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Ologundudu2020:
Tnx so why you covering your face ?�

Personal preference.

All my social media accounts are private. Since this can't be private, I prefer to put up pictures like this.

Ologundudu2020:
Yea I have the funds, the last I checked I’m doing fine alone.

About chances nah, I’m not taking chances I’m only trying to leave longer while using my brain, you are a lady, you won’t understand tho.

About conscience, nah! I’m a hard thinker, life is not always run on conscience but decisions, the outcome is what matters, tho my only fear is later after all these process, I don’t want to be unfortunate to go and have an ss. That’s my worries Ma

I wish you all the best sir.

One of the things I hate in a lady is the beezz that they just put outside for the whole world to see.

Unless you're breastfeeding in public, this is distasteful.

Ologundudu2020:
Well if I have I can give it up, just that once lol and I have 45% moving prospects to achieve anything to bring us together.

When we thinking about making babies, we should also thinking about making money for the babies.

Tnks tho, learnt the other option is cheaper and safer, I mean checking the foetus before growing, and who knows our first hit could be a twin with AA it’s an option too my father had three twin, my uncles did too plus I shoot a lot.

You are counting on chance.

You obviously don't have the money from your first statement.

Do you really want to put someone you love through several abortions?

The test to check the genotype in utero is well over 500k. Then to keep aborting babies, do you have the conscience for it?

No be Bet9ja odds be that?

Ifakiland:
Opounu forming woke....you will lass lass beg for marriage

Rotfl.

Marriage wey we done dey for years?

Tell that to small small girls that you're hoping to use one yeye marriage to keep in bondage.

Not a grown woman who married a man with sense and married with intentionality.

Shior.

Ifakiland:
Werey nobody forced you guys to get married....if you can't be offended stay in your father's house and be single.

Ode, why don't you people bring the same energy when you're offended?

No be una dey come lament here pass?

If una no get mind to marry make una keep unasef where una dey.

Radarada.

doggedfighter:
There are ways around it now.


Someone suggested I VF already.

I think you can check the foetus and abort if it's SS too. That's another option too.

Meet a doctor specialised in this. He will give you options.

Don't dump each other yet.


Explore all and every available options .

There are solutions to these things now.


Remember not to reply little brats here that knows nothing about life !

How many abortions them wan do?

Do you know that multiple abortions can take its toll on fertility?

Ologundudu2020:
I knew about the IVF where the foetus get tested before growing, and that’s the only slimmer chance I’ve been holding unto, I heard it’s cost around 2-4m or so. Believe me you we’ve have to do than growing babies and we both have more to lose leaving each other.

It actually costs more than that.

Regular NIPT is around 250k.

NIPT that tests for chromosomal anomalies cost more, the one for sickle cell costs around 500-700k.

The IVF for sickle cell procedure costs more too.

Hope you sha get the money?

Focus on your work Oga, exceed your KPIs.

Do the work you're paid to do and make yourself indispensable.

When an employer knows your worth, it eliminates see finish.

If you are rich, you can opt for IVF so they can do selective implantation via advanced NIPT screening for the sickle cell trait.

If you can't afford it, I don't know how you'll do it cause 10 years is a long time to have wasted the time of that woman.

With all the awareness going on about sickle cell and genotype compatibility, it feels like you just crawled out of the stone age where the topic is concerned.

Tradepunter2:
I have joy you will never amount to.... I have served and protected your sorry arses and all your family for a life time and still doing so on different war fronts...

And in a private capacity I have actively protected 30 women from domestic violence and who were victims of domestic violence...

And I can say with strong confidence majority of women don't deserve good men and always seem to be attracted to men who see you guys as worthless....

This ladies case is a case we see and put in the bottom drawer because from profiling she's the type that will walk into their problem

It's heart breaking to see the generation of women getting worse with character and attitude problems...

So my dear till you walk in my shoes, I will advice you sit and listen when experience is talking ok.

Your experience fit pass my own and e for no pass.

Make una dey calm down as una dey comment.

Maynman:
Of course it works. And men like him are even more dangerous.

He will treat the next useless woman the right way, he already has a template .

I hear you.

Rotfl.

Maynman:
He will treat the next useless woman the right way, he already has a template .

Doesn't work that way.

Till he finally give up and starts saying "I done comot my hand for anything relationship".

Na today?

Maynman:
He will treat the useless women the right way, he already has a template .

Yinmu.

The next woman might even do worse.

Maynman:
Him marrying her doesn’t mean they won’t get divorce.
And it seems the woman doesn’t know what’s best for her or is it also part of “using the man”?

The man got saved from a useless woman, he should do thanksgiving, he will no longer be used.
The woman will reap what she did.

He will still meet many "useless" women if he continues the way he's going.

Na this same pattern dey make una feel say "Nigerian girls are useless", "men are scum", meanwhile, people saying all these are a product of the lifestyle that they glorify and refuse to see that it is failing them.

Tradepunter2:
Useless talk, what's the point of marriage? Don't your pastors preach to ya slowpokes that is all about forgiveness...

