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Omolola1:
MEN, Stop sagging your trousers! only prisoners do.

God will bless you for this!

[quote author=eku_bear link=topic=581676.msg7487944#msg7487944 date=1294492192]You have to think about what life will be like when you are 40 and she is 52, though. Or you 50 and she 62. Right now while she is still young, it might seem OK to you. But once age hits a woman, it hits her hard (no offense intended to anybody here, just keeping it real.)[/quote]be more specific, how exactly will age hitting hard affect their relationship? what will be the difference between it hitting hard when hes 40 or hitting hard when he's 52? Im just curious because I know people approach things they dont understand without thinking deeply about it so im wondering if you have? specify exactly how the age difference will affect either of them?

[quote author=eku_bear link=topic=581676.msg7487944#msg7487944 date=1294492192]In the short terms things wouldn't be bad. She can even have kids up until age 40 (though the risk @ 37, 38 is way higher than having kids at 22 or 25.)[/quote]Well like you said, she can still have children, women have children well into old age its not unheard of and even if she doesnt they can always adopt, you can still marry a 22 or 25 year old and not be able to have children? is it not so?

[quote author=MzD@rkSkin link=topic=581676.msg7488223#msg7488223 date=1294494834][color=#0055bb]The only I am saying is that most men do not mature before they are well into their thirties and most women in the thirties already have an idea what they want in life so do not be surprised if the relationship seems more like mother and son, if you are not on her level mentally or financially. [/color][/quote]I wouldnt say most men do not mature, Men mature more slowly than women the same age, so a 25 yo man will still be very mature, just probably not as mature as a 25 yo woman. Regardless they havent been dating for long but the fact they are even dating shows they have the right form to be in a relationship I dont see how a 37yo can be a mother to a 25 yo one bit! She will have more experience and I think that will probably work to the relationships advantage- ive seen soo many times where men actually prefer dating older women!

yagbaboy1:
Good one queens. Tnx. I would hav taken ova her sponsorship,but my means are limited. Anything u tink she can engage in?

you dont neccesarily need to sponsor her if you cant afford it i guess, i know things are really hard back home but if she cant afford a further education you can encourage her to start looking for work, at least if she works for a year or 2 she can sponsor herself through a further education and you may then be in a position to help.
She can also start learning all sorts of trade that can make her money, dont limit yourselves to anything just because your young, anything is still possible!

if anything i will say its the other way round, women turn because of what they have experienced from men.
lets meet halfway and say its 50/50!

There are alot of homes like that unno, where everyone is out of control except one. If she isnt like the rest right now, its probably because she already knows better so you wont have to worry about her changing.
But you can express your fears to her and still try and keep an eye on her like you would your sister, once she sees you really care and appreciate her for not being like her sisters. It will encourage her to keep a clean life.
Alot of things change in a persons heart when theres loss in the family, so refrain from keeping a judgemental tone when talking about her sisters because you dont know what they have been through or what they had to do to survive. Respect them regardless and understand that your friend has someone important missing in her life- fill the gap as much as you can and make sure she knows you care.
also keep her in your prayers
gd luck

Hbabe!!! how are you doing?? long time!

hbabe:
Doesnt work that way o.
A girl may know and make all the right moves in bed and had very bad character/manners outside the bedroom; so the guy will just enjoy the loot given to him and discard the donor afterwards.

take it from her ooo she will know!
[quote author=Mrs, Eve link=topic=580835.msg7487485#msg7487485 date=1294486841]You can't make a man marry you.  If he want to marry you, he will ask you.  Be careful of the kind of guy that ask you to marry him. 

Some guys have hidden agendas that marriage will benefit them and not you
Some guys have hidden agendas that he is on the run and need to change identity
Some guys might been suckered on a bet to ask a woman to marry him
Some guys may ask because you the closet thing and he in a hurry

It's many reasons why guys ask women or don't ask women for marriage.[/quote]why buy the cow right!

I dont think you should make anyone marry you. If hes not ready to commit then you should probably start fearing for your future. for all you know he may have absolutely no intentions of marrying you!

but to answer your question you can talk to him about it, threaten you will leave him if he doesnt start showing his commitment soon

[quote author=Mrs, Eve link=topic=581707.msg7487453#msg7487453 date=1294486489]What with these men and obsession with submissiveness? I mean these men so dumb downed that they want a dumb downed woman.

Too many of these men are not traditional asking for and seeking traditional women. WHAT THE HELL? [/quote]well unno most of them thats how they were brought up, submissive mother submissive sisters, but they always seem to forget what thier fathers were doing all the while!

no1 his friend probably just thought he could go to Nigeria and simply pick up a woman without knowing her! isnt that what they do in america now?
no2 you and your girl have been together over a decade, but do you really know her? do you really love her? why do yu think she waited for you?
I think you should marry her and not bother about what may have happened to your friend, you probably dont know the whole story, how do you know your friend wasnt maltreating her the minute she stepped i the US simply because he brought her there? that happens too!

Age aint nothing but a number-er-er-er!lol

you shouldnt really care about what other people think, what matters is you and what makes you happy. Since they wont always be around to live you life! tell them to mind thier own business!

idiagbon:
Dats why I no longer go to church. Imagine!

GBAM!

if i want to hear the word of God I will turn to the KICC channel on my sky!
even better go to the nearest catholic church for mass! nothing beats it!
I only go to church when i want to socialise nowadays!

