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[quote author=hunter2,1]This is the hieght of it.
100milion nigerians don't have toilets in thier house.
100million leave on less than 300naira per day.
Life expectancy is 40years
Mumu statistics.[/quote]

Youngzedd: OMO! See insult.

Bullshit stat from UNICEF

Ignorant illiterates.

What proportion of people in your hometowns have access to a functional traditional white-seat flush toilet?

sCun: If there is no job, there is no job. All this talk about trying to help them get experience is bull.

person, have you thought about the self-employment angle and the increased productivity (leading to more jobs) associated with such a scheme if managed well?

Cretinous product of a failed education system, try to shut up and stop talking until you can develop your brain.

I am surprised Contestant 5 and 6 did not dominate in this round despite a very strong opening round.

sCun: Blame it on Stella

You are a person!

So because plane crashes happen in other countries mean public officials in Nigeria should not be held accountable for plane crashes in Nigeria?

And you can not be the first to shout and admit you are a product of a failed education system?

Your brain is made of cement.

sCun: See this wretched negro referring to Bill Gates like one of his pals.

Of course I can name him like a pal.

It is fucktards like you that have low intelligence and have no future that can't.

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]LMAO @ no bitching on this thread.

You are right....I meant manbitching! [/quote]Men don't do any form of bitching, they plan.

ccollins: Let settle this amicably without further grugdes... IF you have the sheer intellectual sagacity as you claim you have. You would let some liberality to minorities esp in theis modern era of civilisation

I have the phenomenal sagacity to know any liberality will not manifest into decriminalisation. That is just as good as saying it is okay. Giving an inch will result in request for a mile.

Civilisation is not a passbook for anything goes.

If you think what you do in your room is no one's business, keep it in your room. That way, it will be how it has always been in Nigeria: ignored.

Men are like buses in a woman's 20's. You miss one, there will be another one coming along in a minute. In her 40's, men become like parking spaces: all the good ones are taken, and the rest are handicapped or not so good.

In the West, Marriage is like a hurricane.

It starts off with a lot of sucking and blowing and ends up with you losing your bloody house.

Without a shadow of a doubt!!!

Not only half, virtually all!

This is an idea that has always been in my head before Billy beat me to it.

I aint leaving shitloads of money for my kids. Let them go out there and make theirs.

WITHOUT A SHADOW OF A FCKING DOUBT!

I think differently.

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]Who are on this thread bitching about women not accepting nor allowing men to control them?

Exactly. [/quote]There is no bitching on this thread. Just an enlightenment session that is getting on the nerves of women because their secrets are being let out and they know their little power is going to be pulverised if it continues.

beryl04: Ediaat,you're arguing with your ar.se.she's a straight woman,mor.ron.

Oya,try again...this time around with your brain or what's left of it.

You are a person!

Yeah, right! Very straight.

Bloody poof!

Nonso23: @Vivianc,
Since all you have listed although genuine are generally a facade the woman puts up in order "screen out" one timers from the 'real man'; i am forced to ask, after the ring what next?

Do you believe it will be easy to put on a mask for the rest of the 'till death do us part' duration of an ideal marriage
I have heard a lot and witnessed a few marital altercations whose bane was simply "you are not the same person i married" I say this because try hard as you may no woman is as emotionally indifferent as you want this post to make them; at least not for such a long time.
How do you think she'll feel in the marriage when she knows the instant she fully opens up her emotions, fears, wants to get all mushy on the road side due to spontaneity, starts becoming healthily clingy, wants to do all those beautiful things she sees other couples do then the game is up??

Also in your examples, you cited cases where the women gave up the man they loved and settled for the ones that loved them. Isn't this one sided?
Isn't it unfair to any man to realize that his wife settled for him as second best?? (marriage is too long for such information to be bottled up)

These are my questions..

Many cases like that.

Many, many cases!

Thank God it mostly happens to "Real Men" and men without confidence.

vivianc: His response was, "Nothing, you were really cool. But you loved me too much that you lost your self control and started chasing me. And you let me get away with so much crap and those things killed my interest."

Guess what? He was right! He would always tell me, "You love me too much, its choking me. Allow me to come for you, allow me to miss you." For years i classified him as a jerk until recently I realised he wasn't. I chased him away with my actions.

