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IhateInjustice:
Those were the times of war, God sent Christ to bring peace to us


Note: None of them were violent against their own people, partners and children.

So how do you reconcile the doctrines "spare the rod and spoil the child" and "Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him" to your writeup?

[quote author=giftygirl1 post=71232148][/quote]I'm at a loss why you quoted us after the initial quote from elder. But if that was meant to draw my thoughts on this issue, well, here it is;



John 8:7 comes in handy when women gather around to garner support for one of their kind caught in adultery.

CHRIST was more concerned about the soul of the woman since her sin attracted the maximum penalty. It shouldn't be a classic example on how to forgive an adulterous wife.

Now coming properly to the issue of adultery: I wonder where today's women lost their common sense when it comes to understanding the cardinal difference between men and women.

There's a big difference when a woman is unfaithful and when a man is. And here are my points;

** Never at anytime did GOD permit a woman to be married to two men at a time, unlike men.

*** No known deity punishes a man because he is sexually unfaithful to his wife as long as the object of his unfaithfulness is not another man's wife.

*** GOD wasn't perturbed when Sarah offered her slave girl to Abraham to wife, but was ready to strike when Abraham willingly offered Sarah twice to two kings

*** Deut 24: 1-4 puts it even clearer.

*** 1 cor 11: 7b ...for the woman is the glory of man.

I'll reiterate what I've always said on this forum, sex takes place in the inside of a woman. That's why when a married woman commits adultery she is defiled spiritually and physically. And the nature of man doesn't permit him to ever regard the woman in the same way again.

Forgiveness in this regard doesn't mean taking her back as your wife.

You can càll me a sexist or something worse and I'll readily tell you that you're right, I'm guilty as charged.

Mindfulness:
I don't.

You're back from a forced self-hibernation.


So, tell me, how's life in Europe as an half caste outcast?

Last I checked, the whites called you a black African refugee, looking past your claim to their ancestral heritage.

Glory-graber!

TonyeBarcanista:
Blame the husband my brother! A man that allows a woman to prevent him from rendering help to his own blood!

I only spared her husband just to show respect.

ClassicQueen:
Please all I need an advice concerning an issue in my home . I and my husband have been married for just a year plus and not up to 2years. I have a 2Months old baby. Before I had the baby that is immediately after our wedding, hubby told me about how he intended bringing in his elder brothers daughter of 11 to live with us and I declined. The reason I didnt allow it is because both of her parents are still alive ....The mother knew their condition and how they are managing and she gave birth to 5 children this family live in just one room in Lagos. The woman is not working while the man is managing a small laundry business which is not even thriving.

The issue I have now is that hubby is pleading with me to please bring the girl to help me baby sit my child while he will be responsible for her school fees. my maternity leave will soon be over and I need someone to help abit but not the girl because I don't want anyone to take my kind heart for granted and tell me that I'm maltreating the child or using her as a nanny . You know how people especially in laws behave that is why I'm still sceptical about it. Please my people what do u advise I do? Bearing in mind that our marriage is not even up to 2years we are still getting to know each other with my husband. Please advice...

Sorry for any typo error

You're kind hearted indeed and yet this was a quote from you;




"The mother knew their condition and how they are managing and she gave birth to 5 children this family live in just one room in Lagos. The woman is not working while the man is managing a small laundry business which is not even thriving"


And that's the reason for refusing to help. Not because you'd an unpleasant encounter with the little girl's parents; not because there's no spare room in your house but because they are dirt-poor. And you call yourself kind hearted.

No, you're not. You're a callous gatekeeper, a miserable one who drives a wedge between her husband and his own blood when they needed him.

And in your ignorance, you fail to realise your in-laws will figure you're behind your husband's refusal.

That's what you get went emotions countered sound judgement.

Before voting Buhari, did anyone care look at his precedent?

This man is unashamedly tribal.

To think those fools are going by their fathers' names is just mind boggling.

Be careful how you judge @earthbound. You may find yourself having some if not most of his traits.

His excesses notwithstanding, it's not easy being a parent. Age and experience will give you a better understanding.

