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I mean whatever makes them happy. Atleast he don’t have to worry about satisfying her in bed, and he wouldn’t have to spend too much on her beauty maintenance.

A win is a win.

Happy marriage life to them.

Your life your choice don’t get married.

Very simple solution.

Well first of all cooking is a life skill.
Everyone should learn how to cook.

Why do you want to stop that’s not a bad thing, just try and make
Money attractive women have a lot of options and never settled for dusties with no money, because there’s a whole line up of guys trying to get with her.

Broke men want her
Rice men want her too.

All men like beautiful women, there’s competition so to atleast be in the top slot make money my brother.

I really hope you are trolling because 20 slap for the love of God don’t you have self love?

Is your self esteem this low?
Don’t you have boundaries?
So you can’t pulled no other girl?
Are you stupid?
Are you naturally this naive?
Why are you loving someone who
Got no respect and love for you?
Do you have some unresolved childhood traumas?
Are you a people pleaser?



I mean what the hell is your problem because this can’t be normal….are you freaking kidding me?
What sort of furxkery is this shiit?

I shake my head sometimes with the things some people are tolerating all in the name of relationship smh.

I love that for you my brother marry your fellow man,
Your mama is probably who will care no woman gives a damn.

Is this even an advice thought this was common knowledge? Duh!

This is definitely ground for divorce if she doesn’t change yes I said it.

Every humans needs to be clean more so women

A woman is supposed to be clean, smell good, looks after her appearance not just for a man but for herself first and foremost.

If growing up she didn’t have feminine figures in her life to teach her these things now that she’s grown she can learn these things. She can’t continue living like this heck no.

As a woman twice a day shower minimum no compromise.

A routine for you face
A routine for your skin
A routine for your kitty Kat
A routine for your mouth
A routine for your hair.
A routine for your feet and hands

Every little details mater you need to curate a routine that don’t overlooked nothing on your body. From head to toes.

You are supposed to be smooth, soft, smell good and genuinely takes delight in looking after your appearance most especially when married. Give a good experience to your husband always. Even when going to bed shower lotion yourself up with nice smelling lotion and oil and spray on a nice light perfume so that your husband can enjoy been in your presence.

And this woman is even a stay at home mother when she have all the time in the world to pour into herself and look after herself and she’s doing this?

This is self sabotage and lack of self love at it best.
She needs to work on her self love and self worth this ain’t it.

A woman is a devil but in the same story the male gender actually committed murder but only woman is a devil.

We live in a free will world, just simply stop dealing with women if they are such devils.

She’s insecure of her body.

You are probably rich and don’t have no worries for you to
Be thinking about how to
Make more money this is what you are depressed about.

She needs to stress you more such men prefer women that stress the hell out of them I am very proud of her.

Also you are just a boyfriend not a husband you get no right, you are just on the rooster until she choose the best man, she owes none of you niggas commitment until you put a ring on it.

Be different send her some money.

@ poster congratulations but you can love and appreciate her in real life genuinely love and respect her in real life genuinely show appreciation to her in real life genuinely and most importantly hustle harder and make life easier for her. If you truly love a woman you wouldn’t want to see her struggle. Double your hustle and provide more resources for her as a man of the house that’s the real flex.

I don’t see the essence of bringing it here on nairaland unless she’s here on nairaland she can’t even see it.

If you want to show appreciation show it on a public platform where you know she is again not sure if she’s on nairaland but if she is then good.

He’s. Absolutely right, but these girls wouldn’t learn.

Pickmeishas.com smh

Stupid girl as the saying goes

When you marry or date a man you are marrying or dating his lifestyle too.

Why even give a chance to a broke man smh she haven’t seen nothing yet, some women are so stupid.

toujurs:
pussy power?, Men will bang you tyre, power ni power ko. Ode!

It’s your sisters and female’s relatives they will fu…ck tire.

Do I look like your useless females relatives that gives out pussy
To dusties left and right? Just because you didn’t grow up seeing good example doesn’t mean you should project you imbe….cile.

Lmao if only women knew the power they hold.

Connected1:
I like engaging intelligent women but you seem to be dumb so I will pass after this.

I never said marriage is everyone's goal in life, even survival isn't everyone's goal in life because some people just wants to die but in this life majority wins the stereotype.

Even a rich and good looking man can't get married to his 1st choice because some women will still reject him but that doesn't limit his choices.

Men age like wine because their sexual market value at 55 is very much okay in contrast to that of a 55 year old woman, next time don't engage me if you don't think Deep.

Ooh please fu….ck off. What will engaging with you in a conversation do for me?

Will it put money in my bank account? You are the one who quoted me first you see me quoting u first?

Bleep off my mentions and never quote me again fool.

Jeon:
And this man doesn't even answer the calls of his children [ one is in outside Africa, studying medicine the others are in nursing school in Nigeria]. This woman was down with typhoid for two weeks, the man showed no concern towards her.

I am not surprised. The only true love you gonna feel is the love a mother gives you when you are a baby. That is why as a woman your interest should be first. Put your self first always. Never invest too much emotion into them.

You have to act and think like a man. They always put their own interest first, they are never too emotionally invested.

As a woman do the same but x2

Understand that this is just a man for God sake just a man lol never lose yourself over one.

It really hurt me when I see women killing themselves for these good for nothing dudes.

I can bet you the red flag been there since year 1 but she was there just to save face and trying to be a good wife, see where that got her,

That is why as a woman you go for a provider man. Your money is your own his money is for you both.

You saved your money invest and have something going for your self incase of raining days like this.

If he up and leave so be it. Or if you decide to leave because of whatever reasons so be it. Never get too attached to anything, I mean he’s just a person he could die you know. Like that if it comes to an end then so
Be it know that you can be happy with or without a man.


