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Last year I found out that my husband of 20 years had been having an affair for a few months. It came as a terrible shock – I cried and cried for weeks. When asked to choose between her and me, he chose her and left me. I kept on crying.

Two months after this revelation, I met someone and fell in love. This was a lifesaving event. Suddenly I could endure the pain of my husband’s betrayal. I felt alive and young again.

Now, my husband wants me back. He sees me happy and free from him, which of course is more attractive than a lamenting woman. He is still with his girlfriend and is probably worried to leave her in case I don’t take him back. I am torn. I’m happy with my new lover, especially sexually, but I also long for the relationship I had with my husband. He remains my best friend and we have so much in common.

I don’t know whether I can trust or make love to him again and I don’t know what his real motives are. Does he want me back because the grass isn’t greener or because he really loves me? But most importantly, I don’t know what I want. How do I find out?

https://livelystones.ng/2020/11/02/my-husband-left-me-for-another-woman-but-now-wants-me-back/

A working-class man who believes he is not financially stable enough to get married, has shared the dilemma he is in, following his girlfriend’s request for them to settle down soonest.

He wrote to self-styled relationship expert, Joro Olumofin, seeking advice from Nigerians as his girlfriend says she wants them to tie the knot as early as January 2021, but he doesn’t think he’s financially buoyant to cater for a family.

While revealing that he earns N45,000 per month, and stating that he doesn’t think it will cater for her bride price alone, he also expressed fears that he might lose her to another man.

He wrote:

https://livelystones.ng/2020/10/30/my-girlfriend-wants-us-to-marry-by-january-2021-but-my-salary-is-n45000-man-seeks-advice/

Thursday, 29 October 2020 – A 62-year-old woman has caused chaos online after she tied the knot with a man who is young enough to be her son, if not grandson.

The aging woman exchanged vows with her 24-year-old boyfriend at a colorful wedding that was the talk of the town.

The tall, dark and handsome young Ugandan man ignored endless trolls from social media noisemakers and vowed to love his aging wife until death separates them.

Of late, there are many cases of young men falling in love with old women.

In Kenya, popular gospel singer, Guardian Angel, left tongues wagging a few months back after he introduced his 50-year-old lover, Esther Musila.

The 31-year-old singer said that Esther, a mother of three, is the woman God has chosen for him and vowed to love and protect her.

Here are photos of the 62-year-old woman and her newly-wed husband who is 24 years old:



https://livelystones.ng/2020/10/30/internet-erupts-as-a-62-year-old-woman-weds-her-24-year-old-boyfriend-in-kenya-photos/

I have always had the biggest crush on my boss. Since the first time I saw in at my job interview. He sat with the HR lady and some other man in the final stage of my interview. I began to stammer when he asked me a question cos I was stunned by how handsome he looked.

He noticed I was stuttering and he smiled and asked me to calm down. I got the job. I was so elated. I got work everyday in a very nice company. Everyone is cool here where I work. I discovered that the MD was a divorcee with two children who live abroad with their mother.

Everyone gossiped about our charming MD,the most eligible bachelor in our company. Sometimes, I think some ladies flirt around him in the name of overdoing their jobs. But everyone spoke highly of him. He was the most professional person and he truly did not encourage mixing business with pleasure.

I have been working in this company for almost two years now and I can say that my MD inspires me, he is like a role model to all of us. He is a fair man and very smart too. Well, I still had my secret crush on him but I never did anything to show it.

Two months ago, his children came from the states to visit him and they followed him to the office. While showing the children around, the girl took.....

https://livelystones.ng/2020/10/30/i-told-my-boss-that-i-have-a-crush-on-him-did-he-take-advantage-of-me/

hmmmm

My name is Jessica. I’m 39 years old. I live in Lagos. I studied Business Administration at Delta State University, Abraka, Delta State.

I need a man who is nice, faithful, friendly, caring and polished for a serious relationship which will lead to marriage.

He should be 35 years or above. My phone number is 08105104543



Disclaimer:

LS is not a hook up platform. This is a special request. LS does not take responsibility for any eventualities from this post.


Cc: Lalasticlala



https://livelystones.ng/2020/10/29/jessica-is-looking-for-a-nice-young-man-who-is-ready-for-marriage/

Good day,

I need advise. I have been married for 7 years. I have a son who is 6 years old. My husband and I have been having issues since day 1 of our marriage. I noticed he was cheating from the first day of our marriage. I saw on his phone chats, conversations with one woman.

That became the beginning of our troubles. I did not notice he was cheating before our marriage if not,I would not have married him. I was raised to see marriage as a sacred union. My parents were married for 43 years before my dad died 3 years ago.

I was not going to leave him cos he was cheating but I was upset cos I felt like he deceived me. All through our marriage, he cheated with several women. I thought having a baby would make things smoother but it didn’t.

By the third year, I was tired of treating myself for.....

https://livelystones.ng/2020/10/20/my-husband-has-cheated-on-me-but-i-do-not-believe-in-divorce-please-advise/

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shilefan2:
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Good evening,

Please I need a relationship advise. (Kindly pardon the errors) I recently met a single mom of two via SM based on job. We chatted and she wanted to relocate to Ibadan. I helped a bit to find a place but was not lucky. She finally got one on her own and we met and I helped in setting up the house.

