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Vinnie2000:
Lol, and you re supporting her o! See y i said too much Emotions and bias reasoning will full this thread!

I wonder o ! It's like she saw my moniker and decided to blast me. Premeditated!

rickpat:
..it can't be established in Nigerian law court... there's no provision for that...rape is defined only for a female....a male has no legal definition for rape

Understood ! Thx

Jennyclay:
What are you even insinuating? I don't understand, You're just a confused fellow roaming about.

In a sane forum, this post would been deleted. Then, you and op should have been banned for joking with rape.

What are you Nigerians turning into. May God heal our land!!!

Where in my quote or diatribe am I laughing or Joking about rape ?

rickpat:
by the law..men don't get raped....it's either sexual assault or defilement in cases of minors...adult male don't get raped by the law and legal definition of rape

I respectfully disagree ! Quote your sources.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_of_males

Why not have the court wedding now and later do the church wedding.
At the end of day - How are your finances ?
Someone here had a court wedding for N50k. So before the eyes of the law you r married and once you both save and have a budget you can have the church wedding.

You do what's best for you two.!!
Don't forget to send the Invitation - so i can save the date.

I would agree to a degree with @jennyclay Rape is not something to joke with. Although it occurs a lot to femails , some men do get raped.
That said - Rape is any sexual Intercourse ( penetration ) without consent . So either 1sec or less. It is!

IMO - Marrying is the wrong term here - Rather " Would I date the person"
With all that entails with marrying - the planning and money - why would someone who doesn't love me even go through all that.
Now, If you talking about dating - I would rather date someone whom I love because, I could woo the person to my side and if it doesn't work we go our separate ways. It is why we have the courtship period, If you aren't compatible - we go our separate ways.

saphiere:
Sincerely speaking I am tired of this gender.




Association of Rape Apologists (ARA)
una good morning ooo

isn’t it the same gender which spawn you !
Why not blame “ that man “ why do you have to lump all of us together. ?

Ebubu:
you are wise bro

Takes one to know one. I am humbled.

chatinent:
If the gift has left your possession, you'll lost its possession. All you can retrieve now is to learn your lessons.

I like the rhyme

Thinkfree:
Good evening everyone,
Can i retrieve a gift i gave someone? Is there any legal justification for that?

Don’t call it a gift - Call it a loan!
Maybe judge Judy can help !

Seriously N. O

SmartPolician:
Honestly, that was a very senseless comparison. This just goes to show you how low people can get just to put food on the table.

Sorry, Tundun, it's obvious you have a sister who neither has common sense nor a sense of self-worth.

BTW, Abiola used to be a very rich man. What did these kids do with all the wealth he left behind?

IMO- Well yep wealthy but does not exclude debt. The wealthy are able to leverage asset against debts. For example USA is 1.3trillion in debt. And growing daily they however day their debt on time.
Another example MJ when he died was almost $300m in debt. He even had to leverage his wristwatch for a 100,000 loan. But when his estate sold his asset he’s estate is now about $500m + yearly royalties. He’s richer dead than he was alive.
Now on Abiola,
It’s been 20+ years
He had debts which had to be paid
Habib bank, Abiola Farms, football club, concord newspaper , concord airlines, cowbell have all gone under. ( most of the companies might not have been financially vibrant, I mean he would have been keeping some afloat himself because he was a people person )
Government never paid him back what he was owed.
Had a lot of wives and children in and out of wedlock.
His untimely imprisonment and death.

Rugaria:
Life imprisonment for rape!?
Is that what the constitution says? Or is our lordship making up the laws as he goes?
As heinous as rape is, and I want a severe punishment for offenders, judgement should be based on constitutional dictates applicable to such crime.
I think the judge here is simply using his courtroom to vent his frustrations on a stupid offender and that to me is unconditional too..

No it is not unconstitutional.

immortalcrown:
Na you mess up. You know say you go rent out the apartment, you for give the apartment separate meter and separate tank.

Two options:
(1)
Install a separate meter and a separate overhead tank for the tenant's apartment.

(2)
Give the tenant a quit notice and have no other tenant when the current one leaves.


This commenter does not understand human nature well. Either the tenant and his wife think they pay you too much money and they do those things to hurt you, or the wife is a spoilt slay queen that is addicted to wasting money and resources. Therefore, talking to them cannot help. The man, being a lawyer, may even bring up a silly logic.

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SHINJA:
What the people of Ebonyi need is good food and jobs not airports..How will airport help the poor people of Ebonyi state?

