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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by duncan511: 8:39pm On Dec 06, 2016
i have been a victim of fake ladies, never see real lady to be with till now
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by sweetilicious(f): 8:40pm On Dec 06, 2016
In as much as i want to go with this advice, i still wish to go with my beliefs that its better you date one person than packing a lot of partners just to avert heart break. You will still be doing yourself strong things when you get to find out you have deadly diseases and can't fathom who passed it to you. That one is the worst heartbreak i think anyone will ever experience.
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Adeinfo: 8:41pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:



All men aren't cheats, but 90% are.

Please go and change your mentality. If you continue like this, I am sure you can't get a good man to marry. If you are attracting Heartbreakers, then check yourself. moreover you were citing your friends experience also, this clearly shows all of you influenced yourself one way of the other which need to be thoroughly assessed. Lastly, place your thinking over your emotions and communicate values to all persons

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Odunharry(m): 8:42pm On Dec 06, 2016
angry Can't believe this coming from a Lady.. The funny thing is many will b mislead with this write up.

Oh lord, help some of our ladies, help them to discern advice thats good for them and those that will cause them harm in the long run.
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by agrovick(m): 8:42pm On Dec 06, 2016
Another brain dead female on the loose, Toke reincarnate...

Instead of you to advocate for ladies shining their eyes and take a walk when they notice cheating behaviors in their boos, you are busy yarning side bf matters.

Just in case it skipped your mind, HIV still has no cure.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Maduawuchukwu(m): 8:43pm On Dec 06, 2016
[quote author=ItzMePuffPuff post=51695271]But uncle
...should we not follow yer example and do as u do?[/quotefirs

First of all u are not following our example. U guys are doing what u have always done. Same with us.
Men cheat, women cheat.
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by BabaRamota1980: 8:43pm On Dec 06, 2016
Benita27:
I am not referring to those who hide under the umbrella of children of God while committing atrocities. They aren't God fearing.

Why are you even with those kind of men. You need a man like me that put it in you straight. grin grin. yinmu tongue
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by omowumeee(f): 8:45pm On Dec 06, 2016
No No No! I will not have A side boyfriend! I will have 2-6 side boyfriends!!!
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Youngzedd(m): 8:45pm On Dec 06, 2016
Tufunky:
madam. Here's what is going to happen. You take guy number 1 serious and guy number 2 as side chick. when guy number 1 starts cheating on you , you dump him and move to guy number 2 to take him serious only to find out that's you were merely a side chick to guy number 2 and you end up getting dumped. Toke Makinwa wrote 1 book at the end of her experience. with the road you want to take, you may end up writing an entire encyclopedia with 10 volumes when you are through. Don't worry, as a consolation I will read volume 1.


Give him a cookies.


This simply shows the kind of person our female folks look up to.


This thread is an eye opener to every reasonable man. Innocents dudes will go and marry second class Olosho without knowing.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by delighteddell(m): 8:45pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:
To All Ladies Out There, I Say Please Have A Side Boyfriend!
he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.

A friend of mine started dating a guy, and she got to realize he was cheating on her, and not only was he cheating but with a girl so young, when my friend confronted him, this guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend saw all the evidences he still blamed her, and she asked me what she did wrong, all she ever did was love and give him all of her, she ignored all guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs.


If a guy is not a dedicated F_ck boy, it'll be very difficult for d guy to cheat or throw a girl's love out to d dogs. If u want to keep a guy u should have a functional brain, a praying tongue and an enduring spirit, asides being a scholar in bedmatics.
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 8:46pm On Dec 06, 2016
I totally agree with the op! lipsrsealed
Side bf is the way! #TeamSideBF lipsrsealed
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Precioussilas10: 8:46pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:


That's why we have the 10% for the "Real Men", but I can tell you have met so many guys, I mean friends who look so innocent but yet cheat like mad on their loyal girlfriends.
And u keep wondering why u can't keep to one guy.From ur alleged statement,u said u have met so many guys.why would a guy take u serious when he notices u have a side bf.He would only keep u as a sex object...please don't spoil people's relationship with this myopic ideology.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Acidosis(m): 8:46pm On Dec 06, 2016
How old are you @OP?

