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Divoc19:
And most financially stable ladies are either not married or end up desperate
Tell me say I lie.

You lie.

In short. Over lie.

My best friend is getting married in April, she drives a lexus SUV.

And she's the sweetest and most humble woman I know.

Yusufisraelj:
Very well then, but I think you should give it unconditionally.




Not at all, but also look at what someone wrote below:



If you've met me in person you will know I don't twist truth to suit my interest, I take the whole counsel of God. You can point that out without being mean.

Your point is very valid, but as regards love relationship a man feeds of submission (respect) and a woman feeds of love for check and balance, however to your point both should learn to accommodate each other, if we go deeper into the concordance of this scripture to bring out the Hebrew meaning of the verse you quoted, you will know it's not plain submission, there is more to that, but this not the place for that. Cheers

I do believe it is a symbiotic relationship. A woman forced to submit without getting the love and care of the man is a ticking time bomb.

LordKO:
"Man no fit use financially stable woman do Shakara." That your crass statement does not hold true because financial stability neither cures greed and feeble-mindedness nor buy grit. So, being financially independent doesn't automatically make a woman or man gritty. Besides, having a job or business and an ability to scantly buy own toiletries doesn't automatically make one "financially independent."

There's nothing wrong with being a financially independent woman or aspiring to be one, but there's everything wrong when one's purpose of pursuing financial stability is to prove a point, like your mentality through your post connotes. It usually ends in tears when relating with aristocrats.

Meanwhile, only men who haven't conquered themselves will have a problem having a financially independent woman walk and work with them on their lead. Gritty women, regardless of their financial/social standing, aren't meant to be controlled in a relationship and won't condone such, and no sane man will take pleasure in controlling a woman. Only an insane woman, however, deserves to be controlled.

By the way, being on this new moniker doesn't stop you from being the person who's formerly "reb............" If you don't wish to be derided and debased, don't mete out the same to men or anyone, regardless of gender. Humility isn't a sign of weakness, just as arrogance isn't a sign of strength.

You are obviously confusing me for someone else.

He sole purpose of a woman having her own money isn't just so a man can't do her Shakara.

I see how you ignored my comment about a woman choosing a man because she likes him and not cause he spends on her.

Bye.

Sixfeetbelle:
Night browsing.

The only time of the day I don't suffer network hiccups

Eya. Pele

Sixfeetbelle:
Calm down and reread his initial post, Roma. Not all of it was meant for you.

Lol. I've seen it. Thank you jare. Why you never sleep?

Sixfeetbelle:
Calm down and reread his initial post, Roma. Not all of it was meant for you.

I commented based on what he said to me na.

Yusufisraelj:
Reading in between the lines I can say that your man/guy is not treating you right in a particular way, hence the "frustration". A woman who is treated right knows her place and operates from there naturally without pressure or fear of criticism from her significant other, it's a place where she ventilates herself still yet with an omen of pure submission even when she has the upper hand.

Your man/guy should learn to find this place. I think you should communicate more and let him see why he must take what's important to you seriously and disagree with you legitimately without being offensive. It is well




You point sounds valid, but the issue I have with it is that, if a woman's goal to be financially stable is to prove a point (escape from control), she may find it hard or really struggle to make that money.

Secondly submission is never earned, it's requested of the female while love is requested of the male, both should be given unconditionally irrespective of the response from the other, that's what is taught. When we bring additions into God's counsel, it builds a faulty foundation.

I hope you don't see any insult in my comment?

God bless you.

Yusufisraelj:
Reading in between the lines I can say that your man/guy is not treating you right in a particular way, hence the "frustration". A woman who is treated right knows her place and operates from there naturally without pressure or fear of criticism from her significant other, it's a place where she ventilates herself still yet with an omen of pure submission even when she has the upper hand.

Your man/guy should learn to find this place. I think you should communicate more and let him see why he must take what's important to you seriously and disagree with you legitimately without being offensive. It is well




You point sounds valid, but the issue I have with it is that, if a woman's goal to be financially stable is to prove a point (escape from control), she may find it hard or really struggle to make that money.