Another guy told me,"No matter how perfect a lady is and how much she loves me, once she starts chasing me my interest dies. I'd want her to love me but I want to do the chasing."

Another one who has been chasing me for years now told me something. I asked him,"why don't you wanna leave me and go find someone else?" His response was," The more you run and I chase you, the more excited I get."

Ah!

As I said in my initial post, some guys will love this: chasing.

I hate it with a passion. I like to flirt but I fcking don't chase. If you run, you will only be running from your own shadows because I will not chase, I will waka towards another direction.

I like it easy. That is what gets my juices going. To meet a girl and feel a connection, not feel insults.

That does not mean I would like a woman that will try and suffocate me. That is a different thing!

vivianc: 3 of my female married friends said," The reason I married my husband was because he refused to go away, he was really crazy about me but I didn't feel the same. The man I was even busy chasing did not have time for me, he was busy chasing someone else."

vivianc: My cousin sister said," Before I married my husband, I left him becos I wasn't crazy about him and started dating a guy I was crazy about. I would fly from Abj to Phc every weekend to be with him, cook, clean, do his laundry. I was always the one begging him or else we would keep malice for weeks. I was always crying. All my friends advised I should leave the guy but I was determined to make it work. One day, I brought up the "M" word, he told me I was desperate, that i was putting pressure on him. His statement hurt me so much that we got into a fight and he stopped talking to me, when I cooled off I went to him to apologise but he told me he needed space. I had to fly back to Abj. All this while I was killing myself for this guy, my husband was still chasing me. One day I finally made up my mind and married him and I have never regretted it since then."

These are examples of the unfortunate guys that married women that love the way they (the men) loves them, not that the women love these guys, which I always allude to.

God forbid bad thing in my life.

That is a useless relationship in my world and selling myself short.

Adaeze003: Well I don't think its a good idea to have one person speak for the girls and another speak for the guys!

If a girl who does all that viv said/wrote meets a guy that does what saga said/wrote we all know that the relationship won't work. Why? Well on one side of the ring we have a lady who thinks she's more important and on the other a guy who thinks he is.

I know I'm not a speaker but I just have to say this, a relationship is not a freaken warfare! Its about the TWO people involved! None is the 'boss' of anyone(that's just childish). Its about two MATURE people coming together to make life more beautiful and complete and in my opinion, for it to work you just need to love the person.

Yea I know everyone says love is not enough but I don't mean that giddy feeling you get when you just start dating(that will definitly fade ) I mean love the person enough to want to understand, tolerate and even compromise on what makes you happy for him/her as long as its reciprocated. Love is never one sided, if you don't feel like you're getting the same in return then the love isn't there. In other words, don't do all the loving!.

Well I know there's more(other technical/important details) but I hate to bore peeps with long articles. Still, I hope ya'll got my point.

A relationship stops being warfare when both people are attracted to each other and are mature, rational and respectful towards each other.

I am sorry to say, you don't get that with most girls nowadays until they get their sedative. It is very rare to get it.

It is easy to get a nice relationship with a girl that is moderately attractive.

But a girl that is extremely attractive usually requires some work at the initial phase until her sedative arrives because of her own immaturity, irrationality and pushing the buttons.

That work is the control system.

Yes, most good looking women are childish. They are selfish, rude and inconsiderate because they are used to many men willing to take their shyt. They also use it as a test of a man's mettle.

If one wants to go for unattractive women, my advice is completely irrelevant.

And by the way, my life is complete without being in a relationship with a woman. That mentality of mine I love and works very well for me. As long as I can get some babes on the side with no strings attached, my life dey kampe.

lynk106: maybe we need a eugenics movement in Nigeria. sterilize and stuff in an incendiary,all persons with below 60 point IQ like this fool ^. Then maybe we'll see a measure of progress for the country.
Africa's is a case of too many dolts roaming around. witchcraft causing cancer, shower curing AIDS. R[size=1pt].[/size]ape curing homosexuality. What won't we hear?

You are a person!

It seems you are descendicidal!

Based on your suggestion, Nigerians will want to sterilize you based on your IQ and Homosexuality.

