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I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Nobody: 10:04am On Mar 02, 2021
I will try to make this story very short.

So I've always loved my babe, buy her stuffs, gives her money, takes her out, etc. So tomorrow is her birthday, and she has a very bad hair. We where talking over on phone yesterday, and she asked me to send her money to make her hair, plus she also said she doesn't have money to do her bday, and wants me to help her on it. Well, I wanted to help her do her bday shaa, just to make her happy, but I can't carry all the responsibilities alone, so I said no to her getting money to do her hair. I told her to make her hair by herself or wear a wig, since I will be ,

Paying for hotel
Buying the cakes
Buying the drinks
Buying the meat
Calling DJ to play song for her and her friends
Plus giving her a gift..

She started acting all up, that she will do the bday with her friends that she doesn't need me in it anymore, that her friend will make her hair for free blah blah, and she will sleep over at her friends place. Etc

So guys the question, is this lady really a wife material? Or someone who is just there to eat money and go?

Did I over react?

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by SocialJustice: 10:07am On Mar 02, 2021
Let her go and I hope your family isn't the opportunity cost of taking care of her.

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Nobody: 10:08am On Mar 02, 2021
Yes,its your responsibility to provide for her or do you want another guy to help you do your work?

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Fahdiga(m): 10:09am On Mar 02, 2021
Does she not have a father and brothers. are they too broke that they can't sponsor her ostentatious lifestyle. OP if you don't know what to do with your money you can give her

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Nobody: 10:11am On Mar 02, 2021
SocialJustice:
Let her go and I hope your family isn't the opportunity cost of taking care of her.
What is wrong if he's taking care of her,was she not on her own when he approached her for love and relationship? what is love and relationship without money?

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by planetx13: 10:13am On Mar 02, 2021
If she likes, let her die... Is she the first ... Don't trust these hoes..

Ciao

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by lilvicky68(m): 10:15am On Mar 02, 2021
She really doesn't need you..she needs your money..simple and short

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by SJay7(m): 10:15am On Mar 02, 2021
Zzor:
What is wrong if he's taking care of her,was she not on her own when he approached her for love and relationship? what is love and relationship without money?
Mentality of an average Nigerian lady (Hunger Mentality).

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Fahdiga(m): 10:16am On Mar 02, 2021
Zzor:
What is wrong if he's taking care of her,was she not on her own when he approached her for love and relationship? what is love and relationship without money?
When a fish brain comments it is easy to know. so any man that approaches a girl will automatically inherit the girl's problems

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by SJay7(m): 10:19am On Mar 02, 2021
OP u cant please a woman in every aspect, so I advice that u spend wisely, because she is a greedy and ungrateful person... Las las i doubt if she go stay by u if u broke.

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Nobody: 10:26am On Mar 02, 2021
SJay7:
OP u cant please a woman in every aspect, so I advice that u spend wisely, because she is a greedy and ungrateful person... Las las i doubt if she go stay by u if u broke.
she has stayed by me when I was broke, I am just surprised at this act, first she keeps telling me of a guy that has money, building hotels and the guy is chiking her etc. She was telling me that the guy is asking her to involve on her bday, but she knows I am capable blah blah. But because I said no to her hair, which is the only time I have ever said no to her when she asked me something, she is trying to emotionally black mail me. But I am not falling for that mind game

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Nobody: 10:28am On Mar 02, 2021
Zzor:
Yes,its your responsibility to provide for her or do you want another guy to help you do your work?
if the one I am providing is not enough, then I don't think there is much I can do, there are more ladies, finer and hotter that will love me and what ever I give her.

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Bigggloadofcum: 10:32am On Mar 02, 2021
I hate these kinda b*tches.

Thank God they've already given me a nickname "aka aradite" already. So no time to take these kinda bullshit.

Are you her father? All these bitches with broke parents looking for whose son to frustrate and milk dry.

Guess you haven't fvcked the living demon outta her, hence her stupidity.

Please kick her outta yo life. B*tch is a kill joy.

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by SocialJustice: 10:36am On Mar 02, 2021
Zzor:
What is wrong if he's taking care of her,was she not on her own when he approached her for love and relationship? what is love and relationship without money?
Nothing is wrong but she shouldn't be entitled. It is not her right to be taken care of by him, they are only dating. Relationship based on money is transactional, worth nothing and has nothing to do with love.

