Goalnaldo:
thank you for your willingness to help but i would rather remain single than enter a relationship where my sanity and mental health would likely be jeopardized. Relationships these days are so mentally demanding. I hate wahala.

I don't think u should be saying the bold at 30+, most of your mates are already raising kids. Except u truly know u don't intend to start a family, but if u have the plan to raise a family, I think u should face your fears & stop giving excuses.

1MILLIONLiGHTS:
From April to may 2021 when she started misbehaving I abandoned the whole thing. But lately I started thinking about her again. Hmmm.

For your own dignity pls don't go back

Aonkuuse:
Bro you really need to intervene oo before she will kill him for you people. Men are not speaking out in marriages. But also don't rush in confronting your mother ooo, just talk to her because maybe your father did something that is making her behave like that.

Below in bold is what the father did from the op & we all know it is typical for women to start misbehaving when things are no longer rosy for their husbands

aidameoryou:
He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

Barims:
She is in charge in the home. My parents are doing nothing to stop this vicious brat, What can I do, please? I'm 22; she is 19.

Your 19 year old younger sister dey chase u from house & shame no catch u to post this kind thing online? Smh

angelEmade:

My point is that starch and carbohydrates like corn syrups and the foods I mentioned up there are much worse than these drinks. And although their intake should be controlled...it would be a futile endeavour if you keep supplementing them with excess starchy foods.
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Malt is not a saviour either.

Don't come here to post nonsense next time pls. How can u be comparing refined sugars in processed drinks to natural carbohydrates??

Soulseeker01:
Marrying the wrong woman!! Jst becus my friends are all married

Quite true
There is this trickish pressure that also comes with all your friends getting married & discussing their family in every gathering. If one is not careful, u can end up in a wrong marriage not to feel odd.

sexysunnyb:
Person never get current plan and you're talking about fall back plan.
Na person wey chop bellefu dey get fall back plan jaree

Funny but true

Iamtirednow:



Thanks so much. Your comment or questions speaks calm.

From the on set of my challenges.

Yes I lost alot of money. Was broke here and there.

Oga stop explaining yourself & face reality
Women are wired differently from men, one of the most difficult thing for a woman is to support a man financially. Nothing kills a woman's love for a man faster than supporting that man financially, she will just hate the man overnight, because women hate spending money on a man. Some women may try initially, but it won't get long before they get tired. That was what happened to your wife. My advice to u is this, let her go if she wants to go, face your life squarely & see how u can get back on your feet. The more u try to beg that woman to stay, the more she will despise & humiliate u. Her presence may demoralize u to make progress, so let her go if she wish.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I will load the 5M into my Sportybet account and use it play Man City to beat Real Madrid at Etihad on Tuesday. It is priced at 2.29 odds. They will win for sure. Afterwards, I would have had 10M in my account by the next hour after the match has ended. Thereafter, I will withdraw the 10M and use it for enjoyment with my gees.

5M spent, invested and returned with profits judiciously. Win-win. Chai. Sense will not kill me.

Lol

tnerro1:
Na to do phd be the next thing na

They know a lot of immigrants coming in are just using study to relocate. How many Nigerians get qualification to do PhD abroad

Mayeldah:
It was obvious Saint Obi was a SIMP

How can in-laws come to your house and beat you and your wife was supporting them?

If na me na that day the marriage go end make everyone go em way. secondly don't be too attached emotionally to a woman

Love your wife and your kids but if the woman wan show say she be LORD over you, omo e better make marriage end

Truth is it is good for a man to have little traces of ruggedity in him. Saint obi was a weak man is what I see in all of these. What happened to him is same thing that happened to Paul of p square, but u can see dude is living his life. It is pure weakness for a man's life to center around a woman

Omar001:
The man is just being real

Exactly!

Britishcoins:
My building... I can't believe I spent close to 10m since June last year yet it has not finished
I don't smoke or drink, as for women I don't spend on them

Only people that have built houses will understand the bold part. At a point u will begin to question yourself, what have i gotten my self into. I would have just continued paying rent oh. Huge amount of money keep leaving u regularly because u want the building to be completed, still yet e no dey finish. If u have built your own house, u will truly know landlord don't make much money from rental when u compare the returns to cost of building

Rubyjade:

Poultry my grandma was dashing people eggs, and life chicken, I have to close down.

Lol

slimfit1:
If sanwo olu wants attention, use our resources to open factories and industries that can employe Nigerians reduce taxes and equip lagos hospitals. However, his wife should have gone there not him. These are all signs of a governor not working leaving his main job to do functions that doesn't concern him.