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by iykedare(m): 8:46pm On Dec 06, 2016
agbonkamen:
this is a good ideal, just same way car owners has spear tyre grin

You h03$ want to further finish off your already fairly used p0uss13$.
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by LorDBolton(m): 8:47pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:
To All Ladies Out There, I Say Please Have A Side Boyfriend!

And this makes me wonder is it wrong for ladies to be loyal in their relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall in love and give you her all?, is it a crime for ladies to do all just to please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?. and my answers to these questions is just for ladies to have side boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you won't have the fear of the main guy waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the heart attack of thinking of what your boyfriend is doing at the moment, and you won't be so involved in the life of your boyfriend for him to tell you you are choking him or think less of you.
Madam I thought u were smart... lemme assume you finished two wraps b4 typing this shit

I've seen FWB'S tire, my friends have seen FWB's tire, one thing is constant... with time spent emotions grow (usually on the female side)

If u even check my topics you will see a nasty experience with a FWB which I decided to share.

For u to think FWB won't leave u one day? Or eventually you won't find yourself wondering where he is shows you're emotionally naiive which explains you spending 5years with a guy who didn't really care.

90% of the male population are cheats, from the poverty ravaged ones to the elite class.

Your concern shouldn't be a cheating bf/husband...your concern should be finding a guy 'who will be a good man, a good husband and a good father'

Fvcking 2/3 guys isn't your problem, packaging yourself to attract the right kinda guys should be ur focus.

People wonder why runz girls end up with good loving husbands most times, it's cos they not naiive, they know the difference btw adult babies and adult men.

So if u like keep 10 side-bf's, if all 10 are playas then i'll pray 4 u

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 8:48pm On Dec 06, 2016
I wonder what type of relationship people go into this days? If relationship was some type of exam or program,i would have asked for it to be scraped cos its been abused and its now valueless.


As for aunty Toke,her story is one-sided and that's her mo'fuvcking cross,let her carry it undecided

If everybody are to write books about their cases of heart breaks,some people will have a Nobel Prize.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 8:48pm On Dec 06, 2016
Maduawuchukwu:
First of all u are not following our example. U guys are doing what u have always done. Same with us.
Men cheat, women cheat.
then why are u complainin'grin it is nature!!!
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by ButterFrost212(f): 8:50pm On Dec 06, 2016
Vorpal:


Purely malo?

You got a big feet. 43 or 44?
Not, not purely Malo.. And no, my feet aren't that big, 40 undecided
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by VictorRomanov: 8:50pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:



No vacancy o

What if the side boyfriend and the main one come break ur heart. No be double heartbreak be that??

The solution is not to love blindly. Not double dating
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by m4goodlife: 8:50pm On Dec 06, 2016
Good for u. so what happens when the side guy cheat too , plus the main guy. I guess the option will be to leave and get some others, and the cycle goes on. My sister the joke will still be on u. Atleast think bout body count. Abi the side guy won't be having his own fair share of u?


Perseverance and attitude will really help a long way. I would rather marry someone who knows my weakness and willing to help me get out of it, than one who rather would go having side guys.

This mindset has kept a lot of ladies unmarried till today.
Continue side guysing till nothing to market again

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by ladyverere(f): 8:50pm On Dec 06, 2016
;DI value my body and dignity to be screwing more than one man simultaneously all in the name of side boyfriends. Don't use your experience as a yardstick in this kind of issue, not even Toke's. See, many women are very much aware they are dating ass holes but guess what? They keep hoping if they will be able to change him if they (the women) give the guys their all. I always say date a man who loves U more than U will ever love him and if the guy U r dating is a certified asshole, Bae ditch his sorry and cheating ass and move on. It's not a must to be in a relationship, the sooner ladies understood this the better for them. There are decent men out there, not all men are dogs. Although there are many who are more than dogs

