₦airaland Forum

Djriri:
My partner and I are aware of our genotype situation both of us carry AS gene we both have a child together my first daughter who is AS genotype PRAISE THE LORD.

After finding out that I am also AS my partner after the birth of my daughter has told me he didn’t want to continue having children with me and would rather we both raise the child and get new partners. we want to let that connection go and 1 year later currently I’m pregnant with a baby boy who is now carrying the SS gene.

My partner has moved out of house ,, Paid me money to abort the baby and he went to start a new life far from me and the baby. I’m not sure if I should use the money abort the child and start my life or keep the child and pray for Gods forgiveness!!!!

HELPPPP ME

What do you want to do ?

Options
1. Keep the baby - Caring for a child as a single parent in a society without the necessary assistance and quality of assistance will be hard. Having a child without support structure will be difficult. Think it through and thoroughly. Weigh pros and cons and void emotions.
2. Keep the baby and give it up for adoption - Again, why add to the growing number of abandon babies however he could be lucky and be adopted by loving and caring parents.
3. Abort the baby - This is not a decision taken because you were young and careless but looking at the future of the baby , It will be extremely hard. You will recover and go on and do great things. Go , seek out and support a child financially who has SS in your aborted child's name to ease your conscience. God is a forgiving father. Learn for this and do not put yourself again in such predicament.

Whatever your decision, be at peace with it.

GoodLuck !

Let me guess his response “ the devil made me do it ?”

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

Well I feel for you , truly.
Hmm you’re 33 , married 14 years so you married at 19. Which means he could have been your first love or you got pregnant and forced to marry him.
Some of the comments you have made are borne out of immaturity. You feel trapped as you had to become a wife , parent and responsible adult quickly. You couldn’t go partying with your friends and so you feel you missed out on “ life “. It doesn’t have to feel or be so.
In any case quitting the marriage is not your answer/ Solution. Just remove that completely from your mind and focus on the other possible solutions or workarounds.

Be active - not sure if you’re a house manager or employed. Get a gym membership or be employed if you’re not.

Have a night out - plan the evening out with some friends or have people over. Watch a movie with some girlfriends and just verge.

Have a date night with hubby. Women are coy and smart . Get a baby sitter and go watch a movie with dinner out.

Read books - or write a journal or stories here on NL for us to read. Renew your mind

GoodLuck

Forget relationship - once you believe you have made enough money you’ll make the relationship work. Or you’ll find someone who understands.
Take Tom Brady for sure - The dude works from May through to February every year so 8 months out of the year. He’s unavailable to take his kids to school , be a parent, attend bday parties , vacations etc because he is working. The goal is to find that compatible girl who’s job will fit like a glove . For now just focus at the task at hand or use these dating apps to find a lady who can keep herself busy while you work.

Doesn’t bolt have customer service that can lay hold of the driver.
What background checks are done on the drivers ?
This is scary - and the banks won’t do nothing.
I sent N1500 to the wrong bank account , it’s been 6 months no answer or response.

NijaDueprocess:
I spent money doing that, but was advised by the police to go to court and get him evicted.

But 2 years that wickedness ! Pure evil. How do you turn the other cheek to someone who is not even telling the reason why. ?
I think you have the answer here:
1. Inform the lawyer that you need to do urgent renovations
2. Let the dude be served the letter
3. Perform some renovations to uproot the fool. I am really rooting for you !!!!.

Be careful not to be too exact on your description of the place. Your tenant might be on NL reading all these comments.

akpunda86:
Bros I no be paedophile ohh

Okay my Oga, I hear you. Na as I hear am, I talk o.

akpunda86:
Advance Ke for 15 years haba

Ha! You never see girl 15 years looking matured and well endowed. One thing leads to another , bros, you just don’t know.

NijaDueprocess:
Please I needed help to evict a stubborn tenant. After I left the country and handed over my property to a lawyer, a tenant has refused paying his rent for almost two years without reason. The matter has been in court for almost two years without success. The court keeps adjourning the case. The tenant refusal to pay the rent has pushed other tenant to start owing too. Please kindly suggest the best way out of this situation.
Location of property: Abuja.

2 years and we wonder why the country is in the bad way and in addition no reason.
How does the dude sleep at night ? Wow.
Dude, Pardon my french but damn !!! Unless the court is going to deduct the rent at source from his salary.
Pay and get the police to evict the dude. Like yesterday. Unless he pays arrears , plus cost you paid to police.

questionanswer:
I have a lady whom I want to settle down with. The lady is respectful and behavior well. But I'm being bordered by suitations surrendered her. I'm really rethinking the possiblity of proceeding with the marriage plan. And the reason is:

1. I'm being bordered because the lady doesn't really have a work or a skill. And she's not making an effort to empower herself. I told her to go learn work but she refused and keep giving excuses.

I don't really want to marry a liability who cannot assist the family.

2. Her family is very poor and broke. And I don't really have plans to take care of my wife and her entire family.

Please I need a mature advise on this.

Thank you.

