patoski39:
1. How much does she earn monthly? If none, she's the one whose finance needs to improve.

2. Do u have any business idea or have u any skill(handwork)? If not, try to learn one and save some cash to fund a business relating to that or try to save up and open up a business (e.g, saloon, restaurant, photo studio etc) close to your house or work place so to b able to monitor it 1st hand to avoid stories that touch.

3. Are u sure u are not under pressure by the family to become rich overnight? Biggest mistake u will ever make its wanting to make money just to impress anybody, u should make money for U. Dont allow any body put much pressure on you, else u kill ursef for nothing.

4. How's her attitude lately, I mean ur Girlfriend? Has there been any unusual attitude from her. If there is, then I suspect she's seeing some other guy, most times women like to keep substitute(s) especially when they due for marriage. Eventually u found out she's seeing someone, I'll advise u let her be, u will do yourself more harm when u think u can fight and win her back. If she isn't seeing anyone, then u sit her down and let her know the qualities u will want ur wife to posses, whether as a working class or house wife.


5. Stop being weak and take charge of your relationship, don't allow anybody intimidate u (e.g her brother) or rush u into marriage (e.g ur pastors)....
Haillings

I hail too.

FanOfMyself:

09074191547

I'll save yiur number and send you a whatsapp DM when I have the money for the material you talked about. It's in web development right?

Acidosis:


80k is not a bad start to be honest. And yes, at 32 you should be thinking in the direction of marriage whether your income improves or not.

Of course, you should be thinking about increasing your income and while at it, be thankful that you have a 80k job, especially from a Church. I'm even surprised that a church offered you that amount. That's like the average salary of L. 07/08 graduates in many MDAs and state governments in Nigeria, including Lagos state.

Be thankful and check for investment/savings opportunities around you. Join a cooperative society, save, invest, save, and spend wisely.

The decision to get married should not necessarily be about your monthly figures. Some people earn 50k but already have their 10 year rent saved somewhere. They will never beg you for money yet they don't earn much on a monthly basis. You can secure your future with that figure if you apply wisdom.

How this cooperative thing works?

21cents:
I'll save yiur number and send you a whatsapp DM when I have the money for the material you talked about. It's in web development right?

Yessssss

Afikoo:
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I am 32. I have been working for 7 years here. Also working while in school. Just finished last year and got a pay rise to 80k as security administrator.

Baba, my issue isn't the marriage. My issue is the money. I am desperately asking on how best improve my income. Concrete suggestions on what I need to lay my hands on now to get started. I am tire of submitting applications

omo!! 7 years with that meagre salary chai!!! Nigeria is really tough.

Afikoo:
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She is not going. She is advising me to suspend the marriage and let's work to improve our income. Both of us.
Now I am just confuse it I am to just ignore the relationship and focus on myself or get someone that'd is equally earning.

.well,in that case I see a girl who wants to quite the relationship but doesn't want to end it abruptly so your feelings won't be hurt,just play along and start by taking your heart of her gradually because mehn your girl is about leaving you you due to pressure from her household, don't quite abruptly so someone won't say to you that you used me and dumped me for another woman tomorrow let her be the one to go .About looking for another working class,must you look for a woman to support you financially before you make it? Mehn if you fix your mind on that,it never gonna come your way,hustle legitly and watch oluwa crown your effort with success with or without a working class woman. All these are all stories on your way to success,see you there soon!

Bro. Don't Kill Urself By Urself. Work On Urself On How To Stand Financial.

Afikoo:
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.
I am writing this with heavy heart.
I know we have super rich people here who rose from poverty to riches.
This life isn't balance. Done with school. Been working as security administrator in my church and I earn 80k. I have beenplanning on getting married. Have met my fiance Parents, they were happy. I have engaged her she is happy. All of a sudden the elder brother who isn't around is angry that I haven't spoken to him about my intention. I have earlier tried his line severallly and it isnt going through. Had to chat him and he told me I am not serious that I should grow up. A bullet in my heart.
Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (she is learning a skill)

I am fed up. Have suspended everything now. I have tried everything since I left school last year to improve my income. Apply for jobs here and there. Is just not cutting in.
Please, share your experience on how you were able to get out of this average life as a Nigerian. Advise me and others still struggling to rise up.
You can recommend jobs for me.
I studied history and Diplomatic Studies.
Have some certification in Leadership and human resource. Trust me, I can deliver on anything legal. I have the capacity, but haven't gotten the opportunity.
Patiently reading.

Don't be intimidated by anyone,that money is average but it can start something if your woman understand what marriage is all about. If possible, start a side business like laundry or barbing saloon,standardize it and monitor the place wella,that's an additional income,if the lady can't manage with you now then she is not a serious babe jare

pocohantas:


The 32 took me by shock. Nigeria na useless country sha. 7yrs in the labour market with 80k salary. Kai!!!

He was working 7 years without a BSC oh, he just graduated last year.

A woman should not love for income

Chenko001:


You talk like all these you listed are easy. Hmmm be calming down. For someone who earns 80k per month, save a little or half then in a few months, probably 5 or 6 use those and start a business that pays you day in, day out. All these ones listing Real estate, this and that have not done it before at all. I first started selling aba made shoes and to be honest, I make up to 5 to 6 thousand daily and towards the end of the year, I would be making 8 to 9 thousand per day. Now I deal cars, but the money I used to start it up was from selling shoes.

My advise was for him to invest his money in skills acquisition, then start a business with the acquired skill

UyaiIncomparabl:


I have learned to stop taking chest beaters like you, especially on an online forum seriously.

