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Rapmoney:
Lol troublemaker!

pocohantas:
Tell that to Regina and Sade Okoya.

Snow white, FFK’s wife.

The late Stella Obasanjo.

Etc...

agnes7:
That is not an excuse at all.
In fact, Not all married men are like that(as described in words in bold above ).So it is good to leave someone's husband alone.
A man that cannot show fidelity to his wife cannot be said to have amended his character.
Such men do not even love their side chick.
They just want to taste other ladies aside from their wives.
So if a man has a side chick,chances are that he has other side chicks.
So there is nothing like love in what the chicks think they are enjoying.
A man with an amended character should be able to stay faithful to his wife.
He should be able to amend his 'running after anything in skirt' and stay faithful to his wife.
That someone is able to say 'I am sorry' , to pay attention, to be patient does not mean he truly loves you.
What if it is just so he can continue sleeping with you.What if he gives you STD.What if you are judged for adultery.
The fact that a man is an adulterer and cannot remain faithful to his wife means that he cannot remain faithful to you also as his side chick.

Ezemarcel:
bro I have heard girls say they prefer married men to single nen

DoubleEngine007:
I didn't impose anything on you Oga. Na advice i dish you.. Na only which people no dey listen to advice that time? You fit remember?

Wayne4uall:
Yes may be u are right but . Lot of married men still break the heart of single girls out there after fuk** them for weeks or months they move to one of her friend.. A cheat will always b a cheat.. Been married or single... Their are still loyal single guys and married men out there

Chi59:
No, you need sense
-To read in between the lines
-To understand the point I'm trying to make
-To understand I don't give two fvcks about what you think
-To know that you're entitled to your opinion.

Chi59:
Guys who are insulting their mothers and sisters because of what I wrote have multiple girlfriends who have committed series of abortions for them, some of them sleep with other people's wives, and even their own wives sisters yet expecting single girls not to seek out more mature married men.
See them barking like toothless bull dogs because of what I wrote.
All of you are yanshes.

Liliantalks:
it’s possible , anything

ojuu4u:
The truth but bitter fact is that married men take good care of ladies far ,far, better than single, single guys will just be having free sex, all in the name .. Virtual and empty marriage promises,

A situation in which two or more girls will be meeting in the house of single guys and u must endure it,

Married men can easily set up business or pay school fees but for single, its story upon story, single guys break heart of ladies far more than married men do, pls go out and do ur findings very well, either u dated married men or not when u are single, it doesn't stop u from married a cheating hubby.

Chi59:
I don't do married men. Never have, never will (married men DMing me, it won't work) but I have come to understand that overall married men make better male friends, better crushes and definitely, will make better lovers.
I'd tell you that no young lady starts her love life with the intention of chasing other women's husbands but for certain reasons, some end up having affairs with married men.
This is not about the young ladies who do it for money, or for sex, but heartbroken single ladies who have suffered repeatedly under single guys looking for a different taste of love. Some of these girls even fancy themselves in love with these married men.
Overall, if you must judge these ladies make sure you have no skeleton in your cupboard.

ojuu4u:
The truth but bitter fact is that married men take good care of ladies far ,far, better than single, single guys will just be having free sex, all in the name .. Virtual and empty marriage promises,

A situation in which two or more girls will be meeting in the house of single guys and u must endure it,

Married men can easily set up business or pay school fees but for single, its story upon story, single guys break heart of ladies far more than married men do, pls go out and do ur findings very well, either u dated married men or not when u are single, it doesn't stop u from married a cheating hubby.

ojuu4u:
Leave them, let them continue ranting, they are the one who will come online and brag that they can't spend penny for women, yet u are angry when the same women leave u for mature married man who understand and ready to give her comfort, either married or single, is not sex? Formication? Sin?

Beze992:
Honestly I'm as amazed as you are, one of the mysteries of life I must say�. How they will extol the virtues of their wife, and in the same breath ready to cheat on her with any willing woman.

ursamajor:
A lot of girls do this, especially undergraduates and female corp members.

Rapmoney:
I have a former school mate. We met way back in the university. No doubt, she was an intelligent girl then and was always shinning in her department. One particular issue she had and which I also detested was her fondness for sleeping with married men/people's husbands. I really didn't know what she would be looking for since her parents provided most of the things she needed in school. She wasn't from a poor home, neither were her parents super rich but they were very comfortable and could give her what she needed. I really didn't like advising people personally, especially when they are so much engrossed in an activity. You could easily be seen as a killjoy or fun-destroyer. Though, I did couple of times but the attempts were like pouring water in a basket. Today, she would be in Awka with Engineer Julius, tomorrow, it would be in Asaba with Chief Akpofure. No value for people's matrimonial territory! No retreat, no surrender.

Well, she got married in 2010 and it was all rosy. Few years into the marriage and it was something else. No day would pass without her posting criptic lines on Facebook about cheating husbands and how 'God' would see her through. I didn't need a babalawo to tell me what has been going on. Even a dumb primary 3 pupil in a local village school would be able to tell what has been happening. I later confirmed this from another former schoolmate who worked with her in Lagos. Her past has come back to hunt her.