Your IQ is reflected by your idiocy of talking about AIDS despite being a homosexual.

lynk106: good. so why u whining like a dying goat on this thread?
now, hop off.

You are a person!

Why didn't you bother reading people's position before busting on the thread like a frustrated, raving lunatic homo?

You think your whining and posting of pictures will give you changes in Nigeria?

Better vamoose from Nigeria if you want to live an openly homosexual life and want to stop lying you are not an homosexual.

lynk106: well, considering Nigeria was still trying to stone a woman to death in 2002 for adultery. Of course we are always 200 yrs behind developed countries in our barbarism.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amina_Lawal

Amina Lawal was offered Asylum to the west. Even south america (brazil) offered her asylum.
Guess what? Look at the title of this topic. Lightbulb moment for you huh. What do you think this topic is about?

You are a person!

The title is good news and something worth celebrating.

I have always been an advocate of that policy. Works fine for me.

lynk106: how dare the media brainwash us to remove the NATURAL "psychological" barriers we were born with!!
the natural psychological racism, homophobia and religious bigotry that is biological and genetically wired.

under natural conditions our biological psychological barriers will prevent miscegenation (sex between people of different races) afterall.

Continue being an enraged homosexual.

Let me tell you a secret: "Your rage wouldn't change anything in Nigeria".

lynk106: http://bruni.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/03/08/abcs-gay-wednesdays/
https://graphics8.nytimes.com/images/2012/03/08/opinion/08bruni-modernfamily/08bruni-modernfamily-articleInline.jpg

well, better turn off your TV.
with popular TV shows like "Modern Family" that features gay couple with an adopted child, Americans will soon be brainwashed to accept gay marriages.
hahaha too late. 14 states (including mine) have already been brainwashed. Gay marriage is legal in my state
we've been brainwashed to see it as NATURAL.
just as the Jews have brainwashed us to see mixed race marriages as natural. with their propaganda movies like "guess who's coming to dinner" hahahahaha
whites and blacks are "cross-breeding" all over america.

person keep dreaming.

We have this in abundance:

https://www.islamophobiatoday.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Nigeria_Muslim_Christian_Unity2.jpg

lynk106: weren't you comparing homosexuality to pedophilia?
Should I be the one to tell you that homosexuality used to be compared to interracial mixing less than 60 yrs ago?
sex between people of different races was called "miscegenation" and it was ILLEGAL. They compared interracial relationships to cross-breeding! hahaha They even used scienceto explain why people shouldn't mix races.

Here is what the experts on "Naturalness" have to say:

Of course, miscegenation (sex between people of different races) is not a natural occurrence. Evolution would have been impossible if every evolutionary experiment had been short-circuited by cross-breeding. Nature’s urge toward higher and more complex life forms has demanded that subspecies remain genetically isolated until all possibility of genetic admixture has been removed. Even though such isolation of the various human subspecies from one another has not been of sufficient length to ensure the impossibility of genetic admixture, it has ensured the existence of deep-seated psychological barriers which, under natural conditions, prevent miscegenation. (hahhaha here the psychological aversion to interracial relationships was blamed on nature and biology rather than racism!... talkless of homophobia)

When these natural conditions are disrupted and distorted, however, unnatural sexual activities such as homosexuality and miscegenation have been known to result. Just as bulls have been known to mount mares, and St. Bernard dogs have tried to mate with Chihuahuas when forced into close confinement and deprived of their natural environment, so Whites have copulated with Negroes in similar circumstances. It is the disruption of the White man’s natural environment and the dehumanization of his society and culture, therefore, which the Jews and their collaborators in the news and entertainment media have consistently worked for in order to encourage racial mixing.
Cause . . .

Cause . . .

This campaign began at least as early as 1967, when 16 U.S. states still had laws against miscegenation. In that year Jewish director/producer Stanley Kramer brought out the film Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner, starring Katherine Hepburn and Spencer Tracy as a couple whose daughter begins an affair with a Negro. The aim of the film was clear and since has been admitted. It was designed as an “educational film” for White Americans: after seeing their on-screen heroes, Tracy and Hepburn, surrendering their White daughter to a Black male, they would feel less compunction in doing the same.


http://www.toqonline.com/blog/miscegenation-the-morality-of-death/

According to these experts, mixed marriages became more common due to brainwashing by jewish media. hahahaha we were "forced" against our wishes to accept mixed race relationships.
same dumb arguments.

