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You haven't started living a healthy life if you're still afraid of losing anyone/anything in principle. If I were you, I'd tell her all that she needs to know about the guy and his ways, give her reasons why I don't think he's good enough for her, or otherwise, yet without depriving her the right to make a final decision for herself.

Let your loyalty always be to your conscience on principle, except maybe in the time of war.

Anyone who understands Tonto's mental process wouldn't have a problem building a healthy and lasting intimate relationship with her, even if her core interest in you isn't altruistic but still something you don't mind using to sustain a relationship with her or anyone else, and provided that your own interest in her is altruistic.

TOTOnigga:
you think it's that easy?? You should have first ask the kind of relationship I have with my dad...we rearly
Talk to each other apart from "good morning sir"
If he wants to send me on an errand,he tells someone to tell me...me and my dad are like 1 and 100 since God knows when..

Your response just validated my earlier submission. How some of you always expect others, especially your benefactors, to pat you on the back after violating a set standard is beyond me. Need I remind you that relational distance between the two of you started at the point in time you started exhibiting your conceited attitude, not after your birth. Once more, eschew conceit and do everything possible to win yourself back to your father's heart.

Conceit is your major problem, and the earlier you eschew it, the better for you. For a start, do everything possible to win yourself back to your father's heart with all honesty and grit you can muster. Show remorse and a prove of dependability. You violated him in many ways, chiefly by betraying the confidence he put on you. That obedience is better than sacrifice hence more glorifying, holds truest in your case.

So, because a 65 years old man said so, it has automatically become a fact. It's a shame to you. In fact, share the shame with anyone who wittingly has given/will give support to any form of abnormality at any given time. Bunch of hypocritically and mentally parochial elements.

Acidosis:
You want to use Acidosis as an example of how not to be small-minded? You should have done this in 2012 bruv.

And sorry, whatever happens on Nairaland stays on Nairaland, for me. Unlike you (nitwits) who, though come online to brag about the toughness of your heart, can't seem to handle "little little" disapointments here and there off Nairaland. ​

Whatever "some of you who know her better" feel about Poco or anyone else off here don't matter in the scheme of things or in how I perceive an individual's posts and worldview on Nairaland.

May be the time you spend offline monitoring her has diminished your ability to remember that the majority of us here do not care about the gossips and experiences you must have cooked up in your head or covens.

Don't expect me to discern your subtle interpersonal issues with Poco or anyone else off here. I do not care. I'm Acidosis on Nairaland and whatever I post here is the limit I want you to know. The Pocohantas I know on Nairaland do not deserve the mindless and consistent attacks and hate from a clique of senseless trolls.

I have always known that hypocritically disingenuous elements like you are not just only pretentious, feeble-minded, wretched, but do also have a low IQ and or deranged. I mean, no sensible and scrupulous person who has encountered Poco and her types here (both men and women) will boldly assert, just as you did, that she never goes after people/entities unprovoked. Stop being hypocritically disingenuous, simple. It is only on a forum like this that people do deny glaring truths or give support to the normalization of abnormalities. Just a few days ago, you were equally urging her on, while she was scheming and supporting a Nairalander (Roman.off) who denied meeting her husband on this forum, even though her (Roman.off) wedding thread bearing her wedding photos that chronicled how she and her husband met on this forum in 2017 is still active on this forum. People like you who do not see anything wrong in supporting evil or who lie needlessly do irritate me a lot.

And no:

- We are not in the same class in any meaningful areas of life. Assuming that you are not still doing your tailoring work and now have something worthwhile doing - I doff my hat to scrupulous tailors by the way - you can never still be able to lase my shoes. You can ask around.

- I do not belong to any clique here. You and your types are beneath me in all meaningful standard, so I cannot gossip or discuss anyone of you here or off here.

- While you were here, in the year 2012, constituting a nuisance as you have made me understand, I was already lifting up many people globally. Of course, some of my beneficiaries have been Nairalanders, and you cannot afford to be their security today. You can ask around.