In as much as I sympathize with her, it's pertinent to note that some activities are enjoyable until things start going south. Nemesis doesn't forget. You can't sleep with people's husbands as a spinster and expect yours not to be sugar daddy to some young girls out there. Wetin dey go around, still dey come around. Wetin happen for fowl house, go still happen for goat house.

If you are a young woman, get focused and leave other women's husbands alone. There's a reason why they call it MARRIAGE. It's a sacred matrimony whether it's conducted in a church, mosque, shrine, court, private house or even village square. It's not a visa to success. Person wey bring wood wey ants full, nor need to complain when lizards start to visit am for house. Many young women will tell you that they are being disturbed by married men. The truth is that such girls are the ones who give married men the cushioned platform to do that. I'm very sure he's not going to beat you if you don't give him your contact details.

Finally, as a young man, beware of girls who constantly tell you that they don't do married men even when such information is not relevant to you. It's mostly the other way round; a clear conscience fears no accusation.

Dear Op,I enjoyed ur write-up but ur advise is one-sided. How about u advising these married men to stay faithful to their wives? No side chick was present when u were making ur marriage vows before God and men. Dear Married men, pls focus on ur wife,it’s for better for worse, let go of side chicks today and forever.

Rapmoney:
I have a former school mate. We met way back in the university. No doubt, she was an intelligent girl then and was always shinning in her department. One particular issue she had and which I also detested was her fondness for sleeping with married men/people's husbands. I really didn't know what she would be looking for since her parents provided most of the things she needed in school. She wasn't from a poor home, neither were her parents super rich but they were very comfortable and could give her what she needed. I really didn't like advising people personally, especially when they are so much engrossed in an activity. You could easily be seen as a killjoy or fun-destroyer. Though, I did couple of times but the attempts were like pouring water in a basket. Today, she would be in Awka with Engineer Julius, tomorrow, it would be in Asaba with Chief Akpofure. No value for people's matrimonial territory! No retreat, no surrender.

Well, she got married in 2010 and it was all rosy. Few years into the marriage and it was something else. No day would pass without her posting criptic lines on Facebook about cheating husbands and how 'God' would see her through. I didn't need a babalawo to tell me what has been going on. Even a dumb primary 3 pupil in a local village school would be able to tell what has been happening. I later confirmed this from another former schoolmate who worked with her in Lagos. Her past has come back to hunt her.

In as much as I sympathize with her, it's pertinent to note that some activities are enjoyable until things start going south. Nemesis doesn't forget. You can't sleep with people's husbands as a spinster and expect yours not to be sugar daddy to some young girls out there. Wetin dey go around, still dey come around. Wetin happen for fowl house, go still happen for goat house.

If you are a young woman, get focused and leave other women's husbands alone. There's a reason why they call it MARRIAGE. It's a sacred matrimony whether it's conducted in a church, mosque, shrine, court, private house or even village square. It's not a visa to success. Person wey bring wood wey ants full, nor need to complain when lizards start to visit am for house. Many young women will tell you that they are being disturbed by married men. The truth is that such girls are the ones who give married men the cushioned platform to do that. I'm very sure he's not going to beat you if you don't give him your contact details.

Finally, as a young man, beware of girls who constantly tell you that they don't do married men even when such information is not relevant to you. It's mostly the other way round; a clear conscience fears no accusation.



Anytime you come across with such a person advice that because you never know who you might change, you can say it as a joke or a story. Nice one, true said.

Donpaper:
agree we dep bleep. But babes, we guy wanna love too. I swear we can even do without it, if you agree and keep to it too. But, from experience, you will still japa to do it outside yet, claiming no sex till marriage. Yet, you will be billing us. That's why we bang and bang. You think it's easy to Boolala. Try doing your man for one week, be the one doing the work and see the repercussion. Sometimes, we don't wanna bleep, but we bleep because that's the only reward and memory we can derive from most of you,once the relationship is over. Finally, if you girls can sincerely love, this world will be a better place, but hian!!

Dangrace01:
Which kind entitlements mentality b dis. Most of my uncles into this stuff are not ordinary men. We know them Wella. So you feel a man will just be spending on a girl like that without it affecting finances at home. U funny die.

Stop using excuse of finance for married men and young girls. Those heavy spenders do things spiritual

If you want to follow married men go ahead if you want money turn olosho, it's less risky

majekoam:
Not worth the stress.....arguing/fools/stoop/logic...you get!

Tango123:
Y should a lady depend on a man for money.

Y should the single men pay school fees for a lady

Your post makes some sexist and gender based assumptions that fuel dependency in women, and encourages toxic masculinity in men

Dangrace01:
How can a married man break a girl heart. His heart is with his wife and not the single olosho girl. Whatever a married man is doing for a girl na just cruise.

pocohantas:
There is nothing like karma/nemesis here.

A lot of your fathers cheated and last time I checked- all your mothers were virgins.

How do you explain that?

Men are polygamous in nature right?

Nemesis kor, Genesis ni...

majekoam:
You keep telling everyone to read in between the lines?!!
We get it. Married men may be more emotionally intelligent and therefore can women better. Still doesn't change the fact that you seem morally bankrupt.
Also your response just reinforced everything I mentioned in my first post.
Self aggrandizing keyboard warrior.
Such people always resort to petty insults when they have nothing of substance.
Enjoy your ignorance,..bye bye