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The best answer you can get is from your own wife. Ask your wife lol how are we supposed to know?

MrAgbako:
Rest
We both know whatever little effort he might put in is not enough and there is even one dummbo that quoted me telling me the husband should quit his job to help is wife. Abeg watin family go chop if man no work. Thunder wey go fire that guy still dey do press up

Well he should try harder.

Fmghewzy:
Nawa ooo, but if it were a black woman marrying a white man.

You guys would be everywhere shouting
Yass Queen 👑.
Dump their sorry asses
Black men ain't shit......

This inferiority complex goes both ways , and it ain't everyone.

Scroll through other comments here, you see that majority of black guys are not snow bunny freak like you are putting it.
Maybe the African American dudes thought.

Never me I didn’t believe in that. I am
Attracted to my own race of people and people that look like me. Black women are definitely part of the problem as well talking about black
Man ain’t Shi..it when in actuality black men are much better just that other race men of women don’t put their man out in public like black women do.

Black women sit with other race of women to discuss their own man and you never catch mayonnaise woman doing that.

The problem with our people is just too much and the self hate is just too much, at the end of the day you can’t save everyone.

P.S many African men are even worse even with colourism.

Is your solely purpose in this life marriage?

Smh

MrAgbako:
Nah man wey una wan kill una dey find.
U no wan make the husband go work again? You don think about the stress too?.
Come make I dash u belle wey i go reject make u know how the things dey be.

Even if the husband works he should take some time off work when his woman puts to bed to help her.

Tadadobe:
No. LoL. It's only good looks that make women wet and fall in love with you. You can be an irresponsible man, a deadbeat father,not willing to be present in her life and her children. Good looking men don't even need to be good men. They can be a jerk, doenst communicate , toxic, manipulative, lie to her, cheat on her and only call her when he's Hot, all these don't matter, the pussy will wet

I can see your babe left you for a good looking man. Only small girls go for only looks. Real ones like us knows a man’s looks has no bearing on his ability to provide or protect.

Please stay off my mentions respectfully.

Maybe the way you carry yourself is giving desperation vibes. Carry yourself with confidence and don’t be desperate for a relationship. Work on your self
Your confidence and self esteem and also try to look put together you will start attracting girls.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Every allegations is pointing at Judy because the three different autopsies showed the boy was hale and hearty , then the families of the late actress Chinedu Bernads who was also Yul's girlfriend having been revealing a lot to the Edochie's family. The late Chinedu Bernads posted a very cryptic message about evil a day to her death which she quickly deleted. So it seems Yul is beginning to buy into all of these.

This is just all so messy. May the dead rest in peace.

IyaebeTheGreat:
It's not as easy after four kids. Also Yul refused to grant her divorce and as it is now May's family wants their daughter back. The thing is very messy right now, village youths and Eze are already involved. Judy Austin's bride price is about to be returned. I cried for May ehn. Very painful

I don’t even know what Yul was looking for sef for real. May is stunning I don’t know what more he was looking for. Why is Yul pissed at Judy though?

IyaebeTheGreat:
My ears are full already concerning that Judy Austin girl. This world is truly evil, I heard one Nollywood actress Chinedu Bernads that was also Yul's girlfriend slumped and died in her church, same way Yul's son died, that was a week after Judy Austin warned and threatened her to abort her pregnancy for Yul else she'll deal with her(there are audios of her threats that will soon be leaked) . Women should learn to stop being totally submissive in marriages, check your husbands phones and find out about his affairs outside, draw him back home and reset his brain before he falls victim of strange and evil women. If you can't do any of these then accept the outcome of marrying a promiscuous man.

None of this can change a man. The biggest mistake a woman can do is trying to change a man. A grown ass man will behave exactly how he wants to.

This is not May fault, Yul wanted to step out and so he did she couldn’t do nothing about it he’s a grown ass man. She can leave or stay that’s her choice though.

Kriss216:
What's so special in having sex with two or more different Nigerian women

So many dudes where I stay pass the night with three babes and they're not yet married...what's your point exactly?

Not every man wants to be hoeing around fix…king different women that other men are likely fu..king as well that could lead to STDs they prefer to have them to themselves exclusively aka legally married use your damn brain.

Polygamy Is No Child’s Play But many men rush into it because of sexual fantasies of having sex with two different women that’s the truth.

Lemme spell it in capital letters


NARCISSISTIC MOTHER


Mother daughter jealousy is a real thing. Some mothers are jealous of their daughters and never want better for them.

