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sickstars:
Do u mind her?

She started calling me names

Over a child dats ur own husband's blood na wa for sum women

A child froma broken hme u cant show her love?
considering d same blood flows in ur own kids vein same with d girl!
Omo any child in my own care is good as my own

Wud love d child i love my heart

I wud take it as fun imagine me nd my hubby tryin to run to make love in anoda room d running d tip toe things gettin to d guest room closing d door laughin at ourselves gettin down to business it sounds fun to me


I love to turn situations to favor me


Op is just a bitter woman! Competition with a 14 yr old ur husband's daughter madness!

I just had to agree to their madness m nt in d mood to insult today or argue deep dunno why

@bold
You must have a good heart.
Probably cos u have been in a similar situation. The situation certainly doesnt warrant the kind of seriousness some people here are bringing to it.

She only gets to see her dad twice a month. And she's utilising that time as much as possible. I don't see anything wrong with it. Forcing her back to her room or blackmailing her dad to force her back will only confirm her fears about you. Leave it alone. She'll grow out of it eventually.

initiate:
on what to do in case of infertility after marriage

Can u be more specific on what you mean by 'blanks'? No sperm or low sperm or abnormal sperm?

initiate:
one of the most important questions to ask and answer and settle before marriage is this-- what happens if children don't come? it is even most pertinent these days where there are so many cases of infertility. although nobody claims it as their portions but if it happens and you are prepared then its easy to manage

a guy got married and his wife keeps miscarrying the pregnancy, the thing always flows out and this continues until they are no longer keen on getting pregnant. After about 7 years they found a specialist who can sew the place up after conception. he actually helped other pple with the same problem so we are hopeful. unfortunately by this time due to unhealthy lifestyle or whatever other reasons the guy is now shooting blank. the girl suggested sperm banks the selfish guy said no. and this is really mean of him. now the girl wont ever have her own baby in this life due to no fault of hers, guys need to be more open minded really.

so intending couples need to discuss and AGREE on this issue before taking the dive

The guy isnt selfish. He just hasn't gotten his head around how he will father another man's child. Be understanding, patient and gently persistent. He might come around eventually. After all he was patient and understanding with her when the pregnancy kept flowing out.

Sexual communication for married couples is not as easy as you might think. If it was there would be a massive reduction in cheating issues. A lot of people have the mindset that sex is 'dirty' or 'special' and should be 'spontaneous'. When their so called better half cannot meet up to standard in bed there is the tendency for the women to bear it or for the man to seek pleasure elsewhere (religion, side-chicks, prostitutes, alcohol). Discussing sex to ones partner in all is ramifications can be very awkward. A woman that likes to be touched in the butthole will feel more than mortified if she mentions it and her husband laughs at or rejects the idea. She has to face the embarrassment everytime she sees him. Same for a man that wants his woman to perform MouthAction on him and she screams that he is a demon. You can be sure such issues will most likely be used as arsenal in a few arguments.

All in all it all boils down to trust and respect and the type of person you married whether he/she is an introvert or extrovert.

Griffon:
That communication can be carried out before the sex.

Being a couple connotes that you two must understand what eachother detests and savours. So in your spare time, endeavour to talk about virtually everything, sex inclusive.

Moreover, this is why its important to give courtship a shot before moving into marriage. It should be a period to understand what tickles the fantasy of your spouse.

And how do you discuss this without engaging innpremarital sex? Or are you an advocate of such? And if yes does it mean the person has to go thru a lot of sexual partners before finding one that is compatible with him or her?

Sigh.
The joys of a carefree youth.

Kizmilz:
Good day Nairalanders, this is a true life story that happened to me.
There is this girl I've been dating for about 3years now she loves me and so do I and both families are aware of the relationship.
Last year October she took in for me(got pregnant) and she refused aborting it, though I didn't tell her to abort the pregnancy nor did I tell her to keep it not minding the fact that am still serving (a corper) and not ready for marriage yet.
To cut the long story short, both families met and marriage plans where made on my behalf.
We are supposed to be getting married by March/April this year. Unfortunately she had a miscarriage on Monday night. She's so devastated right now and she want to pay me a visit at my PPA.
My question now is "Should I still go ahead with the marriage plans with the economy situation in the country or we should continue dating till when am fully ready for marriage"?
Your candid advice pls. (Matured minds only)

Lala, please let the world see this

Don't get married yet. You weren't planning on getting married before , it was the baby that forced u guys hand. Now you have a second chance take your time and be properly prepared. Marriage is not somthing u rush into, trust me on this.

