafuria1:

I'm only commenting because I wished I saw this advice before my former girl went to paint me black infront of her parents and claimed she didn't do anything. She kept on lying that I was the problem. I had my own fault but I expected her to say the whole story.

From experience too, he should talk first o, that way he can leave in peace or else they will accuse the guy of irresponsibility and waste of their daughters time.

....hmmm and will false accusation from d gal's family make him less successful in life?? If they paint u black and u r not black,y worry?peace of mind is d most important thing. I think he should just move on and not b done to spoil d babe's name in d presence of her family(who would hav trusted her as a goooood gal),she would expose her own self soon..

Pls go on with d relationship. GOD knws d best.

Well having sex with another doesn't mean she isn't committed to u,I have been opportune to go to the united states,over there a lady you knw can come to you,and she will let u knw quite alright that she is in a serious relationship with someone dat all she just need is to have s ex with u, Konjii is a bastard.... It is just here in 9ja infact Africa that we carry sex for head...that's y distance relationship is not good,if u re around I believe dere will be no cause of cheating,anytime she needs it u re giving it 2 her then I dnt believe she will carry her eyes outside but if she does even wen u re staying with her then dats wen u can formally delete her away

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jammyunn:
Misread your initial post. The girl couldn't bear the distance, you have every right to break up with her but then who's to say the next one won't cheat? Pls never check your partners private stuffs again, you may argue you have the right but I'm just saying it for your own good.

If he didn't check her phone, how would he have known he was about getting married to a cheat??

discovering how unfaithful the girl is ryt now is way better than when he ignorantly marries her.

bigerboy200:

....hmmm and will false accusation from d gal's family make him less successful in life?? If they paint u black and u r not black,y worry?peace of mind is d most important thing. I think he should just move on and not b done to spoil d babe's name in d presence of her family(who would hav trusted her as a goooood gal),she would expose her own self soon..

I wonder.
Who gives a fucck about what the girl's family will think?
As long as they can't force me to marry their daughter, then their opinion is irrelevant.

prettysassygirl:
she doesent deserve you,any girl that cheats on her man before marriage wld do DAT after,she ain't worth it,dia better girls out there,DAT I am sure

Yea... There are good girls out there but they prefer the bad guys and after the bad guys dealt with them they will eventually become bad girl. Ironically there are very few good girls out there..

That's why a girl that is a girl that is not a virgin would want to be in a sex free relationship

sonofananimal:
A STRONG KING CAN BE BRING DOWN BY HIS EMOTION WEATHER WEAK OR STRONG.

NOBODY IS STRONG OR WEAK, I MAY BE SOFT OR WEAK OR EITHER THE SOFTEST , SO LIKE WISE YOU

I picked you out to haunt you not because you are weak or strong. How dare you accuse me of being shameless? I have seen your display of insensitivity, stupidity, ignorance and highly questionable immoral behaviour on other threads.

You can imagine a sonofananimal talking like nosonofanimal now.

mayorall:





Act not while angry, she's the bone of your bone

She was used by the devil just for you to miss your ways

She's your destiny helper ( Things had been rossy since you met)

In reality she didn't know how it all started with the man

You are also not a saint as you claimed. You had sex with 2 ladies of recent days. Have a lovely day.

Lolz,your last statement made me believe that all you have been writn isn't true

Ladies are soooo damn mysterious my brother...You can NEVER predict them... They don't just keep their eggs in one basket..... l was in almost similar situation as yours last year... She begged and swore upon her life that she would never stray again.... Lo and behold, it happened again..... The best advice I would give you is to forget her.... Erase every single trace of her or anything that would remind u of her.. I bet you, u would thank me later....

Modified

issylarry:
I had the greatest shock of my life last week, which I never still believe why it happened to me. To cut the story short,I had a fiancee which we have been planning on getting married. In The course of time have been so familiar with her mum and siblings and we were just about preparing for our introduction. Due to the nature of my work I live in lagos and she stays at Ibadan, have been so faithful to her(you all know what am talking about).

On the 16th of aug, (saturday), I told her I was going to come around on the 19th. (Wednesday). when I got to Ibadan on wednesday, I checked-in in a guest house closer to her house. I was so happy been around her again, because I believed since her mum knows me, mehn, I thought I owned her. (That was the best mistake have ever made),Later in the night she was called by her brother to come over, so she decided to go and attend to her brother leaving me with her phone. Seriously,when she left I was just staring at the phone for some minutes and later I decided to check out for some more lovely pictures of my ironical wife. As time goes by I then decided to glance through her chats (wasn't intentional but didn't know what springed that up in me) Her recent chats was laced accordingly to how recent the chats has been. My chats with her was first,then I opened the 2nd chat(what I saw was crazy).

My so called ironical fiancee have been cheating on me. The chats was like my gf initiated the chat with him. She went to his place on Monday and they had sex. This is the lady I want to marry o,seriously I feel love doesn't truely exist. Its just a name not an ACT anymore. I got annoyed and asked her out of my room because if I should see her I could inflicts my annoyance on her(she might end up in hospital).

