4reala:
gud, I think she acted wrongly by waiting too long to inform u about this. Even allowing u to do intro. Damn, she wass trying to tak u to a point of no return. Where u either face d shame of telling u parent or keep quiet and continue wit d marriage cos of d love she had helped u build around her.
Before I giv my final suggestion, I will like u to knw who suggested protection, when both of u made love?

Honestly, she did! And when I I inquired, she said because of pregnancy

She was sincere enough to have told you the truth. Trust me, not all women will do what she did. Just follow your heart and take your decision. Am afraid if your parents find out about her status, it's gonna be a big problem

Beremx:
She was sincere enough to have told you the truth. Trust me, not all women will do what she did. Just follow your heart and take your decision. Am afraid if your parents find out about her status, it's gonna be a big problem

Yea, exactly! Have only shared the issue with my pastor, though, with her consent.

He told me to pray about it if she's the choosen one for me. And he asked me this " can my faith carry it?"

Gasout:


Yea, exactly! Have only shared the issue with my pastor, though, with her consent.

He told me to pray about it if she's the choosen one for me. And he asked me this " can my faith carry it?"

You know the secrecy of being an HIV person. I will beg you not to tell anyone else even if you don't end up marrying her.

Just follow your heart and pray about it. The ball is in your court.

Beremx:
You know the secrecy of being an HIV person. I will beg you not to tell anyone else even if you don't end up marrying her.

Just follow your heart and pray about it. The ball is in your court.

Ofcourse, is nt something I can share with anyone.

Gasout:


Honestly, she did! And when I I inquired, she said because of pregnancy

ok. I think she has led u on too far, and also lied to u, all in trying to gain ur Love. I am of the opinion of had it been she had told u earlier on(not on d first date though). U wld hav been in a very good position to mak a clear cut decision. But now she has already won ur Love and u are now in a confuse state. If u knw u won't be living with the fear of contracting d disease even after every precautionary measure has been taken, u can go ahead. But if u knw u will still be having dat fear, then its better to let her go

This is serious I feel it all depends on you. The question is are you sure both of you are destined for each other if yes go ahead dere are couples who have one partner infected while the other is not. In this case you seek medical counsels BUT if not move on.

Op, I walked out of a beautiful relationship where bride price has already been paid because of Genotype. I wonder which one is more deadly between Genotype and HIV status

Gasout:
Good evening members in the house. I purposely brought this topic to this section (family) cos I blive i'll have a mature responses and contributions.

I'll try to be brief as possible.
I met this lady 2014 but we started dating November last year. It took her a whole year for her to accept dating me.

But then, she told me that, there is something she will tell any man who desire to marry her bt, depend on the level of seriousness of the man.

Then, I took what she planned telling her hubby to be as nothing serious nt until d relationship began to wax stronger. After being in the relationship for a while, I discovered she posses virtually all d qualities I desire in a lady and wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life with her.

I tried to make her tell me what she has in mind that she plan to tell her hubby to be, she refused. At this stage, our both parents re aware of our relationship and we planned to have our INTRO this June.

I proposed to her last week, she accepted and busted to tears. Initially, I thought it was a tears of joy, nt knowing it was something entirely different from my thought.

I took her home with different feelings within me since she couldn't stop crying. When we got to their house b4 she alighted, she hold my hands and told me me 'she's HIV positive'

I was startled for minutes. She said I should think about it if I still want the relationship.

I have make enquiries from Doctors if both of us can marry and He said yes Bt the am nt still convince. Please, Nairalanders, I need ur sincere advice on this issue...

She didn't tell you she was HIV positive before you both got serious? Are you kidding me?! There are some things that shouldn't be concealed till it's too late!

run for your life

Oga you and your girlfriend are not serious.

As far as I'm concerned, she misled you therefore flee from her.

What nonsense love is that one, mschew.

Gasout:
Yes, we had sex just once and it was protected

Even if you would have had unprotected sex with her then, the fact that she engaged in sexual intercourse with you while knowing that she was HIV positive without telling you is a death kneel to any relationship, IMHO.

That all being said, HIV positive is not a biggie in this day and age, it's like having high blood pressure, diabetes, etc, all modern treatable conditions.

Research Magic Johnson.

bro it is a film. John Dumelo and Joselyn Dumas. she wanna see how deep your love is

i believe in god that god can cure her if she move closer to god.since you love her pls carry the cross it her cos this is your cross but wait this girl stil love you for her to open up with you which i know some girls cant do it.keep it up with her ....one love

this is really tough o

Beremx:
She was sincere enough to have told you the truth. Trust me, not all women will do what she did. Just follow your heart and take your decision. Am afraid if your parents find out about her status, it's gonna be a big problem

Which sincere? That woman just carefully manipulated the young man and that for me, is a no no.

