HerPov:


How do I work on them? It's like a nagging feeling like something in my head is shouting do it! do it!

I feel like I'm crazy! I am so impulsive

The worst thing is that it doesn't clear for a week so I will be strong on my decision then a week later I regret what I did.

What did you do or stop doing? How do I control my impulsive behaviour?

I think you need to learn to control your thoughts. This you can achieve when you occupy yourself with good activity.
Personally, i read a lot, especially when i am angry, worried, confused or depressd. It helps me control my emotions/thoughts and makes me stable and calm. So, i am able to respond rationally to many circumstance/issue.
Moreso, dont make relationship the hallmark of your life.
Most people miss this. They dont work on /develop themselves.
Try to be disciplined and focus on your life's goal. What are your goals in life (daily, wkly, monthly and yearly.
Goals make us focus and helps control what we do, how we act and when we act. It makes you temperate and patient. Can i ask you few questions? What are your goals ( in your career, educationally, in your relationship and in terms of developing yourself?).
You must learn to lead a meaningful, stable and secure life whether you are in a relationship or not. Learn to be happy and secure at all times. Its not easy but you have to try.
Personally, i think you are jst being emotionall now. Should your guy accept you again, i'm sure you'll still breakup with him.
In order words dont just pursue him now but focus more on dealing with your inherent weaknessess- fear, insecurity, anger, lack of self control and temperance, etc.
Am jst wondering how succesful you will be in life when you allow yourself to be controlled by your emotions and thoughts.
What your are experiencing in your relationship tells me alot about how unstable you will be, even at work. Its serious dear. Work on yourself.
Moreso, you need to build a relationship with God and ask him for help.
Stay secure. Bye

HerPov:
I don't know what's wrong with me, everytime I feel insecure in the relationship or he does something to piss me off, I end the relationship. At that moment I'm overwhelmed with anger and he has a way of blanking me when we argue and because I can't release the anger, I quit the relationship.
I really do love him. He is my dream man, I [b]approached him and introduced myself a[/b]nd we just fit. Except my "It's over" drama every month.
I finish with him every month (when I come on my period, I can't control my emotions). He said he can't take me seriously and if I broke up with him again he won't take me back and I broke up with him last week for the 5th time

What's wrong with me? Do other women feel like this? Men what would you do in his situation?

You might need to make peace with yourself @ the bolded. Maybe a part of you tells you he takes you for granted every time you guys have issues.

my dear ,i think u are a very temperamental person.learn how to control your anger.i bet u kno reasonable man will take u serious with this your habit.so swallow ur pride go bck and ask for forgiveness..goodluck

Reminds me of someone I once knew...good riddance.

HerPov:


How do I work on them? It's like a nagging feeling like something in my head is shouting do it! do it!

I feel like I'm crazy! I am so impulsive

The worst thing is that it doesn't clear for a week so I will be strong on my decision then a week later I regret what I did.

What did you do or stop doing? How do I control my
impulsive behaviour?

It is a simple thing to do dear. Surrender all and give your life to Jesus. Holy Spirit will control you. You will be amazed by the new you the way your old self will be taken away.
It is not a lie when Bible says if any one is in Christ, he is a new creature old things are passed away, all things become new.

Sincerely that is all you need. You won't have to struggle for a change. And I will advice you do it now so this habit will not affect your marital future

my dear, you need help you did not only suffer from low self-esteem or insecurities your major problem is anxiety, which most translate to fear of the unknown. You need to step out of any relationship and seek help to rid yourself from this mental torture. I used to be like you too but after seeking help and on medication for some time, my brain was able to process things and respond to issue with a clear head. I suffered from mental and physical abuse when I was younger. If you look carefully you did not only do this with your boyfriend, it happens with people close to you. Your brain can not process chaos, so per time, you take the easiest route to flee every time you found yourself in a situation you can not control. Please seek help with either a psychologist or a counselor. From there you will know what next to do.My five cent.

yomi007k:


Have u tried treating typhoid?

