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Yes, there are wives who operate a joint account with their husbands; it's fairness when they operate a joint account (formally or informally, pronounced or unpronounced) and contribute to it based on each other's capacity selflessly and honestly (monetarily or otherwise), while it's oppression when she submits her earnings to his feet while he's unaccountable to her of his earnings, regardless of whether or not he spends judiciously.

Fairness breeds understanding, and understanding breeds love. Of course, love remains the greatest refreshment in life.

Unfortunately, the above is impossible to achieve harmoniously where one or both parties involved are slaves to money.

LilMissFavvy:
So they were living together? Anyway this is a generation of dead morals, baby mama and baby daddy syndrome, but I will always stick with what is right, and that's exactly what I will teach my children.

Urbane Favvy - urbane Favvy is a better Favvy. I admire your transformation. Keep it up.

ubunja:
Every game has its rules. As long as you play the game according to the rules you're given then you have nothing to worry about. Problem is most guys here are unteachable and refuse to do as they're told. And they'll meet with the same roadblocks and headaches they've been meeting since secondary school. Go up and down this thread and see the anger and bitterness and total negativity about women. Some posts here are so negative you wonder if the poster is even interested in meeting women. It's not how it should be. If you hate women then women will hate you. And your headaches won't stop.

So, all women aren't hoes, ethically the same, and sex objects that the boys should always play or mete out pump-and-dump again; interesting. I wonder what will now happen to the multitude of impressionable and naive people (men mostly) you ignorantly and haughtily misled to believe that perfidy is the new meaning of cleverness; wickedness the new meaning of strong; haughtiness the new meaning of confidence, etc.

Anyway, the same you I have known over the years will still change your stance very soon when someone elsewhere with a mention opposite to the one you replied references you - because it's all about bravado and posturing at every given time.

This is what always happens in every area of life where one teaches something based on a copy, edit, and paste rather than from the core grasp of the subject matter. Experts will always be different from novice teachers on any same subject matter.

This isn't an attack on the red pill or any social movement anyone chooses to identify with. Of course, it doesn't disprove all of your work. Nonetheless, most of the things most of you have copied, consumed, or disseminated aren't healthy and are from mentally unfit people.

Create your life path and encrypt it, people. Servility is as bad as cruelty; avoid being any of them, but never be afraid to be good or go to war when it becomes a necessity.

The connotation of your message, and by extension almost all of your pronounced and unpronounced actions before and during his visit, pointed to calculated actions, no spontaneity and not based on principle but expediency. Any discerning man with a genuine intention, which seems to be his position at the inception, won't take you seriously.

The aura is always different when you see someone as an object of utility to achieve a self-interest desire or project your needs on them compared to when you see them as someone to selflessly and honestly pursue a mutual bond. Unfortunately, the former was your disposition towards him, citing the connotation of your message and narration of the major things that happened between the two of you. He was able to see the unprojected intrinsic part of you, which could make or mar a long-term relationship with you. Anyway, just allow him some time and stay hopeful; he might decide to continue with you after weighing things.

A contradiction at its best:

- "Men stop marrying hungry women."

- "Money can't keep marriage."

- "Bill Gates, Jeff, etc., as examples"

Maybe, hungry has a new definition.

As a man, simply always come into equity with clean hands and accept nothing less - ethic of reciprocity. Money shouldn't be the cake but the icing on the cake. A hungry woman from strong ethical leanings will always come top before a wealthy woman from weak ethical leanings - so it should always be about a woman from strong ethical leanings first regardless of her financial standing. Summarily, only mutual altruism couple with conscientiousness can keep marriage successfully and uninterrupted.

Love remains the greatest refreshment in life.

I have got a ZERO sympathy for perfidious people like you - although a lesser punishment might have been better.

Three things are involved:

- He has low self-esteem. Where this is the case, his types believe that complimenting you where necessarily ordinarily will make him appear weak, so to avoid that, he masks his weakness with imperiousness/false stoic.

- Or you're the one with low self-esteem, and he knows. Where this is the case, he knows that complimenting you will only make you become a termagant, and he will be your major victim in the long run.

- Or he married you to fulfill all righteousness not because he finds you worthy of his association under normal circumstances. Where this is the case, he doesn't have a soft spot for you.

Besides the fact that you personify confusion and don't seem to trust your sense of judgment, I don't see what the problem is, citing that she met your assumed set standard and is in sync with you/voluntarily ready to walk the walk with you.