MOBO444:
@Queensmith,you cant spell correctly so this tells me you not educated and single,it also tell me you have a lot of lack in your life,u lack food,clothing,man,SeX,shelter,u lack a lot.

your a big fool mobo, a very very big fool- go and get some help!

in fact this will be the last time i pay you any sort of attention, for all I know im chatting with one wannabe yahoo 12 year old living in a remote jungle and trekkin 12 miles everyday to the nearest internet cafe. theres no hope for you!

for those who truly believe charging was done to control the amount of people that come quit deceiving yourselves

You decided to charge to take advantage of the fact that people will still stupidly pay to attend!
Crowd control can be done in a number of ways; what this church has basically done is say; only the rich can attend this service!
why was charging the first thing that was thought of? why couldnt the church distribute wristbands instead? why did you not think of printing a limited number of tickets? must you charge for everything?
I know there are alot of things churches nowadays charge for but this one takes the biscuit!
I feel for members that continue to pay in the delusion they are receiving any sort of spectacular blessing, salvation is free and true men of God are extinct!
better pick up your bible and preach to yourself!

MOBO, why are you soo stupid? everything that comes from you is senseless. you chat soo much shit i doubt youve ever left you village in wherever the Bleep you come from!
I highly doubt you will survive 2 days i a foreign country cos your mind is full of trach! I advise you to go and get yourself an education, illiteracy for you is a disease!

I think the church should highlight the importance of giving without barraging the congregation unnecessarily, its not by force- you have to give with your heart. The rewards and consequences are down to you and not the pastor.
But people should remember that its the offerings that keep the church going, like using any voluntary service if nobody is contributing it cant go on. People should look at the works that thier church is doing so they can be assured its not simply hopping into a pastors pocket.

Meldrick:
What broke my heart was when she removed my name from the updated status on facebook and she claims we should not announce it yet till married. She prefers the status of ''in a relationship'' alone.
Someone who will be ready to talk to me till midnight but now when we talk for three minutes, She asks how Iam and how was work today? The next thing she says, she wants to go and sleep.

The fact she doesnt want people to know shes with you is suspicious, when your truly with somebody and your serious about the relationship you will want everyone to know. esp when you plan to get married. if you have also noted changes in her attitude you shouldnt ignore them. Look at the way she is now and ask yourself if this is the woman you truly want to marry- knowing very well her attitude can change.
I can say as a woman that it sometimes happens, she may not love you as much as you love her, but not want to let you go because she fears she wont find someone else. Meaning you are in her life as a substitute, its better you marry a woman that can love you as much as you do her.

Hold off the introduction, dont marry a woman your not sure of. your family will understand, what matters is your long term happiness.
your fiance does sound like shes up to something, esp since she had a problem updating your relationship on fb, sometimes little things are the signs that there may be a big problem.

heeeeey! what other ekiti girl dare to use the word monkey? lmao!

@topic u take nl seriously? dont nigerians love to stereotype?

honeric01:
@queensmith

 Never to worry, she's a darling in all other aspect,

im sure she is! you just have to make her more fun!

i bet when shes with her gf's she the bell of the ball!

honeric01:
That she's too boring

awwwww! lol

even with what they showed, obviously hes not the most likable person personality wise but he has his life in a good place- he enjoys his rapping there is nothing wrong with that, this is how all famous rappers start out but I wont because of that brand him as lazy or irresponsible

vanitty:

Responsible guy ke Each to their own sha.
The guy lives at home with his parents, sleeps all day. At 27, he is still rapping up and down the whole place hoping to be discovered. I doubt his "successful business" can sustain him were he to stay alone not to talk of if he decides to marry.
Now if you want to talk responsible, the Olu guy is very responsible and very young

is that what you got from the show? you might need to watch it again!
he lives at home because his parents dont want any of them to move out until they are married
if u paid attention u will know he was living with his girlfreind when he thought he got her pregnanat, I can assure you ayo will have no problem looking after himself, he is known for what he does and is very succesful with it! The whole point of being self employed is choosing how you work, whether he decides to work all day and sleep at night is his choice, so long as the job gets done!
His rapping is his hobby, might not be my style but i wont take that away from him, at least he has a job! an enjoys what hes doing!
they are all responsible and have done well for themselves, olu is also very lovely i know olu well and thats why hes described as the 'goldenboy'

the poster is obviously a typical village boi! goodness u must live in a forest ur mentality is like that of the goats! mshew, try and enlighten urself abit b4 u comment on things u dont know about!

im not going to give you that satisfaction unfortunately tpia

ill ignore you and anyone else thats looking for another war

my time isnt to be wasted on worthless ish!

I have to be honest d say when i saw CB i thought it might be 'chris brown' governor of the year award! silly me!

[quote author=Mrs, Eve link=topic=580124.msg7473789#msg7473789 date=1294318582]I am too straightforward so it is easy for me to tell people anything.  I am working on it to be less straightforward.  It will be a daunting task for me but I can attempt at it.  

My husband and family say I am too honest sometimes I cut to the bone not intentionally but I don't think I need to lie.[/quote]omg your not the only one!
i dunno abt the friends thing, i tried doing something like that b4 but it didnt work!

ooo i dunno about ur universe of superheroes!

but in this country- getting a degree followed running a successful business that generates sufficient profit is a great achievement!
whether he does it part time or not ( and i really dont think he does) is irrelevant. what matters is that hes making money! he does look after his family and defend his siblings, just because you dont like his personality (alot of people dont) doesnt mean he hasnt done well for himself
give credit where credit is due! I have enough respect for the boy esp since I know what he has done for himself isnt common in the community!

I also found him annoying but julies issues got to me more- i still respect them both sha, people are not without their flaws!

OMGmrs eve u kill me every single time!

mzdarkskin u have time, all he will do is raise irrelevant points and ignore everything you say! its ends up being pointless! lol

Some things are better left unsaid, but i think In a new relationship you should keep feelings out until you are sure its moving somewhere.

I will never tell my bf I dont see him as my husband, its too mean

I dont trust GEJ in the slightest. . . .not unti he wins this upcoming election. I doubt he has much in store