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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Wittyglam(f): 4:12pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Why are you disturbed? This might be the sign you need. The family has issues and they need to deal with it. Take your girlfriend out and talk to her and if she still wants things suspended that is find. You don't need a lot of money before you get marry, if you can yourself and your wife and kids you're good to go. |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by pozehnani(f): 4:21pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
ebenezer202l: Amen. In fact you just further buttressed my point. God bless you too. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by pozehnani(f): 4:37pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Gaggii: Maybe you didn't plan your budget/expenses well and youre prolly living above your means.someone earning over 100k Shouldn't be complaining if proper planning from type of housing, number of children, the kind of school they attend was put in place from the beginning. It all boils down to planning and living within our means. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by ibechris(m): 5:11pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
If u are below 32 dont bother getting married. Reason is,marriage will worsen ur problem and poverty will further wreck u both physically and mentally. As the matter is now,what u need most is not an emotional laden women but a working class women so as to improve ur income. Alternatively,u could as well suspend marriage for another five years if u are less than 31 so that by age 35,u must have saved aggressively in other to invest in some stuffs. Do not say u have invested so much in that relationship else u might be settling for the worst. In this age and time,love without money is miserable and can kill faster than otapiapia. Let me use myself as an example: I was born into poverty,in fact my father worked as a security man for 22 years to ensure we all went to school. Although those days were better compared to this period. During this time my mum was a complete house wife which I would never advice any woman except if her husband is rich. To cut the long story short,after school i moved out of the house and i secured a bank job where i was earning a meagre #49,000 as salary and that later changed to #80,000 before I moved away from that job to another one. However, when i met my wife i ensured she must be working because i was and still the bread winner of my family,and we moved on got married after 6 years our hard work and combined efforts paid off that we can boost of cash and asset worth 40million. That is because both of us leverage on our jobs to create additional income streams...of which that is what u should be focusing on and not on a woman that isn't doing anything. Except for the rich who can afford to marry a liability as a wife. At 37 I can afford to pay 250k termly for my children school fees without even touching my salary. Warning: To those who might perceived this as a means to boost my ego,pls disregard as it is just a piece of advice to encourage a brother. That family will even wreck u before ur time,marry a working class. Love will disappear when u dont do the right thing. Wish u the best. 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Sunshyne200(m): 6:14pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
FanOfMyself: I am interested too. Pse sending a PM |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by FanOfMyself: 6:27pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Sunshyne200:I replied you already |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Veiniously: 7:01pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
You better be happy
My bro who graduated two years ago just found a job of 35k and managing it
Still searching though 3 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Sixfeetbelle: 8:00pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
pansophist: And who told you we don't want that too? We'd take that over this stress we're going through just to be called an adult. We'll take everything on this table except the notion of fifth wife sha ooh. We don't like sharing our man with other women. Shouldn't you guys be aware of this by now? 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Sixfeetbelle: 8:02pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Ebenezer2021: Which contribution did our grandmother's make except having kids, managing the home front and being submissive? We can do that as well. Did they have to take up jobs and businesses to support the home? Wasn't that entirely resting on the man? 3 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by deeva2: 8:07pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
I guess she just using that as an excuse to hinder the marriage..Was she not aware of ur income before saying yes to ur proposal? |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by jamiudarex(m): 8:20pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
FanOfMyself:Interested bro |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Dreyton36: 8:21pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
You are the first man in the world who has escaped a stray bullet and still complaining Lights up my kpoli in peace 5 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Philipxxxx0: 8:21pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Afikoo:ok now go and kill yourself |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Starz825(m): 8:21pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
this is life...you don't always have everything...just keep praying and keep pushing..... you can check my signature sha |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Coldie(m): 8:23pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
