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Chris525:
First you gave out money you couldnt afford to give, now you have promised money you don't have and you’re talking about goats and shit

Dundee United

Tell him you don’t have the money & go about your underwhelming life that has you frustrated because you gave someone 20k & you’re about to lose your mind because same person asked you for 30k.

zangodangolo:
You stay in a three bedroom flat and you allow your 36 year old close friend who had accommodation challenges to stay with you pending when he raise money and find an accommodation.
Now your company has transfered you to another city far distance state that will entail that your coming back to visit your family atleast for now may be once in a month or more probably on weekends or during holiday until you know how far the transfer will go as you can't relocate your family and your wife works in a company.You have three kids,not yet grown up

What will you do as you are about to leave for the new state regarding your family with your male friend. Is it advisable to leave him with your family or to tell him to pack and go. Can you be comfortable allowing him stay together with your wife in your absence?. It's not that you don't trust your wife but is it advisable to leave them stay together without you in the house. Please sincere advise is needed

efixxxy:
Hello, I need help on how to cope with my friends, I earn more than anyone in the circle, but my issue is about how my friends take advantage of me.
They usually come to my place almost daily basis, to watch TV cook whatever they want and go, I can't manage food stuffs, I need to be restocking things 4 to 5 times every month because I have to feed 4 to 6 grown up, they've turned my place to free food restaurants and they will never buy anything in the house, I will buy water and food and it will just be finishing quick. And also even when we go out they always expect me to pay for the bills and they will order what I ordered even more. They always complain that no money. I need help on how to take this issue because I am so tired of it, I can't save anymore.

dboY1123:
I am 28 years old this month, and the last born of my family. Although I still stay with my aged parents probably because I am waiting for my school to mobilise us by july., And I have been under pressure from my sisters that I should move away from my parents so I can see life differently and start preparing for my own private life, they said not even bachelor's life but to prepare ahead of marriage.
Well, since the corona year(last year) one of my sisters advised me to go into a business and since then I never regretted taking such action, it has been doing well even when I least expected although not that big, but at least I see like 50k monthly if I decide to save bit by bit daily thanks to Piggyvest.
The first thing is that, she wants me to pack out of there before september (my problem is that I'm going for service and I don't know how that will turnout).
Secondly, if I'm even going to pack my things, which of the two should I rent(the topic).. Which one is advisable?

Adesegzy91:
Pls advice this friend of mine,

He got married late last month and after marriage, he discovers that his wife can't see at night and also the wife has mental issues that happen once in a while, whenever the mental issue happens, the wife is not violent but she will just be looking like a slowpoke on one spot for over 3-4hours until she fall asleep and when she wakes up, she doesn't remember it happening...

During their courtship,My guy was kind of religious with no sex before marriage and no sleep overs, no late night crawling, major meeting spot are public places especially church,malls,eateries etc

Now he is thinking of quitting the marriage cos of what he just discovered,

He is scared to even share it with his family cos he don't know how they will react, I even just got to know because I am his closest childhood friend and we don't hide anything from each other,I was his bestman on his wedding day.

Pls he needs advice before he slumps into depression

@Mods pls push to FP for wider advice

proudlyteacher:
Seanwilliam abeg where can I sell dollars to Aboki in Ibadan, na only $50 sha. Payoneer dey rip me off with their #371 rate. E go make sense if Aboki can buy for #450 above.

Solosolojohquay:
Don't blame the cousin ,since you gave him 20k he thought 30k won't be your problem to solve his own problem you have to tell him your mind or he will see you as wicked I don't see what is wrong in you telling him your mind unless you can afford the money and didn't want to give him or you look like you can afford it

DaddyRochie1642:
Oga let the man rant in peace joor

Chris525:
Should have told him your mind instead of coming here to rant. I don’t really understand why you have brought this here.

Babysho:
This your Economics is debatable o.

The rich people give birth to fewer kids because they're educated not because they're rich. If you see a poor man with one or two kids, it's most likely because he's educated(just like the o.p has zero kids. You can tell he's educated from his write up). If you see poor man with many kids, he's 100% uneducated.

You never see Alhaji for better mansion with 4 cars in his garage and over 16 kids? And all the males don even become rogues. And his house his big and all but you'll hear one of his kid was caught stealing.

Your little arithmetic up there too doesn't add up. It doesn't cost anybody less/more to raise children. The ratio of earning to childcare/fees is the same of poor man and rich man as long as they cut their coats according to their size which they will.

Man wey born many pikin has simply decided that's what he wants to do. Especially uneducated and negligent man, he doesn't give a damn about the school they attend or food his kids eat.

I know poor men that have just one or two kids and send those kids to really good schools and on the other hand, the rich Alhaji will send just 10 kids of 16 to school and na public schools.