Prior to her relocation, we've been having good conversation and she told me a lot about her past life and marriage. I was dumbfounded about what she has been through...but I always try to make relax around me, assuring her all will be well with me.

After relocation and we set up the house, I bonded well with her kids and she showed signs that she in love with me too. She also seemed comfortable with the fact that I am a young man still living with his parents. Sometimes, My mum would be calling profusely to know my whereabouts, and the second day I was there, I felt she didnt like my mom calling too much.

Immediately I suspected some withdrawal but I don't count it. She later told me she wasn't comfortable with me being around coz I am still a mummy's boy with the way she was calling me time to time to know my whereabouts.

And I tried to make her understand that it's been long I been in a relationship. My family think I am.....

https://livelystones.ng/2020/10/28/i-am-not-a-mamas-boy-but-she-keeps-pushing-me-away-pls-advise/

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HotPoundedYam:
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I met Ene (not real name) 2 years ago at a popular bank. She was a Customer Service officer. My ATM card had been swallowed by the ATM machine and I was having a had time getting it from the other Customer Service officer. And then Ene came with the brightest smile I have ever seen and se says: how may I help you sir?

Long story short,she assisted me very kindly but I could not loose the opportunity of shooting my shot. I complimented her and told her I would love to be her friend. And we became friends and even though I was just an undergraduate, Ene treated me like the greatest man on earth.

It was also easy to love her. She is the most beautiful woman in the room any where she is. She is kind and laughs alot. She makes me laugh and my heart light anytime I see her. I mean, it was the coolest thing for an undergrad to be dating a hot banker. My friends envied me. I wont lie…I feel blessed.

Now, its been two years of dating. I am in my final year but Covid and ASSU strike has refused to allow me graduate. Ene is already feeling that its time to take our relationship to the next level: marriage. I agree with her but I wish to get married after my graduation and I have a job and can take care of my wife and family.

Ene does not mind but .....

https://livelystones.ng/2020/10/22/my-girlfriend-has-given-me-a-marriage-ultimatum-please-advise/

Good evening ,

Please post and hide my identity for me. I am married with 3 kids. I and my hubby were leaving happily until last year December everything about him changed. He started keeping late nights, most times he does not come home until three days or more

I told his elder sis and mum but they did nothing about it. Then I decided to keep a watch on my hubby and I noticed that he has been going out with another lady but I haven’t caught him in the act.

He locked up the shop he opened for me and stopped taking care of us, because I reported him to his people about his new behavior but his mum warned me never to call her line. My husband said to me that he married me out of mercy.

He now comes home once in a week and leaving without money for us, am dying in pains, my account is empty, my kids are dying of hunger. I can’t go back to my family because.....

https://livelystones.ng/2020/10/26/my-husband-has-suddenly-abandoned-me-my-children-please-advise-me/

SeunDobo:
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Damikjay:
I would advise u to tell ur sister about it, and if u are independent enough get ur self a new apartment to stay. and start a brand new life

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Le124:
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Meaning the actual numbers of those killed cannot be accounted for if, soldier took away the bodies.
I salute your courage young lady

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DJ switch finally speaks out for the first time since she luckily survived the Lekki Toll Gate Massacre

Watch video here

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ie6T87H6tgw

Hello ma,

Please advise me. I know what I have done is wrong but I was only 19 at the time. So my Auntie and her husband used to help us when my dad died. Things were pretty difficult for us. Relatives tried to help us but Auntie was the most consistent.

It got to a point that I moved in with them and was helping them as a maid while they paid my school fees. Auntie's husband started giving me more than Auntie was giving me and when he started asking me for s*x, I thought it was the right way to pay him for his kindness to me.

Uncle was sleeping with me for almost one year and I got pregnant several times and had abortions for him. Eventually I.....

https://livelystones.ng/2020/10/23/we-had-several-years-of-affair-because-i-thought-it-was-love-but-i-am-afraid-for-my-life/

I work in a telecommunications agency, one of the best and biggest in the country. Most of the people who are my colleagues are are young and free spirited. The nature of our work as creative people makes the work culture almost very informal.

The COO is a young chap too, in his late 30s. Married but a confirmed womanizer. His good looks do not even help matters. Ladies throw themselves at him very regularly. I have heard rumors of his escapades but I mind my own business.

Last year, our HR Manager relocated out of the country with her family and there was a vacancy. A friend of mine who is engaged has been looking for a job so I recommended her for the job. After the series of interviews, she got the job especially because I recommended her highly to our COO.

Before my friend started working with us,I gisted her about how people relate in the company. That its an informal setting but she needs to distinguish herself. I expected her to really focus on the job and not get carried away cos that is how I have been working here for the past five years.

Soon as she resumed,....

https://livelystones.ng/2020/10/19/i-criticized-my-friend-for-dating-a-married-man-is-this-the-same-mistake/

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My name is Frank (not real name). I am a 35 year old man. Please pardon my English, admin if you can help me reconstruct it, thank you. I dropped out of school many years ago to help my mother train my 6 siblings.