T.K.O lmao

Well, you need to get your emotions and anger issues in check. Sincerely, my only advice at the moment is to read a book by Tim Lahaye "Why you act the way you do". I think it will handle your issue if you put what you read to practice. In addition, get someone to call trust and always talk to about your insecurities. Someone honest should be able to build your confidence back. Ensure you read the book. GOODLUCK.

HerPov:


Between 28 and 35

I see a woman within that age range must be insecure and have low self esteem cos she's already on her expiry date and menopause is knocking. An old girl must not come my way o,I'm in need of a fresh blood in her late teens or early 20's.
na play I dey o,but you caused it all by thinking all I mentioned above towards your man, thinking you're too old for your man and blah blah blah,thinking he'd go for younger girls. don't kill yourself madam. its true that women have expiry date,men don't but you have to realise that confidence and composure is the sexiest thing in a woman,don't be the horse that was chained to a plastic chair and can't run away,you're suffering from delusion,negative one at that that makes you see yourself as inferior. always compare yourself with sexy celebs in your age group or older and similar physical features as you,and always read the good things about them and see yourself like then or better than them. stop making yourself feel sad cos your parents are knocking it to your brains that you must marry blah blah,don't settle for less too

Lordkratus:
T.K.O lmao

In tekno's voice "yawa go d".

dozofavour:


behavioral control school for broken relationships
admission requirements
you must have been in a relationship before
your heart must have been broken
if you are in a relationship then you must be causing problem for your spouse and so on. you re the instructor you should know the ethics

O'boy you must be a genius ..i like your language arrangements.. top up. keep on. don't be like me.. na money language I know ..

HerPov:


Don't say that! But I really love him and I don't mean it. He has exhausted the conversation with me. It's my time of the month! I have some chemical imbalance I think. All these sound like excuses but it's the truth. I guess I've lost him for good, huh?

You are obviously not the only lady who experiences MP inspired hormonal imbalance,but what you lack is CONTROL. I dont think you have lost him,I am sure he will take you back....try to walk away or take a glass of ice-cold water when angry or hurt, speak less when angry...infact make it a habbit not to say a word when angry(communicate only when you get a grip on your emotions....above all, PRAY!

yomi007k:



Have u tried treating typhoid?

OMG

You play too much

HerPov:


Damn! Sister be easy ooo

You are so right. I am not in denial of my low self-esteem and insecurities. A lot has happened to me that my self worth is shattered. I don't know what to do. You are right. I have nothing to say.

Work on all these downsides.

Jaabioro:
O'boy you must be a genius ..i like your language arrangements.. top up. keep on. don't be like me.. na money language I know ..

e get who hate money?

So my ex get twins sister in you. We dated for close to 9months and for no just reasons, she usually walks away. Like 5 times. I only offended her on the 4th break up. So i usually talk to her dt tnz r not done dis way by occasional breakups by her. She pleaded and we forget about it. Den 5th time. Dis time around i help her to make sure that there is no way back.

After all u pple will talk of gender equality. So if u were d president of a country you will make decision that will tarnish the image of d country and den blame it on ur period abi? Gender equality my foot

Your matter get k+bow leg

yomi007k:



Have u tried treating typhoid?

lolssss I swear u dey madddddx

dozofavour:


e get who hate money?

Honestly the way and manner legit way wey I dey take now it pass yours.. have a lovely weekend ..maybe I would pm you..

Jaabioro:
Honestly the way and manner legit way wey I dey take now it pass yours.. have a lovely weekend ..maybe I would pm you..

you too enjoy your weekend. thank God its friday

NubiLove:
She has done it 5 times, he might never come around. If they don't live in the same area or work in the same office, he would not see anything. All he needs to do is to stop picking her calls and block her on facebook and whatsapp.

