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False. Some eligible single bachelors don't have a relationship for different reasons. Some could be due to past love experience that didn't work out well, others are solely focusing on other aspect of their lives such as career and businesses.

kinglekan:

Mr Man look here, if not that i respect and regard you highly i woulda shown you the 50 SHADES OF OBALEKAN.

So instead of playing Chess with her heart, you beta start doing the needful.

Kapeesh?

MzzTega he wouldn't dare leave u alone henceforth.

Haha Oba Lekan the match maker, the priest and the peace-broker I hear you o.

MzzTega:
Okay.
But kinglekan is trying to help. Just don't run away again.

Okay bebe, no more running away again.

kinglekan:

Ronald4lif hope u can see ursef?

Egbon, kilo shele.

MzzTega:
Who told you that?

Oops, you do like chocolate? Thought you don't like 'kids' stuff.

Hmmm, okay I'd do something about it. But don't let Kinglekan put asunder o.

kinglekan:

Don't Egbon mi

When was the last time u sent flowers and chocolates to Mzztega? When?

Hmmm, she doesn't like chocolates.

Without ESUT, the list is nonsense.

Where's UNIZIK?

emusmith:
You're generalizing. I am specializing. One major point about thread creation is specializing. I consciously wont hit all points to score a point. Thanks tho

Ya true but it's also pertinent contributors like myself and others highlight other areas the original post didn't address. You know, it's possible that some might think it's alright to philander provided their wife deprives them of sex without finding out what could had propel her to do so. All good bruv.

Nicely written but I have a reservation with number 7. It appears as though cheating is justified when a man cheat coz his wife 'deprives' him of sex.

Although could be true if the reason behind her withdrawal from sex is justifiable but not always the case. We can argue that sex is a conjugal duty of a married woman and thus must be performed at all times but it's also not an absolute right.

It is my believe that before a woman refuses to mate her hubby something is not right on his part. How does he treat her? Does he treats her like the love of his life? Entice her with surprises, pets her etc?

There are some things that triggers romance and a woman should be treated nicely if you want her in the mood. It's not just a case of treating her with utter disregard and expect her to spread legs when you're sex-hungry. She's got feelings, whether wife or not and sex is build on romance.

Whatever led to her depriving a man of sex doesn't justify cheating, if they can't resolve it then they should consider moving on. And there are cases where men deprives women of sex too, should the woman cheats too?

kinglekan:

Awwww, sowi dearie. I wee so deal wiv him

Am sure he hasn't seen ur siggy that's why he gone AWOL.

Egbon mi.

MzzTega:
Nah. I was just joking.

Where is that guy? it's been awhile.

Right here. Halo mademoiselle, happy new year.

YourMain:
No I doubt it. He and I were quite good friends. I doubt he'd do this..

Okay then, you know better. But if the shenanigans persist you should be looking at that direction. A 'spurned' admirer can switch character to 'retaliate' their 'rejection'. Whoever 'it' is sure knows you more than you think.

Anyway, he'd get exhausted by paying him no attention whatsoever.

YourMain:
Your gf is beautiful

It appears a certain Joe who was once 'cool' has resurrected. Connect the dots and you'd figure.

It ceased being a joke when you mentioned rape. Rape is a sensitive issue that need sensitization and complete eradication not something to tacitly encourage via jokes.

coolh3ad:
The talk just tire me.."what if we break up"..Must you break up...Na all relationship dey end with break up...Why cant you just be optimistic for once.....

E taya me too bruv. I have been reading some people saying it's n immature act, it's silly and all sort. The way some people abuse that word immature taya me. How can it be childish for one to flaunt their love ones on their own facebook o. Which kind talk be that one bikonu? If that's what characterizes immaturity then I don't ever want to grow up.

Michellla:
it does cost money.megabite is money.

I'm sure the megabyte you use to type this comment will be enough to pull an unwanted picture off Facebook. So feel free to flaunt him on your timeline nothing dey happen.

