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lovediehatelive:
This one is better and understandable.

But you know some people and their vawulence mentality na.

Simple situation that can be settled easily with communication, they'll apply vawulence to it.

There is nothing that communication cannot solve of both parties are reasonable.

Hmmm.

Depends on the situation.

But if you must leave, it should be discussed.

"I'm going to my parents place for a few days so I can clear my head, you can come see the kids, I just need time to process all that happened. I love you, I'm not leaving you, I'm not leaving our marriage, I just need a clearer head to deal with this and I can't do that if I'm constantly seeing you".

This way, there's an understanding, make e no just long and there should be constant communication. Check up on each other even if na once a day.

Only a man that has coconut water in his head won't understand.

The man too could need time apart for a few days. If at the end of the time apart, you're both able to sort out your differences, good.

But it shouldn't be every time sha.

As a marriage progresses, you'll develop shock absorber to take some things that use to get you really angry.

So, just pick your battles.

The true test of how to know the mad people in this country is through the result of the upcoming elections.

If you know, you know.

We are use to it. The public transport system has failed severally. The only one that worked was when we had the green buses but they were banned by El rufai cause they were beginning to be a nuisance like their Lagos counterpart.

El rufai introduced the urban mass buses called "El rufai buses" but lwck of maintenance culture, long waits for the bus, too much stops made it fail.

The private individuals that now pick people up also use it as a side hustle. They pick people on their way to work or place of business and also pick people up on their way home.

The money generated is used for fuel, food money, daily feeding allowance for the family, etc.

The bad side to it is, too many one chance has taken over. You won't know how you'll enter one chance.

Best way to avoid one chance people is to enter from any park with agberos. The agberos know the drivers to some extent.

theforemost:
This is what you do when you LIE and ASHAME to show your face in public

The effort it must have taken you to go through my profile and even save or screenshot my profile picture is next level obsession.

Ahn ahn.

Better get a life.

Lagos doesn't belong to Tinubu. Same way Anambra doesn't belong to anybody.

VeryWickedMan:
Only a fool has sex with a woman without sexchatting her first as alibi.

By the time all the nasty things we agreed to do to each other is read out loud in court, na you go end case by yourself.

You need to educate yourself more about rape.

You need Jesus sis.

People will pick food over clothes o.

People must eat.

So food stuff.

VOsimhen144:
what if God gives you a man like @kollins11? What will you do?

I no even sabi am.

I never considered profession before I got married.

I just needed the person to have sense. That was the most important for me.

If the mother is sick, she'll be unable to breastfeed, so formula is the only option.

If the baby isn't taking "my boy" formula, try NAN or Lactogen. They are also affordable.

The girls father just wants his daughter to get well and he also cannot deal with a sick daughter and a baby.

Your family has to take the baby to a pediatrician to explain what's going on so the pediatrician can advise and recommend a formula for you guys.

When we are shouting that you people should avoid premarital sex, you'd open your gutter mouths to insult people telling you nothing but the truth.

See where e done end so.

An unemployed boy sowing his seed irresponsibly.

Watch them set this mall ablaze when one religious riot happens.

calculator123:
Nope. He can reach out to people in the locality he intends to stay. We have LinkedIn and Facebook for a reason. One person should take him in for a couple of days and then he plans his exit to avoid being a burden.

Shey it's Nigerians that don't accommodate each other abroad that you what to house him?

E be like say you no know wetin dey happen abroad.

Even uncles and cousins turn on each other over there when it comes to accommodating family members.

Let him just save up more.

E better go japa with dignity, no be to go there dey suffer till them deport you.

calculator123:
He can always get where to stay. He needs to ask around

You mean bus stations and public libraries?

That's how our people go outside and start commiting crime.

No adequate planning, only vibes and "God go do am, make I reach there first".

calculator123:
He can leave on credit. Discover gives $2k

In a land where he knows no one.

Where will he stay? How will he feed and pay bills?

Let's be realistic, he should either save more or do business or even consider an African country. Even for African country, that money no go do am to lay rent, flight ticket and survival.

efelicity:
you are a woman of goodd principle. please don't take offense, are you married?

Very happily so

JasonScoolari:
You don't get it do you? It's there in your Holy Book “Suffer Not The Witch To Live”

A lady that made an attempt to send you to your maker and also leave your house and kids to go warm the bed of her lover is who you're wishing well? C'mon!!! You are not too Holy than Jesus.

I'm not saying you should kill her, and like I rightly said before, he did well to let her go...
. But wishing her well is stupid.

No it's not stupid to wish her well. It doesn't change the repercussions of her actions.