Look at the similarity in their faces , its like time is passing before our very eyes.

Nothing wrong with it when both partners are open. The woman should let the man know her current situation with the husband. If he sees no qualms with it he can continue. Of course they can't get married until the woman is legally divorced from her husband.

What impressed me was that u got rebuffed the first time but didn't give up. You went out again to help the little girl. U have a good heart.

I say you did well.

MykaelX:
I have a lot of Nostalgia cartoons and Tv shows which were shown on sky one,NTA 2 channel 5,10,7,8 etc BOP TV,UK GOLD,the childrens channel,Sky Movies,Cartoon Network etc.Below is some of what i have: Allo Allo,Alvin and the chipmunks,Adventures of Teddy Ruxpin,Adventures of the Galaxy Rangers,Adventures of the little Prince(incomplete), Astro and the Space Mutts,Battle of the Planets,Bionic 6,Blackstar,Bravestarr,Captain N:Game Master,Care Bears,Chuck Norris and the Karate Commandos,C.O.P.S,Centurions,Danger Mouse,Defenders of the Earth,Dennis the Menace,Denver the last dinosaur,Dogtanian and the three muskehounds,Dungeons and Dragons,Fat Albert andthe cosby kids,Flash Gordon,Fraggle Rock,Galtar and the Golden Lance,Gummi Bears,Gijoe,He-man and the masters of the Universe,Inspector Gadget,Inhumanoids,Jayce and the Wheeled warriors,Jem,Karate Kid,Kidd Video,MASK,Mysterious Cities of gold,Police academy(incomplete),Pole Position,Rambo,Robobcop,Robotix,The real ghostbusters,Sabre Rider and the star sheriffs,Silverhawks,Spiral Zone,Teenage Mutant Ninja turtles,Little Nemo,Ulysses 31,Visionaries,Voltron-Lion Force,Voltron Vehicle force,Vytor the starfire champion,Thundersub,Thundercats,Transformers,Secret squirrel,superted,Robin of sherwood,Faulty towers,Some mothers do have them,Sledgehammer,the wonder years,Brush Strokes,Jane Eyre,Dempsey and Makepeace,TOM GRATTANS WAR,Smurfs,Jabberjaw,Victor and Hugo,the real adventures of jonny quest,Moonlighting and many more.Will gladly share with anyone who wants but i wont be available in Nigeria till middle of september..Just sending a heads up.P(#)

Hello bro pls are u still around?

At 18 I doubt she knows what she really wants.
Anyway it happens. If they do get married the man will have to be patient with her on many grounds.

"Stew, pounded yam, egusi and star beer"

OK o.

I smell lies sweet mouth

Hmmm
The woman go gree?

For those above saying the poster uses harsh words. Well then maybe she read that piece and it touched her personally hence her wanting to share it. Surely there is no harm in that.

Over the past few decades it has become the prerogative of certain powers that be to ensure that values and morals are slowly and gradually degraded while vulgar behaviour, selfishness , rebellion, abnormality and amorality are celebrated and even accepted as the new norm. New age mantas tell you to love yourself first, do what will benefit you first and damn your neighbour. Live for yourself and no one else. Babymamas and homosexuality are celebrated and "slut-shaming" is now seen as a low thing to do. People are told not to judge others even when what is being judged is blatantly evil and immoral. Morally renowned institutions like churches and marriage are being persecuted daily by showcasing as many failures and scandals as possible while keeping success stories of same institutions away from the spotlight. A man who leaves his responsibilities ,abandons his wife and kids and dedides to behave and dress like a woman (a menal illness if there ever was one) is celebrated and his/her life story displayed on CNN while mother Theresa who lived humbly and gave her life for the poor is now being chastised as an evil woman who enjoyed watching other s suffer.

