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goslowgoslow:
Before I respond properly to this your epistle please show me where the guy asked for sex .

You must think you're smart. Like I said, wallow in pretence. In this Nigeria, let me see thirty men who will enter relationships without wanting sex.

Nazgul:
The truth is these days, so many people go into relationships with ulterior motives.

Girls want money not love.

Guys want sex not love.

At the end, the weaker party gets hurt. That's the reality about relationships in this our generation.

Girls start off wanting love and getting deceived. Deceit makes them hard and some make sure they collect money so as not to be duped totally. But right from the start many guys have NEVER wanted love, only sex.

goslowgoslow:
Sex is part of relationship both side enjoy it.
A lady asking a man at first instance if he can take of him is a sign of low esteem.

A man asking a woman for sex must also be a person of low virtue.

Sex is enjoyed by both partners but even at its request a woman is already regretting because of the heavy moral expectations our society has on women. If after sex there is no marriage, she will carry the cross of being seen as used. If she gets pregnant from the sex, she will be the one to be stigmatized. If the man is immature and tells everyone, she will be the one to be shamed.

If the relationship is serious, and the man is to be seen as breadwinner and potential leader of the family, how is it bad to ask about his ability to provide. A relationship where both of you never discussed finances and how you will pay bills or prepare, is it serious? Are both people in such a relationship really planning a future, or just planning to have sex and pass time? So if tomorrow the woman married him and finds out he's not capable and she never asked in the relationship stage, won't she be the one to be blamed?

goslowgoslow:
Did he ask for sex? Birds of same feathers....

Keep wallowing in pretence. Sex that you would later initiate.

Nazgul:
Lol. This post is so funny.

The truth is everyone (guys and girls) want to outsmart the other in every promising relationship.

The girl wants to milk the guy, the guy wants to have sex with the girl. Who ever beats the other to it, calls him/her a mugu.

That's how damaged relationship is these days.

They don't want her to ask for money, but they want her to accept premarital sex.

StillDtruth:
See cover up, twisting, lying and deflection. No where did i say that men's cheating is a aet up but i understand you need to cover up your exposure else all your plans and moves which you make against men are scattered and destroyed

'And a cheat with a man who won't cheat, sets up the man to cheat like this guy'

The highlighted part of your post speaks for itself.

StillDtruth:
Eh eh ehn! Don't join the issues.

You women cheat and love to cheat because you love sex and variety just like men (including other purposes)

And a cheat with a man who won't cheat, sets up the man to cheat like this guy

https://www.nairaland.com/6524069/wifes-sister-crash-marriage#101125615

https://www.nairaland.com/5821527/wifes-sister-wants-me-sleep#88936489

Common the girl in the street the wife noticed is it now the one in the house?

If men cheat, it is a set up, if women cheat, it is out of their bad nature

No problem.

StillDtruth:
You people think you are joking when you say women and Satan are 5 and 6.

Women are eviil.

It is True, if you are too God fearing and righteous and blessed women will not like you and if they date/marry you they would try to change you.

And if they are not successful, then they would set you up and frustrate you to cheat so that you would become dirty like them.

And if that does not work, then its bye bye end of relationship and marriage.

Women are so evil that they do not key with righteous men!

Wow so women can set up and frustrate men into cheating, but if women cheat, y'all will say we have no excuse.

illicit:
It's just food

They are just hungry

Which warrants stealing a co workers food every day? I'm baffled by how little you take this.

You mean you don't see the wickedness? The person that labored to pack the food, goes home hungry every day! Even if the thief is hungry, is that not a wicked way to sate their hunger?

If the reptilians control these things, what about God, or all those small deities people worship? Are you saying they don't exist?

Staying a virgin till marriage is the best decision. Premarital sex isn't worth it. But unless your spiritual strength is high, and you have strong forces behind you, don't ever announce your status to any man or woman. They will make sure you lose it. Happy birthday.

illicit:
Exactly what I mean

If u could put laxative in food, you would put poison too, that's my point


U really want to kill someone who stole food?


FOOD 😲

If it is just FOOD, why didn't the other worker buy her own food. Since it's just food. Or you are saying that the owner shouldn't be pained.

She should keep going home hungry and being happy with the thief.
After all, it's just food.

It is very pretty.

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You mean the way my uncle used to introduce women to our family. But never marry them.

Men dey frustrate women for this life sha. My dad said that a woman's life is a life of disappointment and I understand now. Women just be on their own and men will come and be deceiving them. Claiming the reason is because they love lies. 😂

tflepper:
What would your own weird act be🤦🏻‍♂️

Are you trying to imply that I was abused?

Zonefree:
The lady used him as backup plan.


A lady that can't date you in school but accept to marry you after school is not the right one for you.


They won't teach you this in school.

Yeah.

School relationship where the girls will be collecting abortion, heartbreak and drama from some small boys that are up for sex and not ready to get married, boys that are still building themselves. Help me ask how many women that fell victim to school relationships have been able to rebuild their lives as a result of those same useless demonic school relationships. Tell me how many of them married and good things came out of it.