If u can tell me what state u are in I might be able to give u advise |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by johnhood(m): 8:24pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Chummynoni: Share the story 'cos my situation worst the op own |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by erico2k2(m): 8:26pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Afikoo:Im gonna go straight to the point, Congratulation for taking this bold step to be a man, Now it's great that you know your self worth, stick to it, do not let anyone bully you into what you cannot handle, it is a wife you want to marry not a commodity you want to purchase.If the family are giving you stress, tell your fiancee that the whole situation is getting hot that you would like to take a breather and observe things from a safe distance, Watch out how everyone will change. Do not force yourself to think you have failed, the most important thing is you got hope and future everything else na Jara.if you to be wife can't see this then she is not the one.Be a man and be bold to make things happen the way you want after all you are the one who is going to spend and pay for the marriage not them. 3 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Sanchez01: 8:26pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Afikoo:Sorry I had to quote you but you should be grateful God used her and her family to open you eyes. In this present situation, no man should get involved with a lady who isn't working/earning. You were almost doomed to living the subpar life. I sincerely wouldn't say 80k is enough to conveniently run a home but it might be different if she is working or earning as well, at least that way, you both could join resources. I'd say you cleanly dodged a bullet here. Don't condemn yourself to the struggling life. It isn't worth it. If she isn't earning or working, then she isn't suitable for you in this present situation the country is in. Be grateful you dodged this bullet. Don't just allow yourself get bullied. 5 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by InvertedHammer: 8:28pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Afikoo:/ N80k is enough. How many people dey see N80k sef? So if you marry her, come get small challenge as life happens, she go japa. No go kill yourself trying to impress her with income. If N80k is not enough, N500k will not be enough bc she will adjust her lifestyle like person wey her husband dey make better money. Let her go. Ladies no scarce! She no even get work. Abi Linda Ikeji no be woman? / 13 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Geophilip: 8:30pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
FanOfMyself:bros can you admit me also |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by ipobarethieves: 8:32pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
She and her family are irresponsible pipu .Look here,u think if u are super rich/ well to do,those nuts will giv moronic excuses ?. God will not forgive u if u marry dat hopeless venture u call girlfriend.Free her 2 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Maize621: 8:32pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
In Nigeria, love is measured in naira 4 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by MASTAkiLLAh(m): 8:33pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Afikoo:forget about her, they’ve seen a heavy spender |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by SIRTee15: 8:34pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
pretydiva: Seriously that your initial comment was just too dumb. I had to read it twice to be sure u actually wrote that... How old are u sef...let's start from there... |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by sanpipita(m): 8:35pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
She's honest and means well, no harm in trying to improve your income before marriage, I'm glad she is even working on herself, you guys should stand together and see what you can do 4 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Isuku01(m): 8:35pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
FanOfMyself: Please I am interested learning programming How do we get to make this possible? Kindly revert. Thanks sir. |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Angelfrost(m): 8:36pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
There should never be any rush to get into marriage institution... Right now, no two individuals should try it if both are not doing financially well individually... The pains will be severe except both are hardworking, patient, focused, and non materialistic. So Op, shelve the marriage business till each of you stand fairly well financially... Don't say you were not warned!!! God help you if you impregnate her, and end up being forced to tie the knot... It will be an uncertain future of tears. 3 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by ThaThinka: 8:37pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
SocialJustice: Relatively big. OP, if you learnt how much some married men are earning per month in this country, you go know say you be some kain boss. Don't just take what everyone tells you here on Nairaland; some respondents are just kids that don't know as e dey go. I'm not married, but I think your family won't necessarily be sofa heads with that salary, especially if you have a supportive woman and can cut your coat according to your cloth. All the same, there is no harm in doubling your hustle as you intend. All the best! 2 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Nobody: 8:38pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Madam the Madam, Ngozi okonji iweala the current finance minister of NL. Ndewo... pretydiva: No talk much... My mouth close. yomi007k: Ripper!!! You don't pay shit to learn coding. (Udemy or Youtubes) This guy here needs fast income to deliver his crashing marriage plans not sitting at home with computer trying to learn code. That the family paused the marriage means they are sensing his incapability of taking full responsibility of he family and extended family if need be. His support caught their attention and they withdrew from the marriage plans. His brother (the woman) is the sole proprietorship of this disdained attitude of the girl. FanOfMyself: Don't give that guy any shit. Get a real time job, when u settle ur finances down u can start up Coding... FanOfMyself: 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by stonecoldcafe: 8:39pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Afikoo: Improve yourself some more financially speaking before getting married. Try and marry a woman who is bringing in something as well. Only 80k will be a struggle in Nigeria of today. Her family appears a tad troublesome. No one needs that kind of drama. Above all, please pray that God's ultimate will be done in your life. Do you like HR, it sells any day |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Lawsaite: 8:41pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
ibechris: Sir Please what are some areas that you had invested into? |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Heavenian: 8:42pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
You've got to be positive minded. Don't be discouraged. Keep working hard and keep trusting God for a change of story. I got married some years ago on a salary less than 50k monthly. I keep pushing, and today, by the grace of God, I have my own house, landed properties etc with a very robust salary. "Persistency and tenacity of purpose will give a man his utmost desires in life" 2 Likes |
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