Make you leave the husband na and deny the children a father figure... Most of you women nowadays grow up without father figures na why una dy misbehave...

She didn't mention him beating her or maltreating her....200k in a life time of marriage that won't amount to one naira per day is what is destroying this woman and will cause havoc in her marriage....

That lady is tormented by a dark spirit of unforgivness, which will only consume her..... And her father adding fuel to fire shows they are egotistic family just because they feel they have more money than the man's family.

Make she pack na she go suffer am.... Selfish woman not taking the kids into consideration

Mr forgiveness, did I tell her to leave her marriage?

Did I not say that they can seek counselling and work things out?

Some of you are so bitter, your bitterness has a foul odour that fills the air wherever you go and with every comment you make.

May God give you joy o, brother, you obviously need it.

Maynman:
This was your statement, “She already didn't want the child. She just didn't let him know and used him to get to the US.”

After lying and pretending to the man, what signs will the man need not to believe his woman?

The man wanted the best for the woman that’s why she sent her abroad, if he wanted to outsmart her, she would have asked for abortion.

If he wanted the best for the woman, he would have done things the right way. Marry her.

But no, without marriage, they were fornicating and deceiving each other.

I sha hope the guy learned his lesson.

Like I said, zero sympathy.

Maynman:
You said it yourself that the woman used the man to get to the US, so what “signs” are there?
The man was manipulated.
It’s the woman that will suffer it the most at the end of day.

Divorce rate is over 80%.

I can't speak for the woman and the man about signs cause they are obviously a perfect fit for each other. One just outsmarted the other.

I'd like to say she'd reap what she sowed but only God knows that.

Maynman:
So the women lied to him to go to US? Why didn’t she come out straight in nigeria?
how then do you know you are on “same page” with a woman?

The signs are there and these days, people just prefer to have premarital sex all in the name of "sexual compatibility".

See where sexual compatibility lead this brother na.

The word of God is complete. Stay off premarital sex, look well before you marry, look out for values and behaviours rather than sweet mouth, I love you I can't do without you.

Sex clouds the mind, you can pray about who you want to marry and hear from God if you're a Christian who has a relationship with God.

I haven't seen anyone who married the way God intended that missed it.

Never.

Maynman:
The main aim of sending her to US was to give birth to the child.
Why didn’t she complain in Nigeria and refuse to go to US?

She already didn't want the child. She just didn't let him know and used him to get to the US.

She wasn't on the same page with him, he just didn't know itm

Time will make him appreciate his female child if he raises her well and with love.

Maynman:
Why would she force the man since the man has no say in it like you said earlier?
If the decision is 100% hers, the responsibility should be 100% hers too.
“a man can't force a woman he is not married to to have or abort his child”

On the topic discussion, how come they were on the “same page”, but once she got abroad she changed her mind?

Were they really ok the same page?

If they were, she for no abort the belle for better lifee.

Maynman:
And if the woman gives birth to the child, he can’t force to man to take care of it?

Yes she can.

That's why the man needs to be on the same page with the woman before they have sex.

If they ain't ready for kids, they should take precautions.

Not that I encourage premarital sex.

Maynman:
That means single mothers/babymama are the product of their decisions?

In a way. Even though abortion is illegal and immoral, a man can't force a woman he is not married to to have or abort his child.

The decisions is the mother's.

Starz825:
She could do the same thing even if he marry am before she go US

At least, we go say na him wife and he can hold her family accountable.

But who e wan hold for this one?

SyrusdeHansome:
I mean women who r doing very well financially still depending on their men to provide 4 them

Provide what and what?

Provide as a husband or father?

Or once a while provision?

LucySpace:
I hope you know abortion counts as murder

Sadly, he doesn't have a say on the matter.

tollyboy5:
Segregation is about class and security. Not really standard.
Bublic school does not respect classes of wealthy parents. Everyone get equal decipline

I attended public schools with the daughters of Senator Enwerem, Zwingina and many royal fathers.

How many kids of such high profile individuals still attend public schools?

Zonefree:
What's the essence of relationship with a Nigerian girl?

Here she goes.. bringing the religion card

Maybe you should try dating a Nigerian woman without sex.

As rotten as the world is, I am thankful there are still children of God whose standard is God's way or nothing else.

Zonefree:
We are not entitled to sex with your gender, the reason we always insert the "offer and acceptance" clause in our dealings with you ladies.

A former female fornicator should desist from relationship if she's not ready to tender the only thing she can offer in the relationship. A woman can only be excused IF she's a virgin.

So relationship is now prostitution or a thing that can't happen without fornication?

So how do Christians get married without relationships since they don't fornicate?

I take it you're not a Christian that's why I'm asking this question.

Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking

Even married women do worst, so even if he for marry am he no for mk any difference, she was born to be a wicked soul, Alaye that's not outsmarting na her womb she dey play with, na the man Bleep up to dey SIMPle.

In this case he lost money and his precious time mk he just move on and keep making more money, I believe he's learned his lessons.

Hopefully, he has learned.