Now,what can I do? she's been begging me not to tell her elder brother .The mum hasn't heard anything about what transpired, even her siblings and have decided to let them know, so that they would know the kind of daughter they are living with(Packaged-slut). Is that the right decision? Or should I just delete every contacts I have with her? What can I do? Her mum do call me sometimes, now its so obvious am breaking up the relationship! But do I have to tell her mum or siblings who can understand how I really feel about it! Please, can you share me some advice or perspectives! I will appreciate it.

u may hv to forgive her koz smetyms we hv to tolerate shit to move ahead. Na ppl frm her village wey no want mke she marry.dem use her pix dey dance shoki....

[quote][/quote]Tell her mom n her siblings d bitter truth,and then move ahead wit ur life...she can continue her relationship wit her sex mate. some gals can dey fall their hands shall

Please do as advised above...let her parents know about all your findings, please do this diligently, i mean with no iota of arrogance!
Do not entertain any form of resolution or settlement between two of you. Remember, "out of sight is never out of mind", do not be deceived except your sense of judgment is love overclouded!....little is enough for a wise!

sonofananimal:
NONSENSE!

NO MATTER HOW I LOVE A WOMAN. IF YOU CHEAT AND I FIND OUT! YOU ARE FVCKING OUT.

take it easy, I did nt say u shuld its jux anoda option in d matter nuthn else. Men hv done it, bt dts them n u are u. Calm dwn, anger kills pls.

EggovinMma:


I picked you out to haunt you not because you are weak or strong. How dare you accuse me of being shameless? I have seen your display of insensitivity, stupidity, ignorance and highly questionable immoral behaviour on other threads.

You can imagine a sonofananimal talking like nosonofanimal now.

SO WHAT IS YOUR OBJECTIVE NOW!

I ACCUSE YOU OF BEING SHAMELESS BECAUSE YOU WERE BRINGING RUBBISH OUT OF YOUR MOUTH OR RATHER BRAIN.



IF YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT INSENSITIVE, TRY AND LOOK INTO YOUR PREVIOUS POST. ONE MAY SEE YOU AS A SLUT.

issylarry:


You can't satisfy a lady and she might end up takn u for granted.don't you know some ladies are so daft?

It all depends on you. Read Luke 7:47. But let me warn you for your own good: NEVER YOU OPEN YOUR MOUTH AND TELL YOUR NEXT BABE WHY U LEFT THIS CURRENT BABE. SHE WILL TRICK/PLAY ON SAME THING AND FEEL SHE IS SMARTER, AT THE END OF THE DAY YOU ARE IN FOR A VISCIOUS CYCLE ALL YOUR LIFE. If you chose to move on, Bury the reason in ur heart and hide this from your next babe! A word is enough.....

Op dont be deceived. Be careful all these people asking you if you have never cheated before, I guess that's how bad this world is now. Mediocrity being celebrated. Nobody sees anything wrong with cheating or even adultery anymore. In the nearest future guess everyone will officially have two or more gf/bf with the others full consent. Just forgive her and move on. There are still good and faithful ladies out there. If you go ahead, remember its your marriage, all these ones here asking u weda u av not cheated bfor wont be there to help you suffer the pains, they are just good at talking. Tell her parents asap. Continue with your good exemplary characters. It will lead you somewhere good.

issylarry:


Guy u no believe,we can't all be the same!if you can't endure,that doesn't mean sum1 else can't.ladies yapa though,what do you want to say abt a man that goes frm home to office and back!just weekends for rest!

krusdamax:


I disagree, Loving her with her weakness is the greatest strength and power you can wield over her. She has a lot to be grateful for than the clean babe who owes you nothing in return.

I fancy you morale,but sumtin z tellin me she wud repeat d same tin.

falconey:
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why say the next will be more bad Dan these one... Chale talk well nw.. That is a very bad pray.

Mznaett:
The babe no try at all

These days, Poles and Holes aiint loyal at all aswear

Gosh! Now I've come 2understand that after dropping my cane in a nice position some silly students might come play with it carelessly

#TeamCelibate

Based on nairaland rating, poles dey try pass holes. Wise woman who spake in P'arabic.

oreos:


Yeah, so is your mum and female folks

You zombie slowpoke.

falconey:
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why say the next will be more bad Dan these one... Chale talk well nw.. That is a very bad pray.
And u said he should trust u. Chai!!!!

Op have faith, with God all thing are possible. Forgive her nd move on. There are much beta ladies out there. #Blive

ilobasama:
Op dont be deceived. Be careful all these people asking you if you have never cheated before, I guess that's how bad this world is now. Mediocrity being celebrated. Nobody sees anything wrong with cheating or even adultery anymore. In the nearest future guess everyone will officially have two or more gf/bf with the others full consent. Just forgive her and move on. There are still good and faithful ladies out there. If you go ahead, remember its your marriage, all these ones here asking u weda u av not cheated bfor wont be there to help you suffer the pains, they are just good at talking. Tell her parents asap. Continue with your good exemplary characters. It will lead you somewhere good.

Thanks a lot sir

She dont deserve u bettet run 4 ur dier life o