You are a person homosexual.

What makes homosexuality comparable to race?

What makes homosexuality incomparable to paedophilia?

lynk106: does mixing races sound "natural" to you? FOOL. you are the expert on naturalness so you should know. what a monkey.

You are a person!

Before I educate you, have you grasp the meaning of "natural" in the first place or you are just trying to waste my time again?

lynk106: The word is called Tolerance
It's what distinguishes a civilized person from a barbarian orangutan like sagamite.

Same thing that happened with interracial marriage is what will happen with gay marriage. Mark my words.

abi interracial marriage was the "unnatural" "immoral" act decades ago. Where couples of different races were treated as criminals because it was illegal for people of different races to marry. (not that it wasn't going on behind closed doors ROTFLMAO).

All the arguments against interracial relationships decades ago, are almost exactly the same arguments homophobes use against homosexual relationships. HAHAHA
People will use all sort of stupid illogical arguments to argue for their bigoted beliefs. It's ridiculous.

unnatural ko, deviant ni. next time you see an interracial or gay couple. I hope the fool gets a heart attack.

You are a person!

Cretin, since when did deviancy become comparable to racism?

Do you think I am as daft as Scun to try that moronic and cheap piggy-back with?

person! The ho called kandikane had tried that before without success. Next time, you fucktards use your brains and stop vomitting moronic platitudes you have been fed.

kandiikane: Lmfaoo! See, what I meant by you wish I was a ho. Correction, I don't do drugs so I do not know any drug dealers and no, I do not get shagged by ex convicts. I am sure you know alot about convicts because your anuz has been destroyed by them just for a slice of bread.. Since you know alot about yardies, why don't you explain to me what it means. I can understand your frustration and you wish I lived in a council estate like you. People like you are the main reason why I made sure i don't live anywhere near a council estate. I don't want to be associated with people beneath me. Continue finngering your masters maybe one day you will save enough to move out to a nicer place. Be nice and clean up so I can convince my friends to employ you. Help you save for that nice home you desperately need.

person, I don't think you are a ho. I know you are a skanky ho.

How can a skanky and classless hoodrat living in the hood full of single mothers (which she would soon join) and who thinks money is the measure of success claim not to know any drug dealers? How can she claim she is not shaggged by henched ex-convicts?

Which classy area would allow a skank with piercing all over her face to live in their neighbourhood?

SeaGold: Sagamite, I didn't mean your postulates aren't in order but they are more theoretical than being practical.

Even though you were blunt in your analysis, I'd expect you to marshal a guide that would appeal to one's partner without appearing confrontational when employed.

For example, when you said stamp your authority, you should be elaborate, provide mechanism that will actualize that perception. In so doing, we your readers will learn how to stamp our authority over our female partners. With that precept, I think you'd succeed in your lecturing cos I think a whole lot of means could be derived in stamping authority but the most acceptable means should have been deduced.

Thanks for the insight though.

I wouldn't say it is theoretical, I would say it is hard.

It is hard because it is not the natural state of most people and not part of the prevalent and dominant, politically correct upbringing we are nurtured in. It takes special attention for most to let that natural instinct come out and be comfortable with it when you know popular opinion will ensure you are labelled a fake man.

To stamp your authority is a long edict, so I only gave the point, not the detail.

If you want the detail, there are very few sources better than this:

www.nairaland.com/396243/how-maintain-control-woman

SeaGold: DX, next time when choosing your ''lecturers'' please identity men and women of proven integrity that has content to deliver that will appeal to your followers.

I'm greatly dismayed by the two respondents so far. Their abysmal performance in their presentation is glaring and they couldn't concentrate on their topic rather they veered off to appeal their emotions which is inconsequential in every ramifications.

The female speaker pushed for gender balance while the guy openly displayed an amateurish trait that could pulverised relationships. They should address the salient questions that belie relationships proffering a workable solution that can guarantee long lasting relationship using their experiences as indices.

