₦airaland Forum

Halimi24:
Rubbish
Pedophiles exist&av always existed
In every culture of d world
Pedophile were admired members of
Society in ancient greece
& stop making it seem like its only
Men dat carry out d act
Women do too
Less emotions&more solutions

Well, we blame the West for everything. It's easier that way than to accept responsibility for our misdeamenor and human's inherent flaws. It's always the other person's fault and not ours.

Just same way we fault them for gays and lesbianism practice which science has proven was in existence long before the advent of civilization.

These abhorrent behaviour have been with mankind and cut across race, religion and background but many have conveniently chosen not to admit it. The only difference between now and in the past (and the West) is because of the social media awareness and human/women right groups that have encouraged victims of sexual molestation to open up and not lock up in their shell.

Oahray:
Ok, so besides generally tagging men incestuous paedophiles, what's your point?

You beat me to it. I was just flipping through to see if anyone had addressed the colligation of men as paedophilia.

I take it to be an error on the OP's part or if deliberate then may I seize this opportunity to remind her that children sexual molestation is not limited to the girl child. Although more prevalent with men, some women also abuse their wards and other non-related minors.

However, I applaud the message and awareness she's creating that we should condemn this ugly crime against minors and rape generally.

miszeno:
I have a friend, his name is Daniel. His girlfriend left him after he's done a lot for her,like alot,he went as far asgettin her ajob even when he hadnone,and even enroling her @ uniben part time. Now she's leaving him for ssome guy in school,painful enough he told me she asked him"what do u want to do with ur life" that was painful cos hegave her all.

Now she's leaving him for another guy maybe there in uniben,accourding to him,the girl told him she was a virgin,so he personally refused to defy her even when she wanted it. Now,my friend iis hrtbroken,hes thinking of going to beg her,cos he loves her,but she has moved on. Pls. What is your candid advice. Thanks.


BTW,I joined nairaland todaybecos of this issue

Adonbilivit. Do we still have people this dumb. It's a pity another smart guy has explored and popped the cherry he had the opportunity to, that's if her claim of virginity was true. He stands no chance at getting her back as she'd be excited and glued to the new guy who exposed her to 'real world'.

People be shielding their sexual naivity under the pretext of 'I don't want to defy her' or 'no premarital sex'. No pity for him.

cruzyteejay:
Thank God am funny,my bae is funny too,don't really get what you meant by being serious.........as you all know everything has its own time,when it comes to real biz then you gat to be serious(with your bae),i prefer a funny lady to a free to romance and too emotional lady cus you will gat to laugh away all your sorrow and can easily confide in a funny lady when in a sad mood,but all these emotional ones,if you tell her your problem,na she go begin cry meanwhile you wey carry the matter still dey for confusion stage which is likely to move to another level of frustration seeing that your bae is crying,you told her so as to get some encouragement from her but as it is now, reverse is the case,na you go begin talk all is well,a date is best enjoyed with laughter and where there is laughter there is more of dialogue than eye service(emotional/romance driven ladies)you must have to understand body language so as to cope with their type

















hmm,does this make sense atall?:/...dnt know shaa....like if you read it all

Lmao @ bolded.

It's ludicrous for anyone to assert that one need marriage to be complete and anyone who didn't perform the ceremonial ritual live a sad and incomplete life. Never heard a buffoonery of such proportion.

I wouldn't mind getting married someday even though I'm not enthusiastic about it but I'm a complete individual with contentment and inner felicity and don't need no one to make me complete and wholesome. I'm responsible for my own completeness and happiness and if I can't obtain it myself no one else will.

Marriage is just a form of a relationship just like dating, courtship, cohabitation etc. Depending on which phase one is satisfied with there are couple who have settled for courtship without obtaining a ceremonial piece of paper and their union have subsisted more than some married couple and are happier.

Anyone who places their 'completeness' on a partner have a problem and I implore they discover what it is and seek inner beatitude before embarking on a marriage as no one can guarantee it for them. Fortunately, I'm not able to dabble into religion as I don't border or subject my thought process on established doctrines and some ancient book.

kendraloops:
ronald 4lif, I'm based in Ondo state.

I get all your points, thanks so much. Seems you're an employer as you're talking from their point of view but I really get you though. Every employer sets out to get the best from their workers, no one wants a "liability".