Onegai:
Meehnnnn. I shouted on your behalf o when reading this.

She should have told you. Since! This is not a secret to be kept this long. This is the equivalent of telling you she has a child, is barren or is a robot with Artificial Intelligence created by an Alien lifeform, few weeks to the wedding.

Hmm. Go to a hospital, a Federal or State one (Teaching hospital is better). Tell them to counsel you (they usually have counselling groups for people living with HIV). Also, ask her if she goes for counselling and follow her. Ask her for her drugs, take a good look at them. Who pays for them? Get every single info you can, there is no more time for secrets. In fact, if she insists on not telling you anything, threaten to walk away. She has to make it clear beyond a shadow of doubt what your reality will be.

Then decide if you want to live with it or not. And all the best in your decision.

But if she's lying, call off the wedding. For now. Because she's a dunce. Which kain nonsense test be dat??

God Bless u, I swear...Fear catch me sef after reading this Op's post !. I felt like someone poured ice blocks on me !!!

See gobe


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fadjnr:


Oga what are you saying nao. The chances of a male contracting the virus during unprotected sex is equal to that of the female because there's definitely going to be exchange of body fluids

It is easier to contract HIV from sex with a male than from
sex with a female.www.healthline.com/health/hiv-aids/chances-contracting

How did she contracted the disease?

Gasout:
Good evening members in the house. I purposely brought this topic to this section (family) cos I blive i'll have a mature responses and contributions.

I'll try to be brief as possible.
I met this lady 2014 but we started dating November last year. It took her a whole year for her to accept dating me.

But then, she told me that, there is something she will tell any man who desire to marry her bt, depend on the level of seriousness of the man.

Then, I took what she planned telling her hubby to be as nothing serious nt until d relationship began to wax stronger. After being in the relationship for a while, I discovered she posses virtually all d qualities I desire in a lady and wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life with her.

I tried to make her tell me what she has in mind that she plan to tell her hubby to be, she refused. At this stage, our both parents re aware of our relationship and we planned to have our INTRO this June.

I proposed to her last week, she accepted and busted to tears. Initially, I thought it was a tears of joy, nt knowing it was something entirely different from my thought.

I took her home with different feelings within me since she couldn't stop crying. When we got to their house b4 she alighted, she hold my hands and told me me 'she's HIV positive'

I was startled for minutes. She said I should think about it if I still want the relationship.

I have make enquiries from Doctors if both of us can marry and He said yes Bt the am nt still convince. Please, Nairalanders, I need ur sincere advice on this issue...

First of all, put the intro on hold, pending the time you are fully convinced to carry on or otherwise. You can get married to her of course, even raise children as modern day medicine has made it possible. But truly if I am in your shoes, I would call off the whole thing entirely, she, your fiance, should have told you before you got so head over heels that she is positive, she should not have wanted after you've proposed, it is wrong.

Vickyydera:
Do you think she is worth ruining your life for?
I can't marry a HIV positive person,even if you like be an angel.
capisce!

That's nt d way to go about it...u may think because ur safe today bt what if u get infected tru other means aside sex...just show empathy, life goes on

You planned to have intro this June and you just proposed last week? Issokay

Your mama prayers dey work, na u need to dey pray well.

Gasout:
Yes, we had sex just once and it was protected

two things I see, either its a test or she really is. Ladies always going. Extreme to test a man! Ask her how she got it!

carmag:
You don't tell a child to remove hand from fire, Do you?

..ok op you can go ahead with the marriage remember you loves her so much, and love conqueret everything

and again love is blind.. yes we all agree

ok ...again ....don't brake her heart u know she also loves u as wells

you'll be happily married as long as you use condom to enjoy the rest of the marriage...
no problem you'll be safe

but if eventually you have unprotected sex with her..

"""hehehe don't come here again to open another thread

Is her heart a vehicle that you're engaging the brake .. .....

Whew !!!!
Just Hiv










....thought you were going to say She had a diick

EfemenaXY:
@op. Because deep down within you, you know it's the right thing for you to do.

Save both yourselves further grief and just end it. You'll get over her with time. Meanwhile, there are other girls out there to pick a wife from.

How can you determine what the right thing to do is? Its unfair for any one to discriminate an HIV victim. I bet some of us here do not know their HIV status. Who knows, if she was once a victim of rape,etc

I don't know how it works, but I have an HIV positive cousin whose husband and three kids are negative. Go for adequate counseling, you just might be lucky.

Oni yeye. Conquer ko, konkere ni

eigmaticme:
Omo see gobe...

...but love conqueres all