Fearlez:
Mindfulness, the deactivated Carefreewannabe! I can see you have gone from a bitter angry woman into a scornful disillusioned bile of frustration.

Listen, even when you were married with a kid years back in the day, you allowed Nairaland compete for your attention with your husband. You were Carefreewannabe, a woman with a wild and burning soul alien to responsibility and dishonourable to any womanly virtues.

You divorced and letter changed monikers to lead the devil's charge in luring young impressionable girls into the dark loveless belly of your marital frustrations and sad life.

You're godless and soulless, a woman who looks at the world with scorn and hate.

You need a firm man and a strong dick to f(u)ck life's bliss back into your troubled soul.

Mindfulness:
Even your behavior on this forum screams omega. This is a fact! No man loved by ladies would talk the sh*it you talk here on a faceless forum.

Mindfulness:
By the way, the fact that you are shouting alpha and beta up and down here is a clear indication that you are not even omega.

Your assertions are as slippery as the murky discharge from your trichomoniasis infested cùnt.

Mindfulness:
Why don't you continue ranting some more how you are alpha because nobody actually believes it?

What you call boasting is a simple statement of fact. The distance between us not withstanding, yet my sheer power found you in your delusional Spanish castle, ripping your foundation of falsehood from underneath.

Mindfulness:
Is this supposed to hurt me? Try harder Mr Omega.

No, it's not. It's just a thud on your tranquilized consciousness lest you run along believing your own delusions.

CHoccolaTE:
Funny thing is that African men are the most disrespected and least taken seriously of all races. It's very sad.
Instead of trying to restore respect and regain a honorable position among other races majority of them are looking for how to dominate their women and forcing inferior status on them.
They are too scared to face men of other races so they take out their ego issues on women. I bet you if they go to any western country they would be extremely careful of how they address white women and would show them respect.
But they will see their fellow African women and talk thrash to them

And the African woman belongs in another race!

The earlier you realise you're imprisoned by your own misandria, the earlier you'd have embarked on your mental freedom.

Mindfulness:
Loved by everyone and living among males who have been enjoying stable electricity for decades and who are now building robots that will serve them in everything while you are still trying to train low self-esteem women to obey you.

Keep calling them beta from your SHYTEHOLE Mr Omega

Damn!

Every sinew in your body must have been made from inferior tissues. How cheap and self-depreciating can anyone get!

Are you not the mindfulness (I forgot your original handle) who has spend eons of ages here on this forum driven by boredom and loneliness?

Are you not the love-lorn and frustrated love seeker who spent her blossoming years basking in immorality.

The sun has gone down on your glory. Your best years are behind you. All that is left is anger and bitterness towards the male folks who took advantage of your feminine ignorance.

Your life is as transparent as a crystal pool and I can see its depth -- emptiness and aggression -- the hallmark of a loveless woman.

donpata:
So I Don turn slowpoke eh Fish-brain? Rubbished rubbish. You are probably unmarried and if you are, I pity your husband. We are talking abt real issues and you are here talking abt impracticable things. My wife makes alot of decisions on her own and I don't even need to get involved. What is 21st century abt love and respect? I understand from Scripture that in the last days, people will question the position of scripture. I ain't thus surprise if u think it is outdated.

Because u are unanalytical, u dont understand the importance of the man's veto power. So if they both have varying opinions abt an issue they shld keep arguing over it? Or u want them to invite a third party to hear and give judgement? That means that major decisions will be stalled until negotiations are concluded. Who does that? You are making it look as if submission entails that decisions abt what the wife shld even say, cook or wear must be vetted by the husband. That is slavery and that is far from biblical wisdom.

The Bible is clear. There can't be two masters. THE MAN WAS NOT MADE FOR THE WOMAN. RATHER, THE WOMAN WAS MADE FOR THE MAN 1cor 11:9. On a harsher note, Yes, your Husband "Owns'' you. You are his ''Property''. Divorce is like pure water in the West cos of all these feminism palaver. I understand clearly that my wife ain't my slave. I treat her like a partner. I ask her of her opinion soo many times. She sometimes pressure me to accept her opinion even when I feel differently. However, she understands that she is under my care and watch and that I still got the veto power.
I think that as someone rightly pointed out, ur environment may be influencing ur thoughts abt submission. I grew in an environment where I saw real love and respect. My mum was never treated like a slave. She had her freedom. Reasonably great freedom. So stop making submission look like a 21st day slavery. It is so only to those who don't understand it.