I am tempted to follow the popular saying on front page issues here:
End Time Things.

This is vulgar. Whatever happened to a kiss on the cheek?
People copying bad behaviour and calling it 'civilised'.

This thread is long and i cant start from the beginning, but it looks interesting and I would like to vote if I may.
Option 3.

hariorh:
She's right. Do a Google research on this

This is a silly argument.
Google is now your god? No matter what google types up there, all men know that the vagina they visit frequently gets loose with time. Its simple experience and does not require google research.

bukatyne:
@ Post especially bold abi....

I was expecting more drama

Well, is it possible the man gave up easily cos he was tired of the whole thing and secretly hoping to get caught?

Ballet classes? Violins? Seychelles?



Very interesting writeup though, I was hooked from the start. However I think this lady's envious imagination ran off with her on some points. A man doesn't have that much time for a side chick to be that romantically involved.

Great read though.

5minsmadness:
Hmmmn.
Long but interesting read.

Yes it is.

IN the reign of King Moabdar there lived at Babylon a young man named Zadig. He was handsome, rich and naturally good-hearted; and at the moment when this story opens, he was travelling on foot to see the world, and to learn philosophy and wisdom. But, hitherto, he had encountered so much misery, and endured so many terrible disasters, that he had begun to think that the world was very unfair and to doubt that GOD existed. In this very unhappy state of mind he was one day walking on the banks of the River Euphrates, when he chanced to meet a holy hermit, whose snowy beard descended to his girdle, and who carried in his hand a scroll which he was reading with attention. Zadig stopped, and made him a low bow. The hermit returned the salutation with an air so kindly, and so noble, that Zadig felt a curiosity to speak to him. He inquired what scroll was that which he was reading.


“It is the Book of Destiny,” replied the hermit; “would you like to read it?”


He handed it to Zadig; but the latter, though he knew a dozen languages, could not understand a word of it. His curiosity increased.


“I an tell from your face that you are a troubled man” said the kindly hermit.


“Alas!” said Zadig, “I have cause to be so.”


“If you will allow me,” said the hermit, “I will accompany you. Perhaps I may be useful to you. I am sometimes able to console the sorrowful.”

Zadig felt a deep respect for the appearance, the white beard, and the mysterious scroll of the old hermit, and perceived that his conversation was that of a superior mind. The old man spoke of destiny, of justice, of morality, of the chief good of life, of human frailty, of virtue, and of vice, with so much power and eloquence, that Zadig felt himself attracted by a kind of charm, and besought the hermit not to leave him until they should return to Babylon.


“I ask you the same favour,” said the hermit. “Promise me that, whatever I may do, you will keep me company for several days."


Zadig gave the promise; and they set forth together.


That night the travellers arrived at a grand mansion. The hermit begged for food and lodging for himself and his companion. The porter, who might have been mistaken for a prince, ushered them in with a contemptuous air of welcome. The chief servant showed them the magnificent apartments; and they were then admitted to the bottom of the table, where the master of the mansion did not condescend to cast a glance at them. They were however, served with delicacies in profusion, and after dinner washed their hands in a golden basin set with emeralds and rubies. They were then conducted for the night into a beautiful apartment: and the next morning, before they left the castle, a servant brought them each a piece of gold.


“The master of the house,” said Zadig, as they went their way, “appears to be a generous man, although he obviously thinks too highly of himself. He practises a noble hospitality.” As he spoke, he perceived that a kind of large pouch which the hermit carried appeared much bigger than usual; within it was the golden basin, set with precious stones, which the old man had stolen! Zadig was amazed; but he said nothing.


At noon the hermit stopped before a little house, in which lived a wealthy miser, and once more asked for hospitality. An old valet in a shabby coat received them very rudely, showed them into the stable, and set before them a few rotten olives, some mouldy bread, and beer which had turned sour. However, the hermit didn't seem upset at all. In fact, he ate and drank with as much content as he had shown the night before; then, addressing the old valet, who had kept his eye upon them to make sure that they stole nothing, he gave him the two gold pieces which they had received that morning, and thanked him for his kind attention. “Be so good,” he added, “as to let me see your master.”


The astonished valet showed them in.