It's not a thing of class, it's down to education my brother.

Married2Crypto:
buy feg at hotbit exchange

Remilekun187:
Is it wise to buy it now? And where can it be bought

Foodqueen:
Some first sons are sooo irresponsible that all they are after is property.

May my son not be like that. Amen

ComrdDRS1:
Some of this last born, middle born and whatever they are do not know that the first born is like a shield to them.
Whatever generational wahala do most atimes attacks the first born leaving their siblings free and when they makes it in live they felt it's their doing. despite that they can't stomach what the poor and lazy first born as they do call them is passing through.

Nbote:
So becos U are the lastborn in your family and look after your siblings including the Eldest every first born is poor and irresponsible?? That comment reeks of crass ignorance and arrogance. The saying in Igboland U quoted isn't complete. The complete saying says "Whichever son is able should bury his father. The first son didn't kill him". That saying further highlights the pressure and expectations on firstborn sons. In Ngwa land, there is a saying that not until the death of an imbecilic first son, the wisest second son can't head the family. So I don't know how much U think U have done for them to make U make a generalization that sounds and reeks of arrogance.

mrwonlasewonie:
you no add the cultural factors.you go see Okada man, gateman or vulcaniser wey no see Food chop go dey get mind to marry 2,3 wives,carry all of them pack for inside 1 room with over 12 children

Na those poor people wey dey fertile pass and their konji Na non stop

xandy84:
I disagree with you about the reason poor people has more kids. Sociologist believed that poor people have more kids cos they have fewer means of entertainment when compare to rich people and will result to more sexual intercourse, hence more kids.. Ask yourself, when was the last time a neighborhood plumber, carpenter goes to the movie with his wife? Maybe never but will have sex with his wife often.

richie10k:
Some buyers will contact u but when u reply,Dem go just blank u completely.
Anyway just successfully withdrew my 1st income earned on Fiverr within 2 weeks ($90)
Baba God "nara ekele" Now d journey has begun.
May d orders keep coming

family6644:
You have made a lot of sense, you have made me even more weak. More like she has refused to leave, I have discussed it amicably, she has pleaded that she will change, I should give her more time. Her apt is till there but she doesn't want to go back claiming she's in love with me and she can't stay away from me. I think I am in trouble, I don't feel right about this anymore

LadySarah:
I wonder how this thread would have turned out if Op was a woman.
3 mths.just 3mthsoo.Keep observing inugo until belle go show and you wont be able to extricate yourself.

family6644:
You are right but I naturally will never see myself doing this, this is the reason for my long explanations, I find myself in the situation, I didn't plan for it or work it out. I never wanted it but note that my kids are involved but I guess now they can see for themselves

lagusboyyy:
I personally dont like dents here and there on my car,i always pay attention to every little detail.

But why most buyers always prefer first body is because of bad and not quality paint work that is common in Nigeria,most newly baked cars only look good between one to two months,go and recheck the same car after six months,black go don turn white,red go don turn black..

To get quality paint cost alot,most wont even want the costly type,they rather go for cheaper alternatives(in their minds "PAINT NA PAINT"

Then after buying the quality paints nko,to get better painter sef na another task.

BrokerHaruna:
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Huge potential. #BAFE. Not yet on binance. Just listed on Hotbit. To me, it's a hodl.
DYDD

DenreleDave:
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DMechy:


How to Know problematic vehicles

Answer: Get a professional to Inspect before buying.

I will just add to what Felicity001 already hinted.

Problematic Vehicles
There are some vehicles that are straight up from hell, and assembled by the devil and his cohorts, there is really nothing you can do to salvage their manufacture errors.

Then there is the class that became bad due to usage, abuse, flooded, or leaden with electrical issues.

The above fall under the class of great vehicles that could turn out bad.

Your choice of vehicle is good, or rather great.

So how do you avoid buying a problematic one.
You are Either buying Nigerian Used, or Foreign Used

Things to Look out for

For Nigerian Used.

1. Abuse.
Abused vehicle turn out to be problematic, as much as possible, avoid them.

Pointers of Abuse.
1. Switch on the ignition, do not start the vehicle.

Is the fan on. If it is,
one abuse out of many: If you can, avoid buying this type.

2. Open the oil cap.
If the sludge build up is obvious and thick enough like butter from fridge. Avoid.

3. This might be hard to come bye, but if you look enough, you will find. Open the radiator cover. Water or Coolant? Coolant, great, water(if you can, avoid). If inside the radiator looks brownish. Avoid

4. Start the vehicle, let it run. Lights on the dash like it is Christmas. Abs, Vsc, check engine, Airbag, everything just full the cluster. Avoid.

