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43Ronin:
Tiwari savage you are 50 years grow d fúck up

Just because she did not put herself in a bottle, cover herself with a shroud and grow truly old and miserable in the shadows, you are telling her to 'grow up'. She didn't start wearing clothes like rice bags and become a begging private show for young men to secretly view her in her apartment, after paying those young men to. She didn't shroud herself for one man only to be at his mercy and his slave only opened for his pleasure.

When do MEN grow up anyway? Which clothes differentiate young men from old men? At what age do men stop showing off their chest, living a life style of the young and also chasing young women. Never, abi? You guys are forever young. Always to be wined and dined by young women. Claiming that women age like milk while men age like wine.

Yet when you see women that also never age, you shame them into the shadows. You know what, I think this is all an agenda. An agenda that women would be controlled and inferior, while you men are young forever, doing as you like, shining, and living as you please.

You don't like the idea that women can live forever young and freely as you.

AntiZikist:
She no fine.

Highest a 4/10

Milf status is even worse . I will give her a 2/10 as a milf

I doubt that a 2 over 10 will ever win beauty pageants or even sniff number three position, and if she was bribing the officials, notoriety would have spread years ago. People would have debunked the myth.

I'm an average woman. No way, even with wigs and what not, can anybody hype me to the level I'm not. People are not blind.

And for it to reach this level - there must truly be some of that beauty. It's not possible for her to be lauded on her beauty all across the land if she isn't, even with juju. No way.

AntiZikist:
Which brain?

And why do you think northern women are not intelligent ?

I have met some very intelligent northern women who are professionals (Doctors, lawyers and even Engineers).

Being conservative and humble doesn't make them stupid .

I believe in northern women. However, why not elevate them without trying to ride on, or diminish the esteem in which Bianca is seen. They can all shine together.

You don't need to try and make Bianca a stool for them to stand on and be seen.

hkidola00:
reason is they have and show pride below 25, they hardly respect or answer you as a guy

Toh so na low key punishment.

BluntCrazeMan:
There are relationships and marriages like that.

((A situation where the lady just got totally zero-classed -- Such a lady has no say in anything))

If it's a situation where the woman is totally looked down upon and intimidated because she chose money and has nothing, I'd still blame not only the woman, but the man. The man, because he saw what he was picking, willingly picked it, and now, decided to silence and belittle a woman with nothing, whom he picked with his sane mind.

The woman, I would blame for not having any small business before going in with her so called rich partner. As a woman it's good to have your own money, not even for the independent woman stuff, but with that, it will be easy to cope and not live in fear, as you know you can survive if the guy decides to boot you out or mistreat you. You build a little before going after the rich man.

Here guys are just going off at women saying they'll mistreat them simply for hearing that a woman should go for financial stability. Any man that goes crazy once he hears about women picking money without caring to know what sort of deal it is, is actually a scared man that doesn't even want to do anything. A lot of men that act like that don't want to do anything and they want to marry and have kids without any financial improvement which is unfair to any woman and most especially the innocent kids that will come into that union.

DeeScan:
woman , you can't have your cake and eat it .. it's either a traditional styled marriage/ relationship or a westernized one .. No mix up ..

Whichever it is, you may be able to throw whatever you like at your dependent partner but the fact that you are earning the major pay in the house doesn't make it right.

Nothing like 'eat your cake and have it', you knowingly chose the girl that wanted financial stability, then you don't abuse her rights. Anything like second wife or whatever will be agreed on beforehand.

BluntCrazeMan:
If I set rules that guides me and my conducts with people around me,, it means that not anybody can come very close to me, because the rules guiding my would sieve the person away from far-away.

So, for the ones that succeeded to come close, it means that they are good with my rules, and I'm also good with theirs..

We won't be going against each others’ rules anyhow.

In that case, both sides have agreed, so no problem.

But not that the woman will not know or agree to what she's being set up for, and because the guy is earning all the money, he'll throw anything in her face. That is where it is wrong.

DeeScan:
human right 🤣🤣
. What does human right has to do with me setting up rules in my own house ..

No one is talking about domestic violence here .. so human right can fvck off

Oh so because you're setting up rules in your own house, human rights are non existent there?

Or the only thing you can do wrong to a human being is domestic violence? Dey play.

In response to your edited post, many parents with dignity and worth will not come begging. Perhaps your parents will beg for the women in your family.

DeeScan:
if you want me bankroll you then I set the rules and regulations which you have no choice but to follow duely...


You cannot be chopping my money and be going band 4 band with me in the house...

Human rights abound even if you are bankrolling me. Ask the celebrities who have been abusing women because they are bankrolling them how far. They always end up in jail or alone.

