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fineboynl:
you are a compound fool for this statement.

ey, I know right !

siofra:
I just say make I tell una.

Never leave a good woman because she mistakenly slept with another man Thank you

A Mistake is when you forget to lock the door when rushing out to work.
A mistake is when you leave water boiling till it’s all evaporated.
A mistake is 5-4=0 instead of 1.


For you to sleep with the guy …you would have had to
1. entertain the guys advances towards you
2. Set a date
3. Set a time and
4. Set a place
5. Lie to your “ main man” that you’re going to a friends place.
6. Drive to set place.
7. Remove clothes
8. Lie on bed
9. Engage in the deed
10. Lie to “ main man” that all was well with your friend.
11. Carried out deeds 1-10 again before you where caught.
That madam in my book is not a mistake!

baralatie:
That will be Buhari question to answer

If he is Indeed asking said question and capable implementing what it takes.

So what measures are we implementing to prevent this from happening again ?
What can we do to prevent this from reoccurring again ?

He's forgotten he isn't in Nigeria with power Failure.
How the heck did he even climb the pole ?

lol hahaha I see what you're doing. You want us to do your homework for you.
Put some money as motivation.

shantti:
Bro, let's be sincere, if this guy was broke, would the girl have agreed to date him. A girl that loves u would even look for ways to make u spend less. When she is done sucking him dry she will leave for the next victim

True Facts Chief !! But we don't know the whole back story. The dude with Lexus probably has been spending a lot on his girl and all of a sudden is clamoring over N450. Which left her confused and surprised. She probably was just teasing him we don't know.

Dude - for the mere fact that you live abroad should know better - use protection !!! ( This is for someone else who might read this )
You have 3 options...
1. get someone to verify her story. DM lets chat.
If yes then option 3.

If No then use option 2
2. Then change your number, get a burner wish her well.
3. Abort the pregnancy. If she is not ready, can't face her parents and you are not committed to her in that way. Ask her to find out the cost plus try and provide a bit more for a hotel where she can rest and recuperate after the ordeal.

KingOfTheDamned:
The topic just pissed me off. He even had time to come here and be asking advise? What has happened to the real men In our society.?...

My wife? Me her husband doesn't beat her it's one useles brother that will beat her? Insha korofo I will make sure the guy sleeps in hospital...

Two wrongs don't make a right. It wasn't done in the dude's presence now. Plus you can only beat on someone you can overpower. What happens if the brother is a military man or cop. Report to the parents and advice them that such a behaviour is totally unacceptable. If the brother has an issue with my wife report to you guys ( parents) or me. I paid the bride price an assault on her is an assault on me.

Rahkman:
My babe got angry after she sucked me and i cummed inside her mouth.....she swallowed it she tried to kiss me after the sex and everything but I dodged her mouth and instead was kissing and biting her neck,she was acting all calm but I know she was angry.....I just can't taste my own cum always felt that's disgusting

lmao ! - Bros you too much !! I hear you....
There are just somethings I believe you should keep to yourself sha !
Dude wash your willy before engaging in sexual activity.
Its your sperm and you're lucky your lady allows CIM ( come in mouth)
Get a mint or chewing gum and kiss the lady on the pecker for a great service. The white man invented toothpaste and brush, just gaggle after with warm water.

I attended Mayflower School Ikenne.
They had these palm kennel trees. When the Palm Kennel fruit fall. We will take stones/rocks to remove the shell and remove the nuts to eat .


God ..dark times.....

Blunttruth:
Iyaebe was totally wrong. Two wrongs don't make a right. I don't want to believe it was a test. I don't support the man not giving his wife food. Being suck doesn't mean you can't press phone. Let love lead.

Perfectly said .. Let Love Lead.

Oturatetuala:
How i wish nairaland could do voice note, I have lots on my mind about the issue.

well start typing now.. eager to read

Obakoolex:
One thing about people that lie... complex will push them to say things that will easily give them up. There's no sense in saying she quickly jumped in my 'lexus' when he could just say my car

My thoughts as well. Nice observation.

funkmrflexx:
I ended the relationship with My ex due to her bad characters. And then I later got married.
While we were dating I wanted to get my ex a place for her to stay due to d fact Dat she doesn't have anywhere to go when she graduates.
Both of her parents are divorced and remarried with kids. She can't go back to her father's house because he harrases her sexually and his wife his not welcoming. She can't go to her mother's house cus her stepfather won't agree. During d time we were dating she was staying with me for this reason but as soon as she got into school her character changed so I ended it all.
Now think of her predicament I'm thinking of getting her d house I promised so as for her not to go back to her dad's house. I have the money to do it that's not a problem.

I'm still having second thoughts though. Abi Make I just use my money package myself

Dude, glad you have the money , it is however not the Issue here.
It's a tightrope you are walking on which could lead to the breakage of your marriage. As someone mentioned on the thread.. It could will lead to side chick scenario.
Except you tell your wife about it.
So I ask you - Does your wife know about this "promise" and your intentions. If she is onboard then go for it. If not, give her the money as gift or loan and let her do whatever she wants with it.

