₦airaland Forum

Tickles001:
I'm not even sure I'm that serious minded.
I'd like someone to send a PM anyways.

Bluezy13:
I have never been betrayed.. because I have never expected any attention from anybody... Not even family.

Apus:
Your logic doesn't work that way. A man is not a woman. Women are very emotional beings and most cant handle being told the truth especially the weighty ones.
Infact most women prefer being lied to and live in falsehood/fantasy.
I'm saying this based on numerous experience.
You can remain in denial, it doesn't change anything.

Truvelisback:
It doesn't mean. I wanna ask, if u were broke and dying of hunger, and u have asked for help from friends, family members, and the people u know, and none of them could help u but ur ex who is already married decided to help u with 20k, would u reject it?

ahnie:
Good morning ma'am,pls kindly unquote my comment.thanks.

Mindlog:
How has the beatings many Nigerians received during their childhood translated to a better functioning Country today?

Truvelisback:
Must it be from others?

MAGG0T:


He loves them both..

Men are created to be polygamous in nature, so we shouldn't be entitled to only one woman

spice123:
There is absolutely nothing to celebrate here other than psychological damage done to kids from 70's down wards. Check the rate and statistics of rape cases and ritualists and kidnappers. The ages of this men are from the 1970's downward. A lot of marital violence against women are also very high. If you take a closer look, mum will beat us out of frustration that she is receiving from dad or out of lack of money. Majority of us here we're beaten for no reason.

Totilopussylick:
Any man who don't lie to a woman

Does not exist

Ay20:
Good evening everyone...i need an advice pls
I’m a Christian and my girlfriend is a muslim, she told me few ago that she wanted to pray over our relationship nd today she told me one of her alfa say our relationship can not go anywhere
What are your thoughts on this because I really love her nd I believe we should be the ones to dictate how our relationship should be

Totilopussylick:
Me as a man

I preferred the 'one' l Lied to

Ddigit:
This poster needs Jesus. Do you think single men are evening newspapers? You will have to think again.

aswani:
This is a good thread, the amazing thing is people still responding to certain posters (no names mentioned) who have no idea about the changing dynamics between people in a marriage.

To those whose spouses have made them happy in their marriage, I congratulate you and pray that continues for ever.

To the rest, take heart, speak to people in your shoes to rationalise and cope better with your unfortunate situation.

Know this, regardless of what a man or woman is facing outside their marraige, at work etc, if the spouse is making the house comfortable for them, they would be OK.

Men, don't waste your time reporting your wife to her mother or an older female that is not related to you. They will never see things from your point of view. Ditto women.

Uzomarrr12345:
Dead this narrative about big ass n boobs girls

No matter how a lady want to be God-fearing , if she is not appealing to the eyes ,I am not doing !

I am being real “I want a God-fearing woman with ashawo vibes”

Meaning;
I want to do all the crazy tins with my woman and go wild , so yes , I need me a big ass lady !!!

Uzomarrr12345:
Normal level , when you take a lady out , the man suppose pay … I no argue this one


But when both parties are living together, I expect her to do some certain things for the home without being told …period !!

How much is TV subscription for a lady who earns 130k Per month

It’s so embarrassing to even discuss it

GboyegaD:
I don't understand the billings that we're mentioned in the posts. What are the billings in marriage? Why not make a reasonable budget based on both incomes?

One challenge though is many do not discuss their expectations in marriage and many prefer to live by societal norms that may not be applicable in today's world. Know what you want and seek someone who has it and wants what you have offer.

True talk brother, you spouse might be a working-class lady but you still pay all the bills

stacyadams:
Your not married,your cohabiting....if your the man ,will you pay your dowry after cohabting for 15 years?talk true. ..for the domestic violence,,don't let them kill you before you leave..

stacyadams:
The best and only way to know a woman well and see her true colours is buy living under the same roof with her for a period of time and the man is unemployed and broke

Mercychen:
Dem tie your leg there? Or were you bundled to his house in the first place?

Go back to your parents house. If he truly wants you, he'll come and do the needful.

Nezzjnr:
Not yet married.

But I Victor will have a good marriage

ahnie:
He's somewhat okay financially to his own standard,but he always reason achaic and mundane that's my issue with him.
Sad truth is...I won't handover the welfare of the kids back to him again.
Simply put....I have relieved him from the responsibility of our kids.

I dey avoid see finish

prettysassygirl:
They said people should come and share their bitter marriage experiences,but what do we see? Marriage counselors and marriage experts wey never marry. Shior

capnies:
I THINK THE GREATEST PROBLEM MEN HAVE IS PRIDE, WHICH MAKES THEM DIE. IN SILENCE IN THE MIST OF HUMILIATION AND SHAME BY THEIR SPOUSES. MEN FIND IT VERY DIFFICULT TO VOICE OUT WHAT THEY ARE PASSING THROUGH EVEN TO THEIR BEST FRIENDS AND FAMILY MEMBERS TO MAKE IT APPEAR AS IF THEY HAVE THEIR HOMES UNDER CONTROL; MEANWHILE THEY ARE DYING INSIDE.

A MARRIED WOMAN OF OVER SIXTY YEARS OF AGE, WHOSE HUSBAND IS STILL ALIVE TOLD ME THAT 45% OF NIGERIAN MARRIED MEN THAT DIE ARE KILLED BY THEIR WIVES DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY

finishmatter:
This is a reality.
Women are unappreciative.

They are instrinsically selfish

They can never be pleased.

Uzomarrr12345:
Mr relationship expert , I have a question for you

when you meet a pretty woman for the first time , how can you tell she’s stingy ?

Is it written somewhere on her body or face ?

You don date before at all self

You won’t have all these experience until you live with the woman under same roof for a period of time

Uzomarrr12345:
I really find this topic interesting coz just last week , I was having this sort of discussion with a friend

my friend is so fed up of accommodating his wife younger brother in his house , the guy is behaving badly, to the point he had the guts to bring a female to sleep over

just imagine , but as usual, he doesn’t have the guts to send the boy packing coz he doesn’t want to look like a bad in-law

See plenty annoying tins dey inside this marriage thing , some guys nor just wan Dey talk too much

Uzomarrr12345:
What you said above that I highlighted is nonsense

There are some petty Billings that are even embarrassing to talk about

Ladies should use dia common sense and shouldn’t be told that

Why should I sit my woman down and be telling her she can also sub the GOTV too if I’m not around or telling her to get something vital like some kitchen utensils we need … it doesn’t make sense

There are some things that are not worth discussing self , common sense should tell you but some of our Nigeria ladies lie lie

Some Nigeria ladies are just simply stingy by default !

Mind you , I take care of the house rent 100%