Instead of providing jobs for them you are busy building airport while most of the youths from Ebonyi state are busy hawking lacasera and gala by the road side of Lagos...

How jobs go come without a way of bringing those Jobs to Ebonyi. To run an airport could take at least 500 people. Those are jobs which locals can snatch up.
Ground Control People
Baggage Handlers
Plane cleaners
Food Providers
Air Traffic Control
Security
Plane Fuel loaders
Plane Carriers maintenance etc
Without even talking about shops around the airport and development which it brings.

What’s next is for those youths to get a certificate course and when preparation jam opportunity = success.

This has happened to me 2ce.

To the first one - I told him straight up. Dude you have B.O . I bought you 6 cans of Body Deodorant. Shave your armpits ( his white shirt had some stains) and apply in the night when you sleep and when you wake up in the morning. You will thank me. He said thank you.

The second one, I had to be a bit tack. So I told him a story,
Me : Hey bro, you got a minute.
Bruh : Yes Aburo
Me: You know I respect you
Bruh : Of course now.
Me : Good, Good. You no how many gf's I get ?
Bruh : 1 for sure .
Me : I get 4.
He slaps my hand , wow na you be oga patapata with your English. " After the slap/clap, whatever, I am in pain, that's why I use tack , I couldn't take him on one on one.
Me : I want to tell you the secret.
Bruh : What is it now, I am all ears.
Me: I bring out a bag under the seat and tell him plainly- Bruh, You dey emit bad odour, It is either you sweat a lot or you are not applying it well. I told him that someone introduced me to body deo and after that, when I walk up to " toast a girl" she was floored with the deodorant, they always compliment my smell, after that you pounce on them. That's my secret !

Bruh then smells himself and says -
Bruh : It's not bad
Me : Bruh, its bad, i smelt it last week that's why I prepared this gift for you. I bet you your co-workers will notice your new confidence when you enter the office.
Bruh " Thanks aburo.
Me : The end.

IdanNla:
My girlfriend was rape around March but did not tell me anything about it not until I came back from school and I found out she is acting strange and I got to put up an act so she did tell me what happen after much act she didn’t tell me but lied about the whole thing but I still put more pressure and she later drop a voice note telling me how it happen, that a co worker of hers invited her to his home after work and the same guy had asked her for a relationship which she said no and the guy lockup the matter. So this fateful day she requested or invited her to his house getting there the guy junior brother left for school cause they are daily part-time student after his junior ones leave he roll up weed and started smoking so during the process of smoking or afterward the whole thing started and she claim to fight him and scream but the guy overpower him and had his way with her after which the guy pleaded saying he’s sorry and she left for home and called her best friend which she suggest she reported to the police but my babe told her she don’t wish to pursue any case that the deed has been done already and they both lockup the mater. And she even talk to the guy the next day at work and the guy was like he’s sorry and bought her prevention drug which she collected and use. After that day the guy wanted to start a connection which she refuse and the guy was like what else she did want cause he had already beg so what is with her attitude and the guy lockup with her. Some weeks later she discover she was pregnant and she told the guy which the guy gave her 4K for abortion and she collected the money and did the abortion. After saying all this she pleaded I should not breakup with her cause she don’t know how to manage the aftermath of the breakup and what happened was not her intention that she was sorry such thing happened!! After hearing all these I simple ask her some question about the incident which she don’t have an answer to
*1= A guy asked you for a relationship and you said NO that is the more reason you should not give him chance of being close or being with him alone in a room!!!*

*2= You went to visit such guy at home and you wore a gown like a guy whom ask you for a relationship would not touch you when he had the chance of being alone with you in a room?*

*3= The said guy roll up weed and light it right in front of you and you sat there comfortably!!*

*4= You claimed you fight him but you got no bruises on you or your undies gettting torn nor your cloth*

*5= You talked to the same guy the next day after the incident*

*6= You concluded to act like nothing happen !!!*

If you are to be me what would you decide after processing all this Asin put your self in my shoe or If your Senior Brother came for advice from you stating all this what would you advice

Right now am devastated not knowing what to do cause this is the same girl am planning on marrying next year or so and I love her more than I can actually comprehend.. Right now she is avoiding me etc But what I wanted to do right now is filling a case at the police station as breaking up has not cross my heart yet but to punish the dude for what he did.. [color=#000099][/color]

I do not want to attack the veracity of the story but as it is laid out and in light of the #meeTOO movement.