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Brian47(m): 10:37am On Mar 02, 2021
Don't fall for that emotional blackmail
That's how it starts.
You said that you've been paying for everything name one thing she have done for you?

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by SocialJustice: 10:42am On Mar 02, 2021
Henrymorre:
she has stayed by me when I was broke, I am just surprised at this act, first she keeps telling me of a guy that has money, building hotels and the guy is chiking her etc. She was telling me that the guy is asking her to involve on her bday, but she knows I am capable blah blah. But because I said no to her hair, which is the only time I have ever said no to her when she asked me something, she is trying to emotionally black mail me. But I am not falling for that mind game
Allow her to go meet the hotel builder. It will hurt but the pain will pass. Nigerian girls are too entitled and engage in transactional relationships/sex excessively. If you have the money and you're open minded enough, try girls from other countries - Ghana, Kenya, South Africa. Those girls are way prettier and properly raised. Poverty and greed has destroyed the average Nigerian girl. Either they want to live like a celebrity or they are looking for who will become the breadwinner of their entire family.

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by punisha: 11:00am On Mar 02, 2021
Henrymorre:
she has stayed by me when I was broke, I am just surprised at this act, first she keeps telling me of a guy that has money, building hotels and the guy is chiking her etc. She was telling me that the guy is asking her to involve on her bday, but she knows I am capable blah blah. But because I said no to her hair, which is the only time I have ever said no to her when she asked me something, she is trying to emotionally black mail me. But I am not falling for that mind game


therein lies your answer, she's getting tired of u and has eyes for another. shock her first so she will know she is not irreplaceable.

when she talks about the guy, talk about some old fictional pretty course mate of yours in the UK who has bought a house and owns businesses loving u too. they hate when a girl more prettier and comfortable is eyeing their man.

It would hurt yes as she may walk (seeing it as an avenue to proceed to her hotelier...know she has written u off should it happen.) or she could amend her ways and prove to be loyal knowing u have options, but then u have braced up for the worst and wont be surprised if it goes south.

no one is perfect so be fair to give her another chance if she amends her way and apologizes for the selfish display.

being with u at ur worst don't mean shed be there d rest of your life. the true intention is always revealed when the money comes and not when u r broke.

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by JOSH54: 11:05am On Mar 02, 2021
Zzor:
Yes,its your responsibility to provide for her or do you want another guy to help you do your work?
YES I AGREE WITH UR POINT BUT WHO WAS TAKING CARE OF HER WHEN SHE WAS ALONE? D GUY SHOULD SUPPORT HER WITH 70% OF WHAT SHE NEEDED BUT ALL I KNOW RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT MONEY WILL SOON CRASH. I ALWAYS ADVICE GUYS TO BE FINANCIAL STABLE B4 THINKING OF DATING.

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by blazepascal(m): 11:06am On Mar 02, 2021
Zzor:
Yes,its your responsibility to provide for her or do you want another guy to help you do your work?
are you a feminist?

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by pretydiva(f): 11:11am On Mar 02, 2021
All these things you are doing for a girl that is just your girlfriend not even your wife, hope you have done same for your mom and sisters??

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Nobody: 11:15am On Mar 02, 2021
I may not be old but I'm old enough to know that you are dealing with a parasitic leech and to crown it all, she is an olosho just like every other girl out there. For you to even be considering her as wife makes you a simp and I'm done talking.

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by qtguru(m): 11:34am On Mar 02, 2021
Henrymorre:


I will try to make this story very short.

So I've always loved my babe, buy her stuffs, gives her money, take her out, etc. So tomorrow is her birthday, and she has a very bad hair. We where talking over on phone yesterday, and she asked me to send her money to make her hair, plus she also said she doesn't have money to do her bday, and wants me to help her on it. Well, I wanted to help her do her bday shaa, just to make her happy, but I can't carry all the responsibilities alone, so I said no to her getting money to do her hair. I told her to make her hair by herself or wear a wig, since I will be ,

Paying for hotel
Buying the cakes
Buying the drinks
Buying the meat
Calling DJ to play song for her and her friends
Plus giving her a gift..