Why not link up in reality...

08068125041

Kenmatt:


Why not link up in reality...

Link up for what?

FanOfMyself:
I can teach you web development

Hmmmmmmm u again

chingle5:


Hmmmmmmm u again

Have we met before bro?

FanOfMyself:

Have we met before bro?

Hmmmm u can pretend for all I care

chingle5:


Hmmmm u can pretend for all I care

I meet a lot of people here bro, and I also play a lot. I do troll on here after a long day working

FanOfMyself:

I meet a lot of people here bro, and I also play a lot. I do troll on here after a long day working

So u really are a developer... U really r not joking

FanOfMyself:

Yes of course

wow thanks. How n when do we get started?

chingle5:


So u really are a developer... U really r not joking

Check the link on my signature... that's my personal website

FanOfMyself:

okay, you have a computer system? are you ready to dedicate at least 4 hours everyday to learn and practice? and finally you have to pay just a token to purchase the training courses (in video formats)? four courses to bring you from novice to intermediate level, each course will cost you 2k totaling 8k. Then I will be giving you exercises and mini projects to do after the first three courses. I will be available to answer ALL of your questions. I will link you up with other students learning under me so that you guys can stay motivated. let me know if you are in....They good thing is that you will still keep your job at least until when you have become an expert and start working full time as a software developer

Am interested too

xest:
wow thanks. How n when do we get started?

I charge a token for the courses

Gaggii:


Am interested too

09074191547 WhatsApp

Escabado:
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A man earning 80k is very good and right to get married. Your woman is a materialistic woman and so is her family. If her elder brother thinks u are not doing well , he should assit you with some money to start something that suits him. Pls man up . Don't allow them determine for you , other wise they will be the one controlling the marriage. U need to dump that girl and find a better girl. Imagine a jobless girl complaining about your income. She should go and work to make money too .

80k good to marry ke...hmmnn.

I earn over 100k...na me know wetin my eyes dey see.

Though I have kids already sha

Afikoo:
Please can we focus our energy now on making money.
Please suggest best possible ways I can help my financial situation

Start p.o.s business as side hustle.

My wife earns over 100k from it every month

FanOfMyself:

I charge a token for the courses

but u indicated that it's free na

xest:
but u indicated that it's free na

Please show me where I explicitly said that I will teach you programming for free.
Now listen and understand why it seems that some people are teaching programming for free. They make the money through the traffic their site generates as a result of the the students or in the case of YouTubers, the views their content fetches for them. No expert is going to teach you programming for free, I doubt. So go to YouTube and search for free tutorial

FanOfMyself:

Please show me where I explicitly said that I will teach you programming for free.
Now listen and understand why it seems that some people are teaching programming for free. They make the money through the traffic their site generates as a result of the the students or in the case of YouTubers, the views their content fetches for them. No expert is going to teach you programming for free, I doubt. So go to YouTube and search for free tutorial

but u told OP that u will teach him for free that's why i indicated interest sha

Escabado:
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A man earning 80k is very good and right to get married. Your woman is a materialistic woman and so is her family. If her elder brother thinks u are not doing well , he should assit you with some money to start something that suits him. Pls man up . Don't allow them determine for you , other wise they will be the one controlling the marriage. U need to dump that girl and find a better girl. Imagine a jobless girl complaining about your income. She should go and work to make money too .

This guy has said it all, what business of your girl's brother is your marital plan?. If you would leave that family, you will be fine...They are pressurizing you to marry their daughter so they could exploit you..
You girl who is not earning anything is also saying trash, why should she not support you?
Isn't the idea of marriage someone that compliments you.
If you are earning that much, she should even earn at least half of that amount.

Afikoo:
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.
I am writing this with heavy heart.
I know we have super rich people here who rose from poverty to riches.
This life isn't balance. Done with school. Been working as security administrator in my church and I earn 80k. I have beenplanning on getting married. Have met my fiance Parents, they were happy. I have engaged her she is happy. All of a sudden the elder brother who isn't around is angry that I haven't spoken to him about my intention. I have earlier tried his line severallly and it isnt going through. Had to chat him and he told me I am not serious that I should grow up. A bullet in my heart.
Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (she is learning a skill)

I am fed up. Have suspended everything now. I have tried everything since I left school last year to improve my income. Apply for jobs here and there. Is just not cutting in.
Please, share your experience on how you were able to get out of this average life as a Nigerian. Advise me and others still struggling to rise up.
You can recommend jobs for me.
I studied history and Diplomatic Studies.
Have some certification in Leadership and human resource. Trust me, I can deliver on anything legal. I have the capacity, but haven't gotten the opportunity.
Patiently reading.

Break up with her, save some money, learn, research and venture into agriculture, increase earnings and reduce spending(live like a poor man), buy government bonds and some Bitcoin, buy some rice when it's cheap and sell during December, reinvest the profit and repeat until you're a rice oligarch in your area, do the same for Palm oil and other commodities....and when you're rich enough take the first flight out here. Then you can marry.

Afikoo:
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I am 32. I have been working for 7 years here. Also working while in school. Just finished last year and got a pay rise to 80k as security administrator.

Baba, my issue isn't the marriage. My issue is the money. I am desperately asking on how best improve my income. Concrete suggestions on what I need to lay my hands on now to get started. I am tire of submitting applications

If you have a computer, I believe you can make money with your skill in the freelance market place.

xest:
but u told OP that u will teach him for free that's why i indicated interest sha

Are you the Op? Na money dem take dey find money