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Chase77:
What a huge pile of trash!

It's not a must that you must create threads. Creation of threads is not meant for people whose length of creativity is as short as a cockerel's dick.

Stop trying too hard.
SMH.

The whining of a tormented ghost!
Stalking your past life of failure and obscurity.
I can't give you back your life
For I wasn't he who took it.
Your death was your own creation
You died when your dreams and hopes went up in smoke.
So leave me be you agent of the shadows
To the pit of hell from whence you came
For I don't wish to share my life with you.

Persephenee:
Always making me smile with your kind words.
Thank you
Always making me smile with your kind words.
Thank you

But you know that's no empty words. You came along in that feminism thread with an undiluted purity that so many a feminist were so dumb struck that they could only question your gender for support from total mental collapse.

There you made your mark!

Persephenee:
Ye forgot me birthday fine sir!

My precious jewel, curved out from a rare precious gem, how was I to know it was your birthday? No one told me, not even you!
How do we go about it now?

I'll start by saying happy birthday to an uncommon woman whose integrity and virtue lingers on in absolute defiance to the pervertions that plague the 21st century woman!

cococandy:
that's harsh enough

Not in my world.

cococandy:
Your sexism is nauseating.
Ugh.
#Pukes

I was expecting something harsher from you...anyone...any feminist.

I'll take that as a compliment.

SexyStrawberry:
Husband cheats, she should pray and HARD! yea pray hardcore baby! common! give it to the lord! pray baby pray!!!! Then when she says something to her husband out of pain n heartbreak, d next thing u will see is "u erred by saying this to him" or "u erred by doing that to him" , but when d wife cheats............................ send that prostitute away! kick her outta ur life, she's a disgrace! my man run from her o! Divorce her already! No one says pray for god to bring her back to u, no one says my man pray and pray very hard God is with, things will get better, she'll change.......... For those of u who are religious, please I need someone to remind me that chapter and verse of the Bible where God himself said he regrets making man and repented of it?

That was Genesis 6:7. But if you go down to verse 8, one man it was found favour in the LORD's sight in the person of NOAH. Do I need to remind you that sin came into this world as a result of the sin of a woman?

Are you by any stretch of ignorance trying to assert that GOD regretted creating the human male? HE was talking about the HUMAN RACE.

Cheating is not a prerogative of any man. But the problem with the 21st century feminist is that she foolishly thinks what is good for the goose is good for the gander!

Sex takes place inside a woman. It is her vulva, her labia that gets parted open by man's probing stick. Whether gently or roughly is his prerogative. You even have to be well lubricated in order to take him in comfortably.

He finds his way deep down into your abyss
Where your tissues are raw and supper soft.
His entrance is an intrusion to your most delicate vulnerability.
He leaves you with a parting gift of little fluids that move and breathe.
They ll travel thru your very core, knitting themselves in your womb, changing your very substance. It is a part of him he just left inside of you.
You'll carry it for days but if it's journey is successful, you'll carry it for months, with a permanent change inwardly and outwardly. But he remains the same all this while, because he is a MAN.

GOD wasn't foolish that he never permitted women out of concessions to go into polyandry. HE is the author of sex not men.

I'd rather talk about those nails on your DP than go on with this truth which modern woman finds so unsettling.

Persephenee:
You forgot!

What could that be my mystery lady
Who appears when she will
like an unexpected rainbow over a clear sunny day?

wasak:
Lol. I'm getting over it.

You should brother, with a grateful heart. She was an evil Tsunami that was diverted from her course mid-way before full impact.

Get your heart and mind ready for a damsel who will go to bed each night thankin her GOD she crossed path with you.

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wasak:
My naive ex girlfriend fell for this, despite the pleadings from me. Seeing the guy frequently, placing his needs above mine and having the audacity to ask me, 'what'll you do if cheat on you?'. I hadn't the slightest idea that my love was contemplating the manifestation of my worst nightmare, and Alas, it came to pass, for there's nothing hidden under the sun, yours truly found out, I was shattered completely and I could feel pieces of my heart littered around each other, several weeks of insanity followed, for there were intervals where I subconsciously imagined my love professing love to someone else...tears flowed effortlessly, and pleas came from all angles for it is humane to err, it is also humane to forgive, perhaps it is beyond humane to forget, beyond humane to reconstruct the trust of 5 years that was so easily broken like a broomstick. Perhaps I'll get over this someday, but until then.... I'm shattered.

