My people pleaseeee I need sincere advise here. Your advise will definitely guide me on the next step to take.

There is a beautiful girl I've been considering getting married to, but the way she requests money and fast food is making her look very ... lol.. "hungry" and opportunistic to me. The values she sees in a man seem to me like its basically what he will BUY for her. I confess that I made matters worse initially by "fast fooding" each time we meet... Now I think she sees me like a free lunch at crunchies. If I call her in the afternoon, she says I'm hungry.. its so irritating now.. in fact I lost a lot of regards for her..but she doesn't know yet.

Recently she asked me for some money and I refused very politely..she said she was "disappointed".

I wonder if she even loves any other thing about me asides the MONEY I WILL GIVE HER. she pays ABSOLUTELY NO attention the things I want her to see in me...like level of maturity, my leadership skills, I taught she was just being childish, but lately I discovered its just her nature. her ideology about a guy is WHAT WILL I GET FROM HIM.. I might dump her .. i wont even talk to her about it. please advise me

Is this another palmchat story?

gedtalks:
My people pleaseeee I need sincere advise here. Your advise will definitely guide me on the next step to take.

There is a beautiful girl I've been considering getting married to, but the way she requests money and fast food is making her look very ... lol.. "hungry" and opportunistic to me. The values she sees in a man seem to me like its basically what he will BUY for her. I confess that I made matters worse initially by "fast fooding" each time we meet... Now I think she sees me like a free lunch at crunchies. If I call her in the afternoon, she says I'm hungry.. its so irritating now.. in fact I lost a lot of regards for her..but she doesn't know yet.

Recently she asked me for some money and I refused very politely..she said she was "disappointed".

I wonder if she even loves any other thing about me asides the MONEY I WILL GIVE HER. she pays ABSOLUTELY NO attention the things I want her to see in me...like level of maturity, my leadership skills, I taught she was just being childish, but lately I discovered its just her nature. her ideology about a guy is WHAT WILL I GET FROM HIM.. I might dump her .. i wont even talk to her about it. please advise me

omo she has someone else joor.she doesn't love u

STFUareyouGod:
Is this another palmchat story?

bros how old are you. What's the "story" here that looks in ONLY your eyes like "palm chat"

Keep on fast-fooding her naw. Why you wan stop ?

gedtalks:


bros how old are you. What's the "story" here that looks in ONLY your eyes like "palm chat"

Looks like one of them

And my age? Old enough to be your uncle

nnamdiokere45:
omo she has someone else joor.she doesn't love u

Thanks bro.. but she calls me often on phone.. and feels bad when I don't call.

You are dating a girl and not a woman. Shikenan.

A woman would use the money you would have spent on fast food to cook you two or three different small portioned soups.

As a means of your appreciation, you'll buy her gifts even without her demanding it.

Most fast food and gifts demanding girls are unemployed so the only means to having their way is with men who are drooling after them.

Who fine geh help? Marry a woman who will add value to your life first, spiritually, intellectually, emotionally and finamcially by helping u save.

That one no mean say u go be aradite o. No woman wants to marry a stingy man or one who can't maintain her standard or improve it.

Dump her sorryy broke asss na, u jst making us tell ya wat u already know

Nawa 4 sm guys sha

Just Dump her, before you end up marrying an ornament in the name of wife...

IamMissMarvel:
You are dating a girl and not a woman. Shikenan.

A woman would use the money you would have spent on fast food to cook you two or three different small portioned soups.

As a means of your appreciation, you'll buy her gifts even without her demanding it.

Most fast food and gifts demanding girls are unemployed so the only means to having their way is with men who are drooling after them.

Who fine geh help? Marry a woman who will add value to your life first, spiritually, intellectually, emotionally and finamcially by helping u save.

That one no mean say u go be aradite o. No woman wants to marry a stingy man or one who can't maintain her standard or improve it.

Well said.

To all those advising the op to dump his girlfriend, breakups doesn't occur that way, breaking up should be op's last resolve if all means of correction fails.

gedtalks:


Thanks bro.. but she calls me often on phone.. and feels bad when I don't call.

Why won't she call u? U think anyone would be happy to lose their ATM? Coz Ur an investment to her bro!

