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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by JerryJJZ(m): 10:39pm On Sep 14, 2018
I understand how difficult it might be bro,, but am with her 100% in this. Grant her wish and enjoy a lasting marriage.... She sure have her reasons, and I think I know a couple of it

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by chloride6: 10:40pm On Sep 14, 2018
Ask your Gf one question.

Is he father attending her mother's Church.

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by Godwinny(m): 10:44pm On Sep 14, 2018
I know say that girl na from deeper life
Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by doughziay: 10:46pm On Sep 14, 2018
aragon4realz:
I met this girl 4years back and one thing led to another and we started a relationship, things have been pretty well and we love each other very much, we have our ups and down but we makeup for it. I love her so much I could do anything for her and she loves me too in her own special kind of way.

The problem now is that am planning on proposing to her in a couple of weeks, I even stylishly measured her ring size and I have been visiting some jewelry stores to pick the perfect ring for her and also planning some surprise engagement party/get together for her but the thing is that she hates my church (catholic).

She is Anglican by birth but she attends one of the pentecostal churches which I don't want to mention,
we have been talking about this church of a thing for the past 3 months now and she has sworn never to get married in the Catholic Church and I can't leave my church because of this.

I even stopped talking or texting her for some couple of days now but today she texted me saying that "I should do this one thing for her by leaving my church" and even said it to my face that I should not propose to her when the time comes cos she will say no because of this.

Am just confused, what shall I do? I need help

Thing is both of you are Christians and you're by doing this church thing bringing separation in the body of Christ..
is it not one God?
Is the God in Catholic different from her own church..This has to be trashed out squarely before you both walk the road to forever.

if you or her by any means give in to the pressure because of marriage to change church, you might be struggling with that in marriage.

If she's the will of God for you, God always has his way of making things work perfectly, if it continues this way, pray and your wife will surface. God be with you.

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by femi4: 10:46pm On Sep 14, 2018
aragon4realz:
I met this girl 4years back and one thing led to another and we started a relationship, things have been pretty well and we love each other very much, we have our ups and down but we makeup for it. I love her so much I could do anything for her and she loves me too in her own special kind of way.

The problem now is that am planning on proposing to her in a couple of weeks, I even stylishly measured her ring size and I have been visiting some jewelry stores to pick the perfect ring for her and also planning some surprise engagement party/get together for her but the thing is that she hates my church (catholic).

She is Anglican by birth but she attends one of the pentecostal churches which I don't want to mention,
we have been talking about this church of a thing for the past 3 months now and she has sworn never to get married in the Catholic Church and I can't leave my church because of this.

I even stopped talking or texting her for some couple of days now but today she texted me saying that "I should do this one thing for her by leaving my church" and even said it to my face that I should not propose to her when the time comes cos she will say no because of this.

Am just confused, what shall I do? I need help
No sane person will have anything to do with Catholic. Stop dragging her into darkness, you can remain there if you ike

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by zolajpower: 10:47pm On Sep 14, 2018
aragon4realz:
I met this girl 4years back and one thing led to another and we started a relationship, things have been pretty well and we love each other very much, we have our ups and down but we makeup for it. I love her so much I could do anything for her and she loves me too in her own special kind of way.

The problem now is that am planning on proposing to her in a couple of weeks, I even stylishly measured her ring size and I have been visiting some jewelry stores to pick the perfect ring for her and also planning some surprise engagement party/get together for her but the thing is that she hates my church (catholic).

She is Anglican by birth but she attends one of the pentecostal churches which I don't want to mention,
we have been talking about this church of a thing for the past 3 months now and she has sworn never to get married in the Catholic Church and I can't leave my church because of this.

I even stopped talking or texting her for some couple of days now but today she texted me saying that "I should do this one thing for her by leaving my church" and even said it to my face that I should not propose to her when the time comes cos she will say no because of this.

Am just confused, what shall I do? I need help
You see why i hate christiandom and i.like the islam way of worship is because all muslim see them self like one and most Christian see them selves better than other Christians . Now its not about you getting married to a muslim lady ooo but because you are a catholic. My brother wen u marry this lady today only future shall tell. Because if she can start controlling you starting with u changing ur denomination then you dont have a control over her in future. Shes more wiser than u, she has seen the vunerabilities and the inadequacies u possses has a man.
Guy u are the man and as such u need to take the bull by the horn if not your enemy will remain redundant in future

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by AlphaStyles(m): 10:48pm On Sep 14, 2018
Religion strikes again no b the same GOD we dy serve no b the same bible we dy carry? why christians like to dy give theirself wahala

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by mechanics(m): 10:49pm On Sep 14, 2018
It means you don't love her, if you really love her, you will do what she says.

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by Sheggy13(m): 10:49pm On Sep 14, 2018
aragon4realz:

it's not always about the s3x...it's all about compatibility and commitment...but the truth is I can't give up my church for her, she should be the one doing that for me
See what you're saying.You can't give up your church for her but she should be the one to do that for you. On what basis?