Especially if your marriage is flourishing and your husband is loving on you and hers wasn’t like that she’s gonna hate you. You have to be smart and know how to handle such toxic mothers nothing you do will ever be good enough because she only love herself. You have to move accordingly and set boundaries to protect your mental health else you will mirror her and do to
Your own kid the same she’s doing to You.




You have to start unlearning some of the toxic things she taught you and how she raised you so you can do better with your own kids else the circle will
continue because narcissists parents breed narcissists kids.

Also you are now an adult and have to
Set boundaries with your mother quite frankly don’t give a F about her feelings and don’t be scare about telling her your mind. You have to set boundaries with her. If she’s this toxic cut her off, be kind and respectful to her but keep a distance from her.

I believe the guy just said that to end the conversation with her. The minute she asked about his private he probably got turned off, or he’s actually telling the truth. If he is my condolences to him.

A C cup
Lady could wear the same outfit and it wouldn’t look so tacky just that her boobs are too big and they look like they are about to pop out. Dressing for your body type is crucial.

The way you talking oyinbo this and that as if you’ve achieved something big smh I smell self hate. Just pathetic.

Where is Dr Umar Johnson when you need him?


And the same black man that wouldn’t show love or respect to their own black sisters will be shaking over these snow bunnies with their self hating asses.

DodadaKoKigbe:
somebody's wife...Gods forbid bad thing!

Your own wife to be is probably a groupie just sit down there. lol

offcourse she wouldn’t talk about money right now
Because she hasn’t seen the world yet, looks like a village setting so she’s oblivion offcourse.

superCleanworks:
close your eyes and imagine that usher was one very handsome, 44 year old father of 4, minimum wage school teacher in Ijero village in Ekiti State. Would you still say the same?

na Money be fine BoBo

I don’t even have to close my eyes with my eyes open I wouldn’t say the same.

Well even Davido said it, when money enter love is sweater.

And if you no get money, hide your face I hide my face

Make another man pikin', run my race.


It is what it is nigga don’t hate the player hate the game.


Men don't date potentially beautiful women so why should women date potential? Smart women go for already made men. And broke men like to Called those women gold diggers.

Awwww usher will always have a place in my heart.

Aging backward like fine wine. Beautiful black man.

Culturel:
Maybe Lil Baby and Chris, but not Nicki. He said he got the Nicki verse for free. She asked him not to pay

Wow Nicki is a real one for that.

Paying Nicki Minaj, Chris Brown, and Lil baby must have been hefty.

Pregnancy will definitely humble you.

Nancyeke:
Thank you for this

You’re welcome glad I could help.

It is kinda seductive really for women to just tease men. Most times all I have to do is just wear a sexy lingerie and lay next to my man. I don’t have to say anything lol he knows what’s up.

But if she don’t initiate like ever then you have a problem because sometimes a woman initiating sex really turns a man on, especially sexting to let him know what’s waiting for him later on. That’s sort of a pre-intimacy in itself.

Hmmmm is he not?

pansophist:
Can you be my mentor please?

Can you afford the consultation fees? Hahaha just kidding.

Damn must have been a bitter divorce.

The first step will be to make money, make load of money.

On a more serious it’s easier for men really. Just make sure you keep your hygiene and personal grooming up.

Look clean and always smell good good, oral hygiene matters. Brush twice a day and floss atleast once a day and shower twice a day.

Fix your teeth if it ain’t already and have a teeth whitening schedule. There’s whitening strips you can use at home as well. A nice white teeth plays a huge role in your appearance. So make sure your teeth is right.


Have a maintenance schedule for your hair cut

Keep fit join a gym at least 4 days a week.


Have a basic skin care routine

Face wash
Moisturiser
And sunscreen


And for your body a good moisturising body lotion.


Also build your wardrobe up slowly with only great pieces you really love like that you will have no choice but to look good everyday.


As for the friends part, don’t rush it, I can confidently tell you that friends are overrated. Just look after yourself well love yourself join a gym and take up some hobbies you enjoy doing people will naturally gravitate towards you.


Last but not least self confidence is key you have to build up your confidence. Because you could be the most good looking person without confidence you wouldn’t even know or believe in yourself. Confidence is key.

Having sex with one sexual partner is not only beneficial to your partner but to yourself as well. Sticking to one partner minimises your risk of getting STDs greatly.