Once more, I do not hold a brief for anyone who bashes or trolls Poco, or anyone, unjustly. She always needs all the tranquility she can get anywhere more than anyone here; unfortunately, she unconsciously cannot help create the same kind of atmosphere she needs the most to stay happy. As I said before, her bravado and scheming coupled with hypocritically disingenuous elements like you who do urge her on in her failing moments are her biggest enemies. It is evil to be buttering her up here, while in reality she suffers depression frequently because of the troubles most of you help bring to her consciously and unconsciously. Stop being small-minded, and strive to know your mates. Now, direct your further mention to your mates because ordinarily, I do not give attention to your type of person.

Acidosis:
Na why I dey always call you Poco Poco be dat.

The fact that you don't go after them unprovoked is why I had to share my concern. I can't even say you should ignore them 'cos I nor too get patient like that too and can't seem to ignore some personal attacks and senseless opinions online.

At the end of the day, trolls will always be trolls but I wish and hope they have a change of mind someday.

Foremost, I do not hold a brief for people who do bash or troll Poco unjustly. That said and without mincing words, people like you who gloss disingenuousness in the disguise of libertarian and kindness - wannabe-libertarians and wannabe-kind people - to urge her on and giving her illusory impression that she's an unblemished person who does no wrong are her biggest enemies. Anyway, as much as she is not smart enough to outwit and ruin her betters, she is not dumb enough either not to see through your pretenses since within her, she would give anything to stop giving in to unconscious intrusive and destructive words and actions, if those were to be possible for her.

She's a hypocritically crass and opportunistic person, and she knows it herself, but cannot help herself too much, thus the reason why some of us who know better do have pity on her most of the time. Her bravado and scheming, together with you elements who do pretend and urge her on, are her biggest enemies. You and your ilk who pretend not to see the vice she is, even when she herself knows, are not just ignorant but hypocritically disingenuous elements.

I have got no time for nonsense, disingenuous elements and or crass and opportunistic elements should be mindful of yourselves, else I might be forced to use some of you to show an example of how not to be small-minded off here.

I'll rather tell you what to do to avoid being in the same condition in the hands of another woman. Before I go on, there is nothing wrong with love and being lovingly beneficial to anyone in your life - love remains a sign of strength, not weakness. There is, however, everything wrong with being a slave to your wants, or even needs, like in your case and situation. Strive to conquer yourself - you can achieve this by stopping being a slave to your needs and by having an altruistic interest towards whosoever you wish to get involved with and being conscientious in general always.

You've been in this unwanted place in the relationship because your core source of mental connection with her was your lust for her rather than from an altruistic interest. So, her strong hold on you has nothing to do about any juju; this is not about whether it's potent or not, though. There are just a few other things in this world that has the potency to penetrate a man's central nervous system than a woman whose physical beauty commands his attention - sweetness of a woman - worse if the woman is one who neither has an altruistic interest in you and nor is conscientious. The good thing is that, as a man, you can always squash this effect through the transmutation of energy and emotion. When you become successful in this, you will start loving rather than falling in love, and by extension, you will become the master of your fate and the captain of your soul, desire and destiny when relating with women, and vise versa, and in your professional calling in general.

The easiest and best way to transmute energy and emotion - the emotion of love, the most powerful of all emotions - is by inculcating a philosophy that places principle/inner beauty/immaterial things above expediency/physical beauty/material things. So, you must give - I mean give up greed/self-absorption - before you can reap - self-conquest.

Strive to conquer yourself. When you conquer yourself, even if you are not inherently discerning, you will be able to always tell to a reasonable extent what anyone in your life can do at any given time, subject to circumstances. Also, assuming that you have conquered yourself and relate with her in the same vein, she would have either consciously adjusted her ways and started to walk and work with you on your philosophy and lead in all honesty (except if her delight in vice was caused by a medical and or inherent condition, in which case, you will know that it is beyond her conscious doings and would have possibly consciously decided to tolerate her all things being equal) or you would have dumped her long ago for not meeting up to your standard.

