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Onye wetara oji wetara ndu
He who brings colanut brings life

Onye ona adighi mee onu ochi di ya nso n'onu
When you've not faced challenges smile is close to your mouth until your experience one

Happy birthday. Don't regret getting older it is a priviledge denied of many

messiah:
Courtship is a period of deception where each partner puts up a facade in order to impress the other thereby masking the true fact that they're just humans.

I agree. Friendship is better than courtship that makes one vulnerable to each other

There is more to marriage than bitter leaf soup with pounded yam

Maybe the sister-in-law is the hard working type which is fine. Never lend money to a lazy man or woman they will always find excuse not to pay back

JJYOU:
hey 1 post congrat u are having a baby. you dey fear? i beg start buying baby stuff. you wan become papa born boy. well done u. tell mum a grand son is on his way.
congrats

Re-read the poster again he said they did it twice and it showed negative. That home test is accurate

@Topic Maybe she is pulling your legs to see your reaction. Girls do that alot

Lack of self control. Every man and woman are the same

I don't understand the language but I use to enjoy there music in those days while in uni

My name has a powerful and positive influence upon my life till present I am happy and grateful my parents named me those name
As they say words are powerful so as names are

Onye chi ojo ka mmiri n'afa nye n'eze
The unlucky ones gets caught in the act

Ify ibo la chi?

@JJYOU she knew she will not pay back that is why she went behind her. My red flag is the wife should know before not after simple

Berit:
im married since 1 1/2years, but i met another guy and i fell in love with this guy, deeply in love.
since some months i already noticed some problems i have in my marriage,but i guess that my husband dont realize,that this marriage isnt the same like in the beginnin.
i told him several times what is makin me unhappy and that he changed,but until now nothin changed from his side.
we have 2 children together but most of the time im takin care of them alone, on some days he doesnt even see me or the children cuz hes always out with friends,hangin around or tryin to make money.

so i met this other guy, and we started with a friendship and now i get feelings for him, what should i do?, i have the thinkin if i didnt have any problems in my marriage i wouldnt even let any other man to enter my heart,

im confused, maybe u people can help me.if u got any other questions, just ask,

You sound like you still love him spicy yourself and be good looking don't complain too much and don't nag. Try and be confident it attracts men

mrsb:
Rubi, You're right I think thats the real reason I am pissed off.
She has asked for the equivalent of my monthly salary which is NOT pocket money.

Let your husband know how pissed off you are so that next time he will get your consent. If that bank a/c sqanders you will be the one to face the consequencies alone

mrsb:
My husband told me last night that his brother's wife called him and asked him to borrow some money. Its quite a large sum. He thinks she must be desperate to ask him and so has agreed to give her the money. She says its a loan to be paid back but I don't think I have ever seen a loan paid back in Nigeria! If he gives her the money he shouldn't expect to see it again.

I have a few issues with this. I am really close with her (or so I thought) and I feel she is being sneaky going behind my back (and her husbands back) to my husband who already has plenty of expenses from me and our kids.

Things aren't great with her and her husband so I guess she can't ask him right now. HOWEVER, I know he gives her plenty of money for her and the kids so I can only assume she has overstretched herself - knowing her, its on jewellery or something equally as frivolous.

I'm happy that my husband is being a nice guy and helping her out and I'm happy he told me about it as if I'd found out later I would have been more pissed off. My biggest issue is how will his brother ever feel if he finds out about it?! Surely it will be a big drama that will end up being played out between the men.

I don't want to be a heartless bitch but should I advise him not to get involved?

Money loaned to family memebers will never be paid back and they know how to take advantage of the kind hearted ones. If I am you I will feel humiliated for been close to me still you went behind my back and ask my husband b/c he is your brother huge maount of money. If it is pocket

money I understand but huge I have red flag.

A shy man does not potray a good picture as a man women might like you but do not feel protected

na2day?:
oh no u didn't! if a guy does that next thing u know the girls will open thread on NL about how stingy or broke azz the guy is

Marriage is not meant for boys and girls

na2day?:
dont believe that period, i have way too many examples to show u

What I meanis forget about excitement and fantacy during courtship eg going to buffet etc just concentrate on the persons personality/intergrity that will help in marriage

sweetcoint:
am 19yrs old pls advice me,
since i broke up with my guy last year December Cos his dating my friend, have not giving my heart to any other person, guys do come around but am afraid to be hurt.
am now in love with my chart mate that works in Gabon, he lives in port Harcourt i also leave in port Harcourt too and he said his coming to introduce me to his people and engage me.
am afraid cos i don't know him ( his attitude or behaviour )although he claims to be a kind and caring person and we do talk on phone, and i have aspect his proposal which is Strange to me for someone that have not seen.

Forget about enagagement and introduction. Meet him in person first before concluding whether to date or not to date. Don't be emotional be logical Anya n'epu uzo eri

Pride goes before a fall
Ngaga bute uzo odi da eso we ya

You can if you are very deligent during courtship. Love is blind marriage is an eye opener

Let the man be a househusband and see how it taste. I can't. it is too boring and sets women back in all ramifications of life.

When children are involve in relationship it is very difficult to deal with. Now it depends on the tone of your voice eg If you said to him I don't want this relationship but for old time sake he keeps luring you to having sex with him the it is hard. Stop having sex, kissing, handling with him little by little you are emotionally separating yourself from him and that will help. Both of you are soul ties. Try make new friends meet good people to occupy your mind. Good luck

Anaghi ekpu chi afo ime aka
Pregnanacy cannot be covered
Your real person/behaviour cannot be hidden for so long

she is my girl. If this is true I wish her the best. She deserves it

MJ is too juicy any time any day

Be a man and declare your stand on what you want to your father and brother b/c If you start letting them tell you what to do now they will control you forever. Be the one to find the fault if there is any and not them helping you

Ma ahughi ebe ebi doro abido n'ikpere
If you don't know what to use to support yourself use your knees


Ebugharia nri anogharia odu
If you change the position of your food you change your sitting position
If situation changes you adjust yourself

ifyalways:
@Rubi gini bu okpo ugu?ugu as in ugu a na eri eri ?

Ugu no na ubi. Nnem gwaram ngaa