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I were aka nri tie nwata ihe i were aka ekpe kpo kelata ya
If you scold a child with your right hand, you bring him/her closer with your left hand

People who are verbally abusive are those who cannot rule their anger. IF you can rule over your anger then you are very powerful

ifyalways:
Ole umunne m ,owu fever ekeresimesi
O nwere ihe m choro ikoro unu.
E nwere m otu enyi nwanyi,onye igbo, mana dika nsogbu ezinaulo siri diri,o nweghi ike i ga akwukwo.O di intelligent cos mgbe anyi no na sekondiri,result ya na eso na one of the bests.So o kwusiri akwukwo ya na WAEC.O no na aru umu ururu oru to keep body and soul together and again,o bu ada so the rest of the family dabere na ya somehow.
So,afo abuo gara aga,a mutual friend of the girl gara india for biz,meetia other boys so along the lines,imanu way boys ie otu ha si e-gist na ebe ha na anu mmanya,so the discussion shifted to i nweta ezigbo nwanyi for olulu.The mutual friend talked abt the girl and all the boys present bia di intrested.Ha nile nara akara the girl and started calling her up.The girl ebighi na 9ja o bi na ghana.
Otu na ime ha mechara after like 5 mths bata ghana so he decided to check out the girl too.so they met and slept together on first date,the guy left ghana for 9ja the next day.Now,this girl a naghi eme the guy expect to call her ozo cos of ihe mere on the first date but somehow the guy kept calling.
Now,the guy mechara laghachi back to his base,and they kept on communicating.After some time,nke nwoke a naghizi akpo di girl,he flashes and the girl calls.Even the girl took it upon herself to be calling 2wice daily and it was affecting her finances.Now,this girl na eri na onwa 200 dols,o na aru na club and shes supporting the family.
Early this year,nke nwoke kporo the girl from Senegal.O gara biz ebe ahu,so after like ubochi ato na senegal,o kpo di girl gwa ya na o di cash trapped etc etc so na o neediri obere ego ka o jiri na eri nri.been that the girl e nweghi ike i sendi ego out of ghana,the girl kporom na ekwe nti and pleaded with me,so m gara sendia 100 dols to the guy.Then,i assumed it was her cousin . . .i think she told me so too the guy gwara the babe na o ga esi senegal bia hu ya na ghana ma o mecha ihe o gara ime na senegal.Finally,he finished his biz and went back without going to see nke nwanyi.
Still,nke nwanyi contd with him.All these while the girl a nabeghi the boy anything and neither did the boy send the girl anything.Ok,ihe mechara obi jiri sie nke nwanyi ike bu na the boy gwara all his friends maka di girl and they call her up once in a while na akpo ya nwunye anyi.Now,ihe biara na esiri the girl ike,she lost the dad,ga 9ja for the burial,came back and lost her job.o gwaghi the boy na ihe na esiri ya ike mana o gwara di boy mgbe nna ya nwuru and when she was abt to travel for the burial and all the boy could tell her bu na okwa o ma na i nweghi ike i sendi ego out of india which is true too.
Now,this girl is still unemployed,she travelled to 9ja again like 3 weeks ago only for the guy to enter ghana,again for biz.He still called the girl and was telling the girl na o dikwa cash trapped again.The girl called me up again and told me same story,m sendikwara the boy 100 dols again.Now,abali ato gara aga,nke nwanyi decided to come back to ghana so o kporo di boy and was forced to explain true situation of things for the boy.O gwara di boy na o nweghizi oru and infact o na abia ibido uwa na isi.So, o gwara the boy na o na abia ghana the next day and the boy told her na o na arapu ghana same day for Senegal.
My GF broke down and called me were gwa mu nke bu eziokwu.I feel so bad.this boy bukwa big boy ooo,gini mere our brothers jiri di wicked and callous
Di thing na enwutem badly,m cheta ego m tufuru nye dat kain wicked pesin,iwe na acho igbu m.chaaaai but the worst part bu na enyim nwanyi a is still loving this boy.
Ihe nka o bughi iberibe

Nke a bu sign of women who love their b/f too much more than their b/f loves them they believe in their lies

Ufodu n'a take time imuru ihe ufo n'amuru ihe immediately. E ziga kwala ego obula ozo ya zigawa zie nke ya so that nke ya fuo omara n'uguru n'atu oyi ma obu were ire guo eze ya onu

Ify how body?