“Most mighty sir,” said the hermit, “I can only render you my humble thanks for the noble manner in which you have received us. I beseech you to accept this golden basin as a token of my gratitude.”


The miser almost fell backwards with amazement. The hermit, without waiting for him to recover, set off with speed with his companion.


“Holy Father,” said Zadig, “what does all this mean? You seem to me to resemble other men in nothing. You steal a golden basin set with jewels from a man who receives you generously, and you give it to a curmudgeon who treats you bad.”


“My son,” replied the hermit, “this mighty lord, who only welcomes travellers through vanity, and to display his riches, will henceforth grow wiser, while the miser will be taught to practise hospitality. Be amazed at nothing, and follow me.”


Zadig knew not whether he was dealing with the most foolish or the wisest of all men. But the hermit spoke with such faith that Zadig, who besides was fettered by his promise, had no choice except to follow him.


That night they came to a simple but comfortable looking house and showing no signs of showiness or meanness. The owner was a philosopher, who had left the world, and who studied peacefully the rules of virtue and of wisdom, and who yet was happy and contented. He had built this calm retreat to please himself, and he received the strangers in it with openness and straight-forwardness. He conducted them himself to a comfortable chamber, where he made them rest awhile; then he returned to lead them to a dainty little supper. During their conversation they agreed that the affairs of this world are not always regulated by the opinions of the wisest men. But the hermit still maintained that the ways of Providence are wrapt in mystery, and that men do wrong to pass judgment on a universe of which they only see the smallest part. Zadig wondered how a person who committed such mad acts could reason so correctly.

At length, after a conversation as agreeable as instructive, the host conducted the two travellers to their apartment, and thanked Heaven for sending him two visitors so wise and virtuous. He offered them some money, but the old man declined, and desired to say farewell, as he intended to depart for Babylon at break of day. They therefore parted on the warmest terms, and Zadig, above all, was filled with kindly feelings towards so amiable a man.

When the hermit and himself were in their chamber, they spent some time in praises of their host. At break of day the old man woke his comrade.
“We must be going,” he remarked. “But while everyone is still asleep, I wish to leave this worthy man a gift.” With these words he took a torch and set the house on fire.

Zadig burst forth into cries of horror, and would have stopped the frightful act. But the hermit, by superior strength, drew him away. The house was in a blaze; and the old man, who was now a good way off with his companion, looked back calmly at the burning pile.

“Heaven be praised!” he cried, “our kind host’s house is destroyed from top to bottom.”

At these words Zadig knew not whether he should burst out laughing, call the holy man an old rascal, knock him down, or run away. But he did neither. Still subdued by the superior manner of the hermit, he followed him against his will to their next lodging.

This was the dwelling of a good and charitable widow, who had a nephew of fourteen, her only hope and joy. She did her best to treat the travellers well; and the next morning she bade her nephew guide them safely past a certain bridge, which, having recently been broken, had become dangerous to cross over. The youth, eager to oblige them, led the way.

“Come,” said the hermit, when they were half across the bridge, “I must show my gratitude towards your aunt;” and as he spoke he seized the young man by the hair and threw him into the river. The youth fell, reappeared for an instant on the surface, and then was swallowed by the torrent.

“Oh, monster!” exclaimed Zadig, “oh, most evil of men ——”

“You promised me more patience,” interrupted the old man. “Listen! Beneath the ruins of that house that I set on fire, the owner will discover an enormous treasure; while this young man, whose existence Providence cut short, would have killed his aunt within a year, and you yourself in two.”

“Who told you so, barbarian?” cried Zadig; “and even if you read the issue in your Book of Destiny, who gave you power to drown a youth who never harmed you?”

While he spoke, he saw that the old man had a beard no longer, and that his face had become fair and young; his hermit’s frock had disappeared; and four white wings covered his majestic form, and shone with dazzling light.

“You are an angel of heaven!" cried Zadig

“Men,” replied the angel Jezrael, for that's who he was, “judge all things without true knowledge; and you, of all men, most deserved to be enlightened. The world imagines that the youth who has just perished fell by chance into the water, and that by a like chance the rich man’s house was set on fire. But there is no such thing as chance; everything happens to test people or to punish people or because of things that must happen in the future. Feeble mortal, cease to argue and rebel against what you ought to adore!”