Michellla:
I cant post a pic with him.
what if we break up.

If you break up you pull it down. Doesn't cost money to do it.

We can't love everyone who 'loves' us, can we? If she doesn't love you move on to the next one and stop ranting.

I beg to differ with number 3. If I find out her attire isn't suitable for a certain event I'll tell her straight up. Also, if she's not being attentive to her weight or her tummy is protruding it is my responsibility to call her attention to it.

One can't just overlook certain things coz you don't want to sound offensive. Sure you can tell in a polite manner. How can you claim to love someone and don't call their attention if their attire/make-up isn't proper?

There's nothing you can do since she want to get married and circumstance might have led her think that way. Her family might be mounting pressure on how to get married and her parents might not even be able to sponsor her education. Do you have an idea of what her family financial background is like?

All these stories lifted from blogs and posted here just to create awareness of this blogs doesn't worth any attention or advice. They're either concocted or even if it's real the original writer can't access opinion from this forum. What then is the point

Looks sexy. So why not?

yanabasee:
Lol... You don't even need "confidence" to say the right words, as every statement you make will be romantic enough for her... Money will make you a possibility... Money can make a woman restructure your statements in their brain... Even when u openly tell her, how ugly she is, she will smile to it...

Hahaha badoo, nothing can be more truer.

If she likes you and thinks you fit in her match of a date let her break the ice and tell you straight up. If she can't then she lacks aplomb and boldness, and you don't want to involve yourself with a woman who lacks the confidence to step beyond her limitations going for what she want. Do you?

Why should you be looking for green light? Are you a motorist or some pedestrian trying to walk through a pelican crossing?

yanabasee:
With money, he'll have the morales to tell the partner romantic words... And with money... Every words you say seems romantic... Infact with money, you bad body odour is romantic... Ppl will like you the way you are...

Lol. Very well said. With money you don't even have to spend on a lady that much. It just gives you the confidence to say the right words at the right time. It boost and heeves one moral so much that you become spontaneous in reacting to your woman's needs. The confidence money brings is inestimable.

Idíot. Stop watching porn and free yourselves from the shackles of mental slavery.

dollyjoy:
you dnt get me.


the op said how to add color to a relationship when one partner is not romantic and you mention lunch date,calling,texting and all that,so i was wondering what your definition of "not romantic" means.


I dnt know if you get what am trying to pass across though.

The referred partner is himself. And since he didn't furnish enough details of what he has been doing right or wrong that warranted his partner to tell him he isn't romantic I had to suggest the ones I could think of. Just like someone suggested good sex.

Except if we're to dismiss that dinner dates, gifts and surprises aren't act of romance then we can argue for or against it.

Michellla:
he's right

Always right.

dollyjoy:
the partner is not "romantic"

Lol. Has nothing to do with any partner. Please enlighten us on how to be romantic though, my ignorance is deafening.

First thing first is money, every other is secondary. Almost every romantic gesture is connected to banknotes.

Dinner dates, movies, creating surprises, even to call or text requires money. Do you have some to spare?

Yes and constant communication is vital too.

petkruz:
I'v actually bought gifts worth 32k for an ex! I did all that shit in the past, u just have to be wise.

Conforming to type aren't you? Buying your guy a gift is now an act of foolishness? How about when he's the one buying, is he foolish?

daretodiffer:
Thirded! The first time I heard of this BS was a friend's. You seriosuly do not want to know her age.

@OP, who the hell do you think you are? You are in a relationship yet you expect your bf to do everything. I won't blame him if he ends up treating you like trash.

Preach it. Her and her ilks doesn't know a relationship is like contra-flow traffic. There are no specific or assign rules. You just have to fill up whatever void/role a partner leaves unattended.

But to her kind is a no. A man must call first, take her on a dinner date, buy her gifts, in some cases top up their phones and the list is seamless. One then wonders what exactly is the role of some of these ladies in a relationship?