SmartyPants:
The bolded is really alarming.

Paying for sex with plantain is your own idea of maturity?

You pick your battles. Arguing over N450 will hinder initiating for sex down the road. See how bitter she got - she didn't even eat the food. Been mature means you are able to process things differently - developed mentally and emotionally. Again I ask. Why argue over N450 when there is a bigger picture. If you determine she cannot save. You buy the groceries and she cooks - You open a savings account and save. Usually when women stary working - they start saving because they know the value of money, she clearly doesn't.

oshaosha2014:
She will pay with copulation later. Wow. Like in that copulation she'll be suffering and the guy will be enjoying abi. So, na only man dey enjoy copulation because they don't pretend about liking it like the woman? What is she paying? This una mentality na why woman think she's all that when she's just a human being with flesh and bones like you. Copulation is not payment!

let me clarify. Once you have been in many relationship you pick your battles. Why will I quarrel over N450 for plantain when I know its going to affect her mood when I try to initiate for sex later on. It's a mood killer. If you try and force sex when she is not emotionally present or angry at you, It would be like you're having sex with wood. She would just lay there and when you're done -ask " are you done ''?
So to avoid this ... just pick your battles. I would have rather let her have plantain - I've eaten, she's eaten and we can talk about " the test" later on.
I have been with a g/f who just when you are about to have sex will start bringing up issues that happened in the morning - And I will be left scratching my head - Why didn't you bring this up prior so that we can deal with it. Why now when the candles are lit and the music is going that you decide to bring up a hot, contentious topic which just kills the mood. ..I pick my battles.

Amotolongbo:
very much better.

The last time Nigeria didn’t qualify for the World Cup, Austin Eguavoen was an assistant coach

Austin Eguavoen coached the U23 footall team and they refused to qualify for the Olympic in 2012.

Yikes omo you still bitter. They “ refused “ deliberately?

yinkaOdutuyo:
So the main issue that led to me denying her food this night.

I asked her for the two of us to go and get ingredients for food, she said she's having serious headache so I went alone.

When I came back I washed the rice and put it on fire and I also start grinding the pepper and tomatoes with manual grinder.

After few minutes when the rice was done I asked my wife to go and put down the rice from fire, and fried the stew afterwards.

She just started shouting she's so tired, her head is hot and making hefty sounds inside that she can't stand up from this bed.

I insisted and she went to put the rice down and off the gas, instead of her to start frying the stew. She just came and meet me on the bed.

And she started shouting I didn't tell you am hungry, am not even eating this night at all. Do whatever you want to do, I'll never stand up to make any stew in this house. If you want to eat go and make the stew yourself.

I just stood up and enter the kitchen to make the stew. As I was making the stew, my wife that said she's not feeling fine was busy watching film om her phone. She complained earlier that her head is hefty and aching her that she can't stand up from the bed, but she stood up and start looking for the BT Audio to connect to her phone so that she'll be able to hear the film audio very well.

Immediately I finished making thr stew, I served the food on the table and the next my wife wanted to stood up from the bed to join on the table so that we can eat.

I just told her that You can never eat from this food this night and tomorrow morning, because you were the one that said you were not hungry that I was troubling you to make food.

I also told her that the headache allow you br watching films and also allow you to be looking for BT Audio. But denied you to cook for me.

So house I want to know if this is right or wrong pls or what can I do.

To all moniker saying have I ever helped her before this is for you below:

BTW I have cooked many times in the house, there are times she'll go to work before she comes back I'll have prepare good foods, that will atimes takes me 2 or more hours to prepare and she'll come back and eat and smile and say thank you. I use to get home between 5pm and 6pm latest, while she'll be coming home by 7pm, 8pm or latter.

At times the two of us may be at home and I'll be the only one cooking, while she'll just lie down watching films or doing another thing while I do the while cooking.

I think I have being helpful to her in cooking and other chores in the house. There are many times I'll be the one washing all the clothes in the house, while she's sleeping or doing something else.

I literally do almost 80% of everything in the house if not more than.

But me doing all those doesn't mean am a fool or I don't know what am doing.

Bit I think as a man you have to man up.

Bro - The relationship is not healthy.
There are communication issues.

You did things your way but there’s another way.
This is what I would have done different.
She claims she has headache - I’ll get her pain killers and tell her to rest. Then I either hit the restaurant and get us both food or do the shopping and cooking myself to the best of my ability.

Someone who has a headache doesn’t watch TV with surround sound. They usually just watch with CC or turn off the damn thing to reduce the noise in their head.
You wouldn’t allow someone you love to go hungry would you unless it’s a fast.

I think both of you need to have a heart 2 heart about the relationship. Is she a stay at home wife or does she work ?
Doesn’t sound like there are kids so you both have time to decide how things progress.
She may also be influenced by peers who watch all these foreign shows that are not culturally relevant to Nigeria.
She could have said - could you cook for us dear because I am tired today. Saying “ I am not hungry and therefore didn’t cook - was a lie “

There are always three sides to a story . Hers , yours and the truth. ( usually in the middle).

