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In recent times, the bride price has come under much controversy. As man evolves and education spreads, societal convention and age-long traditions are being called to question. As the economy dwindles and cost of living rises, the bride price is becoming a difficult hurdle for many. Others feel it's an archaic practice, one synonymous with the enslavement of the women folk. Others still hold fast to the traditions of their forefathers as one of nobility and sacredness; and they'll readily tell you that even Adam paid with his rib to get Eve.


Concisely, women can be grouped into 4 Categories based on their views on bride price. Each category offers a window view into her mindset and her general outlook on the world and on marriage.


Category 1

THE HARD HAT:
The keys of her father's tradition is firmly tucked in her brassiere. She's fully in touch with her feminity and she sees bride price as an honour to her. She knows her worth and dignity and is full of self-belief. Her man must prove himself not just before her but before her kindred. She knows she's worthy to be earned. While she may habour some issues with tradition, she'd stand faithful and let tradition lead the way. She would most probably make a good, understanding wife even in rough times. On the downside, her loyalty to her father may supersede that of her husband.



Category 2

AMBIVALENT JANE:

She's caught in the crossfire of love and traditional obligation. She feels genuine concern and pity for her man when she stares at the huge demand list of bridal requirements. Yet she can't turn her back on tradition. She wouldn't be the first amongst her people to begin this "shameful practice", she tells herself. She would like her own wedding ceremony to be written on the village folklore too. Afterall, "what woman is there who doesn't desire to be fought for and earned by a man", she consoles her flabby conscience.

But still, her heart beats in sympathy for her man. She can be persuaded.


Category 3

THE RATIONALIST:

A free thinker rather than a feminist, or a passive feminist if you may. Her little mind is her god and she will bow to no other. Her motive and view on bride price is without malice but she is ignorant. She believes man is a free being and bound to no tradition or religious dictates. Her moral conduct too is subject to what she "feels". Consequently, she sees bride price as unnecessary, even fraudulent.

Expect her to walk out of your marriage when she "feels" she's no longer in love.


Category 4

THE REBEL:

She's a feminist! An active one in her own right and She's full of malice. Her heart and mindset is a brewing tempest of anger -- anger towards the world and what it stands for.

Her views on bride price is distorted by her ego and rebellious heart. She believes the world is anti-women and she points readily at bride price as proof. She's yet to accept her identity as a woman. She's of the view that life is not fair to her and that the world is indebted to her.

"I am not for sale and would definitely not be bought", she retorts! That's her view on bride price. She won't readily tell her man thus, but she'd oppose the idea of bride price vehemently, not out of love or pity, but out of a fragile ego. She's full of insecurity.

Life being married to her is beyond the scope of this topic.

For lezz/lezzlie and TSOM/TheSonOfMark

I vote:

Fynestboi

Cc NLjega

For lezz, TSOM, creamish, Knightngale

I vote accordingly:

Fynestboi,
ichommy,
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falconey

On a personal note

I also vote:

Kinginvahala

Cc NLjega

For lezz, TSOM, creamish, Knightngale

I vote accordingly:

Fynestboi,
ichommy,
photoshoot
falconey

On a personal note

I also vote:

Kinginvahala

Cc NLjega

For lezz, Knightngale, Kay, creamish

I vote accordingly


Fynestboi,
Ryabcool,
photoshoot,
ichommy
falconey

Also, for the sake of goodwill

KINGinVAHALA

Cc NLjega

Ishilove:
You and your silver tongue.

Just negodu!!! Can't I tell it like it is? She's everything I've scripted and more...

Same applies to you too. Happy new month!

SAINTSAMURAI:
POSTMANN bloodonmyhands KNIGHTGALE U GUYS SHOULD OPEN THE THREAD IN GENERAL SESSION. THE MOD THERE WNT DELETE IT. JUST LIKE LAST YEAR OMO WOBE'S THREAD.

I'm not in charge of the thread. Just an observer like you