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aforti:
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Why I say it's petty it's because if you want a woman without dents of history then create 1.

aforti:
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My question is, she tells you everything then what? Hope you will also tell her how many girls you have asked to abort for you?. How many times you have masturbated in your life b4 meeting her. You will tell her how girls you still fancy in your mind even as your preparing to marry her.

aforti:
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All I see is pettiness, purposeless individuals always looking for ways to make life complex for themselves. Bite me OP you are disspeakabley petty...

mimzy:
Never has there been a time in history when so much is being expected from women.

She's expected to be a housewife who manages the affairs of the home with love, care, understanding, wisdom , God bless her and she's unlucky to have a man that doesn't like house helps, she has to go the market on her own, buy foodstuffs, comes back home exhausted, she still has to cook for the family, clean up the kitchen afterwards, serve everyone, and do the dishes after (assuming her children are not of age yet).

At times, when little issues abound, the husband will even complain that the meal is tasteless after all these efforts just to get back at her!!!

She's expected to be a mother to nurse and care for her children and see to their needs. If she is still a nursing mum, she has to wake up nothing less than two times in the middle of the night to feed her baby I.e if her baby isn't too demanding .She wakes up very early in the morning. , bathes her children, dress them up, feed them and she takes them to school before taking care of herself. At times, the husband helps in taking the kids to school but the onus falls on her most times.She has to help them with assignments (if they are grown) from school when they get back in the evening.

She's a wife to satisfy her husband's need emotionally, physically and spiritually. Most men would never take no for an answer!!

You wonder why she's too tired to even initiate love making? It is because she is too exahuasted!!

You wonder why she doesn't even bother to dress in a sexy nightie just to arouse you?? It is because all that is on her mind is just " God, please let me just get some few hours sleep before dawn and I start my crazy schedules"

She forgoes her favorite TV channels just so you and the children can switch between ESPN and Cartoon Network

She's a career woman who has to pursue her own dreams and make sense out of her gifts and talents and life's aims.

She's a professional who must balance her professional obligation with that of her family duties. She has to make out time to visit your family especially else she will be tagged as rude,proud,not well trained...to say but few

Your friends will come and disturb the few hours she has to herself during weekends and she musy make them feel at home. Haba!!!

And she must satisfy all these convincingly in a world where so much is expected from the modern woman.

If she neglects the family a bit for her career, she's called a bad wife. If she sacrifices her career and job for the family she is tagged a lazy woman or "ordinary" house wife.

What does the modern society really want from women of today because I just don't get it? Is it until we lay our lives down in the line before our efforts are acknowleged
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Knightngale:
your sister in law

Knightngale:
you know me

But it doesn't matter, just respond.

Knightngale:
Full disclosure is important particularly when into a serious/committed relationship.



There are no male virgins? A man who has never had sex is what? @_postmann

bukatyne:
Male virgins don't exist?

Anything to justify male immorality

aforti:
So she tells you about Every thing then what nxt?.






All I see is pettiness every where

God help please

nnamdibig:
I don't think I will be asking my wife to be to tell me how many guys she has slept with. So far I didn't meet her as a runs girl, that highly unnecessary. I will only ask of the ones I know of(may be if ex is calling or anything like that).

joseph1832:
And that is the hypocrisy of the typical nigerian man. I know this type of men. Some of them are the ones who even crave virgin girls as wives when their own virginity can be compared to that of a randy he-goat.

Girls who hide their sexual past from their spouse do so at their own detriment. Any man who truly likes/loves them will look past her past travails.

joseph1832:
To me, I see such thing like how many sexual partners my would be spouse had been with as sincerely not my business. All I care about is if she will be a good wife to me, and a good mother to our kids.

Her past is entirely not my business because what so ever she did then, as long as it is not a criminal offense according to the nigerian constitution, I don't really give a rats pen1s.

Acidosis:
A Facebook Queen is a "don't-go-area" for me. I mean, a girl who gets 300 likes on one photo, 4000 friends, of which 3940 are males! Ah!

Woged2005:
I hate to read when men come on this forum to lament this and that about what they passed trough with some ladies, when they saw these signs but still remained naive. What did they expect?

1). Dating a Facebook Queen
When you have a girlfriend whose permanent home is FaceBook and Whatsapp. She’s always online from 5am to 1:30am every day. She claims she’s either charging her phone and forgot to log out or she only reads educational posts but don’t chat with men. Ol boy, the chase for greener pastures have shifted ground. Who doesn’t like to get Moneygram and western Union money transfers these days especially from a long distance ‘Mugu’. But it only shocks me you believed her lies.

2. If You Don’t Give Her Money, Dude, You Will Lose Her
Who told you there’s a Nigerian girl who doesn’t love money? Do you wonder why educated girls are willing and ready to either be the fourth and Fifth baby-mama of a rich celebrity out-of-wedlock or marrying their rich ‘grandfathers’ but yet won’t settle with their long-time boyfriends with average income? Dude, If you don’t give them money you will soon lose out. Na u sabi which girl doesn't like money.