I know and I hope the last speaker will not disappoint.

You should feel free to put your arguments about what makes a lasting relationship or provide arguments that challenge what has been proffered. No just sit down in your chair and provide no-point criticism. That is what is called arm-chair critic.

I have proffered my points of what will likely work and provide a man with a long lasting relationship (if that is what he wants).

[quote author=D-Explorer]Run the relationship like a BOSS. This' serious! [/quote]The reality is that a vast majority of women want to and are attracted to a man that can lead them.

They are also attracted to a man that is a challenge to have. It is more exciting. That desire only decreases when they have settled in and are in a lower bargaining position (e.g. had kids and the aesthetics has declined) then they want a reliable man, not a challenge.

xynerise: Sagamite, erm...you are kinda raw . And what the hell is ''Gbenshing''?

Gbenshing is a a form of Monopoly game.

kandiikane: Lol@ good taste. Sagafucktard, you don't even know what good taste is. You think having a hairline that starts at the back of your head is 'good taste'? You have to save up for 3days just to afford a 99p bread so how can you afford £5. You are indeed a crazed balding goat. What is 'yardie'? As you can see, yardie is not in my vocabulary. I live in a nice quiet area and I don't come across it. I don't know any hoodrat boys but I do know some successful men that can employ your crusty azz. Maybe, allow you to guard their dogs but I can't promise because you're not really worth shyt.

You are a person!

A girl with piercings all over her face and a hoodrat attitude claims not to know Yardies and she lives in a nice area?

Biatch, are you reetarded?

What do you regard as successful men? "My mates" that are rich off selling drugs?

Stuupid skank! All those ex-convicts shaggging you and giving you peanuts are not regarded as successful in my world.

Nor are they seen as bad boys because they prance around with pitbull dogs on your council estate.

Men's Guide to a lasting relationship

It is quite simple really:

Before the relationship

- Know what kind of woman you want.
- Know yourself and what you want and like.
- Finish market by gbenshing as much as you want and have as much variety as you wish before even deciding to settle down. You owe nobody jackshit. Your gbenshing market should be filled with girls that failed the test and/or are too selfish.
- When you have enjoyed your life (an important phase in life), select an attractive babe that fits what you want.
- Make sure she is into you. You need a woman that loves you, not an ATM (i.e. Anxious To Marry) woman that is only considering you because of benefits or a woman that loves you because of the way you love her. Many men end up with the latter and wonder why the woman is not giving her all.
- Let her show her interest by working for it. Personally, I don't work for nada, but that I leave to your taste and choice. In my view, we either get along like coffee and cream or we don't. Stress is not of my interest. But I know some guys like to work to get a woman. They are free to practice that. I like it easy, otherwise, I waka-pass kia kia. You don't pick up my phone calls because of whatever reason? I leave you the fck alone. All I can do is demonstrate my interest but I will never drag myself on the floor.
- Have a great connection mentally and physically.
- Keep your options open until you achieve this interest and commitment from her.
- When I say, keep your options open, I am not being ambigious. Murrafcker, I mean play the fcking field. None of that BS of I fancy this girl so I will be committed to her. If she has not invested enough, she should not fcking mean shyt in your life. If she is fine, she will have options and can tell you to fck off at anytime and have a battalion lining up to take your place, so why fcking waste your life? Line up your own fcking harem!

In the relationship

- You are the fcking BOSS.
- You are HNIC. Murrafcking Head Nigga In Charge!
- Never lose sight of that.
- That does not mean you should be a dictator, you are just a Senior Partner.
- My philosophy is that a woman should have total control of her life and her choices. I don't tell them what to do with their lives, I just advise.
- But when their decisions involves the couple. I am Chief Executive. It passes through me. We can discuss and I am open to new ideas, but I will have the higher say if we can't come to an agreement and it is important to me.
- Any woman that is behaving right MOST TIMES, should be treated with respect. It is only human to have some foibles. That is cool.
- If she is the type that steps out of line too much, stamp your authority and put her back in line assertively. If not, you might need a substitute.
- As long as she is young and still hot, let her feel you have options. If not, you might be sacked one day.

If you do all those basics, the probability of things going wrong for you is drastically decreased.