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So the Government job has become a Scam?

Who financed her businesses?

That's how they will be putting pressure on young girls.

Those ones will now be doing Olosho upandan to live one yeye life for the gram.

OurBusinessIsPr:
ok why ?

Okra is very cheap in the rainy season, people even farm it in their compound but in the dry season, it is gold.

gerizzim:
D tin too wonder me ooo.
wat do lovers discuss during dating?
Guy go take babe go uphill and down hill from.one eatry to anoda den move to elegushi to alpha beach after comb all d suya , asun and pepper soup nd nkwobi joints holding hands cackling nd giggling floating in the euphoria of perfect lovers in the making.


Most DNT sit down and do a serious reality Q n A on their expectations , roles each will play nd plans to do as team in d marriage , aspirations and Wt each will do to make money and increase dia income.

even pple wen talk bfor marriage d tin dey shake Dem not to talk of couple wen no do any talking.

Nwokem, pls take a break from the marriage. Go chill somwer ND change strategy on ow to make it work .

Honestly. Most of the marital issues that we see on Nairaland could have been prevented by proper communication during courtship.

I pray o. Cause the MURIC guy is an Omo ale amongst us.

Best to farm it in the dry season.

I just feel a lot of what OP is going through could have been prevented with communication during courtship.

There are some things that must be discussed if you want peace of mind and it includes finances and bills.

He failed in that regard but it's not too late.

They both need to ope their account books, let them both know how much each person earns cause e be like say the madam think say her husband dey earn 1m and is deliberately not wanting to give her money. Meanwhile, she prolly earns more than him.

mmadu4:
when a harlot is talking we know . im sorry for the man in your life.

It's very wrong to call her names because if her views and opinions.

Doesn't speak well of you either.

We can all be civil and make our points without acting like barbarians now.

Do better.

This Red pill you people are swallowing, I hope you know the side effects?

People spend so much time during courtship or dating doing irrelevant things like having sex and galavanting all over the place, leaving aside important things that should be discussed like Finances, number of children, splitting of bills and chores, child care, faith, goals and ambitions, etc.

Your wife is earning enough to pay her own rent and as a fellow tailor, there is a maths to how much you charge customers which includes materials, operations cost and profit.

If you know you can't handle the financial burden on marriage, you should have discussed splitting bills with her, how much to save for projects etc.

You didn't discuss it, now she feels it's your right to pay rent for her shop while she pockets her profits and still claims you don't support her.

First error is not letting her know your salary. The positives of a woman knowing your salary outweighs the negatives if you shined your eyes and married a prudent woman.

A woman can better plan her life if she knows how much you earn factoring in your yearly rent, monthly feeding allowance, child care, savings and upkeep for both of you. You earn 100k but refused to tell her. She prolly thinks you earn over 500k and she prolly even earns more than you but since you're both not open about your finances, you're playing the blame game.

Una never know wetin marriage be, if not, you'd both be open about your finances. It's not about having joint account or she submitting her profits to you, it's about planning the little you both earn to benefit your family.

Make adjustments sir.

phemmyfour:
Mountain climbing should be there too

I can't count how many mountains I've climbed.

I am an ardent hiker.

Fiscus105:
blame aunty and not the scammer.

when a woman is confi


blinded to marry at all costs without do necessary findings about the guy, she is bound to be scammed, when a guy comes ur way and tells you he is worth this and doing that, if such a lady knows what she is doing herself ,she ought to see signs and evidences of the guy worth and work.

but for our naija ladies, they fall for what they hear yakata with just little show off without single findings.


seeing man as a way of escaping poverty is a dangerous mindset.......

Aunty wasn't doing badly. She was living in a rented apartment in town and had a business she was doing.

Yep. Skydiving is on my bucket list.

The boys don't look like they even want to be at that party.

I hate it when there are more adults than children in a child's birthday.

Wetin Musa no go see for gate?

So if these big Pharma's wipe away half the population, how will they thrive?

