₦airaland Forum

Oluromantic:
Their problem is this equal right of a thing. It's not possible...I repeat...it's not possible to have equal right and still live as couples under same roof. Two captains can control a ship

Equal rights have never been the problem and can never be because men and women (human beings in general) will always remain equal and equal rights are just a fair thing for all to have - differences don't mean inequality. Rights to liberty for every human being, especially sane adults, are nonnegotiable. Men and women are simply biologically different in some ways.

Self-absorption, opportunism, and stupidity/ignorance have always been the cause of the spate of divorce globally.

ImaIma1:
It's not justifiable. Only unstable people act that way. Sending her back to her parents is a better option than his method. If she had died, would anyone be asking what she did? Would it matter?

Experience and fact have repeatedly shown that making limiting retaliatory excuses for evil/heinous crime has done no person/country/organization any good. When people know that they do not hold the ace on how a victim of their offense can choose to react, they always sit up and embrace goodness and in the end everyone wins, and principle reigns supreme over expediency.

Mutual held ethical ideology cum bond is as thick as blood. It could even be thicker than blood, depending on the ethical leanings of the blood. So, a good wife (spouse) might not be a relative of her husband, but she's something equal or even bigger than a relative and, as such, deserves every act of goodness/love from her husband.

Don't try to mend it if it isn't broken, and if it's broken, don't bother to mend it.

It's appalling how most of you now make normal everyday activities/hobbies and accomplishments/occurrences seem a task and special, even when they do not worth them.

maasoap:


Nonsense that would easily put you in jail countries with working system. Justifying physical abuse, nonsense. Mtcheeew!

Once I see someone makes either of the following comments "in countries with working systems" or "in a sane clime" I know that the person hasn't crossed either of the country's borders or airports. Keep on savoring illusory developed countries eldorado in your dreams; after all, to dream is free of charges.

Enjoy your further mention in this regard.

Ishilove:
Hian. Are you sure it is the same article we read?

Since when did a 'terrible crisis' translate to marital infidelity?

It takes more than the ability to read and write to see through the connotation of words. By the way, I wasn't precise on infidelity, but that or something similar likely happened, according to the connotation of the article. I don't hold brief for any of them.

Ishilove:
Stop deflecting. What manner of offence will justify beating up a pregnant woman to an inch of her life??

You wrote rubbish, plain and simple.

Ishi, you don de find trouble now. Well, the man likely found out that she got pregnant for another man - the connotation of the article suggested something like that.

There's a difference between someone who has low frustration tolerance and a wicked person, so make sure you haven't been mistaking the two.

If it's about the former, don't leave her instead avoid doing the things that trigger her wittingly, and also stop apologizing to her when she's at fault, do so only when you're at fault. If you can do this, you'll enjoy a stable, peaceful and happy union with her. If she's, however, the later (wicked), discard her with alacrity, else you'll live the rest of your life miserable while in the union with her.

Pavore9:
How does beating up someone you are probably physically stronger than help you maintain continual wellbeing?

What "offense" will justify you beating up your pregnant wife or your brother-in-law beat up your pregnant sister?

In your small-mindedness, I have time to enter into a needless exchange of words with bumpkins. What a mistake! Try harder because my submission is concise and not for bumpkins.

Provided that he isn't the instigator and the offense that made him react the way he did is a threat to his continual wellbeing, then his reaction is justifiable - even though his choice of retaliation might not have been the best. If he reacted this way to a minor issue, however, to hell with him.

One who comes into equity must come with clean hands. Until most people stop enabling nonsense directly or indirectly, savagery will not abate in society.

I wish the authority will release him to the street so that the street can subject him and his enablers and supporters to jungle death, that seems to be the most painful way to die. He deserves the most painful death.

God's gracious will do, with or without work, especially when responding to an acquaintance! Meanwhile, when you are an establishment, you can never be out of work, unless on volition - strive to become one.

Walkee:
are girls denied education in Nigeria? In my department back then in the university, it was around 70% girls and 30% boys. Go stand at any university gates in Nigeria and see if over 65% of the students that will pass you won't be female. You guys should stop all these nonsense asslicking

You've very low IQ, now that you've known, try to better yourself. Meanwhile, direct your further mention to your fellow bumpkins.

Educate a woman you educate a family and feed a nation. Responsible women are blessings to families in particular and the world at large.

AwesomeStormy00:
Haha aunty @Ishilove, Emeka and Nnamdi is coming for you

Emeka and Nnamdi ARE, not IS, coming for you. Common a simple sentence you cannot construct well. I wonder what is the usefulness of an adult who is ethically, mentally, and financially poor to established and sane people.

Do not thank me; this is me being magnanimous as always.