But if you are foolish enough to love a broke man and build with him, waste your youth best years suffering for him your womb, when something like this happens how do you recover from it? As a woman you have to choose wisely.

Jeon:
My sister that was the covenant I made with myself right before clocking 20s, because of what I am seeing.

Another recent one is a person closer to me experiencing this.

The man is now misbehaving with a woman residing in their compound, not even out. After spending close to 40 years in marriage and now the good woman is been replaced by the bad woman. Guess what the grass is greener .

I am not surprised. Many women stay in the dark because the older generation is not teaching the younger ones any better.

They suffered and they want the younger ones to suffered too. Pathetic.

A lot of lot of women were pickmeishas and held Internalised misogyny and raised their daughters
To be one.

A Lot of unlearning and learning to be done I tell you.

Finding a good wife is easy if you are a good man with money.

Jeon:
lOl same thing happening in the on going kdrama "Marry my husband".
And did you know that this k drama of a thing is getting so much hate from the men, why? because it is now leading to so many divorce
.



Bad girl always win, the men also say it . Bad girls are for fun, while good girls are for marriage. Apply sense and you will get the hidden message.





I will never be that woman of suffering in marriage with the experiences that are everywhere.

Didn’t please. Knowledge is power.

Connected1:
Everyone benefits from marriage equally, stop saying what you don't know because you are in a competition with unknown men here.

Men brag about not needing marriage because they age like wine, at 55 - 60 a can easily get married to any woman of his choice.

Whereas a woman at 55 have very limited or no options at all, so neither men nor women benefit more, one just has more bragging rights.

In competition with which men? For what? To prove what? Lol lol

Ohhh a man can not just get married to any woman
of his choice what the hell are you talking about? Unless offcourse he’s rich. Many men actually are not with their dream woman because they can’t actually afford her.

A man didn’t age like fine wine unless he has money.
Looks means nothing for a man without money.
What the fu…ck are we gonna do with a man’s good looks? Or how beautifully he aged? Is that going to send my children to good school pay the bills, take me on vacation etc?


Also marriage is not everyone goal in life. There are actually women that are happier without marriage. The majority that are are miserable Anyways.

Single women are happier married
men are happy married women are mostly miserable. (Cold hard truth)

Jeon:
And the thank you or retirement pay for those women are: the men cheating, maltreating her or chasing her away.




For me I can't do all those things in the name of having a successful marriage and bearing the name "virtuous woman".

I have seen it too many times, these so called good women gets paid nothing but mistreatment. It is no
Surprise that most divorce are initiated by women, many of them so miserable in their marriages. The K drama Doctor Cha is great example of this. There’s no reward for been a good naive wife/woman. You have to always choose yourself first, put yourself first, love yourself, put yourself as priority and stand on your standards.

First step is never believing in this fairytale of falling in love. You were born with love already, your mama loves you or if she didn’t/don’t you love yourself always, if you don’t you better learn to.
What you need from men is for them to provide and protect, with this mindset you choose the man that will provide for you, the man that will give you princess treatment and treat you well, naturally you will grow in love with this man, this is how it should be. Like that you will always choose the best mate because you ain’t choosing on some flimsy emotion of falling in love, but what’s best for you and what will benefit you and your future children in the long run.

Anytime you see a movie or show about the supposed good woman and bad woman, choose what the supposed bad women is doing, cuz 9/10 times she’s only putting her self first, having standards being a gold digger which is actually a good thing, and actually been smart, but the movies/shows wanna brainwash you to be the supposed goodgirl who will choose the broke guy to suffered with him in the gutters, forgive all his cheating forgive his physical/emotional abuse. The brainwashing is something else, you have to be smart to catch up to it, not surprising though many men are the one directing these shows. lol

I am not suffering for no man. Never! I was not born a gender just to come and suffer for a man and prove my worth to one. God forbid.

Emmanuel900:
What does men benefits from marriage oya list dem

I don’t care or give a damn what a man benefits, if men think they don’t benefit nothing they can give up marriage all together.

Jeon:
Why are you miserable ,crying and stressing yourself in finding a particular thing that doesn't benefit the male gender? .



Men don't need Women or have anything to do with marriage,but deep down we know the person[s] that do need it/benefits from it the most. This is why they feel so much pains if they can't get a woman's attentions,the pain can lead to brutal situations whereby killing can be involved [killing the woman ,or killing himself or killing himself and the woman ] .
And they also hate to see a single woman happy, especially if she's doing well without them ,the next tag is " She is a feminist, hoe".

Don’t mind them. Only if many women woke up to this truth. Men benefit from marriage not women and many women end up unhappy because they give so much.


Many of our grandmothers suffered so much all in the name of marriage. All you hear them talking about is how much they endured glorifying struggle love, instead of teaching the younger generation to do better, choose themselves love themselves do better know they are the prize and never pedestalize these men. Never settled for broke men choose lifestyle and then grow in love. Marriage for a woman is never an achievement. A man should feel lucky not you for you are gonna give so much even by just giving birth.

His jaw line is epic.

He’s a stunning man. Love Zayn.

Some of these small girls so dumb. If you want to keep a roster of guys do so without letting any of them know.

If you ain’t married to a guy you ain’t committed to any of them. You don’t owe no of em loyalty.

Being somebody girlfriend is nothing but a damn scam smart women knows to keep a roster and May best man wins.

But these small kids nowadays smh. Any never move in or give wife benefit to any of these niggas until they’ve put a ring on it.

Smh these women standards so low nowadays the bar is in hell.

EreluRoz:
You just want to take advantage of that other lady abroad, it's giving leech vibes

Truth.com

She don’t give a damn anyways she probably been miserable in that marriage from the way she even walk away

I stopped reading at “we met on Facebook”