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You are right but the people commenting above forgot to mention that He's somebody's future husband, its only the lady's immorality they were complaining about that's why I helped them to complain about the man.

KardinalZik:
...and someboby's future wife (and mother)

And you would be one of his devoted church members

romeorails:
Mark my words today, that guy is destined to be a pastor

Who is he? Hell fire candidate? Abi is he applying?

imitateMe:
You still don't understand who a man really is.

That is somebody's future husband.

Only you

Papiikush:
Can't wait to find the right lady

She must be beautiful, caring, rich, intelligent, very good in bed and kitchen. Anne

Op, am not a feminist. My problem is I hate injustice, I can't stand it nor would I encourage a man to remain with a wife that cheats on him, beats him, lies to him, refuses to take care of the family etc I would tell him to run, the society would tell him to run, his family would tell him to run. But if a.woman in the same situation decides to live, the society, her family, friends etc would be against her, they would start calling her all sorts of names. That's unjust. Even the examples you made in your write up were all men cheating on their wives. Had it been it was the woman that cheated you would have encouraged divorce.

He's probably at home sleeping peacefully. Why would he advice someone to go and continue suffering! Now she's dead she spent her last days on earth suffering, who would take care of her children. The husband might be out of prison in a few years time (depending on his lawyer)

megareal:
I always have problems with people who persuade a wife to return to an abusive home. Now where is the pastor who told her to return. I hope he is satisfied?

if you do that men would start setting ladies up solely to molest them.

konjinus:
Instead of beatin am

Make we dey molest ladies wey thief or do somtin

Click like if u agree

Click share if u dont

Am looking for money to buy land and some people are using money for but lift. How would she walk when it gets old.

Why? So that he can kill her with beating?

SageTravels:
Op advice them to go back to their husband

Beautiful. You get sense.

thorpido:
You should make out time to spend some days with her.You will find out all you need to know then.

I can tolerate you on the condition that am allowed to cheat too.

moreyoulook:
you mean you cant tolerate me? too bad

I cannot tolerate a cheating husband, if he cheats he better not let me find out.

Thank you

sainty2k3:
The lesson is clear, I wonder what the people above me are saying. Ladies, Be careful before you follow any man to the hotel, he might have epilepsy ,or other medical conditions, . if he died while you two are alone you will be in a big trouble

I doubt any counseling would solve that woman's problem, she enjoy's who she is and she's not going to change it's the op that needs to change I.e stop caring so much.

PaperLace:
This is what happens when you try to do the job of a therapist.

Marriage is not a rehabilitation centre for dysfunctional people _ don't go marrying people with the plans of changing them in marriage.

I pity the innocent kids you brought into all this, such emotional trauma from a mother that should be loving. I won't say you should divorce her, but I am very concerned about the well being of your kids. The way she lashes out at them with insults isn't good for their psyche. I am sure you know that. You owed them the duty of getting he best mum, something you've failed on. You might wanna consider removing them from that environment for the time being _till you fix the mess you created.

Encourage her to go for counselling, something you should have advised her to do 11yrs ago, instead you put a ring on it.
That woman needs to heal.

Google narcissistic personality and there you would find your answer, and you would know exactly how to live with her

lisbonabdulahi:
Hello Nairalanders, please I need you advice before I finally end this marriage.
I know I was at fault at the beginning for not stamping my authority , I showed her so much love, because she is a product of a broken home, I wanted her to know there is much more to life, now she has turned my love to foolishness, I do not want my kids to grow up without a father. That is why I have been very patient, but now … please read on.

I have been married for 11 years, with 4 kids. The truth is that we have never had really peace in the home for these years, everything is trouble, from the way I talk, eat, dress, use the toilet and sleep, just name them. The situation has been bad from the beginning, but the last three years has been hell for me and the kids, my wife shouts and complain over everything, she cannot go one full day with Joy, there is always one thing that annoys her, she has to be right on all issues, The very sad part is that whenever she does anything wrong and I ask her, there will be trouble, she will refuse to speak with me for as long as she like. We can go for weeks without really speaking with each other she enjoys it, she does not just bother at all. Each time these things happen, I am always the one that try to initiate peace.