Are you sure they've been telling you to learn handwork or acquire a skill? I think it's the later; if I am correct, then it's honorable advice. If you haven't achieved independent status in your chosen career/profession or aren't a thoroughbred professional at all, then you need to acquire a skill, regardless of your academic standard, if you desire to live rather than to just exist. Just a few number of people are living, while the rest in the majority are just existing. You need a valuable skill to start living.

A skill doesn't automatically equate to handwork, just as not all handworks are skill. No valuable skill can ever be in short demand - skill based on abstract knowledge doesn't cost much monetarily, and it's always timeless and rewarding provided that one is versatile.

Quite pathetic. Cynicism and suspicion are the foremost hallmarks of untrustworthy and brutal people. If her account of what transpired between them is factual, then he must have exhibited the aforementioned attributes, but unfortunately her naivety made it impossible for her to do the needful before she became his victim.

bukatyne:
She wants £18m for “past pain and suffering”, £18m for “future pain and suffering” and £18m in punitive damages.

Funny statement

I thought she would be more interested in CR7 actually paying aka going to jail if he is guilty.

Mama de mama can never be caught wittingly and pleasurably supporting evil. Kudos.

I haven't worked for anyone before. The first time, however, I entered into the first Strategic Alliance with the foremost organization I worked with, I was 21.

Life imprisonment should be the least punishment for him. Opportunist.

The biggest dummy ever sold to you all is that the libertarian disposition of the oyibo culture confers its women (people) right to promiscuity and that they take to it unrestraint. Now I know why an average Nigerian/Black person always erroneously thinks that he's more morally upright than an oyibo person. Lol.

The truth is that an average oyibo person is more morally upright than an average Black person. They know the difference between liberty and indecorum and that the former doesn't validate the later.

@OP, if your relationship dealbreaker is multiple body counts, then don't enter a relationship with her. She's, however, not a standard of all oyinbo women.

Her unpalatable actions can be attributed to pregnancy induced hormonal changes added with your obvious present poor financial condition. Put her condition into consideration and bear with her.

Only small-minded people equate worth/value and giving to money alone. That you spent 50k on her birthday while she gave you words of adoration on your own birthday does not automatically mean that you did more than her. If she accepted your gift graciously and gave you the adoration graciously too and was unable to extend a monetary gift to you for not having the wherewithal, then she's better than you who spent money on her unhappily/self-absorbingly and unappreciated her gracious words and adoration.

See the unfortunate answers from some of them up there. After being damaged emotionally, psychologically, physically, and in every other form by their fathers/relations, and vice versa, they come to a public place like this to continually constitute a nuisance and projecting themselves and their oppressors on the outside world and expect everyone to accept it as a new normal and partake in their burdens. You all can only have weaklings/wannabe libertarians and pretenders to condone your abnormalities and accede to the normalization of abnormalities. I only pity naive healthy people who do not know the long-term damage condoning of toxic actions and inactions will gradually cause their health.

The fact that you've not been bold enough to call her to order in the presence or otherwise of your wife says a lot about how weak a man you are. Continue acting like a wannabe libertarian.

Only deranged and small-minded people defend evil, confirmed or not, be it for sentimental or naive or irrational reasons

A case like this is one of the reasons why I always laugh hard whenever I hear all these naive boys saying "allow a woman to choose you or go for a woman that chooses you." Anyway, as much as there is nothing wrong in a woman initiating interest, never, however, let down your discernment hat. Do not commit to her until you are able to dissect her and are sure that she meets your set standard. Of course, always avoid any lady who tries so hard directly or indirectly to hype/market herself to you or people.

Quasi-off point! You can prevent regret by always coming into equity with clean hands and despising every unconscientious act with all your might, and being unkind to an unconscientious partner.

Only weak, naive, greedy, and undiscerning people do have reasons to become regretful after their relationship ends because of their unconscientious actions and inactions.

omonnakoda:
Did he "support" anyone? Please give a translation of a quote of his support

You are here saying someone "did evil" did you do the evil together or were you a witness?

The fact is that he is alleged to have committed a crime and if guilty should be jailed.


AND THAT is what the young man said
Again he said IF GUILTY HE SHOULD BE JAILED

Did he say that YES OR NO


So how is he "supporting evil"?

I do not give unnecessary attention to slow and small-minded people, so look for your types elsewhere and direct your question and mention to them.

The confidence a man who has a good intention and does not mind losing a woman of interest on principle usually exudes is absent in his stated disposition, assuming that your submission is factual.

Meanwhile, there is nothing impolite for a man to marry and stay in his woman's house, unless he has something better or the woman does not mind putting up with him in the kind of accommodation he can provide.

Provided that your meaning of a non-submissive and disobedient wife isn't a wife who has refused to be subjugated, but one who has refused to be conscientious, then subject her to a dose of emotional and psychological abuse and watch her come to her right senses.

Both Lege Miami and Tonto Dike need to have their heads examined. Giving support to someone who did evil is quite repulsive, just as insulting a whole group/tribe/gender to get to someone who perpetrated evil is disgusting.