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Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence
Usually, when I read tales of domestic violence, especially when i see a woman battered and bruised, i am quick to feel pity for her, and by default blame the man for being an 'animal'. I hate wife beaters with all my heart. But today's experience actually changed my view.

It started around 7a.m this sunday morning. My neighbor whose flat directly faces mine was washing his vehicle outside. I have never known him to be a violent man. He and his wife always argue and quarrel, but it has never been in the open. Just raised voices and exchanging unkind words. His wife walked in through the gate leading to the compound. As soon as she saw her husband, she started screaming, 'dirty man' 'pig' and some other obscenity in their local dialect. He was scolding the man for not wearing a slippers outdoors. He walking on water barefooted. The man told her to keep quiet and get him a slippers to put on. She continued on top of her voice. She insulted daylight out of the man. There was nothing this woman did not say, from the size of the man's joystick to the number of minutes he stays in the bedroom. Out of anger, the man poured the remaining water he was using to wash the car on her. She ran at him and gripped him by the collar almost choking him.

At that point, myself and other neighbors who have been watching ran out to put an end to the fracas before it got out of hand. It took alot of pleading before she eventually let go and went inside. The man just stood there, i could tell that he was really embarrassed by the things his wife said. We advised him to be a man 'you know say na so women be na'.

Not up to 10 minutes later, the man started banging on the door to the house. His wife refused to let him in. She insisted that he must go and wash his feet thoroughly before entering the house, but there was no water outside anymore. The man shouted at her to bring water for him to wash up, but she kept insisting that there would have been water if he hadn't poured it on her. A shouting match ensued again, this woman continued her verbal assault.

At about an hour later, when it was time to go to church, she came out all dressed, not knowing that her husband was around the corner. He came from nowhere and landed a slap on her cheeks. She swung her bag at him, and a piece of metal from the bag cut his Jaw. This man descended on his wife with series of slaps. She fought back violently. All the while i was observing through my window. She dipped her hand into the man's eye, and punched him several times. The man seemed to lose it completely and aimed a blow directly at her jaw. The woman screamed, next thing i saw was blood oozing out of her mouth. I ran out of my own apartment to calm things down. Behold she had lost two teeth. When we all came to separate them, the woman started wailing uncontrollably, saying that her husband has killed her. With the blood in her mouth and everything nobody even spared a thought for the man. I could see finger nail marks all over his face. His jaw was a bit swollen too.

We personally drove the woman to a nearby health center so they could clean her up. As we entered, we were greeted with questions 'wetin happen?' 'na accident'? She started crying and narrating how her husband wanted to kill her this morning because she insisted that 'he must wash his dirty legs before entering the house'. The Nurses there started berating men in general, with each person narrating different experiences of domestic violence they had encountered. They were all full of sympathy for her. It was the general assumption that the she married a devil as husband. We just sat there listening to them demonizing men and wondering. The husband even called me while at the health center to know if it was serious. He sounded really worried. He wanted to drive down to meet us. We just discouraged him from coming, because his wife has already made him out to be a devil here.

Whenever the story of domestic violence is told, it is only narrated from the woman's perspective. We often see her in tears, with bruises all over. She plays the victim, because she is the one that usually ends up with bruises, even if she may have delivered the first punch.

We hardly hear the man's side of the story, we don't perceive his emotion, he hardly has any physical scars from the encounter, so we assume he wasn't hurt. He is always the violent one, because he won't let you know that a woman's words broke him, he won't gather a crowd a to tell his story.

I'm totally against domestic violence, whether physical or verbal. I believe two people who claim to love each other should be able to settle issues amicably with resorting to abusive language and physical confrontation. If your differences are irreconcilable, then end the damn marriage and let everyone go in peace. I think the real beast is the man that will descend on a woman at the smallest provocation. But as a woman, If you instigate a physical confrontation, either by words or action, make sure you win the fight that ensues.

Next time i read or hear about domestic violence, with a picture of a battered and bruised woman, i won't jump into the 'Men are beasts' wagon, not untill i know the full story.

His d!CK and he uses it well, I mean very well

Money

This is a fact

Men at the receiving end by puritydayo
This reminded me one Etisalat interview I attended then. After we completed online exam. Just three of us progress to the final round, lo and behold I was the only guy the other two are ladies with heavy backside. They only needed one manager one of the ladies was telling that she was surprised to progress to the next stage because the exam was too difficult for her.