I would have thought you would have raised this issue with her, rather than raising it with NL. its no use observing something thats irritating you and not mentioning it. Also since you are the one spending its simply up to you to say no we are eating at home. if this woman was truly your potential fiancee then you have to raise the issue first before dumping, you have to try to educate her and see if she will listen.

Another thing that is really confusing me is that most of the girls I've dated frequently ask for money. I don't know if its the same thing all guys face. in fact honestly I see it as a Nigerian girls character.

this one is annoying me cos I want her to pay attention to more important things.. but she is not. I am really the one reading her. I am seeing a lot of her secrets. Contrarily she doesn't know ANYTHING about me.. she hasn't seen my bad part.. The only way she can discover this is when her interest is in SEEING AND KNOWING MORE. like I am reading her glutinous characters

gedtalks:
Another thing that is really confusing me is that most of the girls I've dated frequently ask for money. I don't know if its the same thing all guys face. in fact honestly I see it as a Nigerian girls character.

this one is annoying me cos I want her to pay attention to more important things.. but she is not. I am really the one reading her. I am seeing a lot of her secrets. Contrarily she doesn't know ANYTHING about me.. she hasn't seen my bad part.. The only way she can discover this is when her interest is in SEEING AND KNOWING MORE. like I am reading her glutinous characters

They probably request for money that way because you presented the image of a wealthy guy before then, to impress i think!

Another thing that is really confusing me is that most of the girls I've dated frequently ask for money..maybe because they see I'm working.. I really don't know if its the same thing all working class guys face. in fact honestly I see requesting as a Nigerian girls character.

this one girl is uniquely annoying me cos I want her to pay attention to more important things.. but she is not. I am really the one reading her. I am seeing a lot of her secrets. Contrarily she doesn't know ANYTHING about me.. she hasn't seen my bad part.. The only way she can discover this is when her interest is in SEEING AND KNOWING MORE. like I am reading her glutinous characters

spinna:
I would have thought you would have raised this issue with her, rather than raising it with NL. its no use observing something thats irritating you and not mentioning it. Also since you are the one spending its simply up to you to say no we are eating at home. if this woman was truly your potential fiancee then you have to raise the issue first before dumping, you have to try to educate her and see if she will listen.

to be sincere I'm actually looking for a reason to keep her. permit me to say this : my "demand" is really higher than the average guy.. and I know it like I know my name.. I just don't allow it intoxicate me

A committed maga has been spotted!

Tell her to Come forward! Come! Come! She should not be afraid, What is happening to her eh! It's not ordinary oh! God has remembered her today... Oyaa raise your hand up... Raise it up very well! Then bend it and place it on your head... Preferably where your mind tells you your brain is located... your stomach or your head. Then repeat this prayer after me... *My father! My father* Where ever they have buried my sense and my brain... *In my maternal village* *In my paternal village* *in the coven* Let them Vomit it now! Oya start shouting it with anger ! Shooooooouuuuuuut it

gedtalks:
Another thing that is really confusing me is that most of the girls I've dated frequently ask for money..maybe because they see I'm working.. I really don't know if its the same thing all working class guys face. in fact honestly I see requesting as a Nigerian girls character.

You really need to work on your approach to/with women. First impression matters a lot and you my man, are selling yourself short.

Ofcourse, I can't tell you who or what you should spend your money on but just bear it in mind that you really do not have to reach out for your wallet every single time you're out with a lady.

As per the girl in question, I dunno, those sorts are never good for anything beyond a good blow anyway. Get your pound of flesh and next her. Good luck.


EDIT:
Oh, thread title says she's your fiancée? I can't laugh.

Jxt tell her ur mind nd see hw she ll react

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Thanks bro.. but she calls me often on phone.. and feels bad when I don't call.

na d scam na...she doesn't want to mke it obvious dat shez der for d moni. try dis, ask her to boro u a very little amt dat u wld pay her bck soon.hear Wetin she go talk n get back to me

gedtalks:
Another thing that is really confusing me is that most of the girls I've dated frequently ask for money. I don't know if its the same thing all guys face. in fact honestly I see it as a Nigerian girls character.

this one is annoying me cos I want her to pay attention to more important things.. but she is not. I am really the one reading her. I am seeing a lot of her secrets. Contrarily she doesn't know ANYTHING about me.. she hasn't seen my bad part.. The only way she can discover this is when her interest is in SEEING AND KNOWING MORE. like I am reading her glutinous characters

bab,am sorry to say,u are in Nigeria.