That was some heartless girl! She'll learn no doubt that sound relationships aren't built on lust.

joseph1832:
Which more often than not is as a result of pure lust or even greed.

Spot on!

BumBae:
Yh i will , cant have my mans emotions invested in anothers ..
I mean thats the whole point of dating right you have someone to chat to , share good times n bad times
So if he sharing with a female friend den we got a problem

True that

BumBae:
Most men are guilty of this ..
Women too

But see it in men more, married , engaged , haven't cheated but cheating emotionally ..
But postman can an individual dump the other for emotionally cheating ??

Who am I to say? But for me, if it pertains my relationship, I will.

Many consider emotional cheating just as bad if not worse.

Sexual cheating is only a ripe fruit from the seed of emotional unfaithfulness.

SAINTSAMURAI:
HMM the truth of the matter is a larger percentage of dating men are unfaithful emotionally, becaus these category of young guys are in that aspect of their lives where they tend to relate and have fun with both male and female thereby making them to be close to a particular supposed lady. its kind of difficult not to be emotionally unfaithful except for the married working class men that tends to know that being close bestie with a female can somehow cause emotional unfaithfullness to their partner, so these mature men tends to just have a male bestie friend at his work place and this male bestie must be married too thereby making their discussion to be about work and their married life. the female friend he did have are the hi and bye type. in all summary what im trying to make the reader undastand is that a larger percentage of young dating guys in colleges, their place of work are emotional cheaters, becaus of the pleasure of young friendship except those really mature ones that knows when to draw d line.

You have a point bro. Some women can be naive with the bestie thing of the opposite sex. But the guys most times, are silent, opportunistic predator, waiting for the right moment to strike.
But he can be doing all that without being emotionally connected to the lady.
But women are by far more prone to emotional unfaithfulness than guys.



Good morning bro.

IamLEGEND1:
Just wait for dem hoes that have a male 'bestie' to arrive. You go start start to dey see all kinds of fuckēd up logic.

Their messed up logic is their right sha, only that they're well adviced to keep it civil.

multikolour:
guy you are high on expired grounded kulikuli, please go to bed.

If being first to comment is a price
Then it's not worth striving for
You just made it a contest for fools
Where the greatest among them always win.
Accept my congratulations.




While I'm not here to make you feel guilty,
I intend to keep this thread beyond the reach of fools like you, for I heard romanceland has your type in abundance.
If you're an unfaithful he-goat, keep it on low profile and spare me the troubles of your wounded conscience. We are all sinners, but not everyone bears his sins on the sunlight of madness.

You will no doubt go with the donations of cheap "likes" from your kind, but i'll leave a dagger stuck in your weak heart as an engraved reminder that _postmann is deadly!!

Y'all aren't gonna like this!

Do you have an opposite sex as a best or close friend?


1--If yes, does your partner know the details or nature of your conversation with him/her?

2--Is there secret(s) between you that your partner knows nothing about?

3--If your partner was present, would your conversation with this person be the same?

4--Can you in all honesty describe your relationship with this person as "Just friends", strictly or mostly "Hi" and "bye"?

5--Do you find yourself dressing to please his/her taste? Is he or she the dominant thought in your mind whenever you dress and look yourself up in the mirror?


6--Do you find yourself having romantic thoughts about this person, even when lying side by side with your partner?

7--Do you look beyond your partner for emotional support? Relying on this person for emotional fulfilment?

8--Do you find your commitment and loyalty to your partner being compromised/threatened by your emotional and physical involvement with this person?

9--Are his/her suggestive words and flirtations not only welcomed, but sit deep within the burning embers of your erotic desire?


There's a saying; "where your heart goes, your steps soon follow"

If YES is the answer to ALL or MOST of the above in the questionnaire, then their is a good chance your relationship with the said person constitutes emotional unfaithfulness. You might already be involved in an emotional affair which could soon develop into a full blown physical affair. One way or another, we are all guilty.


N.B: This work is only an exposition on the impact of social media and the 21st century environment which makes cheating as easy as a simple text or phone call. It is not an act of judgment

byvan03:
Tell us about this respect every man can relate to, illustrate if you don't mind.

I said most men, not every man. It's too early for misrepresentation of statement.

As for your question; Under the subheading RESPECT, is a little narrative. Most mentally and emotionally balanced men can relate to that.

bukatyne:
@postmann

The point agenda is from your post, check your previous quote I responded to.