99% of girls had university relationships in their so called hoe phase, tell me what they gained except those school boys using them as clout 'I have slept with her' or 'theres no virgin in Nigeria again'. What is in the useless school relationship for most women? Something that only one percent of them will turn out sensible. How many of the broken ones will you guys compensate. You just want to go on fvcking spree.

The effect is so known and bad that when you enter in 100 level your lecturers will be warning in class that such relationships don't go anywhere. They have seen the results severally!

Abeg make we rest! What is the advantage of school relationships? Better don't come with that lie of 'building with him' because we all know those guys turn around to say that you did not contribute anything to their success during the 'building'. They will later say there is NOTHING like building during school days, the girl suffered with them and they also suffered with the girl. Just wan chop for free. Alaijékuje.

Someone probably abused him when he was little. People who were abused come out with these weird tendencies that they are seemingly unable to control themselves. He needs mental rehab and a psychiatrist.

Coming out now and looking like the pervert when he's probably a victim himself. Still, doesn't justify his actions. He needs to be off the streets for the children's innocence and safety to be intact.

Magnoliaa:
Purple speedy as how? 😂😂😂

Lol Magnoliaa it was probably just an attempt at flattery.

Mrtaye:
Are you purple speedy

Lol not at all.

Even with things being hard, if misunderstandings reach that level, then divorce is better than cheating to fend. Just leave cleanly and openly. Give it a few years before dating around again.

That's great 👍🏽, I'm really happy she could pull through!

Sometimes you actually do something and don't realize the depth or repercussions until years later, especially when you are very young. It happens.

I bet if she got the chance to go back into the past and never make that money, never become famous, never do the acts, she would accept it.

Wherever we have erred, let God forgive us all and continue to give us chances for as long as we are alive. And may God also put repentance in our hearts, and the strength and will to change.

May God forgive and unburden the heaviness in her heart that she feels based on her actions.

The best thing is to avoid both fornication and money. If guys don't want any demand for money, they should also not demand for sex. Both are inappropriate demands that result from a higher desire for fornication from the man.

How did they do it in the past? The girl stays chaste while the man brings gifts for her and her family and visits/helps the family, to show his intentions. If you ask a modern man to do that, he won't want to, he wants to 'test' first, and yet complains afterwards that his generation is full of used women.

Two ways for a woman to gain...

Option 1 - Follow the advice of the sprinkle sprinkle lady, shera7.

Option 2 - Follow the narrow and hard path. That is, no money demanded, and no premarital sex. Let any man that calls himself decent and yet cannot agree to this go. He should be investigated by you and your family to see if he's a decent and capable person to marry. Time should be set for marriage if he is vetted successfully. If you succeed at this particular method, without cutting any corners, the marriage may likely be a very respectable and peaceful one at the end of the day, because it was conducted with all morals and respect, nobody degraded themselves.

All men here trying to disgrace, discredit or blame the woman. They don't want to see their fellow man being humiliated on social media.

I'm glad she rejected the offer though, that's wise of her.

optm:
why should an adult woman not have her own money in this first place ? What i am trying to point out is that your reason for wanting women to have their money is to get respect from their husbands. Most women with this kind of mindset often go into marriages and start rubbing off shoulders with their man.
As per one not knowing the character of their partner in dating , most times the signs are there but you are not paying attention to them. If we say he is dating you and pretending to be what he is not to you, why don't you pay attention to how he treats others that he's likely not pretending to?
In dating , don't just look at how your partner treats and relates with you; pay attention to how he also treats and relates with others and if there is a contrast in character , then he is most likely pretending.

I stated in my reply that part of the reason is to be respectable and independent as an individual but you are worried about how the woman will rub shoulders.

Deception is inevitable in life so it's good if a woman has financial protection in case she's a victim. That's my point, not rubbing shoulders with any man.

Success has friends.

AndrewTate:
this is the exact logic that has crumbled marriages and will do worse. When a larger percentage of women tend to come up with solutions to issues like this the end results are always chaotic.
Normally, a woman’s fundamental expenses should be catered for by her father and mother till she gets married. But people get married before they’re ready for reasons I consider very stupid, only to struggle all their lives and cause disruption to the alignment of nature, having females take on masculine traits because they have to cater for themselves as adults which is wrong.
Women cannot fend for their needs in society without letting go of a part of their femininity replaced with masculinity which becomes a problem when it comes to pairing with the opposite gender…these are the traits men find disgusting or just can’t deal with, and it’s the same reason “self made” women find it very difficult to stick to a partner.
On the other hand it’s just so sad that a young woman has no choice but to de-feminize herself just to be able to do what her parents couldn’t do for her because they got married without being ready for the journey…it’s really sad.

To the men especially, never get married until you’re ready no matter how long it takes. The journey is not about you or your mother that wants a grandchild but about the future of your linage. Look ahead!

So what then is the solution to financial abuse from men who earn it all in the marriage? Men who will insult and control women because they don't have anything doing? Is it not best for a woman to have a job to avoid all these?