Igbo kewnu

Nice thread

When a woman earns her salary she should bring it home kneel down before her husband
or prostrate before him and give him her salary then the man will rub her back and said

thou humble, sweet and melody wife take this pocket money then I will handle the rest. no be so? ochi ato gbuo lam

Stop paying con edison bill and let them disconnect the light but gat flash light by the side

Stop putting food on the table for him take your kids out to resturant and feed your stomach

Give your mother-in-law red flag by ignoring her totally since your complain is a torn of the flesh to her and she is giving you another headache

Focus on what you are doing and don't let him and his family pull you down. It is not compulsory to stay in an abusive relationship what counts is that the kids are civil.

you can drop dead god forbid by all these stress around you. Remember one life to live

A ne mere nwanyi ya ana emere onye di ya nnma
You are trying to please a woman and she is pleasing somebodyelse. ( Not only women oh oooooooooooo men are included in the game)

youngies:
rubi thanks hun,
This is my all time favourite ilu !!!

O dim ka imara nma nwoke nkea ihe di nma n'eme gi ahu paulina paulina
Ify nwa nma  Onye si na ihe oma adighi ya nma ya kpata olugbu ya afoluya afo were ya tee of ka rubi fu
eche 

Ujujoan:
I love cooking. No matter what I'm making its never stress for me. I could spend a whole day in the kitchen making dishes after dishes and still not feel like I'm doing any work!!

Me tooooooooooooooooooooooooo maybe be that is why I hardly enjoy somebody else food. It is more or less a hobby

Why should it always be a woman to struggle to keep a home/marriage going I tire?

@Poster I heard from a seminar that I attended sometime ago that men have affairs b/c they want to reassure themselves not that they really mean any harm but I personally don't agree

Ihe oma n'anya gbara ndu

Love is blind marriage is an eye opener

BlueDiva:
Marriage, love. . .
It's all about ups and down.
Congrats, your man has come back.

Madam, stop reporting your problems on NL.
[b]Most people here are single and don't know a thing about marriage.[/b]I'm sure they still think it's Disneyland.

I love the highlighted part. Well said

marriage e no easy it takes a lot to build happy home. I like her respect for her hubby even in this devastating period

That you are married does not mean you should sell your common sense

@Poster your story get k/bowleg

@Poster relocating to new place and adjusting is very tough especially for a man. I am not Happy he hit you but try and not to be verbally abusive. If you tell you mother she will hate him and probably remind you that she advice you

not to marry him and you insisted. Calling the police he will have a record at least for now but when next he tries it if that will save your life please do.

Look for any of his friends that he listens to contact him and narrate what happend sincerely to him don't paint him black and make yourself look good say it as it is so that his friend will know where to start. I bet you he must have

contacted one of his friends and probably warned them not to let you know his way about. Don't call in-laws they will use it and laugh at you/talk about you. Men are more secretive than women

You said you are starting a programme pls do b/c being too idle can cause all this havoc in marriage Good luck

TheSeeker:
A Nigerian trying to get you pregnant? I think he's as dumb as the dumbest man in the world, if he's not the dumbest. Getting you pregnant doesn't in any way get him citizenship unless you're both married. I'm not sure what he stands to get, but he can be able to stay in the US for as long as he wants to, either by upping his status or by renewing his visa which will cost him almost nothing. Generally, if he's looking to get citizenship or a resident permit, I don't think this is one of the requirements.

Why I say he's dumb is, if he's trying to get you pregnant for the sake of some citizenship papers, then I doubt he's a Nigerian at all - and if he is, he's the most stupid. I'm sure he knows that child support can wreck even the richest man in the world and there's no way he can escape that when y'all start having problems. It's either he goes to jail, goes bankrupt or he's bundled out the United States.

If he knows immigration rules, I don't think he's trying to get any sort of upgraded residential status in the States, rather I'd advise you talk to him and know what's up with him and I'm sure there lies your answer. If I were your man, and I have no undertone intention, yet, you think this of me, I'll break up immediately.

I'm tired of these lousy people trying to enlist any Nigerian that dates them as wanting citizenship at any discomfort in that relationship . . . why can't you all stick to your AAs and white men, and leave Nigerian men alone? Nonsense! Citizenship ko, heaven's candidacy ni.

You said it all

If she is a giving you headache treat her with a cold shoulder, be mechanical when talking to her trust me less than one month she will start talking about moving If you are a xtain you can use prayer too and pray her out

Try[b] bath and body works [/b] especially sweet pea fragrance. It is very good for dark people and has deep moisturizer.You will never regret it

CyberG:
@Poster. . .this post ^^^^^ is BS. . . the sure way to failure. . .she is propagating the "the loser theorem".

Gabry's suggestion is right on the money. . .but it's your choice.