1. Why didn't she call to tell you what happened when you were in school.?
2. She needs to tell the police - non negotiable. ( If he did it with her, the dude may have done it with others)
I don't what the punishment for rape is but rape is serious..
3. How could she cope seeing the dude at work day in and day out ?
4. It would have been nice to have her story corroborated with a doctor to see if there are injuries at the vaginal area.

My compromises
1. He quits his job. He either tenders his resignation or I walk up to the boss and inform them of his deeds.

On if to continue the relationship.
I leave that up to you but you both must heal from this terrible thing. It also takes a matured person to look at your g/f and not see a victim but a survival of the crime.
Does she have nightmares of the incident ?
Will you fight fair ? - Will you bring you this issue if she doesn't want to have sex when you do ? If she does something you don't like.


[s]P.S in another life.. I would have slept with the dude's girlfriends as punishment but ..... [/s]

MrSensor:
Nice buttocks. many ladies wish to have that kind of buttocks.

Savage Comment

RedEnergy:
She wants to divorce him so she can get up to half of his wealth. Western marriage is a scam against successful men. Almost like it a crime to be a successful rich man in western countries, yet they claim to be the most civilized people. Most civilized my foot

That is why you get prenup. I love you but sign this prenup paper first.

ignis:
Until they get kidnapped.

Savage Comment

Amotolongbo:
Seems like it was easier carrying out a coup in Dodan Barack then, unlike in Aso Rock

Not easier but when you captured Dodan Barack’s your coup had a 99% chance of success. But for Abacha, Babagida would have been caught. And after the unsuccessful coup is what caused the fast Track of the seat of government to Aso Rock.

Revolution2022:
He scored only 2 goals in his 8years career in Chelsea.He likes passing the ball back to his defender to avoid being taken back by the opponent.

I thought i was the only one who saw that too. I love his personality but I always had my heart in my mouth when he played .

yanabasee:
Now see....


The sexual thing is one sided....

Men wants to sex a woman they have in mind.. Women wants a man to come to them first ...

A woman can be free minded and a man would think it's a greenlight for sex...

You as a man should be careful as well.. Because a woman can easily label you a rapist for just talking with her in your room.. She can tear her clothes and run out claiming that you tried to molest her...
Women should be very careful because a man might just change and feel tempted at any moment... Even highly disciplined men gets tempted...

If you are together in an open space, you both can be free to discuss freely... But if it's on a close door ... then both of them must have themselves to be blamed in whatever the outcome turns out ..

Oga o. Na true talk. “ behind closed doors - both of them have themselves to blame in whatever happens “

Manlikechoba:
I have been in this situation b4... but this is bad,why tempt the man,not everyone can be that strong to stop, at that moment he isn't reasoning again... and I think this should be stopped.. u don't come and make me seriously hard and dump me on the way, u dey naked for bed,open legs and u expect the man to take no for an answer?? When she's not in for it,simply walk out.. u follow am enter room and say on the bed and gisting while kissing him... abeg the op go don remove some vital info just to paint men bad... and the funniest thing is that... no one here knows the said girl(op) she use fake account and all and trying to make men look bad and the gullible ladies go fall to her trap and she go dey find man for real life to marry o...�

I hear you - who knows the full story but I want to avoid victim blaming or shaming . Why must the girl be the tempter and the guy be the one tempted.
I”ll you another story. My first crush was a sister to my friends( 2 boys - 2 years apart) I was in the middle age. So 15,17,and I was 16. I was the same age as the sister. Don’t ask me how the parents did it. Anyways, she had been sending me signals but my antenna was on a different frequency. One day, I visit my friends only to meet the sister. After exchanging pleasantries she insist that I wait for them. ( my friends) Why not , I said. So I enter the huge parlour and we talk and chat and in the midst Nepa brings light so music just starts playing from the speakers we both rush to turn down the music , we jam at the stereo system and just like that she kisses me, I responded and we roll on the carpet floor . I begin to finger her , I see her vibrating under action but all of a sudden I stop when I heard noise . She gets up goes quickly to the door arranges her short shirt. It was someone asking of my friends. She closes the door and says let’s continue . Continue ke. ( unbeknownst to me at that time, I don cum ) . I no do again. She begins to chase me that I must finish what I started. Finish ke, I didn’t even know what I was doing , it was just like instinct I even did what I did. Almost 20mins like a woman possessed she jumped over sofa until I escaped from the parlour.
It’s a thin line between love and hate. She could have easier flipped the story and said I attempted to rape her but nothing came of it . She hated me with passion after that.

akins33:
Request for redesignation from a clerical staff to an administrative staff

This is correct . You Have to add the from

I would like to request for the reassignment of my appointment from Clerical staff to Administrative staff .

yanabasee:
We're almost saying the same thing....


