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raumdeuter:
Some of them live abroad where these foreign men abound yet they ignored these angelic foreign men and managed to find the few evil Nigerian men that lived there.

Some have been married to the devilish Nigerian men for several yrs but wouldnt divorce him

They can only deceive themselves. Nigerian men are hot. Just ask around!

A lot of white folks hold nothing sacred. Not even marriage.

raumdeuter:
The funny part is majority of them are married to these so called evil Nigerian men, Ask them if they are abused in their marriage they would all say No

My brother, I've never seen a mind as shallow as the mind of some women. They have come to the conclusion that what they see in foreign soap operas is what is obtainable in their climes.

Dim-witted cuckoos!

Onegai:
You should be worried. These boys will want to marry your daughter. And with what I read on NL, I refuse to allow Baby E marry a Nigerian man. Because it's getting worse. This is how corruption started and no-one asked tough questions and it was left unchecked. Now it is a huge hydra-headed monster that cannot be killed. Same thing with our Family, Community and Menfolk. If men are truly the heads of the family, what does it say that infidelity, domestic violence, shifting of responsibility and blame, child rape and children out-of-wedlock are accepted nowadays. At the rate we are going, the next generation of women will be glad that their husbands only beat them once in a while. This is how India started, to the point where getting on a public bus became an invitation to rape, assault and Murder. This is how South Africa started and look at them now.

I am not demonizing men. But for God's sake, all you guys not worried when you read NL's frontpage? Is there no little part in your brain going "yeah, I love fighting in Family section's on-going Gender wars, but sh.it, the level of craze I see exhibited by a lot of men is getting frightening".

I didn't bother to read beyond the emboldened. I was forced to bring my reading to a halt.

I think you're drunk with ignorance and prejudice to have generalized all Nigerian men, putting them in one basket.

Creamish:
Confused bunch of new generation African boys... smh

Has creamish too been taken by the current tide of new generation male prejudice?

[b]Hey Joe, I got your point and you're damn right. Though many may misunderstand you on this.

Personally, I think Africans are generally weak psychologically with poor self esteem. Many Africans still carry the mindset and mentality of a conquered people. We opened our doors freely for the whiteman to penetrate even long after independence. Our airwaves carry all their cultural taboos and lewdness to pervert the next generation.

Our children are left with cable TV and they grow to become loosed morally with little or no respect for elders. You know the whiteman is a barbarian still. Don't be taken by his advancement in science and technology. Success easily deceives, so many people have mistaken their way of life and values to be better.

I remember watching kungfu movies from East Asia. I know how difficult it is to see two adult kiss or the breast of a woman exposed. But Westernization is selling perversion to the world and whoever that isn't buying is bullied and intimidated until he succumbs.

Africans didn't know hard drugs, Africans didn't know how to spread perversion on a global scale, Africans never left their fathers land and went on a global land grabbing campaign stealing and pillaging the world. But Africa failed to close her borders after independence and these rampaging devils continued to bring in their filth to our shores. And our society is fastly losing its moral compass like theirs. [/b]

pucelle:
And if she is not in the mood for sexual intercourse...

But they can always compromise with other sexual practices,and it is mandatory for the man to be understanding and respect her wish,if she insists on no sex

It's not her not being in the mood per se.

Here is the real issue :

It's simply about how frequently she is not in the mood. Every reasonable husband can understand the once in a while not in the mood for sex. But make that even 40% of the time you deny him sex, then you'd be asking for trouble.

joseph1832:
Aye!. But these women always want people to sympathize with them. They always like playing the victim.

Did you see that thread in front page? Where the OP said hiss sister was battered by her husband cos she refused him sex?

The question I asked the OP was, "is his sister pregnant?". Then I even wonder why a woman would refuse her husband sex in the first place. Funny how the OP omitted sensitive details just to gain sympathy from the unsuspecting, foolish nigerians who never ask, not just question, but the right question.

I'm not in anyway saying the husband was right for beating his wife, no!!! To me, only cowards beat their wives.

Sincerity is a very difficult road to thread for most women. Overwhelmingly most!

Never hit a woman!!! You'd make it easy for her. There are several ways to deal with her.