Coming from a polygamous home, my father did not care about us. My mother sold local gin and that was barely enough to sustain her children. I did several manual jobs to support my mother and my siblings. By the time I was 32, I started a part time course for an OND degree.

That was where I met my wife. She was a 23 year old full time student. She really helped me with my homework cos I was missing class due to work shift as a security guard. I liked her alot. She came from humble beginnings.

I knew the age difference was much but she liked me too and I proposed to her on her 24th birthday. We got married shortly before she was 25. We had nothing but we had ourselves.

My wife always caught....

https://livelystones.ng/2020/10/17/why-did-my-wife-betray-me-is-it-pressure-or-lust-please-advise/

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mosdii:
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Good morning all,

Two years ago, I lost my fiancé to a motor accident. It was a very terrible period for me. I loved him with my life. There is nothing I would not do for him and him for me too. Loosing him was also the first time I would loose someone so dear to my heart…it was traumatic for me.

During that traumatic time, one of his friends, lets call Tony was a lot of support to me. I mean, everyone was around me….my fiancé’s family and friends rallied around me to make sure I was ok. Tony and my fiance’s friends were checking on me and making sure I was good.

Tony in particular was very caring to me and there were days, I needed a shoulder to cry on, he was there. When I started having nightmares…he was the one I would talk to. I must admit,I would not have been able to make it if not for Tony.

Tony was very caring. Calling me everyday to check on me, to make me laugh. Cry with me and encourage me to be strong and move on. On the first year of my fiance’s death anniversary, we had a ceremony to remember him. I thought....

https://livelystones.ng/2020/10/15/my-relationship-is-falling-apart-because-i-cried-for-my-late-boyfriend-pls-advise/

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Hello,

My best friend and I are the same age. We are both 38 years old. I am married with 3 children but she has not been lucky in relationship. She has a son from way back in University when she got pregnant for a lecturer that she thought would marry her.

In fact, I think she dated him for marks cos she is not that bright. No shade but she says it sometimes. But this lecturer did not marry her. The boy is with her mother. She dated several men that like her cos she’s pretty and s*xy but once they find out she has a child, they vanish.

My friend dated a guy for 4 years. They were such a lovely couple and everyone thought this was the guy. But she did not tell him she has a...

https://livelystones.ng/2020/10/14/my-friend-is-rejecting-true-love-why-is-she-unlucky-with-men/

I finished my service last year February and since I could not find a good job,I took up a job as a hotel receptionist.  Working as a receptionist was tough. I worked 7 days a week for a 25k job and they would owe salaries up to 3 months before paying.

I am the first child from a family of 5. Two of my other siblings are in tertiary institutions and really struggling to make it. We are not lazy in my family, we did many odd jobs to survive and pass through school...so even with my receptionist job, I learnt make up and gele tying.

So from the hotel guests,I got clients for make up. At some point, I felt its better to do my make up full time and leave the receptionist job. I met a lady who encouraged me to go to Lagos where people would pay me more money for my make up.

I only had a distant cousin in Lagos but I contacted her and after much begging, she allowed me to come stay with her in Lagos for only 3 months after which I must find my own place. I came to Lagos in November last year, things were not as easy as I imagined.

I worked hard and got make up jobs but Lagos has plenty make up artists and the competition is much. My cousin didn't make staying with her easy. Her husband had straying eyes so she was paranoid with me around him. By February, I had to move out to a one room face-me-I-face you situation.

My rent was 5k a month. I worked really hard and was determined to make it in this Lagos.  I even did other things to make money. I am good at decorating, I became an interior décor person, I sold bedsheets and duvets. I was hustling. And then, covid hit in March and total lock down came.

I could not get jobs or do make up anymore.. I had no savings. I could not pay my rent and I was being threatened by the landlord to pay or move  out. When I went to beg him to be considerate due to covid -19, he said I should.....

https://livelystones.ng/2020/10/13/this-relationship-is-complicated-maybe-dangerous-pls-advise/

majamajic:


Mr Ozo , u for finish the story here

Where u wan carry us go again

Dear Jzhane,

Where do I even start from? I need advise...I feel stuck in my relationship and at cross roads. It started when I lost my parents 14 years ago. Uncle UK (not real name) was my father's best friend and he immediately took me and my siblings like our god father. He was there to support and advise us after the passing of our parents.

I was in my final year. God helped me and I graduated. Uncle UK's second daughter was a jambite (fresh university graduate) when I noticed her. It was love at first sight. She was always in boarding school before now. I told Uncle UK that I liked Nengi(not real name) He gave his blessings but said I have to wait until she graduates.

I supported Nengi with my meager youth corper allowee up to when I got a job as a Teacher for almost 3 years. Nengi's mother though was not comfortable with our relationship. She would have loved for Nengi to marry someone......

https://livelystones.ng/2020/10/12/i-made-a-marriage-promise-but-i-am-sorry-i-have-to-break-my-promise/

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