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Estharfabian:
@bolded...That is not true love!!! but A fraction of The feeling.

The main reason I had doubts if it ever existed. coz honestly? i do not think it does...

If Love isn't built unconditionally, then, trust Me...that is Not LOVE!!
nyways.... I'd still n will always have my doubts about Love...true love preferably..so many definitions of the word, its almost annoying!

True love is rare(A myth to me) And one would be extremely lucky to ever find it.

Oh, you don't even believe true love exist or should I say are skeptical of it existence? That's fair. My purpose of argument against true love as an actuality is for anyone who hold opposing view. Not for someone like who have doubts. But believe me it is a farce and not a reality, however, we're entitle to our thoughts nonetheless.

Estharfabian:
LoL! I obviously contradicted myself! I'm always doing that!

And uh...Nah! You're not ignorant...
nyways....You seem to be Somewhat Confused... Unconditional love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what We might get for ourselves..

Yes! Our actions determine the strength n longevity of love..Buh Love being unconditional is far from the point.. Ideal love is unconditional in the sense that it is unaffected by the conditions of reality, in other words, reality cannot change it. It is also unconditional in the sense of willingness to give everything to one's partner...

So, we wanting to work in strengthening this "LOVE" Isn't concrete proof that Love is conditional...Uh, maybe an icing to the cake?

for instance, A mother's Love!! We all know it's Unconditional, Right? Buh Her/Our Actions determines the strength of that Love..the length it could go.

Honestly, I don't know how else to Buttress my points..my Apologies?

Your points are well articulated and elaborated and to be fair I think it's the best anyone can go in justifying the love is unconditional misconception.

I call it misconception because I hold a concrete view that love is conditional and not unconditional. My views are my personal perspective just like yours are to you. However, we can only narrate individual divergent reasons to substantiate our posture.

Before I proceed, please let's refer to the definition of unconditional based on global standard dictionary terms. Unconditional can be defined as not limited by condition, absolute or anything of total value. In contrast, condition is defined to be something of existing state, or anything with certain limitations among others.

Now if one need to make positive impact, work and make sound dedication to make their love between their partner subsist and flourish then they have been "conditioned" to behave in a certain way to sustain their love. It's not absolute, for if it were their action and inaction will be quiescent and their partner love for them would still be effective regardless of whether their actions are fair to them.

If one need to adapt to a certain lifestyle and action to harmonise and impress their partner they have switched to a condition to conform to the other person ideals. They have been conditioned.

Ever asked people who are their ideal partner and they their respond is; he/she must be educated, dark/fair, tall/athletic, Yoruba/Igbo and they must be rich? That's their self-assigned existing conditions for them to love you.

If love were to be unconditional there won't be any preconceived standards on the type of person we fall in love with. Our response and mindset would be receptive to accept whoever makes advances at us; whether short, penurious as a barrow pusher, and illiterate.

I can go on and on but if the way one get treated by their partner determines the outcome and longevity of their love then it's conditional. The moment they DEVIATE from those treats the love breaks down and you said it was unconditional? Does that make sense?

Even motherly love isn't unconditional but it's a more persuasive argument when compared to unrelated amorous love. The mother love to their kids ONLY exist because they gave birth to them, otherwise it's conditional, they have been straitjacket by blood relationship. If it were someone else kids the love will have limitations.

scentmarlc:

Bros e go dey hard small to accept say we be animals ooooo




Especially not this season wey dem dey slaughter animals up and down

Before them use man don suya.

Estharfabian:
Uh...did I say that?? My bad!
I meant You can't love two people...! like ever!

Very often we believe ourselves to be falling in love only to Quickly realize that it wasn’t love, but rather infatuation.
You can surely be infatuated with multiple people, but You sure as hell can't be in love with different people! mbanu!

This really depends on how you define love. If you define love as caring greatly for a person and having romantic/sexual thoughts for that person, then sure, you can love multiple people. But love isn’t quite so shallow!

I often think that people never actually fall in love, but rather work towards being in love. Love is something that is created and maintained over time. It takes time, energy, work, dedication and focus..jst like anything else worth doing in life. For whatever reason, human beings love the idea of having things given to them...same thing I Told decker the other time.. True love isn't conditional

there simply isn't enough time to love more than one person...
Like I said earlier, it's all bout perspectives.. We sure see things differently..

Fair retort. But I find the embolden a bit contradictory and would appreciate if you share more light on that.

In one breath you're saying that love depends and maturate based on our actions, energy, and dedication towards making it work. But in another you echoed that love isn't conditional, in other words it's unconditional.