Listen - I would not advise you marry her. Marriage will not change someone's attitude if not during courtship. It seems she is set as a housewife. I would even add that it is not your responsibility to try and force an adult to learn a skill. That should be for her parents to do. So for the "earth's sake" and all that is good. Try and meet the parents and say. I like your daughter but I cannot marry her without her learning a skill or trade. If you will talk to her, I will sponsor her. ( Now, don't come back after a year and say the woman that I sponsored no longer loves me !) If she agrees and you see progress - then carry on but if not, then she is not the one and then move on.

akpunda86:
Hi all .I have a helper staying with us 15years,she no dey even see me nor recognise me as the head of the house expect my wife.
The thing dey piss me off.
1) I was collecting soup from the pot took meat,kai this girl reported me to my wife.I warned her .
2) This girl in serving me food just drop food on table and go sometimes put water sometimes not.
3)All my movement this girl tell my wife,
The thing don do me everything got a limit,sent her going today,all this helpers believe one can't do without them,I told my wife Na she cause am cos gave the girl 2much soft hand.She have reached her village .
Helper never insult me like dat bf

Well such things never just change overnight.
If you really claim to be incharge whats stopping you from asking her to leave at the end of the month and get someone else ?
But it seems to me that you made an advance at her which she declined and now she has the upper hand.
I've seen this movie before. Before you get her pregnant - let her go.

Exkandayee:
currently I'm not in Nigeria anymore

Okay. Sorry I thought I read somewhere that you were deported.

Exkandayee:
For what exactly

I am looking to invest as well. I figured we could help each other.
I have been following Bayo Adio of Adio Agro Park and Green Paradise.
He’s on YouTube . And currently in Nigeria in a place called Kobape in Ogun State

Exkandayee:
I no deh for North,I deh owerri,is not possible to invest in agriculture here in the East

Sent you an email

MadamVanessa:



Okay I have seen your cheap timberland you just bought, and it's nice. Because your aim was to show us that you've gotten a new cheap timberland shoe with a jean trouser, that will fade immediately it enters water.

Ouch ! You can’t judge a book by its cover now

Maybe na throwback clothes the dude wore. To live abroad no easy now, I think.

Studentdelta2:
I have too many problems at this moment to even bother myself about this girl but it's very hard to let her go. I am a student and being the sole bread winner of myself she has been very supportive...

She lives with me and so money always comes from her side. Only few will relate to this, I have no one, absolutely no one to get money from so I hustle online and money comes but it's not frequent.

Though when we met things were a bit better with more than 500k with me but now, i don't even know how to say it. I can't even pay my current final year school fees which is even giving me BP.

So this lady has been very supportive, but she sleeps with everything in this life. She lies without thinking twice as if it's normal. She sees sex as a normal thing. I can boldly attest to several times I caught her with her always claiming to change. I can't let her go cos when I did, I nearly starved. Things are not working well for me at all and she knows this.

So, an ex boyfriend of hers, a limping Cripple(married) called recently and I found out they have been banging even after my preaching about self worth. The girl will get me into trouble but oh well, i am just confused.

I know more than 50 names she has slept with and very certain she has done more than 500 people....

My life is just a sad irony. A cruel one.

Might be an insight or an epiphany
But how and where do you think she gets the money to assist you from ?

Fmghewzy:
Lol , so she get power for Nairaland lol.
I don't give a fuvk about what she does though.
I only said the truth,she is looking for attention.

Couldn't be closer to the truth - Still do not know her agenda. Just digging up and posting negative posts. I am yet to see any positive post .

SmileDance:
Dialogue won't work, take away everything he likes from him( not food), if possible take him to the police station to see the way criminals are being treated, take him to the prison to see what becomes of thieves, then buy koboko at home, soak in blended pepper and flog him naked, then repeat the process each time he lies or steals, if this don't work then nothing else will.

You have to use all the tools available.
Dialogue - Constant and daily assurances that stealing is bad, show him videos of what happens to those that steal .
Spanking - I am spanking you because x, y z.
Change location - Could it be peer pressure , change friends and if possible location.


If you fail to do so now, society is more cruel teacher and it will end up very very bad for the child.

Himtulie247:
Congratulations ! Abeg take this one celebrate your new job with your good friends
Wish you all the best

Just FYI , I am liking the food picture not the comment

Fmghewzy:
Guys people like siofra are simply looking for attention,I can bet you when people start ignoring her threads and stop quoting or replying her.

You would see less and less of topics like this.
Same goes to her friends ,candidlady, future is female and the likes and that last slowpoke always posting about rape .

Bro .. becareful with Siofra , I got banned 12hours because i called her a blonde.

YinkaOlusesi16:
E don happen, e don happen, no give us story. We will bounce back next season with our new coach, United we will stand again.

like your optimism but only in your dreams bro.

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But explain to me ..
You left your parents home to build a life with your S.O. Isn't the home for both of you with equal authority. ? You may have the final authority but the hierarchy should be either of you and then a 3rd person.
How would you feel if your mother-in-law moves in with you and asserts some kind of authority over the home, you and your spouse built.

A wise parent in my book would never try to assert any form of authority in her children's home but rather make sure that her son is treating his wife with respect and love.

86FB:
And you believe that she is the one in the pic?.

you would be scammed easily.

Ouch ! You’re right . But why would she use someone else’s though.

God1000:
I'm yet to see young Nigerians marrying young foreigners, why always old women?

Those are the desperate ones.

rickpat:
yeah..my day was good...hope yours was good too?

Can’t complain ! Have a swell evening .