You're welcome. Nah, I'm not an employer lol. Just talking from a general point of view. I'm afraid since in Nigeria I'd advise you adopt honesty when/if asked about pregnancy. Not sure but we all know that to a large extent labour rights get infringe on by employers without much consequence from labour union and laws aren't enforced. You might lie and get axed once they notice you're pregnant. So, in that case there's no point to be evasive.

My submission was premised on the thought that you're domiciled in the West. Good luck with your job hunt.

Riodiao:
Nigeria a country where is ok to steal if your from the North, but if you steal and from the south its corruption. Abacha stole over 100billion dollars yet buhari said he is not corrupt but madueke has a scandal of $20billion she's corrupt . The likes of Gwarzo, al Mustapha stole over $800million dollar yet today they are free men. Atiku is wanted in the USA for the haliburton bribery scandal and corruption but today he is free man , no attempt of arrest has been made on him.madueke has been arrested but saraki is a free man. If your a son or daughter of niger delta this is a wake up call . Now its madueke, Very soon these people will come to your bed and kill you in your sleep. Keep cheering for apc and this government. abacha's govt was characterised with high scale of looting and crruption yet abdusalami came on board and never one day probed abachas administration.our own brother GEJ came on board and for the sake of unity,prosperity and the fear of been from a minority refused to probe previous administration.GEj came on board and uncovered wide spread stealling, irregularities on how the north has milked nigeria for over 40years. Gej decide to empower the south, allowing them to steal and loot to enrich and empower the regoin so tge future of our unborn children will be secured yet we join this people who want to own it all,rule forever to call GEJ names, taunt Gej.just like Fayose said GEJ gave it all like JESUS yet we chastize him,abuse him.today because of Gej we can boast of multi millionaires in the private sector from the south. Today the south can boast of over 300 professors, something that was unimmaginable in the military era. The people in the south are to ignorant and short sighted , over the months iv painstainkingly read on wikipedia about the cause of major Gen Orkar coup, the aburi accord.To all militants in the niger delta, now its the time to show you were fighting in the interest of your people. We are not a coward tribe, we fight for our right and freedom not even britain could conquer us. Enough is enough. If madueke goes down for corruption then IBB,danjuma,abacha,atiku etc must all go to jail too for corruption. Buhari can take the position on nigeria president but he can never take our freedom!

Stop venting your anger on Buhari. This is ludicrous and undiluted codswallop. Why did Jonathan not prosecute Obasanjo during his over 5years in power? Why didn't he probe the other names you listed as the commander in chief? Traditionally, when one assume power they mainly probe their immediate predecessor and not back date it further as it might distract the serious business of governance. Jonathan should have probed Obasanjo if he ever cared about corruption. He was in a better position to probe him than Buhari.

Cease from being a cry-baby except if you benefitted from the proceeds of Diezani corrupt enrichment. I also hope you will come out to the battle front when the violence you're preaching materialize. Not just to make incitement and crawl out when it's dawn. And please if you have any information that would indict the following names forward them to anti-corruption agencies for a start.

Perhaps if APC witch hunt PDP and they fight back by providing damning evidence against corrupt APC element it will be for the overall good of the poor Nigerian masses. As they might equally be jailed and return our common patrimony in their possession. Finally, be reminded that the task of nipping and prosecuting corrupt individuals and dealings is onerous. One might be corrupt but there's no concrete evidence to nail them. While for some evidence are easily accessible and enormous.

Toby77:
Did Ibori have UK citizenship?

Yes, Ibori is a British citizen. Do your findings and confirm.

I'm afraid this woman is jail bound, sealed. Anyone who's conversant of how the British forces particularly NCA operate would tell that before they make arrest they have concluded investigation and have concrete evidence to nail the culprit.

I heard Nigerian government is making extradition proceedings but it might only happen if she doesn't hold a British citizenship. Otherwise, they won't let it happen as they would have the constitutional power to test her complicity in the British judiciary as one of their national.

It will be in her own good if she doesn't hold a British citizenship else her confinement in a gulag is 101% guarantee.

Be that as it may, Nigeria is having a serious and action president for the first time since it birth and there's hope in our country. The era of impunity, massive looting and 'stealing is not corruption' seems to be victorian. A very welcome development and should be encouraged by all well meaning Nigerians.

kendraloops:
afro baby, you're right. I'm sure its that maternity stuff they're bothered about. Its frustrating sometimes but the search continues.

ronald 4lif, its not that easy. maybe its the kind of person I am, I don't know. any coy that won't hire me cos I'm preggy can't be such a good coy to work for or what do you think?


lepa cious, please I'm open to suggestions. you're working from home now?

miam i11, how did you cope?