She followed you to the room... She responded to the signal you gave her... On a second thought, she decided not to indulge in it anymore....

Point is... for her to follow you into your room, she knows that anything can happen...

Back to her...

She knows and read the signs and the tone in his voice and the body language....

Some girls will stand by the door to pass a message that they're only here because you invited them and you should say what you wanted saying and they will go.

Being her manager doesn't mean she should lose guard and not be smart.

You can never trust anybody... Not even a father to daughter relationship...

Bros, I Agree to a certain degree but why should a woman automatically think ill of every man she comes across. That every male person has an ulterior motive to get in her pants. Shouldn’t we as men also be taught that when a woman says no , it’s no. Can’t we have female friends with no sexual motives or are we sexually stimulated ( Hot beings) with no off button ?

yanabasee:
Isn't she a prostitute?


First and foremost, why follow a man into his room if you had no intentions of letting him have his way....


Secondly, she's not a child.... She has every right to say No...


For her to be serving in a hotel of all places .... Then she's a who'e...


I had a girlfriend back then, very decent girl but from a poor family.... When things began to get tougher with her .. She applied for a hotel job and she would tell me how the girls in the hotel were sleeping with guests or customers for money and how she hated it... It wasn't upto two weeks when she joined them. Started seeing her with new clothes and new phones and so on...

She had a foreign client that took interest in her and today she has her own hotel... Closed to politicians who patronizes her hotel.

So you see, hotel girls are who'e...

Bros you can’t blame the lady.
She obviously wouldn’t have followed a stranger to his hotel room.
However being her manager she did. She knew him. Following a man to his room does not mean consent.
I haven’t told a soul this story ever -
I met a lady at a hotel in Lagos - she wore an inviting yellow dress , showing her long beautiful arms and lovely cleavage. I asked her if she was waiting for someone she said yes, I said it seems you were stood up. She sighed! I gave her my room number as I was feeling tired and said you could come wait for him in my room. She said ok. She sat in the chair while a changes into my PJ then brushed my teeth.As I returned to the room she was on the phone calling the dude - voicemail. I asked if she didn’t mind me calling on her behalf, she said no - straight to voicemail. During the exchange , I brushed her breasts and apologized. She kissed me mid sentence and I responded. Behind the yellow gown was a black bra with breast begging to be free and black panties. As I was about to release the boobs she said No. No ke! My 3rd leg was at attention blood was flowing from my heart to my phallus as my heart beat had increased.
She just sunk on the bed and said I am not a prostitute - I said I never for a moment thought so. I beg her not to leave me in this state but she said sorry but has to go. Told her to dress and wanted to give her money for transportation but again she said she wasn’t a prostitute.
What am I trying to say - She May have followed him to the room , even removed her clothes but at any stage she says no, Omo it is NO. Being labeled a rapist is like a sword of Damocles hanging over one’s head. Avoid at all cost.

[quote author=Jennyclay post=111587077]C'mon get the hell out of my mention.

Rape apologist!!! [/quote

You don’t have to be mad . Should I triple my offer ?

Just called you out on your quote that Nigerian girls are cheap - Really ?

Flier:
I didn’t know they used to post them in to an hotel

They will post anyone to anywhere requesting cheap labour. There is nothing wrong with a hotel. There are valuable lessons one can learn anywhere. The issue isn’t the hotel , it’s with that particular man.

Jennyclay:
Castrate Him!!!! Why are Nigerian men turning into beast. That's how they go about bragging..
With just₦100 bottle coke, she go open her legs for me.
With just indomie and egg, she go open her legs for me.
With just ₦500 I can get a one night stand prostitute.

Sex is the easiest thing to get from a Nigerian girl because they're re so cheap.. But yet they go about raping girls... Bunch of pervert!!!

Disgusting men.

Sex is the easiest thing to get from a Nigerian girl because they're re so cheap.. But yet they go about raping girls... Bunch of pervert!!!

I don’t think most ladies will agree with you nonetheless I have N1k for you if you’re interested

saphiere:
What is wrong with men and rape?

At his age (29) he should know that NO means NO and not “ Tried Harder “. not “ Maybe” .

On another note - if she had reported this to her fellow male corpers we would have dealt the man some slaps to remind him of that fact.