But her guy told her she will be called and it happened. We were to start around 10am but we were not attended to till around 11am the next thing I heard was the other lady was making call and was like I will leave here now you guys are wasting my time ah I was shocked. She turned to us and she said they will attend to us now I just called one of the interviewer then I realized I had no chance. She was called first and didn't spent up to 10minutes when she came out the other lady was asking her about the interview question and she said nothing much we only chatted just two interviewers and they were friendly, the second lady said the same thing.

But when it was my turn I met four scary looking guys. I kuku didn't look their faces they spend almost 1hr 30minutes asking me different questions with no sign of friendliness. I answered them as much as I can.

But by the time they will send letter to me they said I did well but majority voted for one of the other candidates. Wetin women no fit corner for naija no exist.

olatuns2017:
Nigerians

Werey plenty for bloggers


In prisons

You have convicted and awaiting trial inmates

That girl Chidima Ojukwu is on awaiting trials and she still eats food cooked from her homes

If you want more information go to kikiri

Social media=fake

Nigerian are generally daft, those that have been sentenced can never be in that pictures �, what you have there are people awaiting trial for offences such as First degree murders, man slaughter.

In Nigeria correctional facility you have
VVIP
VIP
Regular
One thing is if you have money in Nigeria prison, you will enjoy your stay ask Fred Ajudua
Cecilia Ibru
Erastus Akingbola
Bode George to mention a few

Romanoff:
If you go to Kuje prison, you won't know the difference between you the visitor and the prisoners

Kuje na grade A prison for Nigeria na

kizwid:
Many things wey man don see... but these day I find peace of mind in revenge... If you no respect me, Mo yawa( I take that like you fully minding your business). But if you there disrespect me. I will make sure I disrespect you twice as much... no matter how long it takes

You go wicked

I am a PROUD celestial. The way you have the good, bad and ugly in most churches so also you have in Cele.

LordIsaac:
Many of them have spirit husbands. Be careful!

fallacy

OSUN STATE POLICE COMMAND SECURITY ALERT. The two ritualists arrested with some female body parts about 9:30pm in a hotel where they had lodged.
The names of the apprehended criminals are Ayodeji Saheed and Tunde Obadimeji who both confessed more than 70 girls have been slaughtered and sold their parts to one Abefe Sadiq at #600:000:00 Six hundred thousand naira for a girl killed for him . When they were asked how they get their Victims?
Answer: *Getting the girls was so easy* *we lure them with money and fancy things*
They went further saying that *girls of this days are easily lured with those things* All they need to do is to get or rent a fancy car with cash they would spend on the girls, and that is all this girls need. Then they are being taken to a hotel room where they are told that they would be having fun overnight but instead they are being slaughtered.
The IP advised us to share to all female friends, sisters and colleagues that they should all be careful not to fall a victim.

*Please share to your loved ones*

OSUN STATE POLICE COMMAND SECURITY ALERT. The two ritualists arrested with some female body parts about 9:30pm in a hotel where they had lodged.


The names of the apprehended criminals are Ayodeji Saheed and Tunde Obadimeji who both confessed more than 70 girls have been slaughtered and sold their parts to one Abefe Sadiq at #600:000:00 Six hundred thousand naira for a girl killed for him . When they were asked how they get their Victims?
Answer: *Getting the girls was so easy* *we lure them with money and fancy things*
They went further saying that *girls of this days are easily lured with those things* All they need to do is to get or rent a fancy car with cash they would spend on the girls, and that is all this girls need. Then they are being taken to a hotel room where they are told that they would be having fun overnight but instead they are being slaughtered.
The IPO advised us to share to all female friends, sisters and colleagues that they should all be careful not to fall a victim.

*Please share to your loved ones*

Offpoint1:
Less than 1k

Tea in the morning N400

Nutri Milk at night 250

that's my daily routine, I'm not foodie guy

You killing your sperm

sheanzy:
lol true

That's a lie!

Offpoint1:
Depends on my mood

Happy mood bow much do you spend?

HenryDion:
I don't know about daily cause I prefer to fully stock my kitchen... But I spend an average of 100k monthly to restock when things start going down. That figure is climbing due to the rising cost of food.

What do you buy with 100k

TheStakeHolder:
12k

You Sabi lie

Natty11:
08137688547 my contact has it available in Cotonou foreign used 20 million also in Lagos 22million both has never been registered or driven in Nigeria low mileage come with mechanic

How much last

1a2bb:
Morning all,

Doctors and nurses in the house, please is there any drug I can take to prevent HIV, I mistakenly had a raw sexual romp yesterday?

I once read somewhere online that there's a drug one can take after doing it (long as it's not been up to 24 hours) to prevent HIV. Pls also kindly let me know where I can get it. Thanks as I await your replies.

Mods pls kindly move to the fp.


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