If our actions and inaction can determine the outcome of love doesn't that means it's conditional? If there are a certain things and hardwork one need to put up to impress someone and make love flourish how can it then be said to be unconditional when circumstance that made about the love blossom was based on one's actions? Pardon my ignorance but I'd appreciate if you can address this. Thanks.

scentmarlc:
The matter don dey hot ooooO

My oga ronald don show

Lol. You can love two people at a time but you can choose to subdue a feeling by restraining oneself and taking up new hobbies to aid distraction. Our forefathers married more than one wives and in most cases treated and loved them evenly. We don't just want to accept that we're animals.

Human's don't just want to admit their animalistic inclinations and would do everything to distort proven facts. That we've evolved and have more cerebral proficiency than animals can never negate our natural characteristics as one and would do anything to discourage multiple relationship even if it goes against nature.

Scentmarlc, your emotions towards both is in concordant with nature but you can overwhelm the feeling if you want to and only you can do that.

Estharfabian:
Uh...Mr techguy...

Its Either You've been watching way too many Telumundo Or The Einstein Formulas is a bit over the top...

I do not think it's psychological possible to Love two humans equally ...It's probably a feeling confused with "LoVE"...

nyways...the way Humans abuse the word "LOVE"...I wouldn't be surprised...

By the embolden you're admitting it's possible to love two persons at a time but it can't be equal? Loving two things or people can't be evenly proportionate. And for the fact that one loves two people unequally doesn't mean he can't love both at a time.

So toasters now translate to husband? What kind of thread makes FP sef

tosyne2much:
31. I see Seun Osewa posting his pre-wedding pictures by January 17


32. I see Oliviaarims opening a thread to profess her love for me. She will say it's not possible but she will have no choice than to do it


33. I see Cutehector losing his virginity this year


34. I see TonyeBarcanista decamping to APC on Valentine's day


35. I see Ronald4lif travelling to Mozambique just to meet with a nairalander. The Lord says I should tell you not to board Fly Emirate


36. I see Lalasticlala sending me to jail for two years for violating rule 2

Ahh Tosyne, am I that kitty-cat avaricious? Even if I were what happened to booking myself a pretty voluptuous blonde escort who would happily tumble beneath the sheets with me for a tiny cost compared to travelling to Mozambique.

Hmmm I'd give your prophesy a thought though, but I'm considering jetting off to Zimbabwe rather, where a few pounds would adorn me the title of a trillionaire and bagged me countless brides coupled with a chieftaincy title.

There are cases where recommendation can be a viable option and lead to blissful union but there are some where it backfired. I think the recommendation exercise is an obsolete practice but which had high success rates owing to the fact that humans were less greedy and had more sense of family values at that time.

In the past, people were committed, resilient and determined to make their marriages work even when faced with stringent conditions. But sadly, new generation youngsters and couples thinks differently. We're more concern about the positives and not ready to face unfavourable conditions. In view of this I don't think recommendation is in concord with today's society.

You have to settle for someone you meet yourself and date them for a long while to ascertain the compatibility of you both. You can travel to Nigeria, get yourself a girlfriend by yourself and see how it goes with time. True, they're more cool headed than their Nigerian counterpart born abroad but some of them can also be devious too.

Also, don't be surprised by the Nigerian ladies abroad who said they can't date anyone who isn't rich. That's the average mindset of the Nigerian woman so whether you travel home to find a bride or not they all think like that. I can relate with your situation coz I'm in same scrape as well.

tony4u035:
Guy easy nha. I offend u b4? Shuo!

Although I understand that you've a right to air your views on any social network, as the data and gadgets are yours but you shouldn't pollute the cyberspace with blatherskite and minutia matters which only ends up making look foolish. Of what significant is your post and what kind of knowledge do you want to derive exactly by putting out to the public?

Wow. You two are of a kind. Imbecilic idiots. But what I'm unsure of is who among the two of you it's more stuporous. She that told you such nonsense or you that found it worthy of a thread. I'll settle for the latter though. Your foolishness is divine.

Never even heard of it. Nigerians and blackberry product sha.

Omo this one is hard o.

As a guy we all know that there are times we will just have a fling, whether married or engaged but this is your own sister we're talking about here. If it's just a friend I'd have said keep shut, and protect him.

And you're expected to have your sisters interest at heart so you've got to tell her what you saw. Let him defend himself.

“No citizen of Nigeria shall be subjected to any disabilities or deprivation merely by reason or the circumstance of his birth.”