You want it too cheap

This is exactly like nollywood movie one more kiss

@Poster do not give in to that your best friend. He will one day remind you that you abandoned your hubby and ran to him he will not respect you either. Be firm and delete any contact with him go and re-read your marriage vow. Once again you don't know the value of what you have until you loose it.

I beg to differ you sound a little bit desperate it turns men off. It is not compulsory that you must be in a relationship if one comes fine if doesn't come fine too.

Have confident in yourself, groom yourself very well and educate yourself. Let him struggle alittle not too much ooooo for your attension

A man who loves you will stay even in your shortcomings but the one who don't love you will always fine fault in you.
It is not whom you love but who loves you.

Onye nzuzu amaghi n'nwanne ya bu obia
A fool don't know his sibling is a visitor

I am asking how can your brother or sister be a visitor? nke a gbara m ghari

alfchye:
I think this is the same rubi with the story my sistet's boyfriend touch my breast and wants to sleep with me. The one with the case with this 190 guy and now you are married.Sum people here can lie.

You don't know me. responding to your post is immaturity to me
I am done with this thread Good bye

candylips:
baby na wetin typical average naija men do u o

fasttrack:
Them show her pepper.

Get enlightened then we can talk

I am married to the most wounderful man on earth he treats me with intergrity and I give him his respect. who does not reason/behave like average naija men

Reptyle:
@ Rubi
Not a very wise move my dear. A wise woman builds her home. Like I said earlier, if the lady has been able to tolerate her husband's female friend for five years without suspecting foul play, its best not to rock the boat now. Simply befriend the friend too and let things roll

So it is good for the husband to talk as much as he wants while the wife is unhappy about it but it is not good when the wife does the same abeg spare me that gospel. Yes, people are shouting saying they are not dating just chating over the phone. Chating too much on phone with another lady when your wife is not in support can kill love atmosphere in marriage vice versa. Go and read the book that says 20 things men and women hate in marriage this is one of them gradually it tears down marriage.

Is it not good that the wife is complaining/voicing out rather than sweeping it under the carpet and act holy holy until things gets out of hand. A respect is a reciprocal

IGWE_USA:
Must you respond to every thread?----------- Better shut up if you dont have any tangible advise to offer the poster.

Shut up yourself nonsense.  A typical average naija man will not walk away just like that without making a scene for the whole world to hear. Most of them are not civilized to that extent

24volts:
please some one should advice me, what to do and the action to take. I was to travel to Kenya for an official work,
I have booked my flight, which was to be a night flight, on the said day of my travelling, my wife dropped me at the MM IA Lagos. we bidded each other bye as I was about checking in. she has to rushed back home to take care of the little boy. I was on the queue for almost 2 hours for checking in, when it was my turn to be checked in, lo and behold my passport was not with me, I tried calling my wife line but was not connecting, I have to take bike from the MM IA to my house for the passport, on opening my door with my key , I saw the greatest shock of my life, a young man naked on top of my naked wife. I looked at them and quickly took my passport and dashed off, I did not say a word to them, cos iam after my business trip and also thinking of the next line of action once I get back to Nigeria. Guys PLEASE THIS IS REAL , I NEED GOOD ADVICE.

Your story is made up

I feel for the wife but these are one of the challenges in marriage. If the guys throws away his brother it will register in the husbands brain forever. The wife should play cool and know these are phases of life. But the brother should not stay too long.

Orange juice but it has to be the one that have vitamin and calcium or else I will not drink it

I have being reading ppls post and I can't stop laughing especially this one

T@meD0:
so u wan know how to end a marriage in naija ehn?

ok, that's simple, just tell her to pack all her bags and baggage comot for ya house (regardless weda na both of una build the house together) go hin papa and mama house but leave ya children. yes, naija man no dey take hin children play o.

and if she no wan gree go, switch to plan B, which is: go carry anoda ayounge bring come waya for house and still poshu am after you finish dey waya.

if that one still no work, just throw all her bags and baggage for street and call olopa make dem come follow you poshu her comot while ya ayounge looks on.

wetin be court for naija; court ko, magistrate ni. who get time waste money go court for naija say becos hin wan divorce when you fit take law for ya own hands. abi no be naija we dey talk? **_hisses** abeg, make i hia word o jare.

Outstrip:
Sometimes these responses make me feel that Nigerian women feel like they have to act like they are brainless and utterly stupid to be a good wife. How the hell can a mother in law send someone packing. The husband cannot send anyone packing not to talk of mother in law

You are talking

I know you said that out of frustration. Mothers could be over protective. Have a heart to heart talk with her and give her time she will calm down