Not exactly true but that could be an actuality and shouldn't be dismissed. For most reason I think it'll trammel their work force when you take up maternity recess in few months as they'd have to get a temporal staff to fit into your portfolio. No employer want to go through the hassle of routinely recruiting staff, either on temporal or permanent placement and they try to avert it at all cost.

Also, they're uncertain about your longevity and commitment to their establishment if recruited. It's possible that you might quit after months of paid leave which put the firm at a loss. This is majorly a factor as you'd be getting paid maternity leave without contributing consequentially to the firm.

Permit me to ask where is your base?

If the pregnancy isn't obvious and noticeable then don't state you're pregnant. You don't need honesty in every situation about life and in cases like this one. Your chances of being recruited by any firm when pregnant is near to zero. Zilch.

Depending on your domicile no employer would dehire you coz you were pregnant on assumption of your job for fear of discrimination litigate. You can always claim you weren't aware prior to applying. Do what you've got to do if you really want to get back to work.

Hahaha. This made my day. Vacancy indeed.

dicefrost:
Unfortunately miss, you can't change that which has been indoctrinated and embedded. The ultimate ambition of almost every girl i know is to get married. In my final year in school, every girl i know wants to get married immediately after service. Outside house keeping, make up, and movies they know nothing else. I wont say they are dull, but their orientation, awareness and perception is so narrow. The only thing that borders them is how to find a man to marry. Its unfortunate, really really unfortunate but you can't change it, that is how a Nigerian girl child is brought up. Appreciate your effort though.

Rightly said. The OP write up is faultless. In Nigeria, the message every parent and the society passes across to their daughters is how to become good wives, submissive and obey everything a man says whether right or wrong. Hardly do they train their sons to be good husbands and how to treat a woman fairly. When a couple are having feud and the wife narrates her ordeal to her family or in-laws the advise she get is to apologise to her husband. They say things like don't you know she's the man regardless of if the man is at fault. This is wrong.

Tamee:
You can only assume I am female. Like I said before, a lot of shit happen on a public forum. If we get secluded in a closet, what will happen after nine months? We had probably suffocate to death af.

Someone will need a maternity holiday after our seclusion. I don't miss the goal net lol. But my proposal is only applicable to the opposite sex of mine since we're both making assumptions. What proof do you need to ascertain my sex and why the reservation?

Tamee:
You can be whatever on a public forum, most people here are fakers. So you want me to believe you are male.
Aiit then.

I am but you're entitled to your thoughts.

Maybe we should be secluded in a closet and let's see the result after 9months lol.

bukatyne:
My clique! Haha!

Feminism is basically saying men & women are equal etc. etc.

How a person decides to interpret that is subjective of his/her environment, values, society etc.

A feminist can decide that her husband is the provider and handles everything finance why she handles everything domestic (probably stay at home). etc. Taking care of the house is not lowly to working outside the home.

However, I do agree that there are a number of charlatans who wants the privileges without responsibilities... but again, this is a human vice and not a feminist vice.

And just how we have Christians in name only, we would have feminists in name only.

Although the bolded is true and to some extend it's even more ardous to perform domestic chores than conventional jobs but it's hardly possible to equate money-making to anything else in life, especially in a capitalist world we live in. Wealth naturally makes people assume power and dominion over others so the majority of family fanancier will likely feel they have dominion regardless of the significance the other party (housewife) feel their contribution to the union may be.

Prior to the advent of feminism and it resultant effect to some part of the world women traditionally played the role of a housewife but not until they started attaining education and making progression in topical profession, making their own money, even as they boycotted the mentality of a breadwinner before egalitarianism could make waves and progress.

The role of domestic chores and babysitting can be assume by either partner who's not working, male or female alike or split by both which I find more acceptable. But the mentality that a man should be the financial contributor in a /relationship/marriage would not help the feminism struggle in a patriarchal setting like ours on women's path. Chances are that anyone who foot the bills will always feel they're in control.

Tamee:
Good.
Are you a man or a woman?

My gender is obvious. I'm no Catilyn Jenner.

Tamee:
I like you

Ps: Do you think only frustrated women of marriageable age who are single console themselves that they don't need men?