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by Ejadike(m): 10:51pm On Sep 14, 2018
Peteragan:
Mr Man what i will advise you first is to educate her on the Catholic Faith coz most of the comment here obviously show a shallow knowledge about what the Catholic faith entails and if she will not listen to you then i will advise that you look elsewhere.Also she has little knowledge about the faith from your post and you should not jeopardize your happiness for that flimsy reason.You can also still marry her and allow her to practice her faith if you want to navigate through.Honestly my advise is for you to let her go if she insist on not accepting your proposal because you are a Catholic.My humble opinion.
the most matured talk I've ever heard on nairaland..

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by Sheggy13(m): 10:51pm On Sep 14, 2018
zolajpower:

You see why i hate christiandom and i.like the islam way of worship is because all muslim see them self like one and most Christian see them selves better than other Christians . Now its not about you getting married to a muslim lady ooo. My brother wen u marry this lady today only future shall tell. Because if she can start controlling you starting with u changing ur religion the you dont have a control over her in future. Shes more wiser than ,she has seen the vunerabilities and the inadequacies u possses has a man.
Guy u are the man and as such u need to take the bull by the horn if not your enemy will remain redundant in future
Stop talking nonsense. Muslims have sects too. Muslims don't see themselves as one. Otherwise why is Buhari persecuting El Zakzazy. Is it not because he's a leader of the Shia Muslims.

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by danie09(m): 10:51pm On Sep 14, 2018
This is one of the issues that shows how shallow minded and hypocritical most Nigerians are.
We claim to be so religious yet we suffer and live in abject poverty.
We are all mostly ethno religious bigots.
And sad enough those that even call themselves Christians still can't find a common ground of faith.
I am a mix Bini/Yoruba .was born a Muslim but now a Christian and never for once in my life has it ever occurred to me that I must choose my future partner from a certain tribe religion or sect cos tho I am a Nigerian but I refuse to subscribe to that myopic ethno religious sentiment.
Back to the topic OP am sorry to say you and your girl are one of the problems of this country, both of you find it do difficult to free yourselves from the shackles of religious sentiments & to think of the fact that you both pray to the same God makes it a bigger shame.
Both of you need serious education and growing up to do.
Both of you should get married to your respective churches

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by bitcoinvin(m): 10:51pm On Sep 14, 2018
aragon4realz:
I met this girl 4years back and one thing led to another and we started a relationship, things have been pretty well and we love each other very much, we have our ups and down but we makeup for it. I love her so much I could do anything for her and she loves me too in her own special kind of way.

The problem now is that am planning on proposing to her in a couple of weeks, I even stylishly measured her ring size and I have been visiting some jewelry stores to pick the perfect ring for her and also planning some surprise engagement party/get together for her but the thing is that she hates my church (catholic).

She is Anglican by birth but she attends one of the pentecostal churches which I don't want to mention,
we have been talking about this church of a thing for the past 3 months now and she has sworn never to get married in the Catholic Church and I can't leave my church because of this.

I even stopped talking or texting her for some couple of days now but today she texted me saying that "I should do this one thing for her by leaving my church" and even said it to my face that I should not propose to her when the time comes cos she will say no because of this.

Am just confused, what shall I do? I need help

she is right.Catholic is a messy church.

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by hustla(m): 10:51pm On Sep 14, 2018
HRHQueenPhil:
i have d same stance for catholic church, dat lady is a real christian..if u dont stand for something, u fall for anything.do u know i went to mulumba and david cath. church on invite and the moderator was reminding dem of a youth thing dey are having saying comedians and whiz kid is coming..dey shld buy tickets.. whiz kid in church..and chanting THRU mary our mother, we succeed..i agree with ur future wife, i hope u will wake up


You have made no sense

You people are Christians but still fight amongst yourselves Smh

How una wan come take convince atheists?

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by goat22: 10:52pm On Sep 14, 2018
Please be factual op, you attend " olumba olumba the star of the sunset " . Aren't you Oga Jamiama from Camila Grove? We know you in Camila Grove. To marry into Olumba olumba the bride needs the roasted buttocks of a hungry agric fowl and she may not be able to find this. This must be the reason for her hesitance.

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by zolajpower: 10:52pm On Sep 14, 2018
Sheggy13:

Stop talking nonsense. Muslims have sects too. Muslims don't see themselves as one. Otherwise why is Buhari persecuting El Zakzazy. Is it not because he's a leader of the Shia Muslims.
Who is this ?
Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by Ejadike(m): 10:53pm On Sep 14, 2018
Peteragan:
Mr Man what i will advise you first is to educate her on the Catholic Faith coz most of the comment here obviously show a shallow knowledge about what the Catholic faith entails and if she will not listen to you then i will advise that you look elsewhere.Also she has little knowledge about the faith from your post and you should not jeopardize your happiness for that flimsy reason.You can also still marry her and allow her to practice her faith if you want to navigate through.Honestly my advise is for you to let her go if she insist on not accepting your proposal because you are a Catholic.My humble opinion.
Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by Ejadike(m): 10:53pm On Sep 14, 2018
Peteragan:
Mr Man what i will advise you first is to educate her on the Catholic Faith coz most of the comment here obviously show a shallow knowledge about what the Catholic faith entails and if she will not listen to you then i will advise that you look elsewhere.Also she has little knowledge about the faith from your post and you should not jeopardize your happiness for that flimsy reason.You can also still marry her and allow her to practice her faith if you want to navigate through.Honestly my advise is for you to let her go if she insist on not accepting your proposal because you are a Catholic.My humble opinion.
the most matured comment ever on nairaland.