Dont marry if u don't want to submit. If you are passionate abt a child, get a sperm donor and live life to the fullest with all the freedom u can get. I am done teaching ur myopic and ignorant self.


TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT, EVEN IN 1000YRS TO COME, IT WILL STILL BE A MAN'S WORLD. IF YOU CANT TAKE IT, in Oshos voice, ''Go and Die''.

Sterling!

Hanseel1:
You are right.

Your meme is dead on arrival. You've been hopelessly engaged with me for several hours in a feverish attempt at salvaging your honour.

You're so intellectually hollow!!

Hanseel1:
The fact that you don't respect women says a lot about you.

I won't insult your mother because I'm a man of honor, I know my worth.


Fool.

You're a fraud. A dishonest lout. You insulted my mother that's why I nailed your mother like a found out trollop caught in a stranger's bed.

You stink of hypocrisy.

Mindfulness:
Nope, I am half European, a mixed child, very beautiful. See how dumb you are.

That makes you a lonely piggy in the middle. You're not white enough to belong in a 1st class European category and not black enough to be taken seriously.

You're a racially compromised piece of biological experiment.

Hanseel1:
Coward, seun forced me to swear allegiance to Allah before I can comment in Muslim threads.

By now you should be sensible enough to know that you can't comment in a Muslim thread without having that statement on your profile.

You keep setting new standards for a man devoid of honour. So you swore allegiance to a false god just to comment on a forum.

Your father must be the most unfortunate idiot amongst his kinsmen for birthing a dishourable bastard like you.

Mindfulness:
I live in Europe you simpleton.

As just another African refugee with little or no dignity.

Hanseel1:
As you want women to be subjected to subservience -so shall your daughters and all females in your lineage (born and unborn) will be treated like slaves because of their gender.

For denigrating women -your wife shall triumph above you and you shall eat your words

Cursed be the womb you came from! Cursed be the day you were born!

Tyrannical BASTARD

You're the seminal culmination of your mother's sexual immodesty. The product of whoredom.

Your mother's ovum served as the village sperm-barn where every communal drunk came to deposit the unspent desires of their lustful passion.

May your daughters be doubly cursed with the burden of a man and a woman.

May they slave for the men in their lives,

may they age before their time and may their youth pass away as swift as a darting shadow because they are cursed with lazy idiots like you who pass the burden of his responsibility to a woman.

Hanseel1:
You mother would be dissapointed wherever she is right now.

She was happy when you were born only for you to turn back on your gender and encourage the enslavement of women by men.
The bible, Christianity and all religions don't mean well for women. Trust me, if you really care about women, stop practicing a fake religion that doesn't and won't recognize women and men as equals.

Emotionally and hormonal imbalanced female with the traits of a tyrannical male.

Spits!

Cheap emotional blackmail. Godless reprobate! Your profile attests to Allah.

You are as confused as your gender ambiguity.

Hanseel1:
The guy's stupidity is beyond me I swear
How can a sane mind say Arab immigrants are going to overrun Europe? There are less than 5million Arab Islamic immigrants in Europe presently , so ,how are they going to overrun Europeans and impose their primitive cultures there?

Since your molecular structure is frightenly symmetrical to a female, I never expect you to triumph where women are known to fail woefully.

Your cranium is crammed with feminine worries -- bleaching creme, gossips and fashion trends, but lethargic in political affairs where men sit and carve out their future and that of their children -- you epicine disposable piece of biological concoction.

While German women are getting groped in broad day light by Arab migrants, Italy voted a populist government on the promise of turning back African and Arab refugees. France is a getting close to become the new Algeria, and London is nicknamed Londonistan -- all bearing the weight of Arab influence. Islam is thriving in the heart of European cities. And these cities are breeding grounds for ISIS recruits.

