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Mission well accomplished. To divorce her once citizenship is secured after 5years.

iAmCharis:
See my boy. How're you doing kid? Daddy went to fetch some money so you have a good life. Missed daddy?

Gerrarahere. So you just think you can disappear and reappear at convenience

You forgot the transportation and canteen boyfriends. The ones they need to settle their bus fare and lunch at canteen.

My bestest Nigerian art. Happy birthday 2face Idibia. You're a great inspiration not just to upcoming art but to everyone out there that they can reach grace from grass. All the best the great one.

francizy:
Hehehehe! But did you actually consider that a girl who's bound to cheat will cheat even if she's your gf and shares the same apartment with you?

To me, long distance relationships isn't the best but it does come with certain advantages.

A good example is one within the academic environment. I had long distance relationships throughout my 100-400L not until 500L that I dated within my school environment. A friend of mine lived a family life with his gf back then in school. The result is, I graduated with good class of degree while the guy is probably still nurturing his COs 3 years after we left him there in school.

Sure someone who want to cheat will even if you're living together in same house. But atleast they'd do it secretly and not openly like in a distant affair. And there's some possibility that just one day you'd find out about their escapades but in a distant affair you can't find out if they're indeed cheating except assumption and suspicion.

If I don't live in same area as bae and my suspicion heightens maximally I can secretly go to her residence to make findings if she lies she's at home but you can't do this distantly. Apart from being suspicious of a lady in a distant affair I need someone to checkmate my philandering lifestyle too so it's better we're domiciled in same environment. Like they say conji is a bastard.

So to me the only advantage that comes with a distant affair is the freedom. I guess it's safe to say that distant relationship is one where couple can have a side affair until they eventually live together someday. Now that's me being weird...perhaps.

Who ask a lady for a kiss. Sounds like what teenagers do. Even if she anticipated and wanted some romance asking will make her shrug it off. Go for it and see if she resist or return it. Anyway, Mr nice guy thanks for the story.

missgts:
@ronald 4lif I wonder if you comprehended what you read. I said I am from an above average family, My Dad gave me money to buy a car and I lent him 200k out of it not that I gave my Dad 200k.

Alright then, must have been an oversight. Sieve through the other messages from everyone and arrive at a better decision yourself. All the best.

MARINS:
OMG......... WHY DIDNT YOUR FATHER USE A CONDOM HE COULD HAVE SAVED THE WORLD FROM IDIOTS LIKE YOU

Not even condom. I think people like the OP were the reason why withdrawal method was invented. Unfortunately for mankind his genitors didn't heed to the invention to save mankind from this mess.

francizy:
So am now a fool since I mostly venture into distance relationships eh?? Nwoke, kpashara anya gi oh!

Nwanne asim mua, oburo kwa gi dohhh.

I'm curious, you explained you come from an average family and unemployed but you afforded holidays to Ghana, UK, gave your dad 200K for a car and supported him with 500K for rent. How come and where do you get the money from?

Anyways, back to the issue. This guy is playing you and don't picture you into his future in the long term. He's there for the moment and the perquisite that you provide to him. He confessed it when he told his friends you don't secure deals for him. I don't know how else do you want him to tell you before you get it. The red flags are there to tell it won't work but you're failing to see it. He even throw away your belongings from a home you contributed to it financing. Wake up and stop being a dunderhead.

I laugh when you said you can't leave what you struggled to built? Please get over yourself. I understand you feel you're getting old and the need to settled down could be mounting on but this is not what you want. This is what people in Jangara market call bad market. The guy is a bad market. Pronto.

The guys they're cheating with had and left girlfriends where they embarked from o. So methink it's a contraflow thing.

This is just similar to those who are in a distant relationship, particularly those whose boyfriends/girlfriends are in different uni. They'd likely succumb to pressure from one of the many guys soliciting for their romance. More reason why I can't involve in a distant affair. I'd be a fool if I dare.

Objection. Sounds draconian to me. People should be able to solicit for funds and donate to genuine fund seekers without infringement.

You like the idea then why soughting for public opinion?

Okay let me tell you what I'll do if I were you, I'd walk out of the affair and let me give you my reasons.

*I'd certainly cheat on her once the opportunity of having sex arises so no point staying in an unfaithful affair.

*I'd curtail and regulate whatever I invest in the relationship, be it fiscal or material gifts.

And my reason for doing so it's because I don't believe in a no-sex relationship as I find it boring, unexciting and fruitless. Also, that I may not end up marrying her, either by my personal decision or she could dump me for someone else in the future. Which would result to me feeling cheated and deceived. And that's me being honest.

Make her a side chick and get yourself a boo. Then enjoy the moment while it last or quit the affair. Don't rely on what you both share or you'd be heart broken again.