Citing your lack of faith in your sense of judgment, make sure you're not going to betray her confidence in you afterward before going ahead to get her pregnant if she remains true to herself.

Citing your narration and the connotation of your submission, I wager you are one of the wannabe kind and wannabe libertarian people, one of those who are usually in the habits of giving covert or overt support to hypocritically crass and opportunistic elements, like your wife, to continually constitute nuisances everywhere, especially on a forum like this, all in a bid to be adjudged civil and peaceful by the aforementioned elements.

Anyway, if she is still physically appealing to you and you don't mind loving her again once she changes for good considerably, package some overdose of her medicine and give her and see her start walking and working with you on your lead cheerfully and peacefully.

Servility is as bad as cruelty; avoid being any of them, but never be afraid to go to war when it becomes a necessity.

You/your family/your father's establishment owes the client. Whether an official receipt was issued or not by your father, after the client paid him the mobilization fee, make an effort to repay him or make him see a reason to forfeit the money, some part or the full amount, to you voluntarily.

Provided that you're certain that his claim is genuine, then don't say that because their transaction has no formal evidence backing it, assuming that there's none, to call off his bluff unless you're ready for direct or indirect battle. Informally, an issue like this never ends well in favor of someone in your position; when someone in your position tries to be too clever by half.

You first have to recuse yourself from the matter because you've been compromised - you're venal. As much as old age doesn't automatically confer wisdom, it's, however, insulting to dismiss your parents opinion outright without dissecting the reason for their objections. But as a typical venal person, you've self-absorbingly concluded that tribalism is the core reason for their objections.

As much as your sister is entitled to her rights to liberty, and by extension has the sole right to choose whom to marry, she shouldn't, however, allow some fickle emotions built on the basis of ephemeral things to becloud her sense of reasoning, the same way she shouldn't allow baseless sentimental opinion of anyone to deprive her an opportunity to marry the right man for herself.

She should simply do what she knows is right under the circumstance, devoid of self-gratification and sentiments and be ready to assume the full responsibility of her choice in the future. It's better to be dead than to live on others opinion, when one is certain of themselves.

If self-destruction isn't the cause, then remain steadfast, for the right man for you will locate you. If you, however, have self-destructed, it's never late for you to make amend and chart a new path for yourself.

Self-destruction has caused most people golden opportunities.

Unresourcefulness isn't the worst type of human being's weakness, and it's easily covered where the pairing partner is economically successful and intrinsically benevolent or has a soft spot for the other. If you are intrinsically benevolent, then your worries in this regard are half solved, and to completely solve your worries, become rich yourself.

Unresourcefulness only becomes a problem where the unresourceful person is opportunistic; they will use exploitation and emotional blackmail to drain and ruin you.

A woman's inability to earn money directly doesn't automatically make her irresponsible, just as the ability to earn money doesn't automatically make one responsible - yet there's nothing wrong with being economically resourceful.

You can make her become economically resourceful, her irritating act of masking her weakness with a carefree attitude notwithstanding. A JV arrangement and assigning a supervision role to her will do the magic.

Symptom of chronic gold digging/opportunism detected. Whatever you feel for her now isn't genuine because the attraction isn't about the quality of her soul but the quality of her material/physical possessions.

Respect is earned, not given - it should not be mistaken for courteousness, which every sane person exhibits freely under normal circumstances - and it is not every man's mumu button because there is something greater than it. Meanwhile, I believe one of the worst things that could ever happen to a woman, a dutiful woman, is having a crass/self-absorbing and opportunistic man in her life - a man who almost doesn't have what it takes to command her respect to help keep her mentally and emotionally healthy, yet expect respect while meting out oppression on her.

That said, of course, not every woman (or man) has the grace and capacity to accord a man his earned respect, just as some need to be oppressed to stay committed, loyal, and happy.

Once one is able to distinguish and separate religion from God, it becomes easy to understand that religion is simply a suppressant, opiates, and enabling purveyor.

There's nothing wrong with her. The only issue is that you haven't come to the full realization that no two people are exactly the same. Just make sure, however, that she has an altruistic interest in you and avoid the use of neither servility nor domineeringness in relating with her, else you'll become a victim of her past negative experiences or enter into the book of her tormentors. If she has an altruistic interest in you, she'll gradually align to your lead with the both of you coming in sync, provided that you've humane philosophy that you work and walk on and have an altruistic interest for her too.

He can always find his spec of a woman either in the city or village. In fact, his stated reasons are quite illaudable and laughable; thus, he is myopic.