Secondly submission is never earned, it's requested of the female while love is requested of the male, both should be given unconditionally irrespective of the response from the other, that's what is taught. When we bring additions into God's counsel, it builds a faulty foundation.

I believe submission is earned. The man earns submission by loving his wife.

Take away the money many men have and see their marriage crumble cause the so called "true colours" of the woman appears cause the money was a tool used to keep her controlled.

Take it or leave it, argue it, it's my opinion and I stand by it.

Na wa o.

Back to back hits by kidnappers and bandits.

The reason I advice women to be financially independent is cause you'll know why you're dating a guy. Not cause he's spending on you, but cause you really like him.

Man no fit use financially stable woman do Shakara.

Many men use their money as a tool to control a woman, which money you wan use control woman wey dey financially stable.

There's a difference between submission and control. Submission is earned and flows easily from the heart while control is conditional, with something attached to it.

Weyrey dey disguise for 2023.

Weyrey did not apply local solutions to make Kogi better, na now weyrey dey wake up.

There's no candidate on that list worth voting for.

Source?

The same men telling this lady to wait for the guy or siding with the guy are the same ones who will call her evening newspaper when she's 35 and unmarried or when he dumps her.

My dear sis, the biological clock of a man is different from that of a woman, if you see a decent man that you love and has most qualities you want in a man, marry him o.

In these 8 years, I just pray you've not been fornicating with this guy of yours, if you have, it's 8 years of husband and wife relations, ki lo tun ku?

There's more to why your wife left.

Loud it o.

We the middle belters are farmers in our own right and are not part of the shenanigans in the north.

We move.

This Issue still amazes me.

The Northern leaders know those responsible for these kidnappings and even where to locate them but somehow, they don't know how to stop them.


Hmmn.

All na jealous competitor o.

The way Glo and Airtel spends money on advertising, these South African clowns are so confident, them no send advert again.

It will cost one nothing to stay safe, wear a mask, wash your hands and avoid large gathering, especially where there's no social distance.

AfonjaConehead:
The bolded is a 4kn no no. The op has his own parents/family.
He's not responsible for his wife's father or family..if she's gonna send money at all to her parents,it should be once in a while..

What if his wife is a house wife?

I know families that as a working wife, the wife is responsible for the upkeep of both parents, even to their cable TV subscription, the hubby tends to other bills.

If he's buoyant enough to place his father in law on a allowance, I repeat that there's nothing wrong in it.

sirjoe1124:
I just know this reply came from a lady. Kindly take care of your family with your own money that's exactly what my mom does

Just cause that's how it worked for your mum doesn't mean that's how it works for everyone.

ImaIma1:
I don't believe it's his job to send monthly stipend to his father inlaw. He can send him money as a gift once in a while.The man has his own children who are meant to do that. And I guess the op has parents too.

Your parents in law become your parents as well and there's nothing wrong with sending them monthly stipends.

If you're buoyant enough to do it, there's absolutely nothing wrong in it.

I just don't believe it should be an obligation or that the in laws should feel entitled to it.

Not all mad people roam the street. Some are on social media Nd on the street, half naked.

Them conduct naming ceremony for this one too o.

It's like our government is mad.

Like Reno said, this has become a Joke that's no longer funny.

badmusatari:
Thank you sir. She's no longer with such mentally. For more than two years now till now she don't even want to hear anything from them and whenever she want to talk to her dad she finds a way of doing that without then know but they always get mad because they always miss the opoory to influence their dad by way to telling him what to demand. So she's woke up.

Good. She has to stay woke o. Life na per head.

It's your wife you have to talk to.

Set boundaries to her. Tell her if you choose to support her dad, it's out of the goodness of your heart and not an obligation.

Tell her how much you're willing to part with for her dad every month for upkeep and let her know that she or her family must not ask you for a dime else, she'd be ruining her marriage.

Ask her if it's her wish for her older brother to keep being jobless or if she's willing to support his irresponsible life style cause you don't plan to support him.

Tell her it's time to choose between building her home or going back to her father's house.

The new recruit.

All thanks to the Turkish doctor.

Are there Yoruba or Igbo bandits and herdsmen?