If you don't want that arrangement, go for your type of woman with that mentality. They exist, it's very simple.

If a woman was to be breadwinner and doing all these because she provides, you guys will scream injustice. So I don't know why you think you can do anything because you are a providing man.

Acceptable reasons for polygamy include your own desire in life, tradition and religion. All of which the woman must have known before entering the union.

DeeScan:
well no way you start crying foul when he takes a second or has a second .. btw, you know you're not allowed to have any other friggin partner.. only him allowed to.

The fact that you provide as a man.
Does not give you any right to abuse me as a human being, do anything to me. That's the truth.

Accept that you guys are meant to provide the major money. Just swallow it. And stop looking for how to punish women for that.

Orlu13:
olosho kobo kobo...very useless women looking fr a rich man to prey on with ur useless slack pussy....thunder fire u anywhere u are

No thunder will fire me. Whenever you hear provide money you shock like live wire. Keep exploding, that fact will never change.

Codes151:
Can you not also have money.

Man that have money.

So that you will lay down and be eating like bag of rice.

Witch

I laughed and laughed at this... You are really pained 🤣

Bag of rice is small, the bag of rice will eat until it bursts, maybe you will go crazy for a while but then you will accept it instead of dying in bitterness.

Oh. So women of 25 and above are not the severely old ones that you treat them as. Interesting.

Beware of people on the thread who are specifically here to make you feel like shit. They'll mention you just to push the point that you're worthless, crazy and a liar. That is their one and only mission.

I just want you to be ready and aware of these people. They abound on every social media platform just as some of them lurk about in real life. If you can be strong enough, do not answer them. They are devils, they know you will read their comments and feel down. If possible, report them immediately after recognizing their posts.

SporaD8:
Man wey Sabi, abeg chop knuckles!
@Purples25 shey you dey learn?

For sure, thanks.

SporaD8:
Omo!!!
These people don really show you shege!.
It would have been easier if it was just you - but with your, it's a whole different thing.

Another lesson I learned from the neighborhood is that people really don't want you to be better than them. They can reinvent your reputation to make sure of that.

jorion:
Girl, I only look for international scholarships and jobs. Even if I am homeless, I will always look for those two because I have a great academic records. And I am too proud for such nonsense.

Don't tell me I will know better because I KNOW BETTER. THAT'S WHY I SPENT MY YOUTH STUDYING INSTEAD OF FKING

If you knew better about trafficking it would reflect in your quote about it.

jorion:
As usual, when a girl does not have a valid point in a discussion, she gets into ad hominems.

NO GIRL WANTS TO EVER TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR ACTIONS BECAUSE THEY CAN ALWAYS BLAME MEN WHEN IT IS MOSTLY WOMEN LIKE YASELF WHO ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR RECRUITING THESE SAME GIRLS THAT ARE SEX TRAFFICKED.

YOU ARE IGNORANT OF THE WORLD AND YOU DEFINITELY NEED A GOOD MALE FIGURE TO HOLD YOUR HANDS.

One day you'll have more knowledge of this and know what it's about.

jorion:
No girl gets sex trafficked by mistake except she is KIDNAPPED and most girls are NOT. They are gullible girls are believed that there's some fantasy world out there where fairies shit gold and you can have all the money and jobs in the world.

IT ALSO HAPPENS TO GULLIBLE GUYS WHO EVENTUALLY FIND THEMSELVES AS MERCENARIES IN THE MIDDLE EAST, TERRORISTS IN THE SAHEL AND MIDDLE EAST OR SOLDIERS IN WAR ZONES LIKE RUSSIA/UKRAINE.

Women should make better choices especially in the company that they keep instead of blaming men for their misfortunes.

You wanna follow the baddies, the guys that smoke and do drugs, the GUY OR MADAM with BIG MONEY who doesn't have a business, and expect everything to be rosy and sunshine.

I'M SORRY TO BURST YOUR BUBBLE, THERE'S NO CITY OF GOLD, NEITHER IS THERE A HAPPILY EVER AFTER AND THERE'S DEFINITELY NO SHORT CUT TO SUCCESS. EVEN IN EUROPE, IF YOU WANNA LIVE LIKE A KING/QUEEN, YOU WOULD HAVE TO FIRST START TO WORK AS A SLAVE.

You're just exposing your ignorance more. I say again if that is what you know, you don't know anything. And it's better you don't.

jorion:
So women are the only victims of sexual abuse? Do you know that there are more men working as slaves in the world than there are women? I'm not talking about sex trafficking where the woman has a choice, I'm talking about actual manual labour for peanuts in another country so that your family back home get to eat 3x a day while you do a job where you can fall down and die any time. Not only will you be replaced instantly when you die, your body may not even get to the family.