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by AlphaStyles(m): 10:54pm On Sep 14, 2018
femi4:
No sane person will have anything to do with Catholic. Stop dragging her into darkness, you can remain there if you ike
watin that 1 cum mean? so na u be GOD abi? na u dy determine which domination no good abi?

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by Mayowa1056(m): 10:54pm On Sep 14, 2018
Both of you should sit down and decide on the church you will be going when you get married..My dad is from Anglican, when he got married he joined RCCG...

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by bekeechidi(m): 10:55pm On Sep 14, 2018
bro dnt hope to get nice advice from here cos this is not a Catholic tred, the problem btw both of u is that Catholic is an 'established' church and Anglican is an 'established' church too both of them are grounded in faith so it's really difficult for any of u to leave ur church because the two churches are like masters and both of u have been birthed in the teachings and fait of ur churches so what u can actually do is to try convince her which I know is difficult because of her faith in her church another option is for u to marry her and let her attend her church if she agrees or u totally leave her and go for another girl from ur church forget the thing called love it's a thing of the mind

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by Nobody: 10:56pm On Sep 14, 2018
Oh Christians, why are you your enemies

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by femi4: 10:56pm On Sep 14, 2018
AlphaStyles:
watin that 1 cum mean? so na u be GOD abi? na u dy determine which domination no good abi?
If you are a Bible scholar with no bias mind, you should be able to identify the denomination with wrong teachings

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by Temptee101(m): 10:57pm On Sep 14, 2018
You guys should leave each other and marry your respective churches

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by Nobody: 10:58pm On Sep 14, 2018
Oh Christians, why are you your enemies


A man's church is what a 'wife' should follow her husband to and not the other way round. If she pleads that you wed her in her church before joining you, its about communication.

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by Nobody: 10:58pm On Sep 14, 2018
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mrblessed:
When bigotry is wedded to ignorance the inevitable consequence is the product of your baseless diatribe. Again, your lame and dismal description of Catholic Church shows you don't possess the faintest idea of what church teaches. Yes, Catholic Church has a different style of worship which unfortunately irks many pentecostals, and actuates them to make unguarded and unfounded comments about what they barely understand. In the Catholic Church, Jesus is the chief cornerstone and the symbol of highest veneration. Take it from me, we worship Jesus and Jesus alone. You merely joined the bandwagon that traffics ignorance and hatred. A lady you purportedly invested with the claim of "high spiritually" has been in relationship four year which involves sexual intercourse, yet she has "higher spiritual" rating because she worships in a different church, other than Catholic Church. Don't mistake noisemaking and shouting as the only prerequisite for knowing a true Christian and effective means of evangelization. Jesus didn't use these methods during His earthly mission. We have very few orthodox churches today with an unremitting mushrooming of pentecostal churches that claim to possess the ideal way to make heaven, yet we are inundated with societal ills of epic proportions, some of which are perpetrated in churches. If Pentecostalism is the answer as you erroneously claim, salvation gospel which was ordained by Christ and not prosperity gospel, will be their fundamental doctrine. In all this needless fanaticism, I believe that my faith in Christ Jesus, accompany with my good deeds are the only valid visa to secure heaven. Thank you.
[/s] simple question show me any place in the Bible were the apostle pray to Mary

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by myMiracle(m): 10:59pm On Sep 14, 2018
aragon4realz:

it's not always about the s3x...it's all about compatibility and commitment...but the truth is I can't give up my church for her, she should be the one doing that for me

and which law states she should be the one doing that sir?

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by kerry57: 11:00pm On Sep 14, 2018
Guy she no be ur wife, go fine ur wife. Don't start with divided home as a result incoherence in ur faith and place of worship.

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by Nobody: 11:00pm On Sep 14, 2018
zinnydan:
She doesn't love you,unless she attends jw
Wetin come bring JW enter this matter now? Post specifically mentioned Catholic and Anglican abeg stick to the post and stop shifting goalpost grin

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by HeyCorleone(m): 11:01pm On Sep 14, 2018
femi4:
No sane person will have anything to do with Catholic. Stop dragging her into darkness, you can remain there if you ike

I like comments like this. Ignorance is indeed orgasmic.

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by HeyCorleone(m): 11:02pm On Sep 14, 2018
Princeofnigeria:
[s][/s] simple question show me any place in the Bible were the apostle pray to Mary

Show me any Catholic who prays to Mary.


Son you gonn learn today.

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Re: My Girl Doesn't Want To Marry Me Because We Are From Different Churches by madridguy(m): 11:02pm On Sep 14, 2018
You will marry muslim and even do hajj.

SBL28:
My first question, why did it take you guys so long to visit the topic

Yoruba people will say "if you won't eat something, don't even raise it to your nose to smell it".

I can't marry a Muslim so I won't date a Muslim. I can't marry a JW so I won't date one. It is as simple as that.

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