Should be in a public place. I don't understand his persistence to meet you in a residence, be it his or yours. Stick to your guns and if he's serious he should meet you in a public venue.

babamoha:
The rich has no time to waste cause they are always on the move while the poor has the whole time to spend doing nothing tangible than having s*x with one another
Am just passing bye

You make sense. Another reason is that poor people see children as a future financial security and a pension plan. They hope on the kids to provide for them when aged, something they couldn't secure themselves. I'm also passing by o.

Good question. It beats logic why those who can hardly fend for themselves be breeding kids who only ends up on the streets hawking wares and with most not having any formal education.

If you lack the resources to take proper care of kids stop breeding. It's not God who gave you the kids, you fvcked your wife and ej*culated inside her to procreate. Don't go giving birth with the hope God will provide, you provide for yourself.

Who got time for that. Baby please inform your parents I'd be coming with my people for introduction next week/month and then we fix a wedding date. End of.

MrsChima:
Ronald and Deejay! Get a room!

You're invited hun, let's have thre*some. Don't mention thank you, what are friends for.

MrsChima:
I hate you.

Typical women. When they dig you, they first antagonize and stoke imaginary hate. I know ya dig moi hun. Pray tell, how do ya want it down there? Sixty-nine?

Come on Man United. Put our naysayers to shame. Go Go red devils. Gooaaaaalllllll

MrsChima:
I see your tongue.

You want it down there?

Deejavuu:
Lool

Yeye. I'm gonna put on iro and buba.

Say what

tosyne2much:
Bros I throway salute oooo


Happy Sunday broda

Respect bros, top of the sunday to you.

I don introduce you to my wifey before ni? Tosyne meet my eagle deejavuu, hun meet Tosyne.

Deejavuu:
Lmao! Smh




Warm and come do vigil . We are gonna fast and pray

We're saying same thing nau. We gonna fast and pray while performing gymnastic on the bed. Hun now go put on some lingerie and mini-sized skirt...daddy is on his way.

MrsChima:
TroublemAker? How am I a troublemaker?

You've been on my neck all day without any incitement.

No one can assist you to overcome masturbati*n but yourself. You have to determine you want to stop and resist every urge that could make you indulge. From what you said you have read extensively on tips on how help you get over it but you can't seem to stop, which makes me question your resolve and obstinacy to resist it. Here are some suggestions which might help;

First off, never look at ponographic materials and contents that are suggestive in nature, if you have any in your gadget(s) excise them. Never use your hands roughly on your gentitals as this has the capability of arousing mast*rbating urges, when in the shower room do as quickly as you can, the longer your bath session last the likelihood of you stimulating your organ. I also think you should try as much as possible not to stay alone, always seek to stay around people. If you live with parents or relatives whenever you feel the urge leave the room and be with someone. Take up new hobbies if you have lost spark with your present ones; you can take a walk, tune into inspirational songs whenever you feel the urge to mast*rbate. The temptation might resurrect at night when in bed alone and this is where you've to resist and fight it. Engage in purposeful activities when alone in the bedroom at night; perhaps read bestseller novels, purchase religious cd's and listen to motivational teachings until you doze off.You're responsible for your every move and the subject of your thoughts, you must divert them to something useful at any point the urge to indulge sets in.

In regard to your inability to have a girlfriend it could be that you're too forward thereby coming off as desperate or your body language and character when approaching a lady doesn't exude one with confidence. You prolly see a choice lady and think oh she's a godess...how can I win her over? This mindset alone is enough to diminute confidence and sense of purpose. You have to be gutsy, every woman likes a man with great self-confidence.

But confidence towards approaching women doesn't just augment overnight, it's nursed. I personally think the more one dates and mix up with ladies, the more their experience expand and so their confidence develops. In effect, for you to crystallize your confidence you should socialize with as many ladies as possible. With the will, you'd become good friends with one who might find you attractive. It's in every man to make a woman grow to love and feel attracted to them. Once good friends seek to discover what particularly it takes to win her heart and submit yourself to ensuring you fulfill what resonates within her heart chambers. Gain her trust, confidence, be nice, caring and make her smile and laugh even as you keep being yourself. With time, she'd be come fond of you and then you can move to initiate a relationship by asking her out. I'm not a fan of asking a girl who I am friends with and who's fond of me out. I just spot the right moment at the right atmosphere to spontaneously lock lips with hers without her putting up resistance prolly coz she has been anticipating for such moment, and a relationship ensues. I could have expatiate on how to go about this but this is too long already. Hope it helps though. Good luck mate.

MrsChima:
Keep your mouth off!

I won't, do your worst. Trouble maker.

Deejavuu:


Oya come to bed

Chai! So food don ready. Dancing shoki, gonna kpansh from now till dawn. Wait make I warm up I dey show...your body go hear am.

Deejavuu:
Ronald ronald! !!!!

Stares at him with arms akimbo

Oh my, who told wifey I was here.



*hide face and takes cover*

MrsChima:
Always.

Oya come closer let me gobble your quim. I see you need some chopping.