True @bold
It would have made more sense, the show was more of a woman thing

ukaface:

Does the world ever end??

Yes when the trumpet sound

ukaface:
Saint Obi… Rest well
Tell Muna and Sam loco I miss seeing their faces, thanks to y’all for making me fall in love with Nollywood of years ago. I still once in awhile visit YouTube to watch those movies.
Y’all rest in peace. 🕊️
Reincarnate in another beautiful country like Switzerland, Nigeria don Fvck up

You are still wishing for someone to reincarnate in this painful world? Smh...

Firstorderwizard:
Someone that can afford 6m rent can equally afford to buy land and build a decent house

Lolzzz are u sure u are in Nigeria?
Go ask how much for bag of cement & building materials

Firstorderwizard:
Poverty induced opinion
I know someone paying 6m per annum rent in a duplex he rented in PH.
Why can't he buy land and build?
Answer: 6m is chicken change to him

Your analogy is wrong
6m can't get u any decent land talk more of building. You can't be comparing that to over a 110m naira.

olaolulazio:
E be like say he get another house for that way.

This one self no too fine as I dey look am ooo.

The house is just valued based on the location, banana island, aesthetically the building is zero.

sonature1:
Why do I love this country so much?

A country that makes people's dreams come true!

God bless America!!!

& yet u see some hopeless nairalanders always comparing US with China & Russia

sunsweet33:


I hope he doesn’t mind your monicker because this is very important. Though I’m a woman but sometimes it’s our mothers that fement disrespect within the family by gossiping the elder children to the younger ones.

The OP seems genuinely concerned but it’s also possible that he has absorbed some nasty comments from the mother that make him see his elder brother as a non-entity. Even subconsciously it may also affect how he treats the man.

God bless u for the bold!
It is a subconscious thing & most people won't even know. If u read his post, u will see my mom, my mom everywhere, she has a connection to it.

RenegadeX:


You are wise. Op said so many demoralizing things to his brother that he didn’t type here. Even the ones he typed here is enough for someone down already to cry.

And what you said about his mother using him to disrespect his brother. I have experienced it first hand and my younger brother had the audacity to throw a punch on me that I started bleeding. Well I placed a curse on him and I haven’t lifted it

Please lift it oh, no matter what he is still your brother & cursing will not do the family any good. A lot of mothers do this, once they see a younger brother doing well than the elder one, they start manipulating him to start disrespecting the elder one & if the younger bro is not sensible, he will fall into this, thinking he is being tough & advising his elder brother, unknowingly to him, his mother is the one using him to fight his elder brother.

What will he gain from doing this? Evil person
See him face like ukaface

Jennyclay:
I’m deeply in Love with this man for no reason

I wish to meet him one day.

You are in love with his money & status...it is natural. Money attracts women...

VTJN:
apologise how? Op didn't wrong him in anyway. The tears was probably the reflection of his life. Why apologise to someone you never offended? Do you want Op and others to pamper him at that age? Maybe i didn't go through the page well. I don't see need for any apology

There is need for apology
Op must have said hurtful things out of emotion to bring out those tears. That is why the op conscience is judging him, read his post. We are talking about a 38 years old man. The op should apologize & tell him not to take what he said to heart.

DownTime44:
please what would you have suggest my mum do? I will tell her if you can suggest what step she should take. I'm not happy with my brother condition bro. I am also struggling though, but his condition gives me headache and make me sad.

Your brother is confused & depressed
You & your mum need to be careful on how u handle this so u people don't push him into sth else. He needs help. See how u people can get him to learn driving.

DownTime44:
Hi guys

He was crying when i was talking to him.

Please guys was i wrong talking to my elder brother?

For a grown man of 38 years to be crying when u were talking to him means u must have said some unpleasant things u couldn't say here. I will only advice u to be constructive on how you talk to him. Firstly he is your elder brother, don't allow your mother use you to disrespect him in very embarrassing manner, mothers are fond of doing this. This life no be one way oh, things can turn around, but don't speak out words that will not leave his heart for life. Advice him, but be constructive. If there is a way to help him, by getting him to learn driving, do it. You can pay for it & get him to learn it. I will also suggest u call him to apologize, tell him not to take whatever u said to heart, u only want the best for the him & d family. But don't say hurtful things when speaking to him next time

gorgeousnogo:


I’m not fat and not very slim.
I’m just there.


I think i won’t be eating this way when I become super rich. I’m eating this way because I stay alone and I am managing and there is no much food in my house. If I cook rice for example, I keep eating it through out the week till I finish before cooking something else.

Yeah...that is how most single people eat

Samantha124:
Where did I say that we're always together?

But u guys happen to always be within the same confines