3. Taking Her As A Saint. Saints Indeed!
You met a pretty girl the first time at a restaurant and she introduced herself as a born-again student, a banker, or a civil servant etc who just broke up with her boyfriend of 4yrs (the only man she’s ever slept with) yet you took her to a hotel only 30 minutes after introducing yourself as either a rich bizman, a senior banker or from abroad. Within the next two hours you are already on top of her making love and even convincing her to spend the night with you (a total stranger) yet you are keeping her as a fiancé? Dude, she just cheated on her boyfriend with you and you expect her to be faithful to you? Wake up!

4. Her Phone Habit Tells You All You Need To no
She’s with you, her phone rings every minute, she either refuses to take the calls, or just keep responding “yes”, “No”, “Same here”, “Ok”, or even switch off her phone to avoid in-coming calls. But convinces you they are calls from her mom, uncle or boss. Wake up dude, there are many of you. You are probably number 13 on the list.

If you chose to waste your time and money, stop lamenting and face your mistakes!

joseph1832:
Lol. And the Knight has thus released his sword from its sheath. Let blood spill...

joseph1832:
Well just a harmless guess. And did I read you say it shouldn't be a do or die affair?

Dude please, when no cash prize was involved it was a tug of war, now there's 50k at stake what do you think will happen?

Bro, the real e-war has just begun.

joseph1832:
_Mimzy? I just hope she got this all figured out though, bro, when it comes to this, monikers here can play very dirty.

When the campaign thread begins, then the real sh1t starts. Right now, if she knows what's up, she should start working on her team of campaigners, and choose a campaign manager. Cos when sh1t starts flying, emotions get splattered...

joseph1832:
It doesn't. All the matters is accepting and contesting.

Its a tedious process though... And fun.

joseph1832:
OK.

joseph1832:
I nominate demigoddess, the goddess who smeared postmann with love the dude became a mailmann. Lol.

www.nairaland.com/demigoddess

Cc: dygeasy.

Acidosis:
That's very true. Aside the biological implications, it also carries alongside, emotional and spiritual consequences.

Women hardly forget their exes (especially those they had intercourse with). That's the perspective of Okafor's theory, it is very easy to sleep with an ex than a stranger. That's the emotional aspect of sexual intercourse.

As regards the spiritual aspect, that's a story for another day.

If humans can contract HIV, TB through sex, then there is more than meets the eye.

bukatyne:
I have always known that unprotected sex/sex outside marriage/sex with multiple partners does not bode well spiritually and health-wise for men and women.

Whatever other findings science does is just an icing on the cake.

marvelck:
COPIED:

I am not a relationship counselor oooo, but a Facebook friend of mine sent this to me and said I should put it on Nairaland and ask you guys what he should do.
So here it is.
"There is this lady, we dated back then in school, I think we loved each other very well. We dated for long but no sex nor kisses.. We only hug once. Something happened she got married, she invited me to all her wine carrying and Always kept me specially in her father's sitting room n attended to me personally. On her wedding day she also invited me but I declined and decided to cut off with her. She did too and we moved on after that she called n called and I didn't pick her calls for years . So recently, I did my white wedding and decided to invite her.
She came and I was surprised. I saw she looked good and gave me nice gift. But after that day she started calling me three days and I told her let's meet since I was still around town. We agreed on venue and she showed up. We talked and talked about past and family. She has three children now and finished giving birth according to her. In short, we did something nasty things that day like serious touching although no sex. Since then that day she calls and has refused to stop calling me when I refused to return her calls too. Asking to see me again and to visit me since my wife is not with me presently. She also Quarreled me cuz I didn't call her. Honestly i am confused.. Don't know what to do ooo"

joseph1832:
You make a decision and you don't look back!. Whatever it is, don't look back.


One can have an unclean conscience when one start listening to voices telling him/her that the deeds done by them is wrong.

Such a thing is very common with the christian faith of today.

joseph1832:
Really? Fill me in please.

joseph1832:
Funny you didn't see the reddened ^^^^

KINGinVALHALA3:
Hehehehehe, you might be surprise, but definitely not me. I was expecting such from the knights and they just proved with the registering of this moniker and subsequently displaying their stupidity all over nairaland that I have succeeded in infiltrating their lives.

If you all thinks opening a kinginwahala moniker is gonna get me, I would advice you all go back to your sleeps.

cc synzu , lez , thesonofman , postman , knightx

joseph1832:
Its one thing for one to think he is superior to animals, and its another for one to believe and act like his superior to animals.

I rest my case bruv.

joseph1832:
Ah yes, believe me those men didn't live life. Living life to the fullest means no regret. Whatever one does, no regrets.
Different shades of women and numerous luxury without a clean clear conscience often pave way for falsehood and regret.

joseph1832:
You speak as if every mortal man conform to the doctrines of the christian God.

But never forget, we too are animals.