Women go into sex work to survive while men go into manual labour so that their WOMEN can survive.

YOU COULD HAVE CHOSEN BETTER BUT YOU DIDN'T AND YOU KNOW WHY? BECAUSE WOMEN ARE BROKEN, NASTY, SELFISH, SEXUALLY DEPRAVED CREATURE especially if they don't have a man.

Don't come here talking about the sex industry because if y'all had some integrity, even a little bit, y'all be married instead of hawking your pucci for top dollar.

And BTW, men respond to music that has to do with hustling and love than they do to the actual women themselves because we are far more honourable. EVEN THE BAD GUYS WHO WOULD TURN YOU LOTS UPSIDE DOWN WANTS A VIRTUOUS WOMAN. TOO BAD THERE'S NONE BUT A FREE FOR ALL NOW.

You have no idea what sex trafficking is, how it is operated, how the girls are hawked, and how it goes down. I'm not even defending women here, at all. You actually know nothing about that business, going by your post. Perhaps innocence is bliss in this case of yours.

2RightHands1Coc:
So so true. The hint of difference,they will beef u cha

Moved in two years ago or so. My first time of living in a neighborhood like that. Me and hubby trying to sit tight until things got better.

I came in right after having my baby and looked like shit with my natural hair. I relaxed the hair next month and it was very long. I also lost weight and started dressing nice. They weren't laughing anymore. I spoke good English. They looked depressed and intimidated. All the girlfriends of drunks in the area, all the market women wearing wrappers around and some even refused to greet me, that is they refused to respond to my greetings. My first few days there I was passing with my baby and attempted to greet a guy, he muttered that I should dey my dey while he dey on his own, with so much malice and contempt.

I made hair after hair. I used a baby carrier, I never really backed my baby. First day I did that, a drunk passed us and set his red eyes on my baby with such a glare that I was wondering what the little child did to him, is it his fault that his mom got something different to carry him with? My child was fair and cute at that point. People said I was fine and my baby was fine, some kids said when they grow up they want to have my style, some people came up to me and praised me. I didn't know the fire I was lighting up under my own ass ...

I saw a lot of things from those people. I was mocked, they sent their kids to ridicule me in the market, their kids on their own started insulting me and my child. Once I couldn't make that hair again it was a great victory for them, the boys from the betting shop close by will actually call their friends to where i am, point at me and laugh. They observed me very closely and mocked me anytime I wasn't able to keep to the former standard of nice dressing and hair, and dressing up my kid. They started loudly complaining that I never allow my child to walk even if he was just a year plus and walked well at home. Some people will even come up to me and tell me to allow the boy to walk. Someone directly told me it's because I use a baby carrier and not what Is common to the neighborhood, which is backing babies with wrapper.

When that mockery with intensity set up on making me an object of ridicule started, even aboki join in o. When the kids were following me with songs and the women and drunks in the area that I never greet were sated, aboki sef start to dey feel important, they will pass and look me up and down slowly, they would laugh. I had ignited so much hatred by suddenly moving in looking nice and being different with my baby.

A woman dropped a fetish substance of boiled eggs and God knows what at my door to scare me or anything else. A line of women sat in the narrow path we cross every day observing me and my son. They didn't stop observing until when after things got bad, my son turned dark in complexion then they stopped their close up mockery and left in smiles.

I cut my long hair to get them off, if that was the thing that made them angry. They didn't stop, they mocked me more. They started saying I looked like a man, some people will loudly comment to my face when their friends point me out. The stupid drunks in the area felt important, the cowards now felt confident that they now swerve when I pass, idiots. Who should be swerving for who. The same drinks that start playing abusive music about cheating wives and saying all sorts of things to make themselves feel ok because I don't greet them, they said I'm old, they said I've given birth, they said I used to sleep with senators and later they said na me go dey look for senators.

I started speaking pidgin because of the hostility and angry claims that I'm just a poor person who was forming, but that changed nothing.

I can't say all but it really affected me, I went down to feeling like nothing. Leaving for a while never stopped them , when I came back they resumed mockery and monitoring. I left again and now it seems they are sated because they have ridiculed me to a point when they can now take their eyes off me and afford not to care.

I now don't dare to do any hair style that the old women in the neighborhood don't do again, nothing flashy. I don't have that self esteem again, I became hard towards my son, I frown whenever I'm out because I wake up every day remembering my 'downfall' in the neighborhood. I don't know if I will regain my former softness or self esteem, right now I'm like whatever. Sometimes I hit my kid In public, I found myself acting just like those women tying wrapper, those old unfashionable women with hairstyles that make them look even older. I decided today that I'll try and mend my relationship with my son because he no longer looks sad when I hit him, he just got home today and started smashing his most loved toy on the wall. That's anger issues starting because of me, so I'll try to heal and fix things with him.