It has never been about promulgating laws but enforcing them. The Nigerian government is the numero uno abuser of laws that seeks to protect people living with disabilities. They just make laws for formality but don't give a damn. They need to adopt positive measures from functioning countries and see how they treat their disabled citizens. A disable person in our country lives in extremely tough conditions.

Well, it was an enlighten piece and I hope people should stop this senseless discrimination against children conceived out of wedlock. It makes no sense as they never gave their consent to be birth by their parents neither were they responsible for the circumstance surrounding their birth.

Yes I can. But provided my role as the man isn't challenged nor threatened.

Story looks concocted.

Monalisa185:
haha, no talk am again ooo..that means you were never a loyal fan...?

I've been loyal, always but there's a limit to one's loyalty. They should better sit up for I'm losing it.

tosyne2much:
Lemme give you a topic


11 Ways To Spot Kitty-cat Starved Dudes

tosyne2much:
I will do a collabo with Olivia arims

All these collabo you're sharing diaris godoo.

Oh lawd grant me the wisdom to open my first thread before this year runs out.

TruthHurts1:
Not exactly an inference, pal. It's quite direct:

"But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

Matthew 5:28

That's a hypothetical conclusion and not absolute in all cases. There are things I have deep knowledge of and have never indulged. Like before I had my first cunnilingus experience I had intricate knowledge about it. So not every case is based on personal experience.

francizy:
A friend of mine. Men's looking at applying again this year

Nice one.

Decker:
You know it's quite funny that people are quick to chastise people who masturbate just for the sole reason that it's a form of sexual immorality. A notion that's gotten from the paraphrasing of the transcribed & transliterated words of the holy book.

Now, isn't it better for someone to please himself or herself rather than going out to fornicate and sleep around with others? I mean isn't it still a form of abstinence? Wouldn't you rather let your daughter or sister do that than sleep around with men?

We all see beautiful women everyday and we all fantasize about what we can do to or with them. You see a girl on the street with big baloons hanging out of her chest or a big backside and immediately, you imagine having sex with her. Now, what you have done is no different from someone who masturbates, the only difference is that he is stimulating his genitals.

The sin isn't with the stimulation but it's with the thought, so if I am to go by that, then both sets of people are guilty.

In the case of married couples, you should first bear in mind that people have different libidos. Some people have an unquenchable desire to have sex almost at all times and such people can't always afford to wait for their partners to be in the mood before they have sex, so they favor the act of masturbation. It's better than being unfaithful.

I am not saying this because I masturbate, I actually don't, not because I think it's wrong, but because sex isn't really my proclivity.

Thoughtful and brilliantly written. And the disavowal on the last paragraph got me laughing. I know it's easier for us to draw inferences from people's opinion.

francizy:
It's an African thing oh.. Not Anambra stuff..1,000 businesses across Africa..

The learning and the networking is something worth experiencing tho..

Interesting. Are you a beneficiary?

francizy:
$5k grant
$5k loan (optional)

Okay, that's good. He's a good son of Anambra and doing good for our people. Anambra ga di nma.

Mana di ego di small but not bad for someone with nothing. I earn that in less than 2months

francizy:
If you apply with your biz idea and get selected, you will participate in their online training and boot camp and then be given a couple of bucks. Cash may be small for someone of your caliber but not bad if you try it out tho...

Interesting, that's a nice innovation by Tony.

Are the loans repayable or free grants? I'm asking coz I don't bother about anything loan. I know the amount of loan depends on the business plan but can one get up to 50million? I'm that greedy.

francizy:
Ima maka Tony Elumelu Entrepreneurship Program?

Mba. Kedu ife obu?

francizy:
Hehehehehe! Ina aru oru ka obu business ka ina eme?

Na ru oru ubua mana ona di m ga nke ti aka na business na afa ofula anyi ba nye go, ebido kwa'm masters onwa ibuo galu aka sha.

francizy:
Amiiii!

Nwanna, why you no highlight the other ones too? Abi you no need good woman?

Odogwu, ikwesili imanu ife ana aru. Ezigbo ego bata na ndu nwoke, ego nke uku bata ife nine ndi oso afu bu sure. Mana o ezigbo ego bu godi shiii first.

francizy:
Thanks boss! Wish you the very best of money, money and more money this year. Only good women shall come your way, joy/happiness/success shall be your portion. Death shall never get close! Nna gisi e ike na afo a bu nke gi...

Amioo Jesu Christi. Daalu rinne nwanne madu. Ya kasie lu gi.

Of what importance is the death certificate to them and what exactly do they need it for?

And if she's the fiducial next of kin backed with genuine documentation then the death certificate should be held in her trust. She shouldn't give them.