I will like to give only one example to summarise everything going on in my home: two years ago, she will just leave the home without telling me, I called her and told her it is not right, she replied me promptly that it is her life, I can’t control her, and it is my life as well, I should do whatever I like with it. well I thought it was anger, however, I never mind, anytime I want to leave, I make sure I tell her till one day she called me and tell me that even if I keep informing her about my movements, that she is not going to change, she is not under any obligation to tell me where she is going to. My people, for two years counting now, that is how we have been doing it, we just leave without telling each other. BUT OCCASSIONALLY FOR SOME REASONS I DON’T KNOW, SHE WILL JUST TELL ME SHE IS GOING OUT TO XYZ.

She always insults me and even the kids, for any mistake they make and she never fails to tell them that they did not inherit their bad character from her, that they inherited their character from me, she says this consistently even when I am there. There is no insult she has not poured on me, I have had to explain to her mother severally but the woman is simply helpless, her mother is dead scared of her. She exhibited some of these characters during our two years of courtship, but her mother and some brethren advised that she will change after marriage. She is always complaining of being tired, meanwhile, I do the dishes, do the vacuuming (sweeping), cleaning and other domestic duties, even when she cooks, I have to cut the ingredients and all that, in short she rarely cooks. We sleep in different rooms for 4 years counting now, occasionally I try to go to her room to initiate sex, but 99% of cases she chase me away, sometime she locks her door. She stopped me from sleeping in same room with her, when I asked why, shy did not say anything but after 4 months she said it was because I was snoring at night. Trust me anytime I am opportune to make love to her I make sure she climaxes…

It is so bad that even her sisters sometimes rebuke her in my presence, presently, she is not in talking terms with any of her siblings, and this has been on for the past three years. I am stuck with this lady, her mother cannot talk to her, no family member she respects. She is a loner.
To the extent that she makes friends and they always break up, she has no real close friends, even if they are close, trust me, before 6 months the relationship has gone sour.

So what you are saying is if your wife cheats on you, you would endure and warn her sternly behind closed to be discreet In her affairs

alexialin:
Na wa!

Tonto fucvk up sha.


Even when kanye west sang on one of his songs that he had fuçvked one popular female musician abroad , Kim over looked it and marriage goes on. And I bet she warned kanye in closed doors to be careful and discreet with his side chicks .
Even when Jayz cheated on Beyonce , they had a rough patch initially , and Beyonce sister attack jay Z with blows in an elevator but at the end Beyonce still made up her mind to stil keep her home but warned jayz to be discreet with his affairs .
I wonder when will Nija celebs under this fact and just try and keep their marriage , especially when the guilty party is sober and want the marriage to work.

And these two women Beyonce and Kim kardasian are two of amongst the most sexiest women alive, worldwide . Sought after by so many men round the world .
But they still stood by their cheating husband's.

I know its very painful when one cheats on his or her companion . but hey live goes on . seat your partner dwn talk about it and give him or her another chance.

Thats my view sha

Lucky you.

warripekin:
U don't have to believe me. It sounds incredible to be true but it's my experience. I have not even told the complete story but that's by the way. Oh she made attempts to come back but it was too late by then. Her best friend wanted to take over but I wasn't caught out for their bile any more.

1) your story is hard to believe
2) if your story is true, then you must be rich
3) sorry if she treated you badly but nemesis would catch up with her.

warripekin:
I met this girl back in the day. Everything checked out right with her and I believed I had finally found my lost rib. It started with debt, she claimed she was owing a woman 150k and that the woman was on her neck ,so she pleaded with me to help her pay and without hesitation I wired the money to her. A week later she she posted different hair types on my wassap wall and their prices with the cheapest at 80k. when I asked her what the post meant she said she urgently needs to fix her hair and that she needs like 200k . I objected at first but she started this emotional blackmail thing by saying; Don't u want ur baby to look nice? so after much pressure I wired 180k to her to go get a new set of weavon. A week later,I noticed if I don't call her she won't call me or when she calls we may end up quarrelling. A day came she brought up this idea of starting up a small business so that she won't be asking me money all the time and when I inquired about the business she gave me a bill of 600k. I told her u don't expect me to wire 600k to u just like that. I asked her to explain what the business is all about and if I'm convinced I will give her the money. Then she came up with one story like that about gas supply and the profitability level. After much argument back and forth, I gave her the 600k. Barely a week later she came up with a story about how her ex saw her at the bus stop and collected her phone from her and that she should come to his house and collect her phone . From the direction she was going I knew she wanted me to buy a new phone for her and when I asked what phone do u need to buy she said iPhone 4. Then ipone4 was being sold at about 120k for a new one so without baiting an eye lead, I went into zenith bank and transferred 130k to her . Two weeks later, during easter we were meant to spend the easter together but somehow she just found one excuse to be away from me . when I call her, she wouldn't take my calls but send message later that she will call me which she would never do. A week after easter, she sent me text one night around 1130 pm that she lost her phone I bought like two weeks earlier. In the morning of the following day she called more than twenty times before I finally picked her calls and she was crying on phone ,apologising to me . I asked her to come see me at my office and within 30 minutes she was already troubling my secretary. When we met, I took her to shoprite where I got her a brown new iPhone 5 that was just launched in Nigeria. Well to cut the long short, after I blew over 1.5 million naira on her within a span of 3 months she told me to my face she doesn't love me . I said ok and let her go.