There are many animalistic people and most, not all, people in the hood are of that type. They can't see you shine and not make you miserable.

I'm glad we may be moving out soon.

jorion:
The days where men are obsessed with women are long over. Now we simply collect numbers of very sexy 304's so that we can view status like TV. Guys no dey even marry self not to talk about obsession.

That's why sex sells like water, all your songs are about women, porn with women as majority of sex fantasies is rampant, selling products with women as the face is still rampant. Sexual abuse by males, trafficking of women around the world is so widespread. Yes, those are signs that you are right.

Uchenna10:
Na so all these local areas de be
...most times they spread false rumors.

If you live in a local neighborhood you will regret your life because they can not mind their business, they gossip and are highly competitive. They are fetish too and wicked and they want to destroy anyone who has a hint of difference in their neighborhood.

JJacko:
It's 2024. Nobody is shy around you smelly females. Maybe some men are a little frustrated, yes, but that's because they're still processing their actual disgust.

The amount of topics on women emerging daily on this platform in the very least, prove you wrong. Don't make me bring out all the evidence showing that you guys obsess over women.

Verydarkhearted:
are you God?? What of that’s the guy God chose to be her husband cause of friend sentiment she shouldn’t date him.. moreover the world has advanced above slut shaming woman.. in a society where hookup is a norm? Please allow the girl love a guy she has seen fit and worthy. I already know the kinda of girl yoh are and I pity your man..

Consider the feelings of the friend. Has this ever happened to you? Probably hasn't. If it happens to you, you will know how painful it feels. It's very terrible, so it will be good if she is considerate and finds love else where.

Slut shaming hasn't gone anywhere, by the way. It's still quite prominent here on nl.

Verydarkhearted:
To me nothing wrong in dating him.. yes you ex might feel betrayed by you and his friend but who cares? After all he doesn’t want to change so?? Pursue your happiness don’t let what others say or how they might judge you affect your happiness. Go to that guys house tell him your ready to move on with him. You guys can keep the relationship on the low for a couple of months.

No no, why must it be his friend? No, I think you are being sarcastic. This is something that makes someone not look trustworthy and inhumane. That other guy will rub it in her face and distrust her.

Let her break up and find love very far away from his friend, that way she's being considerate towards him.

Men think differently, they think logically rather than emotionally. That guy will only think:

Left my friend ➡️ moved to me = slut.

All those ones he's saying are just ramblings. This will be his core thought, don't do it.

If you have a house help, and the help misbehaves like this, people will say you maltreated her. People always assume that, no matter what you did for the child.

Most times the child just hates you, even a grown help just hates you and your family no matter what you do because they wish to be in your position, they feel humiliated as they are doing that Kind of Job.

Better not to have a young maid, or a stay at home help. Don't take anybody's child to your house, even if you give them everything, they will still mark out the smallest favoritism you give your child. They will still hate your children for the luck they have by having you as their biological parent. You just can't please them. If you want to help a kid, send the money to their parents, don't take them.

Let mature women come once or twice a week, engage little with them, let them clean the house for some designated hours whilst all your food stuff are sealed, pay them at the end of their shift, be polite, let them go back home that same Monday or Wednesday allocated to them.

Badmashiii:
If you're well off financially,why would you need a man's money? But i get your point though. Nowadays gold-diggers operate the same way. They usually have a job or small businesses that take care of most expenses. It's makes you apppear not desperate and classy.

I'll like my sisters to be gold diggers though. It's way better than being a poverty-digger.

If you are well off financially, you can take care of yourself on your own. However, if you decide to be with a partner as a woman, financial support is one of the things you'd expect from your partner. What's the point of being with someone, especially as a woman who will supposedly have to devote herself to the home and kids, if you still have to bear the financial burden alone? Then it's the same as being alone.

The problem is that women do not build themselves up before getting to this stage that they ask a man for money.

When you have your own job, and the man knows that without him, you can survive, there's less room for insults. More respect. He will be humble when giving you or when you ask because he knows that whether he gives you or he refuses, you have the same amount and can fund yourself.

Socratiz:
It is not advisable to completely avoid relating with people, especially neighbours because you may need them one day.

The vagaries of life can befall you that you may need their assistance.

However, you need to establish healthy boundaries to ensure that you're not taken for granted and the relationship is not abused.

I believe you should be able to share a casual greeting of good morning/evening.

Even with being the nicest, most polite person, people can still hate you and abandon you in your time of need.