Real men are time watchers; like a lion, they patrol the boundaries of their territorial integrity. But sissies like you are found in the bedroom nursing from the financial breasts of your female benefactor.

May the nurse that announced your birth become dumb whenever your birthday comes around.

May your father's inheritance be inherited by a worthy male. For your are an unfit vagabond.

May you become an outcast before your kinsmen and may you become a second class citizen in your wife's home.

Despicable waste of male headcount.

Mindfulness:
An African man seeing Europe in danger of immigrants from Arab countries. Oh the irony!

By the way, the fact that you are shouting alpha and beta up and down here is a clear indication that you are not even omega.

Stop dividing people into two categories. It makes you look like a simple minded fo*ol.

Here she comes..., the quintessence of god-less-ness; the personification of a wayward woman blown asunder by the storm of false knowledge; the crownless Jazebel of our time.

You have been a thoroughly sucked out nectar by hungry ravens who ploughed you dry like a desert cistern.

Tell me, what do you know about the cultural war facing Europe currently?

Hanseel1:
You lack wisdom.

C'mon, you inglorious and despicable bleaching gigolo, your stamina disappoints me. Don't tell me you're gasping for breath already.

Is this how you intend to please the women here for whose acceptance you stomached the fool's bravery of engaging me?



Since you're skilled in laying an ambush for a woman's purse, you should be deft in defending your trade.

Shameless male gold digger.

Hanseel1:
Stop making postmann happy. Stop disgracing womanhood.

You're so insecure!!!

She is the manifestation of the nightmares of a beta male.

Hanseel1:
It's for a friend not me.

You're such a feeble bitchass nigga. I haven't started and you have gone defensive like a nervous virgin afraid of her first fùck!

Who cares? You're a wuzzbag who is vast in bleaching cremes.

Hanseel1:
Your mother would've been happy not knowing you'd be a tyrant willing to put her fellow women in subservience.


Cursed be the day you were born

My father is proud that his proud and illustrious progeny is secure in the strength of my loins; that his mantle is safe in my masculine grip, and my mother is proud of her fighting spirit in me. I'm a star sitting at the centre of her crown -- the priceless gift she gave my father and he so loves her!

But you;

You're the twilight of your father's glory days; the dying embers of his wasted efforts; the finality of his prematurely terminated legacy.

Hanseel1:
Cursed be the day you were born.

What ails you, son?

Is it your depleted male chromosomes that renders you an effeminate, good for thing, cold blooded aromantic dingbat or my intimidating persona?

What else do you share with the women folks outside looking for bleaching cream online to hide your inferiority complex?


You're a biological mistake; a genetically confused wañker who floats around the cyberspace with an empty ball sac.

I'm afraid your membership as a certified male is pending scientific evaluation.

Effeminate, bleaching piece of human junk!

bukatyne:
According to you,

What is submission?
What is love?

You asked the above questions in a gender sensitive platform. You should know that submission in respect to the marriage institute connotes different things according to gender.

Since men and women are different at the core with varying degrees of common shared values and interests and values and interests that are completely alien to the other, I'm afraid your question is rather ambiguous and may prove misleading from the topic of discuss.

bukatyne:
Am sorry however when I read something like this in relation to African/ Nigerian marriages, I hear the wives endured all manner of fuckery and disrespect to keep their ring.

And if it is the above, it didn't make the children better; it made them sociopaths.

Sacrifices rendered for the sustainability of the greatest institute of man -- marriage -- is gender neutral. Men too pay sacrifices for the sustenance of their marriages.

There are countless examples of men who have received their adulterous wives back, who have swallowed betrayals, mental and psychological abuses with a calm face, for example. There is no sacrifice too great for this ancient and noble institute.

While an abusive marriage may pose psychological problems for children, children raised by single mothers have been scientifically proven to suffer major social, mental and psychological setbacks.

Rare exceptions are considered like genuine threat to life, but outside that, divorce has been a cheap getaway for unprincipled individuals to feed their insatiable hunger for pleasure and freedom.