Wow

xtremeTall:
I Apply as a teacher in a school she teaches....meanwhile i am an aiforce personnel

Interesting. But I do not agree with you.

KealDrogo:
Interracial marriage shouldn't be encouraged. There's a reason why God created humanity in different races, each with its own distinctive features,colours, culture and heritage. Humans have to preserve their unique diversity and be proud of their heritage, we should stop mingling with other races as this will kill off our identity. That's why mixed race children (mulattos) are the most confused set of people, they don't know which race they belong to, with no sense of identity to be proud of. All thanks to their selfish parents.
I see those who engaged in interracial marriages as people who lack self worth and suffering from low self-esteem.

What do the Fulani's want? I don't understand please explain.

What do the Fulani's want? I don't understand please explain.

QueenOfNepal:
What are we going to do about all these useless killer herdsmen

What do the Fulani's want? I don't understand please explain.

sarrki:
Fulani herdsmen men wahala tire me ooooo

Lucky you. Some people never get to talk to their crush

olatunji21:
It stil took one year before we get going pretty well... We enjoyed an absolutely sensational friendship for two years bt she wasn't interested in a r/ship as at then... She's now with an amazing guy and we stil get to tok occasionally...

I think she liked you. Why else would she wait for 30mins.

olatunji21:
Lolz... So their was this girl i was crushing on.. The whole class got to know about her through some parrot frds of mine.. I never entered her class because of shyness but i know literarily everything she does because i had spys' in her class... On a faithful monday, a frd dared me or vice versa and she threatened to call this girl for me... I wan form big boy na, i dared her back.. Anyways, she called the girl and she came to my class, straight up to where i was sitting dat someone said i wanted to see her when school closes... I nearly died... After closing na, i stayed up(in class) for more than 30mins, so she can go her way... Baba, when i come outside, this girl was still waiting for me... God, it took several courage and taunts from my frds b4 i could make that step.. As soon as i got to her, she was like, Why do u want to see me... I became deaf and dumb again... i was just looking for a way out...

Dat day no funny at all...

Did he survive the jump

IpobExposed:
I can never surprise my wife like this except my mom is dead.
I love my mom than anything else.


in other new man jumps from MTN mass to confirm his magic powers


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QG88zM9P7j8

3weeks It takes me a year to get over someone

thanki410:
The truth right?
Unblock her from every channel, and let your mind let her go and not your social chat sites alone
.... Live her alone, stopping checking on what shes doing, best is , three weeks and shes off your mind....
Go out bro , go to new places, do new things , these would help you, and since you said you are a multi millionaira, i willl be sending my account , i am not yet a multi..

Instead of dumping the poor baby in the bush, she should have kept the child in front of the child's father's house with a letter explicitly stating that he is the father. Then she should run away.

God would bless you. You go marry better husband. Don't mind those hypocrites, as if its only women that go clubbing. If all men had closed their legs and said no sex till marriage then there would have been plenty female virgins for them to marry.

asdfjklhaha:
So you men that go to night clubs, and rubbish yourselves with hundreds of girls and come back with lots of STDs who do you expect to marry you?

Why are Nigerian men so hypocritical in nature. They sit and castigate anything girls do when they themselves do worse.

If you detest clubs then stop going there. Leave the girls there for men who want to marry them.
And for the records, I don't go to clubs.

Then why did he go ahead to post it.

pdppower:
It might just be accidental. He might mean nothing