5. Open the Bonnet: If you see wires flying around, plenty cut cut, join join, tape tape. Wahala

The kind of problems you dont want to inherit.
1. Accidented vehicles that has compromised structural integrity.

How do you know, not a hard rule.

Look at tyres. Do you have uneven wears.

With a eye view. Does the alignment seem right.

There is nothing wrong in buying a freshly painted nigerian used vehicle. Most times, but often time, the seller is trying to hide something.

And here is the logic, why do you want to spend extra on a paint job for a vehicle you want to sell.

As much as possible, stick with first body.

You can replace engine, transmission, bad interiors. But a vehicle wey don wor. Nna. Avoid.

Avoid vehicles with rust. The problem no dey finish.


Hard rule, if i see a vehicle that is freshly painted, and it is Nigerian used, i wouldn't even assess it twice.

******Smoking Engine.
Check the smoke from the exhaust, blue, black smoke. Avoid.

*******Bad Transmission.
Depending on how much they are offering for the vehicle. Knowing you have a bad transmission or engine puts ahead and bargaining right.

For the transmission: Check the fluid: If it looks fresh. Like they just changed it.

Hard rule! Dont buy.

A diagnosis can also reveal if there is a transmission fault.

To really test a vehicle and be sure it the gear is good. Request for a test drive, fuel enough. Drive from Iyanaba to Ikorodu.

Most transmission shift problems are only noticed when the car is hot, and well driven

For the Engine.
The engine oil. Check the dipstick. If it is fresh, and they just did an oil change.

My hard rule. Suspicion. What are they hiding?

Noise.
Noise on start up, avoid. Continuous tappet valve noise from the top.

Great if engine has not been opened before. Major repair like a gasket change.


The Cars Booth.
The Nigerian vehicles booth reveals a lot about a vehicle and the problem the current owner is battling with.

Transmission fluid cans, brake fluid, replaced fuel pumps, bad alternator belts in the booth are tell tale sign of a problematic vehicle. Fuel jerry cans, coolant ......

Yes. I dont expect the booth to be empty, and squeaky clean. If it is, i know i am dealing with a pro.

Buying from direct owners is the best Bet. There is nothing wrong in buying from a dealer. But direct owners are not sales men. You will have some that are honest enough to tell you why they are selling.

Avoid Stolen Vehicles:
If you are buying from direct owner, ensure name on paper is the same with account you are paying to.

Verify Documents
Easy, like always do, call up my contact. If details dont tally. Run.

Maybe there is need to do a post on what constitute complete papers, if browse car talk enough. You will find enough info.

Do a vin check

Get a professional to Inspect before buying.

Well, if you can follow the above, you are also pro


Note: Whatever is bad in a vehicle can be fixed. Some can cost you your sanity. Theres really no car fault that does not have a fix

mydivinely:
This remind me of a lady i lov to a fault, we were both serving in same state, same LGA, same area. she responded to the love things went on smoothly, then she travelled home for Christmas returned January started giving attitude, Guess what she found someone who was working and became old story, ( she was so desperate for marriage now she got someone working, she suddenly forgot all i did for her) not quite long the guy contracted was terminated, started searching for another , infact she left me n to stay with the guy, when i discovered what she was doing , i went though her phone saw how far they have gone , in romance n the rest...i gave up at last i was fooled. everyone already know we were dating i didnt even give a smile to any other lady . so after service God buttered my Bread. Got a job and Guess what.. She is interested again....After everything she did with the guy..... She wants to sing the old song again... ( i can be a fool for very long but if the elastic limit exceed forget it, Even though u are my Oxygen i better ceased to breath.) Ladies and Money... Forget the Money, look at the Person, look at the future , look at the qualities, she confessed i had all she needed except that she wasnt sure i wil make it that fast, just one month after service , Jehovah did it for me...... If i no get today, u dont know my Tomorow...be wise

Melst:
Well, there are always exceptions. But mehn, one needs to be really careful with men in their mid-thirties that are unmarried. You need to look thrice. They are mostly players that toil with women's emotions, or very boring men with archaic mentality, or loners that can't live with anyone because they are intolerant, or perfectionist that will frustrate you in marriage. The list is long but yes there are exceptions.

Then that mentality of chasing money and leaving women is flawed. There's actually no time of your life as a man that should revolve around "women". Meaning no time of your life as a man justifies womanizing. Discipline is key . And once you are disciplined then there's no chance that any woman would distract you from your goal rather she will propel you. Knowing the right kind of woman too matters. Because if you say, chase money and leave woman, in marriage, would you be able to be a good husband and father? Or would you stop chasing that money once you get married? You even need it more then. And money can run dry for those that believe in chasing money then women will run after you. Or are you saying once you have made money then you are immune to the distractions a woman brings? Or are you simply going to chase money all your life? Always create a balance and discipline is key in all facets.