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by talktonase(m): 8:51pm On Dec 06, 2016
https://www.nairaland.com/3394833/how-pretense-overwhelms-ladies-when
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 8:51pm On Dec 06, 2016
When you love a guy too much he will take it for granted am make you feel bad n sad

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by indispensable01(m): 8:51pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:


All men aren't cheats, but 90% are.
hmm..... not true!!! try me and c.
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by paulibling(m): 8:52pm On Dec 06, 2016
See your name, SEXTEMI. Now tell me why you will not only attract Randy boys. Even your friends as you mentioned are of same feather as you. Apply yourself to gainful things and you will see made responsible men not boys kneel before you beg for marriage.

Aspire to be great like likes of okonjo iweala them. Not talking of fornication here. Children of uwa mmebi.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by taiwoti(m): 8:52pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:
To All Ladies Out There, I Say Please Have A Side Boyfriend!

After reading toke makinwa's book "on becoming" I'm of the idea that if toke had had a back up plan, a guy she could count on if her boyfriend at that time maje(later ex husband) was in his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her serious and respected her more..

I've been there where I gave my all into a relationship and was very loyal to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.

A friend of mine started dating a guy, and she got to realize he was cheating on her, and not only was he cheating but with a girl so young, when my friend confronted him, this guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend saw all the evidences he still blamed her, and she asked me what she did wrong, all she ever did was love and give him all of her, she ignored all guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs.

Then another of my friend met up with a guy and ohh she fell for his charm, this my friend has had a fair share in the heart break department, her heart has been broken not once, twice and not even thrice. when she chatted me up and said"babe I've met a guy and he loves me with his all, babe he wants to marry me and babe thank God for me" I got to admit I was happy for her and in fact I thank God on her behalf and used her case as a testimony of good things to happen, I tap into her good luck and believe someday I'd also meet a guy who would love me as much as her guy did, little did I know the guy was nothing short of bastard, a guy who makes ladies curse other guys, a guy who is a disgrace to other guys...this guy impregnated my friend and made her father chase her out of the house, with nowhere to go she moved in with him and got to know who he really was, this guy still went after girls, cheats on my friend even in her condition, lodge in different hotels with different girls, and whenever she confronts him he denies it to her face, and in my friend's voice"babe, I'm so scared of him, he lies so much that when he greets me good morning I go out to make sure its really morning", and I'm sure we all know its wrong for a pregnant lady to think, but oh my friend is always thinking and sad all because she fell in love with an ahole and was loyal.

And this makes me wonder is it wrong for ladies to be loyal in their relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall in love and give you her all?, is it a crime for ladies to do all just to please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?. and my answers to these questions is just for ladies to have side boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you won't have the fear of the main guy waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the heart attack of thinking of what your boyfriend is doing at the moment, and you won't be so involved in the life of your boyfriend for him to tell you you are choking him or think less of you.

My friend, stop the epistle there, infidelity knows no gender, it cuts across board.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Seeker2014: 8:52pm On Dec 06, 2016
What do you mean by "I gave my all"? U think guys love those who gave their all? What will you give when he marries you? The more you give, the more he doesn't trust you. A young boy once complained to my wife that his girlfriend always wants sex. Note that sex is not as you think it with men.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by ashewoboy(m): 8:54pm On Dec 06, 2016
ItsQuinn:
I totally agree with the op! lipsrsealed
Side bf is the way! #TeamSideBF lipsrsealed




you are a fvck girl. thought you were fond of protecting your boyfriend that he is the only one that can fvck you. how do you keep a side boyfriend without fvcking him?
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by ibietela2(m): 8:56pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:


That's why we have the 10% for the "Real Men", but I can tell you have met so many guys, I mean friends who look so innocent but yet cheat like mad on their loyal girlfriends.

Why you like to follow bad friends
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Barigaboy(m): 8:57pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:
To All Ladies Out There, I Say Please Have A Side Boyfriend!

