₦airaland Forum

Kriss216:
Married women always using cooking and house chores to justify their laxity!

Maybe if wives get the help they can get from their husbands, there wouldn't be any excuse for laxity.

Don't you think so?

Between child upbringing, cooking and doing chores plus a job or a business?

See why a woman can't do it all for a healthy marriage?

As much as you can afford.

As a rule, if you don't have half of your total wedding budget in your account, you're over spending.

You are dating a pet project who prolly never wants to work but wants a man to cater to her every need.

Only Jesus can supply the all our needs and it is according to His riches in Glory, are you Jesus?

Hamiltonii:
Don't insult your elders. They would still live without your marriage. If the groom has the money, he should pay cos it's a thing of joy in our culture.

If the items on the list was going to my parents, I for no complain since na them take care of me.

But a bunch of people who don't know you and just sit in the village eating items on the list without contributing a dime to your life, please, make that make sense .

tiredoflife:
U all never have a choice once it comes to marriage list
Let him pay it for all u care

I don't even know why I indulged you by replying at first. Never again.

The same Rivers that Wike is Governor or another Rivers State?

tiredoflife:
Yet u made the poor man to give them.

My dear, I didn't have a choice in the matter, the list wasn't even half this much.

Rotfl.

All I see is poverty alleviation scheme in the name of marriage.

My own marriage list, na only small palm oil, can malt and 5 tubers of yam reach my mother.

The rest were collected and chopped by my father's extended family, 98% of them won't even know me if I was staring them in the face.

A bunch of hungry clowns that didn't contribute 1 naira to my feeding or education.

If 2.5 milion registered in Kano, i wonder how many joined PDP and how many voters will be left.

One more thing to add, for those of us who are yet to build houses or are about to buy or build one, please consider planting trees in your house.

It could be two of your favourite fruits.

Na Dubai them kuku dey carry am go now.

They didn't deny it.

Sadly, the Royal family is bigger than Harry and William's immediate family, the Queen inclusive.

Beremx:
Seems the British Monarchy will end soon. I see massive protest looming.

Just my thoughts

Give it two more generations and it will all go to the dogs.

Naija house of comedy.

Climate change. The seasons as we know it is changing. In Abuja, we were still seeing Harmattan by 1st of March. Na now the heat start. Heat period wey dey start begining of February, the Harmattan we saw in February was the intensity of the ones we usually experienced in December.

If you use money to get a woman, you'll end up with a gold digger and put us through a sad post of your experience.

IntentionTremor:
Okay. I wanted us to understand each other.

I'm just saying it could also be an option, unless you're incapable of loving an adopted child.

And I did say I pray God blesses you to be able to afford surrogacy.

IntentionTremor:
Did you mean adoption is costlier than surrogacy? Check again.. surrogacy = donor egg + IVF + surrogate mom

No. I didn't say adoption is costlier.

Of course, surrogacy is expensive. I know a surrogate who earned 5mill for carrying twins.

That's a dung beetle. Na them dey roll poop o.

IntentionTremor:
Thanks . I already forgave her. God has too. But the reality starring me in the face is beyond words.
Adoption is not an option for me. Children should complete the marriage for me. Even if they bring troubles, I will deal with it than deal with not having them in my home. Thanks

Do you think you'll be unable to love an adopted child?

And it seems your last option is surrogacy. I'll suggest you take it seriously.

It is not as expensive as the rate charged outside the country.

I pray you're blessed enough to be able to afford it.

Look beyond your reality, it's what is limiting you.

IntentionTremor:
Yes , wifey is a strong woman I must say going through all the rigors of each cycle 5 crazy times! I cried at the hospital when we lost the first natural 9month preggy. She didn't blink. Only cried when the 1st IVF failed reason I had us go outside our state of residence for a weekend. But she started loosing faith after the 4th failed but braced up for the 5th which was the worse so far! Right now she's stronger than I am.

To be very true to my innermost self, if the abortion was for me I would chill and carry my cross. If she was a virgin as well, no challenge. But the sad truth that the nigger who caused the damage is happy somewhere while I'm grinding and spending is making me mad.

God help me anyways. Thanks.

You need to forgive her for the abortion, that is why you're being resentful towards her and it's possible the abortion isn't the cause of what you are both going through. It is probably easier to blame her for it.
.if you two can hold on to God and ride this wave together, trust me, there is nothing you both won't be able to conquer together.

God has already forgiven her, I hope she has forgiven herself and I pray you can forgive her.

Having children doesn't guarantee happiness in marriage. Many have children that they regret having cause those children ended up being a boil in their butt. Many had children and lost them all in a day.

I don't wish you bad, I'm just trying to give you perspective on how you can hold on to the love and companionship that you both have, use that as a force to have joint faith and keep trying.

If it's okay with both of you, also consider adoption. Giving a child love might open doors for you, you never can tell.

Don't put away your wife like some children are advising you to do, more than half of them don't even know what marriage is and also don't know God.

Please, be wise. The devil chooses our darkest hour to strike us down.

Be cause being a Nigerian is a pre existing condition.

IntentionTremor:
I make bold to say NO WOMAN HAS ABORTED FOR ME.
Surrogacy in my case also needs an egg donor plus the surrogate mom! Thinking about it gets me so angry.
While dating I always stated I wanted CHILDREN early that's why I was getting married early.... I was less than 30 when we even married cause of how much I wanted to have the kids early! Alas!

For the fact she was able to get pregnant means she wasn't barren. Infertility is a serious thing and most women aren't at fault.

Is she incapable of having healthy eggs?

For her to have gone through up to 5 IVFs, I can guarantee you that she is also going through pain. From hormone shots to extractions and implantations, it's quite a painful journey.

Look into surrogacy, if you need a fertility clinic, people could make recommendations for you.

You fit marry another woman now or try give another woman belle wey e no go work and you'd even hate yourself more.

Still hold on. There are people who married for even up to 15 years and still no children. There's someone very close to me who has been married for 13 years, they lost the only child they had after a month of being born, two years ago.

He married his wife as a virgin and he has chosen to stand by her and defend her from the persecution of his family and I believe the God that gave them the one that died is still in the business of giving babies.

Hold on to God.

Who is to say another woman has not aborted for you?

There is an option, surrogacy. Why not explore it?

Then why did you get married to this woman, is it solely for children?

Which kind news be this na?

Best Banga soup na from Edo or Delta.

PotatoSalad:
Season finale was dope

The vision to vision conversation abi?

NamelessOGBENI:
It's on low key. Reason, they tag you bad belle once you open your mouth to analyze our favorites..

I will surely do that.

Most just speak out of ignorance ni o.

You'd be glad you checked them out.

NamelessOGBENI:
Ratings & reviews is not a Nigeria thing.

It is o. Follow PopcornandReels on Twitter and IG and see.

Bobxin:
Including Burna Boy

As much as I don't like Burna boy, yes. Including Burna boy.

SyIvalord:
Enough with the spoilers already

Wandavision is cool though. How far along are you?

Last episode.

Too bad the studio isn't forth coming about a season 2. If you no quick finish am, them done dey spoil am o.