That your line no gel... Like byvan03 explained, respect connotes different things to different men.

Threads like first to greet, asking hubby to do chores, kneeling to greet, saying yes to everything, calling his friends uncle, submitting your salary, changing your phone number/signature etc. clearly shows that different strokes for different folks.

All that matters is knowing who you are marrying & run with it. If una style no flow, do u-turn or live with it.

Well I don't do blackmail. I say it as it is.

@Response time: don't mind us joor. Home & work. Thank God I am not a service provider

No post on the subject matter can address every facet of every individual man's preference of respect from his wife.

And clearly that was never the intention of my post. The intention was to address the basic or common acts of respect that most men can relate with. Not the extreme and strange examples you and your friend submitted which most men would find ridiculous!

" Again, what a wife may intend as respect in her actions and what a husband needs to feel respected can be two different things".

The above citation was an indication that respect is personal in perception. But without prejudice or sentinment most men will find a common ground with the illustrations of this post.

As for the bolded; it is wisdom to sift sentiments from facts.


You could have replied earlier if you had wanted to. Though I understand.

bukatyne:
So you are saying an average's man's concept of respect is
1. Respect
2. Sex
3. Food

Ok

Ah! Don't tell me that's your deduction from my well over 2 thousand words on the subject matter. That summation is obviously too simplistic, and draped in sarcasm, I fear.

bukatyne:
Sure this was to me?

Clearly, that wasn't an assertion; it was only an open invitation to explain what you meant by "I agree wives should respect their husbands however experiences has taught me respect means different things to different people." 

bukatyne:
I guess you mean most. Yes, I am a feminist. Again, that has nothing to do with feeling you are a misogynist. I have non-feminist friends whom I do not see misogynist tendencies in them.

Like I said, my opinion.

Your opinion is your fundamental right.

But;

"Misogyny" is cheaply the most common blackmail employed to debunk the truth about feminism.


Your responce time is a little strange.

byvan03:
OK _postmann let me do this later, my head is spinning .

You won't believe I've been waiting ever since in the hopes that you would have put out the results of your experiment.

Or should I give up?

cionon:
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Those I mentioned and for to all who commented. I didnt want to state my reason for saying such in the first page so that people won't accuse me of giving so much info. I wanted to also see people's comment and advice without sentinment or pity for me and then make my decision.

I have weighed the options made my decison.

MY REASON for saying such to my husband

Reasons I talked about magun was because on our first year wedding anniversary. My husband wasn't home from Thursday till Monday. He spent the whole days with his mistress. He even told me to my face. Then thats when I said he should be grateful I still have a heart. That if not I 'll do magun and tie them both then snap the lady and put up her pix since she won't leave my husband alone. But I quikly told him but I can't do that. That no matter how badly he treats me I will never go the diabolic ways

No one knew my husband wasn't home. I still put up our pix on BBM and pple wished me HWA. But deep down I wasn't celebrating it. I faked all the smiles and told them my husband and I would go out in the night. He didn't even come home at all

I didn't even tell my sisters of any close friends. Up till today. It was only his mum I called to tell her son to return home and his cousin that was with us at the time it happened. It was later I got to know why he was angry and decided to spend our wedding anniversary with his mistress was because I called his mistress to leave us alone for me and my husband to solve our issues. She and my husband kept talking about our home.

Everything said here is nothing but the truth. I didn't add and I didn't subtract.

Thank you all for the advice. Decison made. So I will stand by it. So help me God

You erred when you made that magun threat, even though it was an empty one. He could have read some meanings into it. In his thoughts, he might have said someday you might carry out your threat. He could have told his mistress who would have further heightened his fears that someday, when you can't stand it anymore, you might be forced to magun them both!!! You've even called the mistress to warn her!


No cheating man and his mistress who are not about to quit their evil ways will sleep soundly after hearing that.


But your narratives proved one thing ; your husband isn't ready yet to stop cheating.

So, my advice is same. You must pray and pray hard! Did you guys marry in the traditional way? If yes, then you're properly married before GOD, man and spirit.

Fear not. What is yours will come back to you. Let that be your prayer point. Let what is yours come back to you and let every hand that tries to separate what GOD has joined together in your marriage be broken.

Good luck again.


N:B I'm sorry I'm only just replying. I didn't get the mention, you typed postman instead of _postmann. YOU omitted an "n"