A lot of guys would have called it quits after the 3rd time she broke up with him.

you're absolutely right........ Butt if she has learnt her lessons this time, they could still square it up..... Women like inconsequential wahala Shaa

HerPov:
I don't know what's wrong with me, everytime I feel insecure in the relationship or he does something to piss me off, I end the relationship. At that moment I'm overwhelmed with anger and he has a way of blanking me when we argue and because I can't release the anger, I quit the relationship.
I really do love him. He is my dream man, I approached him and introduced myself and we just fit. Except my "It's over" drama every month.
I finish with him every month (when I come on my period, I can't control my emotions). He said he can't take me seriously and if I broke up with him again he won't take me back and I broke up with him last week for the 5th time

What's wrong with me? Do other women feel like this? Men what would you do in his situation?

How old r u exactly So i can know how to advice

dozofavour:

you too enjoy your weekend. thank God its friday

You are welcome

HerPov:
I don't know what's wrong with me, everytime I feel insecure in the relationship or he does something to piss me off, I end the relationship. At that moment I'm overwhelmed with anger and he has a way of blanking me when we argue and because I can't release the anger, I quit the relationship.
I really do love him. He is my dream man, I approached him and introduced myself and we just fit. Except my "It's over" drama every month.
I finish with him every month (when I come on my period, I can't control my emotions). He said he can't take me seriously and if I broke up with him again he won't take me back and I broke up with him last week for the 5th time

What's wrong with me? Do other women feel like this? Men what would you do in his situation?

Doctors can give you medications to control or completely stop your period, if it is the primary cause of your behaviour. Also, his blanking behaviour is as unacceptable as your monthly breakup, so if he won't change and you can't change, it's time for both of you to move on.

HerPov:


Between 28 and 35

Hope it isn't a coincidence. Did or number end with 1307?

HerPov:
I don't know what's wrong with me, everytime I feel insecure in the relationship or he does something to piss me off, I end the relationship. At that moment I'm overwhelmed with anger and he has a way of blanking me when we argue and because I can't release the anger, I quit the relationship.
I really do love him. He is my dream man, I approached him and introduced myself and we just fit. Except my "It's over" drama every month.
I finish with him every month (when I come on my period, I can't control my emotions). He said he can't take me seriously and if I broke up with him again he won't take me back and I broke up with him last week for the 5th time

What's wrong with me? Do other women feel like this? Men what would you do in his situation?

I would graciously dump your unstable emotional arse.

Raine80:
What man needs that level of instability? I hope
He does not take you back because you have developed an expectation that he will always take you back. You need to focus on having emotional maturity before embarking on relationships. The fact that you have such insecurities does not help because you will always find fault where none exist.For you to not like yourself ( low self esteem ) what happened? Why do you transfer your anxieties on to him? You know he had nothing to do with the way you feel about yourself . Or does he?

apparently, my ex left me for same reason. well, a guy confused her and she dates him now.
Atm, i feel all ladies r d same

HerPov:
I don't know what's wrong with me, everytime I feel insecure in the relationship or he does something to piss me off, I end the relationship. At that moment I'm overwhelmed with anger and he has a way of blanking me when we argue and because I can't release the anger, I quit the relationship.
I really do love him. He is my dream man, I approached him and introduced myself and we just fit. Except my "It's over" drama every month.
I finish with him every month (when I come on my period, I can't control my emotions). He said he can't take me seriously and if I broke up with him again he won't take me back and I broke up with him last week for the 5th time

What's wrong with me? Do other women feel like this? Men what would you do in his situation?

HAVE YOU TRIED TREATING HORMONAL IMBALANCE....?

yomi007k:



Have u tried treating typhoid?

Dude una go kill person 4 here oooo which 1 cum b typhoid abi toilet infection ni the babe neva set 2 do relationship tinx

chamboy:
apparently, my ex left me for same reason. well, a guy confused her and she dates him now.
Atm, i feel all ladies r d same

You have met all the ladies to generalise like that? I could argue all men cheat but I won't as that not accurate.