That statement is falacious, blackmailing and should be outrightly dismiss. Not every woman need a man to make progression and be complete in their respective career and obtain inner happiness. Some are single by choice and happy. Likewise men too. No one should be cajoled to embark on a relationship/marriage coz of what people think of them or societal pressure. They should coz they want to.

bukatyne:
Lols

You need to look deeper

Perhaps I made a blanket statement. But a lot of your clique I've encountered don't assume much of a financial responsibility when in an affair. The aspect of even financial responsibility is where I'm much indifferent with Nigerian feminism.

proxillin:
And they can't approach a guy. What happens if Nigerian guys stop approaching them? Most timid set of female in the world.

Ya true. Whoever initiated a relationship or dinner date is inconsequential to the offsetting of refreshment bills. The excuse of you asked me out and should pay is negligible and hold no ground. It's like saying because I proposed to you I should see to your welfare forever. That's a pile of folderol if you ask me.

proxillin:
Nigerian feminist are unreal. They still want men to be ATM.

That's my major problem with them. They are insincere and their feminism charade is one of convenience. Let's be equal in areas that suits me and you can take the lead in circumstances that favours me - Nigerian feminist.

An average European is likely to feel embarrassed when you attempt to pay for her refreshment and might caution you not to next time. How many of Nigerian women feminist or women generally can pay for their date? Their flimsy excuse is that you initiated the date so the man should pay. Which is baloney.

tartarus:
Feminism. What's wrong with feminism exactly?

Not just you but many Nigerian men are scared of feminism.

Not so much is wrong with feminism in the real sense of that word. Having an equal footing with a woman is not a problem and myself and some other guys don't have a problem with gender equality. However, Nigerian feminists are fake and insincere with their feminism crusade.

They don't take equal financial responsibility in relationship/marriage and subliminally still harbour the breadwinner ethos of men. A man is still expected to seamlessly impress them with gifts and treats while they don't or sluggishly return the gesture. You can't champion equality and same time depend on a man for livelihood.

Admit it or not this is the plight of the average Nigerian woman. They have been brought up to think that without a man in their lives they're worthless. The society mounts incessant pressure on the Nigerian woman to get married if she must be accorded respect.

Until a woman understands that she can be complete, happy and fulfilled without a man and a legal enslavement called marriage they would never make significant progress in their lives. And likewise for men in some cases. The gender prejudice that exist in our society is too enormous to be ignored.

wristbangle:
Excuse bro for such fees, most hungry ladies will willingly let the guy achieve the land mines and won't want him to go meanwhile she has just been relegated from the guy's league.

Any lady who gulp such expenses on a dinner date lacks morals and self-respect. She's only good for shag and nothing else. Just satisfy your sexual desire and 'red card' her.

redgem:
Is it not just to tangle beneath the sheets?

I'm glad it's 'just'. It seems we're making progress then. Since you called on Tosyne let's wait for his blessings before we proceed proper.

wristbangle:
Bro, I don't think that's possible. 30k meal.. like seriously, is she a glutton? But it is possible to order such meals as take away package for her friends and family which only zombie guys can foot the bills.

You see, that's it. The 30k range was exaggerated but still hardly will a lady exhaust such amount on one date. So if at the end of the day the guy plays his card well, he might hit 'landmines' and eventually discard her if he feels he can't continue with the affair.

redgem:
Tosyne2 much I've seen my crush

LOL! Redgem did you read the last line of my initial comment. Are you up to the task?

bqlekan:
coital responsibility

Yes o. I no be jjc nau. Na who come Lagos newly them go play no be alaye.

wristbangle:
Lovely response brother. Trust me I learn something from what you said. U remind me of a lady.... hmmm

Well, that's it sha. Can a lady consume more than 30k meals at a seating? I strongly doubt. In any case we end up catnapping beneath the sheet after the date I don't think I'll complain, really. It'd be worth the quid.

wristbangle:
Prof ronald4lif, long time bro. U don experience this kind testimony before?

Not really. I've had a date where the lady would usually order for take away packs running to a few thousands for her siblings and not certain if that should count as maga-ed lol.

I think it's about buckling up when out on a new date when you're not sure the type of person the lady is, if she's a glutton or someone with self-respect. That way there won't be any amount of refreshment bills one can't offset.

Traditionally, dinner bills are often frugal and aren't something I feel solicitude about. I can only be bothered when/if she's ungenerous in regards to performing her coital responsibility.

Jollyjoy:
lollll this calls to my mind what happened earlier this year,boy fold starched long sleeve dey mob floor oooo

Oh goodness. He couldn't ring someone to come bail him out.

If I hear say you no wash plates that day ehh.