Someone did me dirty and it hurt me real bad. After counselling from my pastor, my pastor asked me to forgive him and wish him well. I called the person and told him aid forgiven him and wished him well.

Months later, this person called me on the phone begging me to please forgive him, that he's in a big problem and everywhere he was taken to, they told him to go and beg me for what he did to me.

I told him I forgave him the day I called him that he should go and sort his problems cause I have nothing to do with it.

What could I have done to him that would make up for what he did to me?

But I freed my conscience and forgave him and wished him well.

JasonScoolari:
My brother, abeg nor let me laff fall for water.


Romanoff seems like a "peacemaker" from her profile pics, you'll see that she's too shy to wish someone bad.

I actually do not wish anyone bad.

I'll prefer to count my losses and move on and God helps me heal faster that way.

If I see you after the incident, there will be no hard feelings. Na you and God go dey dig am.

Life is too short abeg, should the man have killed the woman?

What could he have done to her that will make up for her wickedness to him?

3nity7:
is like your brain is off. Even if it's a lie, why place a curse on him?
And to prove you are gender biased, your wishing the adulterous woman well instead of wishing her karma.

Many people dey lie for this forum for clout. That's why.

Should I tell him to kill bet instead?

Would that have made you happy?

Mercury12:
Yes being thankful is expected. But not many people would wish such persons well. But I had not doubt few can do. If you say you can do it okay then.

I'm saying I will wish the person well and focus on my kids.

Mercury12:
Fixed. She will understand better this way lol

cc: Romanoff

Yes. I'll be thankful he didn't kill me and take my kids and move on.

His reward is in front. E go see person wey go kill am las las

Some ladies just want go be friends and to me, the friendship could even blossom into a beautiful relationship and marriage.

It's best to marry your friend but don't let the reason you agree to the friendship be because you're waiting for her to say yes to you.

Shey she's not billing you?

Shadysen:
may God help, Amen!

Na the prayer be that o.

Shadysen:
you sounds cool thou. i pray that kind of shit wont happen to me, i can be nasty.

Be calming down. Nasty wey you nasty fit send you to jail. Wetin go come happen to your children?

It's wise to not behave in a rash manner.

Shadysen:
you wont talk like this if reverse is the case.

Why won't I?

Women have dealt with worse and they didn't kill the man, they simply walked away, some without even any alimony or compensation.

At the end, a wicked person will reap what they've sown.

Let the man juts move on and focus on caring for his kids.

Don't encourage him to do anything that will send him to jail or live in bitterness for the rest off his life.

Greattestman:
I understand your point, you don't need to rain curses since it's sure karma will meet such person.

Exactly my point.

efelicity:
She demanded to go with our daughter on the ground that she was too young but i rejected that.

Good thing you refused.

Your daughter shouldn't grow up with a woman like that.

You should prepare to update her family on the recent development of their daughter so whatever happens to her in her new endeavour, they won't think she's still under your roof.

Make them know say their daughter done go journey of no return.

JasonScoolari:
You're not the one affected that's why you're wishing her well...

If you're the one being affected, trust me, you take vengeance from God Hand and become deadly.

People have done similar things to me and I wished them well.

Someone might not have plotted to kill me but I've taken a lot from people that I should no longer have a heart.

Saying he should wish her well doesn't mean I'm trying to down play his hurt.

If he takes vengeance from God's hands and loses his life or gets sent to jail, who loses more?

What becomes of his kids?

JasonScoolari:
In a nutshell, there's no need wishing her well.


But your gender people sef

See, that's me for you. You do me bad, I wish you well. Me I know say your reward dey front.

I won't curse or ploy wicked things against you.

As long as I leave it to God, his own vengeance go worse pass the one wey I go do you.

efelicity:
How I wish i was typing a story. People saying this is a cooked up story don't really know what life is. My son is 8, my daughter is 5 and they are used to their mother travelling and leaving them behind with me.

I don't envy you.

I think you should take time off to heal, after you've healed, sit your children down and tell them what happened so they they don't have to live a lie and keep asking you when mummy will be coming back.

I am quite sure she won't be showing up to take the kids, cause any woman that can do what she did doesn't love anyone but herself.

God really loves you and saved you.

She could have killed you and covered it up.

Thank God for how it all turned out.

JasonScoolari:
Saying he should Wish her well was out of context, it's like giving her a hand shake and hugging her for her atrocious act...

Wishing someone who almost send you to the great beyond and also screaming the name of her ex in bed should not be wished any good thing of life.


Abeg nor wish that kind person well.

E no fit well with that kind person whether you wish her well or not.

As long as he did her right and she was the one who did him wrong, her reward dey front dey wait her.