She is free to remarry at anytime...the reason why family members are always concerned is because the man's sweat and hardwork would have bn transfered to her and she is in turn taking this into a stranger's ause out of their control and they are not even sure if the wealth will b used to take care of the deceased kids and the excessea transfered to the kids at her death...As a wise man plan your life and plan for death...do a will that ensures your children's interest is well protected...dont assume their mum will always b in dat position to give them her best...good dick does wonders to women...u can have an educational trust or insurance policy and state clearly that the proceeds should go directly to the kids sch at your death...Also share what u own reasonably....give some to ur family members and wife after ur kids interest have bn protected atleast up to 18 or 21...that everything I own should go to my wife or should go to family is just pure ignorance...u can plan it all and engage reputable trustee and insurance companies to manage your here after...once u do this...no one will care if ur ex wife is marrying someone else...cos they knw she is only entitles to what u willed to her...which should reasonabky be proportionate to what you feel she is entitled to and her contribution to your life...Plan ur hereafter man!

Ryan03:
Let Her Go

I just want to write this short post hoping it will change someone's mentality base on the issue i'm about to discuss.

A lady at my place of work lost her husband almost 1yr 6months ago, now, she is about 3months pregnant and wants to get married but the backlash she is receiving eh? Her late husband's people have been frustrating her saying it is too early to get married (i thought marriage is till death do us part?), why are they trying to control her life simply because she was once married to their brother?

I want to believe the family members of this man have moved on with their lives since the death of their son, why then do you want to lock her up in mourning? The surprising part of it is that even women at the office are against her, some who have also lost their husbands are citing instances of how they watied 7years before re-marrying and so on.

I felt bad for her, all she do now is to cry, and mind her business. This is so wrong, free that young lady, she didnt do wrong in marrying your kinsman.

make u kuku go pay her pride price marry her na.... wetin be my own.

StPete:


You must be silly to not make your own arguments without using derogatory remarks. I didn’t quote you so get your comments directed elsewhere

Pardon my remarks, if you find them derogatory. Even the person you quoted earlier did not quote you.It's a public forum so let the opinions fly. I don't expect replies people I mention anyway.
If you can show me any any rule book on mourning time I'll be happy.

mimimile93:
been ages.. how far?

I'm fine, I was looking for you even sent an email but no reply. Hope you re good?

FuckThaMod:

But you are not heartbroken in this case cos she your fellow hoe woman abi?

E pain you

it's 100% wrong...how could she?, I guess she didn't love her husband, maybe she even contributed to her husband's death. Some of us sef that our relationship ended in the past,we stayed at least 2years sef before saying yes to another. 18 months is just too soon,not just that but you are also pregnant, that's barbaric. That means you didn't even wait for ur husband to rest before sleeping with another man..... Las las u r wrong, you should have waited for at least 2-3years .

Why the woman dey cry.
She should rather be smiling. She has her life to live.

In Islam, a widow is allowed to remarry after four months and ten days.

Likewise in Yoruba land, I think opo susu takes place after four months after the husband death.

Ryan03:
Let Her Go

I just want to write this short post hoping it will change someone's mentality base on the issue i'm about to discuss.

A lady at my place of work lost her husband almost 1yr 6months ago, now, she is about 3months pregnant and wants to get married but the backlash she is receiving eh? Her late husband's people have been frustrating her saying it is too early to get married (i thought marriage is till death do us part?), why are they trying to control her life simply because she was once married to their brother?

I want to believe the family members of this man have moved on with their lives since the death of their son, why then do you want to lock her up in mourning? The surprising part of it is that even women at the office are against her, some who have also lost their husbands are citing instances of how they watied 7years before re-marrying and so on.

I felt bad for her, all she do now is to cry, and mind her business. This is so wrong, free that young lady, she didnt do wrong in marrying your kinsman.

King Solomon said "Do not be overtly righteous nor show yourself excessively wise. Why should you bring ruin upon yourself?(Ecclesiastes 7:16)

The lady has every right to remarry. Death has freed her from her marriage. She is free from that marriage and therefore fit to remarry.(1 Corinthians 7:39)

The load of the Christ is kindly (Matthew 10:28-30). She should not listen to people who like the Pharisee "Bind up heavy loads and put them on the shoulders of men but they themselves are not willing to budge them with their finger" (Matthew 23:4)

I wish her a happy married life. Perhaps share this with her.

Such atrocities, I beginning to understand that her new husband is already there b4 her husband died, she was just praying for death of her husband so that she can get married again, and mind u at poster i hope u are not the one responsible for her pregnancy.

StPete:


The fact that you were heartbroken and a couple of others too like you would be shows that he’s already condemned but he obviously didn’t care. If the family of the said lady were well to do, he wouldn’t dare it cos he’d be rubbished before the very eyes of the girls he brought. He also possibly didn’t love the woman in question. Couples in love would dare not show such disrespect in plenty several years after the demise of their spouse

They were heartbroken. The younger brother said they warned her not to marry the man that he's an occultic man but she refuse. The died during childbirth, the baby died too. He took the dead baby away immediately before the death of the wife. The new Jeep he bought for her, she didn't drive it once.

simply put she is a hoe based on the info provided here until proven otherwise!!!!

if you want to argue, you can argue with your keyboard!!!

Ryan03:
Now reverse the roles, would you have typed same thing if it was the woman that died?

I'm a practical example...I lost dear wife 19 months ago...I'm still standing alone. What's the big deal??

AwkaetitiBabe:
Don't mind people and double standards. She come this life come mourn person naw. One life, so make it count.