As he spoke these words the angel took his flight to heaven. And Zadig fell upon his knees.

Unless you are going for a deeper zen-like discussion, this is a Lie.

The second label:

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to apply to upper arm and leg tds...
the rest is pure unadulterated gibberish

winner01:
I can give you 8 valid reasons a robber will justify his actions.
1. Robbery is a profession, yeah. Just like the proprietor of a school gets a huge chunk of Income and pays teachers who work their a*ses off meagre stipends. It can be argued as a form of robbery too.

2. In christianity, no sin is too little. Stealing and lying is considered the same. Better to go into full-time robbery, shebi na d same sin liar sin.

3. Life aint fair. Intelligent Ben spends years jobless after working so hard in school and he sees a former mate {a dullard} making things happen. Better to grab life by the neck right.

4. Morality is subjective. I like this one cos nothing actually is wrong. The perception of wrong has probably been recycled through generations and passed down to us. Worse is, the custodians of the law are humans. A restriction from certain acts with guaranteed punishments if i act otherwise, I perceive slavery.

5. Our corrupt leaders. They gulp in money meant for the masses. They are the real robbers. Corporate robbers. They above the law too. Being a law abiding citizen under these thiefs is argueably pointless.

6. Ben'll do it for a while, make some money and try investments and a brand new life. Thats a good place to start.

7. Ben's dad has not been paid for some months, his mom is critically ill in urgent need of medical attention. No feasible external help. Sounds like a very viable option.

8. Its actually none of your buisness how ben chooses to live his life. He has made a decision just like every other human. We cant be judgemental yeah. Allow him to be, If he's lucky and has become successful, he might just employ you in one of his companies.



In todays world, anything, just anything can be argued and justified. Homosexuality, necrophilia, incest, beastiality are ok long as they're not causing harm to the public. Even paedophilia can be argued to be acceptable. The word "underage" is also argueably a recycled belief passed down to our generation. Consent is the most important thing right. Who then set the age range for human growth stages and why has it become generally acceptable.

Op, The point is you'll get the answers/justification you seek. Life is a mystery to the physical, a mystery that is not probable.

Atheists do not believe in God, and they seriously need people not to believe with them. Its more of a spiritual work. Its quite unfortunate that their plights might never go outside the borders of nairaland. It will amaze you that their cowardice extends to their homes for some of them where its their little secret that must rot in them. Its shouldnt be surprising that this is where they can pour out their minds. Hence the reason why they swarm religion section day and night.

You should change the posts titie to "8 questions for nairaland God-haters". Atheists simply "dont believe". Its that simple. Its the same with me and santa claus. Ill need to believe he exists before investing my time talking about him/it. If he really dosent exist, then Ill need my brain checked if i invest so much time talking about him/it.

God-haters actually spend more time thinking about God than many religious people do. Who did you think the bible was referring to in Romans 1:30.

I have to agree with this especially the bolded.

I thought religious section would be a place where people with similar beliefs could come together and rub minds but all I see here day in and day out are very angry "god-haters" who jump on any thread that seems to want to praise the most high, they speak lewdly and disrespectfully and do thier best to disrupt the thread. Its amazing! If you dont believe in a thing WHY ACTIVELY SEEK IT OUT TO DISCREDIT AND RIDICULE IT?

And gosh, they spend so much time doing it. These "god-haters" are on every thread, disrupting, making a mockery, throwing lewd remarks and ganging up againt anyone that tries to exhibit thier faith. If atheism is all about logical thinking and doing good for humanity without believing in a god they make it hard for a new-comer to beleive since they cant even respect other people's beliefs.



2Tim 3:2
¹You should know this, Timothy, that in the last days there will be very difficult times. ²For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred. 3They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control. They will be cruel and hate what is good.

Have you considered praying for yourself?

Thanks to everyone for your response. I've really learned something new and talking about it I think helped ease the emotional pain I was feeling earlier today. My wife is not a bad woman but this part of her really gets to me sometimes. Thanks for making me view things differently.You guys are great!