To act towards her (and vice versa) in a morally just and socially honorable way is an obligation, not a choice. So, it's love, if done because it's the right thing to do, but if done based on overindulging, it's stupidity, and not doing at all when it's the right thing to do is insanity/low self-esteem.

Balderdash! All of them are a creation of a cumulative failed leadership in the country. I don't hold a brief for anyone who perpetrates any of them, though.

Balderdash! The answer to the country's leadership needs is a conscientious leader, the generation he/she belongs to doesn't matter, same as the part of the country he comes from shouldn't matter under normal circumstances. The bane of the country's prosperity remains a fundamental problem, albeit very easy to solve when the right leader takes the rein of power.

It was simply an aberration, and it can happen to anyone, regardless of one's cerebral height.

gerryenoma:
What has Stockholm Syndrome or BPD got to do with this bro? Please be quick-witted. A woman can control her man and not have any symptoms of BPD. More so, a woman can control her man and still not be in charge of his life, activity, or business.

Until you learn the difference between controlling and being in charge - which is like the difference between a dictator and a leader; the difference between an issue and its associated vices - this is in regard to BPD mention - then, direct your mention to bumpkins and small-minded people like you because I do not enter into a needless exchange of words with your type.

Balderdash. Stop mistaking the outward bearing of a man suffering Stockholm Syndrome - a walking corpse - for a happy man. What's true is that nothing, not even cocaine, is more potentially destructive to a man than a woman with a BPD and or its associated vices, which domineeringness is one. A controlling wife is a domineering wife, and she's not good for a sane man.

You have to bend her without breaking her. I'd have loved to tell you how to go about this in detail, if not for one thing.

Plead:
LordKO used to be a sane and mature individual,with lots of people on the family section and beyond always looking forward to his contributions.
How he lost it or strayed from that line is still a surprise to me.

I know that the mere thought about me has always given you, Poco, and many others who have been addicted to me over the years the kind of fulfillment you cannot get from any other thing. But as I have always warned, both online and offline, no one should make an image of me to worship me because I am not God. And of course, only God is perfect.

To you in particular, I wonder why Poco's heartbreak in my hands has always pained you, much as it pains her. I still do not take pleasure in her pains, and of course, she knows that I have always got her back, no matter what. The fact that she has always done everything possible at any given time to make people who do not know better to believe that the heartbreak she suffered is not true, as evident in that concocted lies she posted, notwithstanding.

Anyway, it is not a surprise to me that you feel that I have changed for bad since I know that you do not stand for anything worthwhile - you only owe loyalty to your self-interest, so truth will always be bitter to you and purge you just like Poco and many others. You have always been a slave to your wants and lack discernment.

Anyway, I am in a generous mood this moment so you stand a chance to win USD2,000 if:

- You can prove that my assertion about Roma.noff meeting her husband on this forum is a lie.

- You or Poco can prove/show where I said that I abandoned her at the altar and never showed up for the wedding.

Let me stop at this to save us time and energy. Or, is it a crime that I maintain my inalienable right to accept or reject people/offers/proposals? Manboy, answer me. Lol.

I came in peace.

Ordinarily, supposing that she's coming from the place of altruism and or conscientiousness, there would not have been anything wrong in her knowing everything about you, and vice versa, since that's part of what the two of you being one means. The fact, however, that her wish to know everything came from the place of self-absorption as your submission connotes, without mincing words, I tell you that you've got a frenemy as a wife. Guard your dominion and authority in general with of all your might; else, she's going to drain and ruin you.