She started acting all up, that she will do the bday with her friends that she doesn't need me in it anymore, that her friend will make her hair for free blah blah, and she will sleep over at her friends place. Etc

So guys the question, is this lady really a wife material? Or someone who is just there to eat money and go?

Did I over react?



She is not a reasonable babe. A reasonable woman won't put all that debt on the person's head without even contributing unless money is not an issue to both couples. Don't listen to Zzor, she's a troll. A reasonable lady will be bother about how much you are spending.

Me I will ask , what tribe is the girl ? is she working ?

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by MediMedi(m): 11:42am On Mar 02, 2021
You called her your bae and you can't afford her responsibility. If she start sleeping around with men like us pls pls don't come begging

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Nobody: 11:47am On Mar 02, 2021
Zzor:
Yes,its your responsibility to provide for her or do you want another guy to help you do your work?
You have a PROSTITUTIONAL MENTALITY its like you were born to be a street wh0re, if you define love as money then you are no different from your ladies in the brothels and if unfortunately all women think like this then yall deserve to be treated like shit

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Blessed3030(m): 11:48am On Mar 02, 2021
Henrymorre:
she has stayed by me when I was broke, I am just surprised at this act, first she keeps telling me of a guy that has money, building hotels and the guy is chiking her etc. She was telling me that the guy is asking her to involve on her bday, but she knows I am capable blah blah. But because I said no to her hair, which is the only time I have ever said no to her when she asked me something, she is trying to emotionally black mail me. But I am not falling for that mind game
lol
it's funny how u guys take full responsibility of girlfriends to the extent they start seeing u as their parents.

it's normal to take care of your babe but set boundaries,don't present yourself as alpha n Omega n don't try to use money to tie her down irrespective of the situation.

That girl is just using u to satisfy her materialistic desires,once she sees a richer guy she will free u

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by omojesu202(m): 11:52am On Mar 02, 2021
Henrymorre:
if the one I am providing is not enough, then I don't think there is much I can do, there are more ladies, finer and hotter that will love me and what ever I give her.

thank God for you that you have sense. if she mistakenly keep you out of the birthday just wish her well with other guy. by that, she has failed your little test of not giving in to all her request like a weakling. imagine ooo only hair that you minus, probably the least. women no get sense at all.
bless me with something please.

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Amb1045(m): 11:58am On Mar 02, 2021
reasons why you need to double date when you're not yet married. how can a girl be telling you another guy who is richer than you is asking her out, tell her she can go with the guy if she want him. women and fish brain, if care is not taking one of her friend is advising her. lol

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Nobody: 12:00pm On Mar 02, 2021 

  it is a shame how women
 of nowadays feel overly
 entitledāš«

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Nobody: 12:08pm On Mar 02, 2021
Your real wife will tell you to invest your money not waste it on frivolous things you be her maga

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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by BuddhaPalm(m): 12:35pm On Mar 02, 2021
Henrymorre:


I will try to make this story very short.

So I've always loved my babe, buy her stuffs, gives her money, take her out, etc. So tomorrow is her birthday, and she has a very bad hair. We where talking over on phone yesterday, and she asked me to send her money to make her hair, plus she also said she doesn't have money to do her bday, and wants me to help her on it. Well, I wanted to help her do her bday shaa, just to make her happy, but I can't carry all the responsibilities alone, so I said no to her getting money to do her hair. I told her to make her hair by herself or wear a wig, since I will be ,

Paying for hotel
Buying the cakes
Buying the drinks
Buying the meat
Calling DJ to play song for her and her friends
Plus giving her a gift..

She started acting all up, that she will do the bday with her friends that she doesn't need me in it anymore, that her friend will make her hair for free blah blah, and she will sleep over at her friends place. Etc

So guys the question, is this lady really a wife material? Or someone who is just there to eat money and go?

Did I over react?



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Re: I Said No To My Girlfriend For The First Time And She Feels Like Dying by Nobody: 12:40pm On Mar 02, 2021
qtguru:


She is not a reasonable babe. A reasonable woman won't put all that debt on the person's head without even contributing unless money is not an issue to both couples. Don't listen to Zzor, she's a troll. A reasonable lady will be bother about how much you are spending.

Me I will ask , what tribe is the girl ? is she working ?
I'm.igbo, she is also Igbo, she is learning how to sow cloth, so yeah I will say

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