Abeegg abeegggggg

Make we do things like normal people. No hard lines and mean no disrespect,but 1 year 6 months and she 3 month pregnant Kilode ?


Na marathon dick race ? Make she cool down first. Someone you promised to be with all your life ? He’s gone for just 18 month and your minus 3 month ... meaning shooting don’t start since 9-12 month after his demise......

If my Mama do am,I go forever forget her as Mama. Na this kind thing some man dey see and stat screwing immediately after their partner kick the bucket.

Its good to move on and remarry ..she can actually get into a relationship but hey its way too early to get pregnant haba..she should at least respect the dead husband na..that's not nice atall,I suspect shes been banging the new dude the whole time

AwkaetitiBabe:
The way you killed your girlfriend? Not everyone is a psycho like you.

lol see savage

Pity the guy na

The lady never loved her late husband ...infact she was so happy over his death...period

Logobenz1:
Look there is an undertone to everything bro.
Do you know what love is?if you love a person,moving on won't be that easy!
That's why the dead man's family is protesting because it kind of tells them the woman did not love their brother enough.
I remember 2008 when the first woman I ever loved left for France for studies.God I cried,did not date any other person till 2014 or so...
Love is not that easy to move on from.

But if it's the man it's right right?

The lady has moved on and is minding her business. The hopeless in-laws should mind theirs as well.

15ssDRIVE:



Abeegg abeegggggg

Make we do things like normal people. No hard lines and mean no disrespect,but 1 year 6 months and she 3 month pregnant Kilode ?


Na marathon dick race ? Make she cool down first. Someone you promised to be with all your life ? He’s gone for just 18 month and your minus 3 month ... meaning shooting don’t start since 9-12 month after his demise......

If my Mama do am,I go forever forget her as Mama. Na this kind thing some man dey see and stat screwing immediately after their partner kick the bucket.

Ryt from time immemorial women stayed widowed but men are fast to marry someone else. Things are simply changing ni... Afterall it's until death do us Part... Depends on individual choice.

It takes 2 years to formalise divorce in court among the living. A minimum of 2 years should be observed too for the dead spouse.

if our mothers keep remarrying, that means we wouldnt have the priviledge of having mothers in our paternal homes until they're dead in a husbands house.

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Are u aware that psychiatric patients always feel that everyone around them are mad?

prizequest:
It takes 2 years to formalise divorce in court among the living. A minimum of 2 years should be observed too for the dead spouse.

if our mothers keep remarrying, that means we wouldnt have the priviledge of having mothers in our paternal homes until they're dead in a husbands house.

But men can remarry whenever they like

Who are your mothers?

prizequest:
It takes 2 years to formalise divorce in court among the living. A minimum of 2 years should be observed too for the dead spouse.

if our mothers keep remarrying, that means we wouldnt have the priviledge of having mothers in our paternal homes until they're dead in a husbands house.

15ssDRIVE:



Abeegg abeegggggg

Make we do things like normal people. No hard lines and mean no disrespect,but 1 year 6 months and she 3 month pregnant Kilode ?


Na marathon dick race ? Make she cool down first. Someone you promised to be with all your life ? He’s gone for just 18 month and your minus 3 month ... meaning shooting don’t start since 9-12 month after his demise......

If my Mama do am,I go forever forget her as Mama. Na this kind thing some man dey see and stat screwing immediately after their partner kick the bucket.

She "promised to b with d g guy all her life"... Now that d guy is dead, how's she going to b with d guy?

Ryan03:
So loyal wives have to mourn for long to prove they are loyal? So if she stayed unmarried for 10years but continue to fvck multiple dicks she will be a loyal wife in the eyes of society? Who are we deceiving? So you think all those widows who stay unmarried for years Dont fvck? Why do we love pretence yet accuse women of being pretenders?

I know someone doing this. A young "loyal" widow. I have told her to just remarry already. I think hers has been 3-4yrs now. She is mourning her late husband

Ryan03:
Let Her Go

I just want to write this short post hoping it will change someone's mentality base on the issue i'm about to discuss.

A lady at my place of work lost her husband almost 1yr 6months ago, now, she is about 3months pregnant and wants to get married but the backlash she is receiving eh? Her late husband's people have been frustrating her saying it is too early to get married (i thought marriage is till death do us part?), why are they trying to control her life simply because she was once married to their brother?

I want to believe the family members of this man have moved on with their lives since the death of their son, why then do you want to lock her up in mourning? The surprising part of it is that even women at the office are against her, some who have also lost their husbands are citing instances of how they watied 7years before re-marrying and so on.

I felt bad for her, all she do now is to cry, and mind her business. This is so wrong, free that young lady, she didnt do wrong in marrying your kinsman.

if after the burial of the husband the family decided to chase her away will you also said these?

Marriage is till death do them part and death has parted them already. She even has time to be listening to external forces, let her move on. I wonder why she is listening to in laws, whether you mourn 10yrs, 5yrs, 1yr you will eventually remarry.

Let her remarry jare, I'm happy she is pregnant already. People don't know how lonely widows and widower can be at times. Nobody to talk to and share your inner most pains and joys when you get back home after a busy day.

lexy2014:


But men can remarry whenever they like

making comparison is very unintelligent in this discourse. Deflecting argument to whip up sentiment is foolish. i leave you with your 2% active brain cells.

lexy2014:


Ayo oritsejafor waited 4 just one year b4 he remarried. Even kumuyi was just one year. So what are u talking about?

Bro, i've made my point known, i know one or two persons will change their perspective about this issue. Some of them here are guilty of this that is why they are pained, the world is changing, people are becoming wiser