After reading toke makinwa's book "on becoming" I'm of the idea that if toke had had a back up plan, a guy she could count on if her boyfriend at that time maje(later ex husband) was in his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her serious and respected her more..

I've been there where I gave my all into a relationship and was very loyal to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.

A friend of mine started dating a guy, and she got to realize he was cheating on her, and not only was he cheating but with a girl so young, when my friend confronted him, this guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend saw all the evidences he still blamed her, and she asked me what she did wrong, all she ever did was love and give him all of her, she ignored all guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs.

Then another of my friend met up with a guy and ohh she fell for his charm, this my friend has had a fair share in the heart break department, her heart has been broken not once, twice and not even thrice. when she chatted me up and said"babe I've met a guy and he loves me with his all, babe he wants to marry me and babe thank God for me" I got to admit I was happy for her and in fact I thank God on her behalf and used her case as a testimony of good things to happen, I tap into her good luck and believe someday I'd also meet a guy who would love me as much as her guy did, little did I know the guy was nothing short of bastard, a guy who makes ladies curse other guys, a guy who is a disgrace to other guys...this guy impregnated my friend and made her father chase her out of the house, with nowhere to go she moved in with him and got to know who he really was, this guy still went after girls, cheats on my friend even in her condition, lodge in different hotels with different girls, and whenever she confronts him he denies it to her face, and in my friend's voice"babe, I'm so scared of him, he lies so much that when he greets me good morning I go out to make sure its really morning", and I'm sure we all know its wrong for a pregnant lady to think, but oh my friend is always thinking and sad all because she fell in love with an ahole and was loyal.

And this makes me wonder is it wrong for ladies to be loyal in their relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall in love and give you her all?, is it a crime for ladies to do all just to please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?. and my answers to these questions is just for ladies to have side boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you won't have the fear of the main guy waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the heart attack of thinking of what your boyfriend is doing at the moment, and you won't be so involved in the life of your boyfriend for him to tell you you are choking him or think less of you.
In your post it already shows that u will not double date cos u r not that type of girl. The mistake most ladies makes is falling in love so fast because u like someone's look without waiting to see if d person u love loves u back. Don't think u can make a guy love u because u r tall or u have a nice shape or great hips. Go n find out d ladies they r dropping u for or your friend u will see that they r not your level n not even close to pretty. Most time ladies will love a guy because of what he possess, where he works, his profile n his popularity. Have u heard of cat rejecting a fish because is not hungry. That's what u r doing when u r jumping around a guy because of what u see. Whenever u like a guy ask yourself why do I like dis guy. Him having someone he was dating isn't d issue. D issue is if he will not tell u d truth. D guy who doesn't like u will never tell u d truth but d one who likes u will tell u d truth not afraid of loosing u. If u like him cos he his handsome remember oda girls too sees dsame tin even your younger sister too have dsame eyes that u have. Dsame way a girl will have a crunch on a guy n do everything to make sure d guy sleeps with her atleast once. Why a guy meant for u who doesn't have a car n sees u drop from a car will never try to approach u is d fact that he feels u guys r not in dsame category n he will not want embarrassment but ladies r smart to know who loves them but prefer a guy who is financially buoyant n guy who is financially buoyant does not belong to any girl but belong to every girl. So d best thing to do to find d right guy is looking outside your choice of guy. Do want a guy who is rich, have a good job, hansome etc or u want a responsible man who will cherish u without complaining. I love a tall, slim girl but will get married to any girl who is peaceful, hardworking, intelligent even if she will be short n fat I don't give a damn. So think outside d box your type of man may not be the right guy for u that's what I mean.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by afroditte(f): 8:57pm On Dec 06, 2016
Never keep all your eggs in a basket, a guy told me this and it's turned out to be one of the best advice I've ever received. grin

But OP, how can you be with a guy for five years and you wouldn't know he was just wasting your time....hmm.... girls please when you are falling in love, don't take leave of your senses and fall senselessly in love. Let the sense be there to help you notice certain things. Gimme just one month and I can tell if a guy is for keeps or for trash.

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