It's not possible to give a thousand likes to your post asking that question to that OP who posted a thread with pics of her sister being battered by her husband.

joseph1832:
Ah... So much like you to mix what I said, when you quoted me half of the thread and started spewing what you don't know about.

Postmann, ishilove, the above was my first post on that thread, lumppy and her elk didn't see it, but decided to jump in the discourse my self and the OP were having.

As at then, I was with my friend and his wife, I showed his wife the thread and she told me its a lie, from what she herself experience, cos she was always Hot. I made that known in the thread, but hey, lumppy still decided to go on, and on.

What you and your friends feel is different from what others feel, I've asked women who were pregnant before, not just married ladies, but baby mamas as well. Some say they're Hot, some say they aren't, but most said they were. That's why I told the op, if he isn't getting sex, he should masturbate, simply. Only for lumppy to come gun blazing.

Madam lumpyy, don't call me names, after that episode, I don't remember calling you names. I'm not in the mood to start calling you names. A word is enough for the wise!!!.

You just confirmed what I know. I feel most ladies that have problems being sexually aroused during pregnancy might be those with menstrual issues and low sexual drive before pregnancy.

I've seen many women who carry their pregnancy with grace and are sexually active.

Lumpyy:
Ah bros....its the cause of the argument that spilled to this thread.VERY few of us feel what you read oo
Iv been pregnant 3xs :1st till 24wiks,2nd till 38 and d last till 40weeks and theres was no single day i craved IT.hubby does not even ask cos he sees how it is so i end up being the one begging cos i know say body no be wood .same with all my friends and gist from antenatal classes.
its y i told the fighter from that thread to stop generalising and telling the Op his wife is pretending.he said all the women around him are hot while pregnant and im saying i RARELY hear it so does all the ladies that came on the thread!

Okay I understand. You speak from experience and from consultations too. Your report is credible. But there are women out there who feel sexual urge during pregnancy.

Lumpyy:
Exactly sir......no pregnant woman knowing how important sex is would intentionally keep giving excuses except the ones'looking for trouble'. .but i tell you that MOST of us endure it in pregnancy not enjoy.how would you feel giving mouth-action when your mouth already feels like youv not brushed for months?its best to be sure of your love for your partner before getting married sir......cos if the feeling is strong,it will stand the test of time!

I have read that pregnancy increases the sex drive of some women. I'm careful not to say all.

You sound married and like someone who has experienced pregnancy. Have you?

Lumpyy:
I understand perfectly how some women take advantage of situations to gain whatever.....but its wrong to think EVERYONE does.u might end up making a COSTLY mistake by not taking her serious when she says she doesnt feel well just cos you have decided that ALL women lie.
Taking polygamy as the way out simply means your marriage is all about sex.....but then,whatever rocks your boat!

Definitely, not every woman deprives her husband of sex with a lie or with a flimsy excuse. But for as many that do, they are unwise.

I'm not an advocate of polygamy but I'll never pretend to underestimate the role of sex in marriage. When a woman frequently denies her husband sex, she's asking for trouble and if that trouble comes in the form of polygamy, so be it.

Ishilove:
You and joseph1832 are the same ten and ten pence. Una sabi condemn woman wey get belle, meanwhile una never even marry

That's a bit too harsh. I don't condemn pregnant women. I'm simply not in support of wives denying their husband sex using pregnancy as an excuse. Except if there is complication.

Ishilove:
Until you do, I think it will be a good idea not to tag a pregnant woman who isn't up to sex as 'unwise'

Men. So you can plant your seed in her womb but you can't bear the thought of her pushing that seed out?

Smh

The act of giving birth or pushing is different from being pregnant. I understand the 3months healing period after delivery but what I don't get is denying one's husband sex during pregnancy.

The thought or the sight? C'on the thought is a common acceptable fact. The sight, not every man's delight.

Ishilove:
A woman who doesn't like MouthAction will have to submit herself, shey?

Why are you men so insensitive? A man who cheats on his wife during her vulnerable period is not a man but an animal on two legs

Have you watched a woman birth a child?? If no, I suggest you do.

Why would I want to watch that? She would be permanently sexually dead to me.