Have a heart to heart - Why exactly did you behave the way you did - things can’t remain the same - let’s communicate properly. Plus I am sure there are other things going on.

Good luck

ChimasGirl:
If your partner is the love of your life but cannot have children, would you break things off?

Nope - You can adopt, You can get a surrogate with a donor egg and your sperm.
As long as he/she is willing there is a way.

TheOldGods:
We have been dating for a while now. Been coming to my house and my parents knows her. Normally she visits and sleeps over and ofcourse because she is my guest ,I'll have to give her food etc.


So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?

In my eyes you both acted immaturely
1. You had a budget of N3000 ( You said not more than N3000) - So when the food was ordered it was less than N450 she wanted plantain. Let her have the damn plantain. !!!
2. Because she didn't get what she wanted she takes the food , doesn't eat it and in addition moves away from you ( Is she 16 ? ) I mean common.
3. You too vex and then apart from your food, you ate hers as well. So at the end you consumed 2600N all by yourself which is more than you had agreed upon.

There has to be more than binds you together than this episode if you really love her.
Talk to her that you find her behaviour childish that because the food was under the budget did not mean we should spend it all. We could have used the remaining money for something else. You will however find in relationships there are some battles you avoid to win the war. If you want to have whoopie, let her have the damn plantain because she will pay with copulation later on. Its give and take later on.

Preciousgirl:
This is a heavy breakfast
Not your usual tea and beverage stuff
Your wife puts this on the table before going to work

How will u react?

What do you want now ? More money, car keys or more kids ..

ikorodureporta:
https://www.completesports.com/bonfrere-westerhof-sold-nigerias-game-against-italy-at-usa-world-cup/

Is this his death bed confession ?

PastorMIsBack:
We were filling out a survey and one of the questions was:

Are your children getting younger or older?

lol ! Benjamin Button.

MadamVanessa:



Lol


During sex, a guy instead of focusing on what he was doing ,focus to hit the right spot, he will stupidly ask locally" are you liking it" wtf

MadamVanessa Nice profile pics....... lol ! Hilarious.

Because nothing works as it should. Its actually an anomaly when you actually get paid in full and on time.
Its also a culture thing. When you go abroad Petrol cost $3 a litter - you don't bargain you pay and go. You go to the store - you pick up your stuff and pay at the cashier - you disappear.
Once we get into the culture nd habit of believing that seller is charging a fair price - they will thank you for a job well done and pay. The fact is at the back of our heads there this lingering thought that we are being taking to the cleaners so they pay what " they" think the job is worth.

tayo60:
Because English is not their mother tongue

Savage

2ndchildhood:
The situation am in ATM.. because with a girl having multiple sexual relationship in the past and high body count, they is a high possibility of her cheating in marriage.. they are not use to one man

It goes both ways. However at a certain age or period in your life when “ life happens “ work , bills etc your libido will wane it happens to women earlier than men. Idle hands na devil workshop. If she is busy and you’re busy you’ll only really have time for each other.

khreus:
I was actually enjoying it till i got to the third paragragh. Why do we drag Jesus into every conversation.
If his mental health would remain intact that is, he lack imagination, he may continue with the relationship, anything otherwise he might want to consider taking the next TURN. Diving scripturally here(to my knowledge), the only case which I know was brother Hosea vs one sister my body-my pride like that.However his case was more like following God’s directive rather his personal preference.

Sister charity wey don see everything finish shouldn’t be with brother John wey neva see anything. It’s a mismatch pls

I hear you but it’s not a fake story. That was how I felt at the time and still feel whenever I remember my relationship with the lady. She was at a low point in her life feeling used and abused on the inside yet on the outside she played the role and acted the part. That scripture was what made me look beyond her short comings at that time and actually engage in the relationship. Which lasted a few years till I left to service.
Most of my commentary on some topics aren’t just empty shallow talk but actually events that happen and so I was just trying to be objective to the dude - so I address 2 issues , the spiritual aspect ( if he cared) and the physical aspect ( compatibility) .

Wow !
Can't drive - roads are bad and robbers on highway.
Can't fly - the idiots doubled the airfare
Can't take the train - terrorist immobilized the tracks.

Which way Nigeria ? What's next ?

Prettygirl200:
I will just chop off his dick, I come in peace!!!

lol !

lildonn222:
I think the west should emphasize more on the peace talk rather than supplying weopons for Ukraine to prolong the weopons are useless without the people.

US and UK can't offer what PUTIN is asking which is Ukraine remain neutral . A sovereign state must determine their own faith.
No matter what - Dialogue which broke down at the beginning is always what will end a conflict.

After what Putin has done all the NATO countries are going to increase their defense spending to up to 2%of GDP and will be pushing to be part of EU and NATO. ( those that are not)
Zelensky was hoping for an emergency admission to NATO once he realized that was not happening, he changed his tune to say that they understand due to their proximity to Russia, it will be a problem.

The only viable solutions are
1. Ukraine surrender ( after all the monetary support and humanitarian aid that will be a pity)
2. Ukraine split - West and East . East belong to Russia and West to EU. Russia will use the east as a buffer and west can join Nato.