WHEN I TELL PEOPLE THAT MANY NIGERIAN GIRLS LACK COGNITIVE REASONING,THEY WILL SHOUT ,IYS THE GIRL YOU ROLL WITH,WHO ARE THE GIRLS U ROLL WITH,ARE THERE NOT YOUR SISTERS,YOUR FRIENDS AND YOU! IMAGINE A 1 WEEK RELATIONSHIP ,AND A GIRL IS ALREADY ASKING FOR MONEY TO MAKE HER HAIR.WHAT DO YOU WANT THE GUY TO THINK OF YOU? THAT YOU ARE SUPER SMART AND INTELLIGENCT,NO! HE WONT THINK THAT, HE WILL THINK YOU ARE A FRIVOLOUS FEMININE AND WILL PROBABLY TREAT YOU LIKE ONE.FROM WHAT I HAVE NOTICED MEN DATE FRIVOLOUS WOMEN AND MARRY CONSERVATIVE ONES,DONT THINK BECAUSE YOU ARE FAIR AND BEAUTIFUL YOU WILL MARRY A VERY GOOD MAN.SHAME ON YOU.WE MEN ARE WISER

She's not in love with you bro .she's only after your money ...and she's leaving you immediately you are broke so dump her before she dump you

IamMissMarvel:
You are dating a girl and not a woman. Shikenan.

A woman would use the money you would have spent on fast food to cook you two or three different small portioned soups.

As a means of your appreciation, you'll buy her gifts even without her demanding it.

Most fast food and gifts demanding girls are unemployed so the only means to having their way is with men who are drooling after them.

Who fine geh help? Marry a woman who will add value to your life first, spiritually, intellectually, emotionally and finamcially by helping u save.

That one no mean say u go be aradite o. No woman wants to marry a stingy man or one who can't maintain her standard or improve it.

first of all girls evolve to women physically and cognitively and we prefer them young and at their prime. we are not responsible for girls waywardness and promiscuous lifestyle. one will probably not know whether she is a woman or a girl until you spend some quality time with either. if you deduce one can know through dresses I can prove you wrong.

about the last paragraph, I agree no woman wants to marry a stingy man, perhaps I need a little clarification of a stingy man, thus, is it a man who doesn't take responsibility or a man who doesn't spend lavishly? because I reckon man doesn't run away from responsibility no matter how difficult it might be to accomplish,though can be practical in disbursing their cash.

stingy isn't stingy if you never had it - fal

lastly "man who can't maintain her standard or improve it" I find this statement hysterical same way women do maintain our standard, fantasy and taste. does the beauty that attract us enhance or does the asset stay firm for eternity? you want to enjoy life riches enrich yourself!.

spinna:
I would have thought you would have raised this issue with her, rather than raising it with NL. its no use observing something thats irritating you and not mentioning it. Also since you are the one spending its simply up to you to say no we are eating at home. if this woman was truly your potential fiancee then you have to raise the issue first before dumping, you have to try to educate her and see if she will listen.

op, this is a reasonable one. better take it.

I just came to say hello to the Mr. DASUKI that opened this thread. Please I have some pretty cousins incase you need more than one fiancee.

gedtalks:
My people pleaseeee I need sincere advise here. Your advise will definitely guide me on the next step to take.

There is a beautiful girl I've been considering getting married to, but the way she requests money and fast food is making her look very ... lol.. "hungry" and opportunistic to me. The values she sees in a man seem to me like its basically what he will BUY for her. I confess that I made matters worse initially by "fast fooding" each time we meet... Now I think she sees me like a free lunch at crunchies. If I call her in the afternoon, she says I'm hungry.. its so irritating now.. in fact I lost a lot of regards for her..but she doesn't know yet.

Recently she asked me for some money and I refused very politely..she said she was "disappointed".

I wonder if she even loves any other thing about me asides the MONEY I WILL GIVE HER. she pays ABSOLUTELY NO attention the things I want her to see in me...like level of maturity, my leadership skills, I taught she was just being childish, but lately I discovered its just her nature. her ideology about a guy is WHAT WILL I GET FROM HIM.. I might dump her .. i wont even talk to her about it. please advise me

You have assesssed and seen all that is wrong. So why seek advice?