Ishilove:
Have you been married before, postman.n, or lived with a pregnant woman?

I got the goosebumps one gets when a nosey journalist pokes a mic on ones face in a live TV and asks some very personal questions.

I have imagined many things and one of them is living with a pregnant wife. That imagination still awaits the chance to be.

Timbuktou:
What an inconsiderate man

What would you call the lady if you call the man inconsiderate?

bukatyne:
The nothing is good enough for me.

OK. I respect that.

bukatyne:
No need for long story & waste of seun's space if I see a poster who articulates my opinions on a subject matter.

Seun's space indeed. It's no more his space than it is ours who make this forum the hottest in the continent.

You picked the post that said nothing.

bukatyne:
On point!

Bukky dear, is that all you're going to contribute to this?

Lumpyy:
Eh oga pls ignore Mr Joe joe when he mentions me!how is this thread similar to a concerned hubby asking how pregnant women feels?his wifes preggies for the first time and cant DO but Mr joe said she must be pretending and inconsiderate cos all pregnant women are HOT .and he said he was talking from experience...hahahah!
ohh sorry postmann for bothering you with a reply as am just seing your post to the link he sent u,u call people foolish for speaking dia mind?welldone sir!

Hey, I appreciate you took the time to clarify your stand without being rude.

Next time Mr joe mentions your handle I'll try to ignore him if I think he did it without a good reason. There are lots of similarities in both threads cos they bordered on women's insensitivity or self-centredness in their sexual responsibilities in matrimony.

Personally, I wonder if polygamy is the answer to women's sexual unavailability during some stages of pregnancy and postnatal.

Did I call anyone in particular foolish for speaking his mind? Even though one can actually be foolish for speaking one's mind.

You didn't bother me.

joseph1832:
I believe its time I start referring to you as 'Pastor Postmann'. LOL.

The female monikers I mentioned, showed they love it when a man kiss their ass, even when he's dying, they don't care, just as long as he continues kissing their ass, they're okay with him.

They were the ones who openly called one OP insensitive because his wife refused him sex, because she's pregnant. Even when he complained that he's become frustrated, they still say he should understand what the wife is going through and he should not disturb her for sex. Failing to even understand what he is going through...

www.nairaland.com/3101565/married-men-pregnant-wiveshow-cope

Little wonder they never learn. They keep repeating the same mistake over and over.
A man is most vulnerable when his wife is pregnant. The wise ones will look for comfortable means to meet his needs. But the foolish expects him to "understand"

joseph1832:
True that! Later, emotional beings like BellaElla and Lumpyy will start saying "he's very inconsiderate, can he not imagine how she's feeling at the moment? In this time of husband scarcity, you expect a woman not to chat with her friends about her wedding ceremony? Something that only happens once in ones life". Lol.

I don't know much about those monikers you singled out. But I know this much: a lot of contemporary women are lost, overran by fantasy and selfishness.
For a man to earn their praise, he might have condescended to a wussbag.

NigeriaKitchen:
Mobile phone and social media addiction is killing many people's relationship, marriage and even career

You know most women are so petty. To them the ceremony and the flamboyance attached to it is more real than the significance of being a married woman. So she'd rather continue in the gossip of "how did you see my wedding ceremony " than consummating her marriage.

Ls0fdk:
Here it's
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Those wey never do oya come do una own

Looking innocently cute in that baby pic. And then into one all-knowing, bad-ass, handsome bloke of an adult.

mimzy:
hmmmmmm...
do you have a past life ? or do you believe in reincarnation?

Wasn't the spirit of Elijah the same spirit in John the baptist?

mimzy:
hehehehehe.... can u imagine

So it is safe to say you were born in the medieval ages

Not really. My body is of this contemporary age, but my soul is of old; from the lush foliage of a world in its youthful grace.

mimzy:
awwww. i appreciate.

You just made me smile

Where is your #ThrowBackPicture

Not yet in a digital format. _Postmann could be archaic sometimes

mimzy:
OK here we have it

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@Mimzy, you're of the finest of seeds. Little wonder you germinated so well. That's beauty from a tender shoot to fully blossomed fruit.