One of the best kind of fathers one can ever have is a professional senior army officer. The majority of them are the most honest, selfless, compassionate, gritty, and caring - loving generally - fathers in the world. They're family-oriented. Growing up, many times in short intervals, my family lived in some army officers quarters, and the experiences were great; they are evergreen.

pocohantas:
I just have to let her know na and let the OP know too. Make the OP no go send LordKO message. E done use style market imsef.

See protection strategy in disguise; a reversed bold way of telling your competitors that you want me all to yourself and that they should keep off me, as you keep hope alive that I might change my mind one day and decide to come back to rescue you for good, lol.

pocohantas:
RightToReject aka LordKO is kinda imbalanced. So, please do not get yourself worked up. Claiming to have classified information on how you met your husband and dated other men here is the least of his delusions as he has seen himself getting married to me, though he abandoned me at the altar and never showed up for the wedding. He has also seen several female monikers disturbing him to marry them, whereas one only contacted him over a job and the others have never interacted with him off this forum.

I just need you to understand he is not okay. Many are mad…

I wonder why you want to cause a problem for her. And of course, you will do anything possible to make people who do not know better to believe that the heartbreak you suffered is not true, as evident in this concocted lies of a post you made here - I do not still take pleasures in your pains anyway. The usual bravado and scheming you. Anyway, I know that you've missed me a lot, and as usual, you want me to give you some attention, anything for my little girl. Good thing that you've retraced some of your steps. Stop weeping, OK.

In your small-mindedness, you've made sense.

Romanoff:
I don't know you and telling the truth won't cost me anything. You can't come to my house to beat me so why would I lie?

I have my reasons for my first comment on this post, if it offends you, it wasn't my attention.

Been on this forum longer than you have to be able to make such deductions, not cause people here are bad but cause the internet has had more sad stories than happy endings when it comes to meeting spouses.

Adios.

"Been on this forum longer than you" . . . don't be too sure of that. On the other hand, I'll allow your needless denial about where you and your hubby met to slide. Of course, even as an unregistered member before, I have known you right from the time you were using the moniker that started with "K." More so, as a passive gifted mind reader coupled with my knowledge of the system, I can tell you everything about you or anyone behind any monkier at any given time.

Bye-bye.

Romanoff:
Well, we didn't meet here.

You just used your life to swear for nothing. My hubby first saw me in church and told his friend that he came with that he would marry me even though he didn't even know my name.

What facts, facts that you read about?

Abeg I no meet my husband for here, I pray for long life for you.

Forget this lie you've just said here. Actually, there's nothing wrong with the fact that both of you met here and so on; it's nothing to be ashamed of because here is like any other avenue of meeting. Your first post on this thread ought not to be so, though.

Wishing you nothing but a healthy married life and good life in general.

Romanoff:
Use what you hold dear to swear that we met here.

Since you're Omniscient and Omnipotent.

Don't sha call me a hypocrite unless you have proof that my husband and I met here. If you don't, just take your L and go.

May God take my life within five minutes from now if my posit isn't true according to your husband's submission, which you corroborated. Don't dare me further, lol. I wonder why some of you always lie unnecessarily, even when facts are so glaring and abound.

Romanoff:
Now your insinuation that I met my husband here is obviously false. I met my husband in our church, it was coincidental that we are both Nairalanders.


I don't take lightly to people insulting me or my marriage, choose your next comments carefully.

You and I know that both of you met here, but I'm not here to deride you, just stop the hypocrisy, OK.

Romanoff:
Abort mission sis.

Abort.

An attitude like yours is rather irritating. I wonder why you have taken to hypocrisy; I mean, apart from you and your husband meeting on Nairaland and gotten married here, before him, you also dated some other men here too. Before I go on, I'm not looking for any hook-up and not interested in OP's proposal, and I wish her nothing but success in her pursuits because I know that there are both good and bad men and women on Nairaland.

Once more, stop being a hypocrite. If you're indirectly saying that yours has been a mistake, I understand; yet, yours shouldn't be a standard.