We know medicine is business so why kill the people that put you in business?

angelfallz:
This is unfortunate. But it serves her right. How can you marry a man without investigating him? How can you swear before God and man to live the rest of your life with a man that you have not investigated?

I have been saying it. People don't understand what marriage is about any more. People just marry like that. Women are not investigating the family they are marrying into, men are not investigating the family they are marrying from.

Its unfortunate, like you said she is living in regret. Regret is one of the most painful emotions any human being can have.

My dear, hers is one that really saddens me. She just believed everything the man said cause he's a "pastor".

Return their brideprice.

A marriage built on lies will come crashing down like a pack of cards.

That's how one scammed a woman I know that he's a pastor and a contractor. He proposed to this woman when he found out she was doing well.

Time to plan wedding, Baba said he had not been paid for all his contracts. Aunty used her money to fund wedding.

12 years down the line, oga has refused to do anything and he was never a contractor. Aunty is still feeding him and their two children, she's the one paying fees and all.

She done old pass her age and the man still no gree give her peace.

All you'd need to do is look at her and you'd see years of regrets.

I think he has become so powerful that he now has a god complex.

When I commented on the thread about his apology, some demented and idiotic elements displaying their animalistic tendencies cane for me.

Oya, over to you people, come and defend your lord and saviour who obviously has a pattern of assault.

She was a good actress.

Sad.

With the land mass the North has, I no know wetin them wan use grazing reserve do for South.

Set up your POS business in her state after you get married.

Getting transfer as a government worker isn't easy and her income is more steady than yours.

Unrated900:
Noted stay blessed but try tel Buhari he isn’t trying in the country at all

You think say e no know?

We make as fuss over the smallest things making life difficult for ourselves and her husband can all her and his daughters his girls.

There are plenty challenges in marriage to deal with, why do we choose to add more?

Na wa o

9jaRealist:

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Abi. Wetin make I talk again?

Unrated900:
Are you from the north
Did you
See it as you
Claimed or heard about it

Yes I am from the north. Lived here all my life too.

That's why I said "could" and I "I could be wrong".

Empiree:
You were the one and others that made such silly assumption JUST BECAUSE SHE'S FROM THE NORTH. You are not the only one. Another guy made same allegation which means you guys have issues with the northern people. But guess what?. They are far better than you. If the article suggested it hinted about her husband or that she was forced I probably considered your mistake but the article said ABSOLUTELY NOTHING about it.

I agree with everything you say.

The North is far better. It is very obvious for the world to see how better the North is.

Empiree:
show me in the article where it says she was forced into marriage?.

Show me where in the article where is says her would be husband is old man?

Is that not why I said "I could be wrong though". But you didn't see that, you just jumped on the defensive cause my comment hit a nerve.

Empiree:
hypocrite!

She's 18 and her business is none of your business. What if her ex kidnapped her?. Why are people from the other side so foolish?. Omotola Ekehinde married at 18. Iku baba yeye married his granddaughters but you foolish non-muslim southwest and East think you are the elites to tell others how to live there lives. If she's marrying older man it is none of your damn business. Before you condemned her you should condemned Omotola Ekehinde, iyabo ojo, alafin of Oyo etc.

Go and query Alafin of OYO of his choice of wives and see how you will be seriously subjugated. Awon akoda Oba ma lock e up ninu tubu and throw the key away.

You must learn to respect other tribes in the country.

I'm on my house, come and beat me.

Was Omotola forced to marry and Old man and is it okay to force anyone to marry who they don't like?

No let me drag you and your North o. You no go fit match me.

Just shut look for one lungu and go and hide.

piyoo91:
shut up!! What do u knw about North??

I was born in Kakuri, Kaduna, I've lived in the north all of my life and I still live there.

Now shut that latrine you call a mouth.

This should be adopted for weddings to keep unwanted guests, AKA Mo gbo mo ya out.

With fiery looking bouncers at the gate.

Nothing to see hear, just the regular Yahoo yahoo marriage.

Them go dey alright las las.