RemoveKebab:
Nothing new

Most white men see black women as sex objects

Polyamory has nothing to do with most white men seeing black women as sex objects. You wouldn't have made this comment had you lived around New England where almost ninety-nine percent of the residents are white, yet it has the highest number of polyamorous people both in the US and the world.

Polyamory has been happening since time immemorial - they aren't secretive about theirs, that's all.

A wife can be said to waste, not steal, her husband's money, provided that she carried the act personally and directly. They aren't one on mouth alone.

No thanks to wannabe kind and wannabe libertarian parents.

If you don't want to be a pawn in your mother's hand, especially with her said kind of attitude, master the act of informing her of your decisions without giving her the power to make decisions for you at any given time - the simple difference between consent and courtesy. In the absence of love, it's better to be feared than to be respected/admired.

Once you're certain that you've conquered yourself, make your choice and live on it and its consequences. One of the worst things that will ever happen to you/anyone is living on other people's opinions, whether from your parents or anybody else - this doesn't negate seeking and listening to wise counsels though.

Old age doesn't automatically confer wisdom, just as one being a parent/relative doesn't automatically mean that she has an altruistic interest in you. Embrace the idea of relating with people based on their ethical leanings rather than nomenclature/affiliation and know peace and progress.

I wager he was deliberately set on fire by the prophet in order to outwit him from a deal they had together. He might have used the prophet's bank account to make some financial lodgement or entrusted him with some projects involving some huge amount of money which he has converted to own interest. Something almost similar nearly happened to someone I know a few years back involving a prophet of the same church in a different location there, just that he lost his huge resources without losing his life in the process.

It amounts to mental parochialism going about lumping a whole gender, tribe, or people together and insult them directly or indirectly. If someone is to factually sum your entire existence and your whole family and mete out some bile on you herein to have a dose taste of your own medicine, you'll cry murder and even have some wannabe libertarians in different guises supporting you.

Good or bad isn't exclusive to a particular gender.

Strive to be discerning, stop indulging unconscientious people, and stop celebrating mediocrity/rewarding unjustified confidence with loyalty and watch your health in particular and life in general improved.

The truth is that anyone who derives pleasure in continuous taking from you under any guise will also be the first person to betray you or cast aspersions on you when the chips are down.

There's nothing wrong with the golden rule; however, wrong application of it will do more harm than good to you.

Oluromantic:
You better calm down and be teachable. That's how you will think you know all things and fail in little things. Equal right is proper generally or in the society. In homes, comprising husband, wife and children, equal right is a risk factor to divorce. As far as the creator of marriage is concerned, one leads, the other submits... That's the precept made for a lasting marriage. But your mind keep making you think you know above the person who created you.

Come on, keep quiet. Aren't you the one on your DP, or did you remain elsewhere? Imagine who wants to teach me something about family and ethics. Calm down boy! Equality doesn't negate decorum - just as differences don't mean inequality. A long-lasting marriage where the parties involved are mutually happy is for only conscientious people who have an altruistic interest for each other.

Don't expect me to enter into a needless exchange of words with you; do have a nice time ahead.

Trustworthiness, or lack of it, isn't exclusive to any gender. So, the earlier you embrace the principle of coming into equity with clean hands and relating with people, no matter who, based on their ethical leanings rather than their gender, name, status, etc, the better for you.

In fact, one of the biggest dummies small-minded men ever sold to naive men is the whack thought that it's better to do good to fellow men than women because men are better in reciprocating goodness done to them than women.

Stop being a frenemy to others, and stop mistaking frenemies for friends.

There's nothing wrong with feminism as a social movement, especially when it propagates fairness for all. There's, however, a problem with crass, self-absorbing, and opportunistic women who identify with the movement, same as those who do not identify with it. Feminism or its male equivalent red pill isn't the problem, but the toxic individuals who identify with it and uses it to gloss their toxicity.

Love is the greatest refreshment in life.

It'll only get worse so long as small-minded people continue preaching the nonsense and insane gospel that: "under no circumstances should a man be savage against a woman." It'll, however, reduce, if not stop, when everyone realizes that no one has a monopoly of pettiness and a victim has the sole right to decide how to react to any injustice meted out against them.

Create your own life path and encrypt it. The easiest way to make this happen is by enacting a personal philosophy, just make sure that it's humane, and live by it in words and actions.

It serves her right, good parenting. In fact, it doesn't matter that she's a daughter, because even if she were pregnant and a wife and a husband did the same to her, it's a welcome development.